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Protective boyfriend?
17/m
So I have friends that are girls, they all say they want a protective boyfriend. Now I kind of know what they mean by that but also I'm still confused because some say they want one but then they get a guy then say their too overprotective or obsessed or something like that.
What is a general idea of a protective boyfriend?
Could you give me examples lol
Thank you
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A protective boyfriend is basically a guy that will do anything to protect you. For example, if someone is beefing with you or has any drama with you and tries to hurt you both physically and mentally then the boyfriend will step in and protect you. Also, he gets jealous really easily..
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They're pretty much looking for a guy who will keep them safe. Like make sure nothing bad happens to them and they'll stand up for them.
I think that would be the general idea.
I also think if a girl gets a good guy, that's what he would do anyways.
Overprotective is when they get jealous if a guy speaks to them and freaks out if they don't answer their phone or something. They pretty much don't know their boundaries.
Clearly, your friends aren't choosing the right guys.
But anyways, the general idea would just be making the girlfriend feel safe and protected. But not going over the top and being obsessed with everything they do.
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The focus is on the wrong word here. If searching for what seems to be a protective guy, it will end up that he is more likely the possessive, jealous sort who becomes controlling and may attempt to make all decisions in your life, not allowing you any freedom and its all because he himself is insecure.
Focus instead on finding a loving supportive guy.
One like this if he really is loving will treat you right, not as a possession.
He is very self confident as a male and in