about

Im young, so I haven't experienced everything yet, but I'll try to help.
I am 18 years old, studying A levels in sixth form. I've watched all the dramas of school and family life happen around me though.

People say I think sideways... so if you don't mind that ask away.

advice

home alone and bored ideas for good entertament

you could get out the house? If not heres a few suggestions:
Do something creative- write a story, paint a picture.
Make a home cinema.
Make a den. Like a proper tipi type thing.
Clean the house till it looks new.
Give yourself a complete makeover.
Go on stumbleupon.com, Omegle.com, Ebay.com...
Go out of the house and walk around without going back all day and see what happens.
Invite some people over.
Cook an entrie exotic three course meal.
Burst into song.
READ EVERYTHING.
Play music loud enough to annoy people.
Write your bucket list and start doing it.
Go shopping.
Have a Harry Potter Marathon. In your home cinema.
Redecorate a room!
Make something- like out of wood or metal, like a chair.
Tie Dye old clothes.
Try the 100 themes challenge for writing, art or photography.
Learn something like an instrument or a language.
Work out.
Make a new friend and see what they say?
Make a blog, or a vlog.
Have an absolute rave. (with other people, or a one man rave)
Or go do something spontaneous, like combust! xD

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21/f

My boyfriend and I have had to do long distance for the past 1 1/2 months because his family an friends live far away. It's been going well, but it's to the point where we know eachothers routine completely. I could tell you what he's doing any hour of the day. We have about 20 days till he comes back. I really want more attention from him. But, I don't want to sound clingy or annoying. He is much busier than I am, and I've been doing well occupying myself with whatever, but it's getting to the point where we are more just checking in, etc.

So, what can I say/do to show that I want more attention? (without nagging!)

Also, how can I spice things up so it's not just the same old routine?

Thanks!


You could give him... less attention? That way he'll want more attention from you. Take a few days completely away from each other and you'll miss each other and have lots too tell when you do chat again. Maybe you could surprise him with a day out or a party when he gets back?

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OK! This will take some explaining so I apologize. I met these 2 guys at during Field season last year. One was my age (both 8th graders at the time) and the other one was a sophomore (3 years older than me). I got really super duper close to the guy my age. Like full on crushing. He sadly had to move half way across the country (very hard on me) and it turned out we both liked each other a lot. He doesn't know when he will be able to come back. He had told me that we have a very unique connection with each other, and he thinks I'm the one (I don't want any lectures on us being to young to feel that) but I can tell we are starting to grow apart a little bit. I have never been in a relationship before. I miss him a lot and I'm trying to move on for the times sake (I don't think I'll ever fully move on) Anyway, so he's been gone a few months now. I didn't know the other guy (The Sophomore) very well. After a performance for Band and Guard (I in Guard, he in Band) we started talking A LOT more. We text almost everyday. He's never had a GF, like me with a BF. Well, We've been talking a lot and I asked him what his favorite memory from last year was and he said it was meeting me, he's told me that I am very special and that he doesn't want to leave me when he graduates. We are both very shy and I ran into him at a music store twice. Both times he hugged me leaving (He gives very nice hugs btw ;D) and I was surprised he broke the touch barrier. He's called me beautiful before and I asked him what he thought of our friendship and he said it was excellent. The thing is though, I think he likes me. I don't know for sure. Can you tell me if he does? The problem though is... I think the first guy and I... "Really Really like Like" each other. I know he won't be back for a long time. But I am kind of developing feelings for the older guy. I don't know what to do. I know it's good to move on. So should I try and see what happens with the older guy? Don't comment on age difference please. And I know older guys tend to try and chase younger girls for easy sex, but I know this guy well enough that he would NOT do that. I need help! please!

To be honest it sounds like you have a chance with both these guys, so lucky you!

I think you should go for the guy who you like the most, its as simple as that.

The one who is your age would probably be a more sensible choice though, because your older guy will have to graduate and leave for college sooner...
However if its just not there, its just not there! So you should go for the older guy who you really really like like. It might not last forever but if he's the boy you truly like then you wont have any regrets spending time with him will you?

And I know this is going to sound kinda mean/heartless etc, but on the Brightside, if that doesn't work out and he rejects you, you still have the other one!! xD

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Well this boy that I talk to on Facebook everyday told me he likes me and I like him too. I have only known him for a month though. He lives very close to me and Ive hung out with him a couple of times. Should I ask him out or wait a little longer?

Hang out more than a couple of times just to be sure.
In fact, just ask him to hang out more often, just you and him alone... and see if you can flirt, and get a good response. If youre sure he had fun with you, definetly ask him out again, and make it more of an "official first date!"

But don't be too clingy and desperate. If he says no, just play it cool, and don't ask again. ;) You'll still have got his attention by asking, and who knows, he may ask you later.

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I just started speaking to this boy and at first conversation he was extremely nice! And he said he would speak again with me he said i was hot too, we agreed to do silly stuff, like he'd teach me the break dance and stuff like that but after like 3 weeks he never popped up again.. We started speaking again when I moved to the same town like 4 days ago, I go out and 'hang' out with my mates and stuff around the street but they don't live in the same town so they get a bus home, and I have to walk home every time, so I was walking home and him and 2 friends were behind my on bikes because he lives close to me, but he started saying my name in a high pitched voice and slowly and his mate was like 'stop being a pedo' and the next day, he said 'hi (insert my name here)' from across the street when he was with his mates and we started speaking after that, he says talk later, but he doesn't I had to start the conversation and I hate that there's nothing I hate more than that, but I might have gone into too much detail but I just need advice ! Whether he wants me to speak to him or not ! Please I don't know what to do? :/ and he's 2 years older so I really don't know :( help please! :'( thanks for the answers in advance!:)

Hmmmn I think he does like you... or will soon, if that makes any sense.
He's got intrest in you if he's the one initating the conversation, but you don't have enough evidence to prove he actually has a crush on you yet.

Just try to be his friend first and flirt a bit. See where it goes from there.

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I'm extremely terrified of going to public school because of all the people there. I was bullied (I've told people, trust me) and I just don't want to go back. I'm not..

I also can't focus. I think it would be better for me if I was homeschooled by my parents (Or by computer..). How can I talk to my mom about this? I was planning to talk to her when we go out on vacation soon. But... What can I say? Please tell me what to tell her so she can say yes for sure. I'm scared of going back.

Home-schooling is difficult, and you'll need discipline which most of us lack!

Everyone's been bullied at some point in their life, and there are several things you can do. Like standing up for yourself~
don't let people treat you like that. Hit you? Hit them back. Its not the most conventional or right advice I know, but it works most of the time because bullies are cowards inside. The second you go into school with that "aura" of "don't mess with me" you'll find that no-one will even try.

Back on to home-schooling, you can tell your parents the reason you just gave here. Maybe even show them the question. They may understand, or not. You've got to convince them you will do better, not just socially, but also academically.

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I need help with my crush. I have known her for 5 years and shes shy around me. I asked her out but she never replys. But she just ends up hating me even more. It just makes things awkward. Should i give up after 5 years or keep going.

5 years?! Known her 5 years or had a crush for 5 years? Either way, that is a very long time. Before you give up, you should at least have one final push at it. And Im pretty sure she doesn't hate you.
Be bold and tell her exactly how you feel- charm her with sweet words etc. Be like one of those guys all the girls want in the movie when he confesses his feelings. Do that, and then ask her if she'll go out with you. Not on text, or facebook or anything- face to face. Be brave! >Just flirt with her, talk to her and be her friend first so that it isn't so awkward

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Female 16
The one thing I love the most is acting, I'd love to be a successful actress in the future, but it's my confidence. I find it easy to do anything in front of close friends, but when I'm faced with the whole world, my confidence goes down a tad bit. It doesn't stop me, but I panic and get myself worked up. I did Drama at school, I would say I was successful but my the fact that my confidence went down, it got the better of me. I used to go red a lot when I acted out a play, and I sometimes still do when I do things. I was just wondering if anyone had any advice tips, especially how to build my confidence up, thank you.

Firstly don't worry about how you look on stage.
If your doing your acting right and playing character you'll have your audience engrossed in the story and they'll see the character, not you.

If you're on a stage with lights, they will bleach out the redness of your face. That's why stage makeup is so colourful in reality- because the lights drown it out a little bit.
Act in stage plays where the lights shine in your face and you cant see the audience. You'll soon forget they're there and it'll be fine. Take a deep breath and focus. Practise until the lines come automatically one after another and then you'll gain confidence in yourself after the first good performance.

Eventually, once you've played one very challenging role that is far out of your comfort zone, you'll find the rest easy! Look and audition for that role. If you face your fears head on, you'll get over them.

Good Luck!

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Hi I am a 14 year old girl. I have a high metabolism so I weigh 103 lbs and I already have a flat stomach and my arms are in pretty good shape so I'm not so much worried about that but I have, I think it's called "cellulite" on my thighs and it gets on my nerves. I would like to get rid of most of it before I go to the water park next month....how could I get rid of "cellulite" before then?

Eat healthy and excersise, mainly focusing on your thighs.
Just go running, do aerobic style excersises that focus on the legs. Oooh get one of those workout DVDs- you'll feel tired but proud if you complete it~
Just generally eat well and eat less than you burn off. But do not take it too extremes- youre only fourteen and still growing, so you wont need to watch your diet/weight as much as someone who is older.

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Simple question so many people ask all over the world. Why am I afraid of bugs? It's not the I just scream and run away, but it's more than that.

What happens is if I see one I just freeze and I watch it movements. I make sure not to lose it. My heart is also beating a hundred miles a minute, and my eyes are so wide! If I lost it, then I panick. And if it gets real close to me or if I lose it and I don't know where it is, I actually start to cry.

I never had a huge problem. I'd just tell my dad or somebody to kill it. Then I'd go back to normal. I'd never cry actually. But recently my fear for them is getting bigger and bigger. To the point where they're winning. As in I change my ways to avoid them.

Over the two months, I've seen little tiny bugs on my window or on my dresser. And I always had a shoe around. Sometimes I'd miss and it would disappear. That was when I'd try my best to forget about it. Some days I did, others I had a lucky shot and found it again and killed it.
But two days ago in my room I saw this one cockroach. It was crawling on my carpet and I just watched it walk. I was scared all night and couldn't sleep.
Then last night I decided it was safe enough now. I was doing good. I was about to sleep when I hear a sound. I thought it was the fan moving something, but it was a bug. Flying. It was coming towards me so I ran downstairs away from my room. I was risking being caught by my parents at 4am but it was okay as long as I was away from that bug. But thing is, I was crying and my legs were all wobbly going downstairs.

I don't why. Why does a simple little bug, a harmless one scare me so much? I get the usual fast heartbeat. But am I the only one who freezes, cries and visibly shakes? How come now because of two bugs compared to me are so tiny, winning? I can't go into my room anymore I just can't! But just, why?

It seems you may have an irrational fear.
Everyone sometimes is a little bit afraid of bugs because they're quick, kinda gross to look at up close and very unpredictable.

However if you're shaking and crying a lot then you have a definite fear. You're not the only one-some people have fears like this over balloons or tissues!
You can overcome this yourself by slowly spending more time around bugs and making yourself see that they are harmless, like trying to pick them up. Or you can go to a therapist or hypnotist to get help.

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I'm 13 and I started puberty when I was 9. I started growing boobs really quickly when I was 11 and I also got my period that year. But now in the past 2 years my bra size only went from 32A to 34A. But they're all stretch marks and it's embarrassing when I wear a bikini. How do I get rid of them or will they go away naturally?

Go to the pharmacy/drug store.
There are various things you can buy to put on your skin that help get rid of stretch marks quickly- go have a look for that :)

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17/m

So I have friends that are girls, they all say they want a protective boyfriend. Now I kind of know what they mean by that but also I'm still confused because some say they want one but then they get a guy then say their too overprotective or obsessed or something like that.

What is a general idea of a protective boyfriend?

Could you give me examples lol

Thank you

A protective boyfriend...
The kind us girls want is the kind who you could feel safe walking around in the dark with. Someone who would walk you home at night to make sure you get there safely. Someone who might tell you to watch out for certain places and people and would defend you from a fight.

HE IS NOT someone who goes through your phone out of suspicion. or must know what your doing every 5 minutes. That's obsessive. Not someone who is suspicious of everyone and everything and cant let her go anywhere alone- certainly NOT someone who doesn't let their girlfriend hang out with who she wants too, go to the parties she wants too. That's controlling.(Unless, I dunno, you have legit evidence that her new guy friend is a rapist...)

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Okay im 13 and every since i was like 7 to now. My grandmother and mother always wanted me to be something that i not wanted to be. They always wanted me to be a girly girl. I am a girl. I just don't like to wear skirts and i have a good reasons why i don't. Everytime we go to a clothing store. Here they go this pink shirt is cute. I say i don't llike pink. I love purple. Here they go what type of girl don't like pink. Every girl love pink. Everybody how do i get them off my back and how do i explain them that im not girly girl. Please help.

You're thirteen! They may have been able to dress you when you were younger but its time they let you dress yourself. Will they still be choosing your clothes when you're 18, 19, 20?

No, I don't think so!
Tell them that a lot of girls don't like pink. Some times the last thing you want to wear is fluorescent pink. Tell them, that clothes mean a lot to a girl, don't they? They can be considered an art in the fashion industry and a means of expressing yourself. Tell them exactly how you feel.

Ask them what's wrong with purple? There is nothing wrong with purple at all. Don't let them force you to ever be anything else that you don't want to be either because that will only make you unhappy.

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I'm in a rough situation right now, and it keeps happening because I can't "think before I speak"... The situation won't help with the question, by the way. But I really need to know how to think before I speak because I just speak and don't think... I know that's weird and confusing but please tell me how I can think before I speak. Help asap please, thanks.

Do exactly that, THINK before you speak. Pause slightly before answering- but not too long. Just think about what they said and all the things that you SHOULDNT say that'll make it worse. Observe the situation and carefully word your answers.
Don't be so hasty to reply- I don't think there's any other way to master this other than practice.
look at this:http://www.wikihow.com/Think-Before-Speaking

Thinking before you speak is the way to better comebacks too!

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What shape is the conecave curve line

Concave means curving in or hollowed inwards.
Its usually a curved line, but going inwards.... its hard to explain so look at this Wikipedia page: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Concave

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Im fourteen, he's thirteen. We're not dating, he's just a friend. He kept trying to finger me, so I finally let him. I was kinda horny, and having been fingered before knew it felt good. But it was so embarrassing. He couldn't get his finger in! So I stuck my hand in my panties, and kinda shoved his finger in there, but then it was barely in, and the way he was doing it just HURT. Afterwards, I was so sore. Then he tried to eat me out, and it was like he was just sucking and licking. But it wasn't normal, I got no feeling out of it, and it was just sloppy and awkward. He also cannot kiss! It's like he's trying to eat my face. He gets the whole side of my mouth wet, and practically gags me with his tongue! I never want to do anything with him again. If he tries what do I do? Tell him why? Or just say no?

HES THIRTEEN!
Youre just kids to the majority of us here. Im not going to lecture you on being too young, because hey, its already happened and it does, we know that.
My point is, he is thirteen. He's is a young lad with >hopefully< not much experience. Are you each others first? He doesn't know what to do poor boy, so no-wonder its like it is. My suggestion is don't do it yet - and like adviceman said, play hard to get. You do not want to be subject to the gossip and rumour and labels kids give each other at 14!
But in the future, it is okay to say no. If youre not comfortable, just tell him no- back off. Its better for the both of you and much less awkward that way.

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Hey ok so i know this probably sounds lame but if you could take the time to help me out i would REALLY appreciate it!(:
Well im going through a tricky time right now. I have a boyfrind he is 17 and im 16 and we have been dating for almost a year. We text alot but mostly at night when we are not so busy. He stays up really late like me, but anyways sometimes we will be texting and then out of nowhere he just stops for like 20 minutes or more and i always ask, what are you doing? And he says "not much". Its so frusterating and i have talked with him about it many timea and told him how i feel. He always apologizes but he still does it. Like right now for example we were textng and he hasnt responded to me in 2 hours! What should i do about this? And also can anyobe please explain to me why boys do this? Thanks!

If he doesn't reply instantly its probably because he has a life! And so do you!

As the others have already said: Guys don't care much for texting, and don't go asking him what he's doing and why he isn't replying because that makes you look clingy and desperate.

What you should do is always keep the boy chasing you! So next time, you should be the one not to reply and he should be the one to text first. They say absence does make the heart grow fonder. Just get on with something and don't reply. Before you know it, you'll have him missing your replies instead. :P

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I'm a 13 year old girl and when i turn 14 (It's ages away)I want a party. I don't want a little sleepover, but i want a proper one like in those American teen movies. I know I'm really young and usually you have them when you're like 17 or 18, but i just want to know a few things:

-where would i have it? (my house is quite big, but it would be sort of awkward, so i would rather hire a venue)
-Is it a good idea? Or would people just not take it seriously?
-How would i get a lot of people to come? even though my social circle isn't very big.
-Should/would there be alcohol?
-How much parental supervision should there be?
-How many people should i invite?
-How much would a venue cost? (in pounds)
-Any additional things you might want to add about parties?

I most likely wont be able to or something, but I'm quite curious, and i think it would be fun :)

And please tell me if this is a stupid idea! Thanks!! :D

To be honest, I shall speak from experience; it all depends on the maturity of your guests and how your parents feel about it all.

A party is always a good idea! And if you want to hire a venue it will be quite expensive- depends on the venue. If its the village hall its going to be cheaper than a city nightclub.

At 14, alcohol is a complicated one. Technically its illegal but we've all been to parties where there's underage drinking... >im not encouraging it, but it does happen<

If you're going to have alcohol don't overdo it- it wont be worth the trouble you'll have if someone gets really ill. Either stick to light things like a bucks-fizz and cider, or don't have any at all. Save the vodka shots for your 18th.

If you want a big party- like a total rave in a hired nightclub and you're willing to spend the money, invite everyone in your year at school.
If not, just invite all your social circle and ask them to bring a friend from out of school or something.(Don't let it get out on Facebook, you don't want a million people turning up and being the usual scare story in the daily mail!!!)

Parties can be awesome if everyone has a good time. It may seem cool to get drunk and sick and mess up everything like in the movies, but in reality its just hell to be a host where everything's going wrong like that.

Of course, at 14, parents are going to be an issue. Be really nice to them from now on, as the decision is probably going to come down to them at this age! Lets face it, if they're paying, then they're going to decide the alcohol/guest limits. And the price range too. If they aren't then GET SAVING now!

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I've been dating my boyfriend long distance for 2 years. This August I am supposed to move in with him so we can drop the long distance issue and see if our relationship will work. However, recently he came clean about smoking weed behind my back. It's something I'm not okay with. I know weed is "innocent" and all of that jazz but I just personally don't want to date someone who's smoking/buying weed. How did I found out? I came across a dating profile of his on an escort website (casual hookups) by Googling his email. I was looking for something else. When I confronted him about it, he denied it. Said he didn't make it. Lied to me over and over. Finally, he came clean. Saying the reason he lied was because he made it when he was high and didn't want the weed habit to come out as he knew I'd get mad. He never used the profile. Last log in/created date was the same. So I gave him another chance because he did not use it. But it really is driving me crazy still. High or not, I don't know why he did it. I know he gets lonely but I will be there soon. And I'm not sure how much weed really played a role in all of this. Was the weed thing just an excuse? Or could he really have been that high?

Im not sure what to say about the weed- it affects people in different ways, but if the log in/created date is the same then it does mean he has only been on the site once. When youre high you do all sorts.

As for the fact that you're still struggling, its perfectly natural.
I read this on tumblr:
If you smash a plate and say sorry to it does it go back to how it used to be?

What it means is you just found out this other side to your boyfriend and you may forgive him but its not like the problem is just going to go away straight up like that- but at least he is being honest and talking to you, so don't worry so much.
And weed making him innocent? Weed being innocent? it really depends on how much he smokes and what it does to him. If he's really addicted, expect more problems in the future though...so I can understand not wanting to date someone whos on weed.

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I am wondering what I should do.

About a week ago i saw my dad on the computer and walked up to him and he was on his email. All I saw was the emails subject and it was a little bit offensive but it said "I want you inside me right now".

Once my dad noticed me behind him he minimized the window.

After that I just walked away and then looked back at what he was doing again and he went back to the email looking really shaky and nervous.

Then about 5 minutes later he came to me and said he will be right back he is going to the gym and left.

I went on his computer and checked the history and it showed his email address he was just logged into and I have never seen it before.

So I am wondering is this reasonable suspicion to think he is cheating and what should I do?

It does sound suspicious! You have two options.

Investigate further and find out if you are right or wrong. If you are right, be prepared to face it. If you are wrong, breathe a sigh of relief.

Your other option is to leave it alone and let your parents deal with this themselves. It is something that will affect their relationship, and is probably best sorted between them alone. But in a way it will also affect you too.

Make your choice- and good luck!

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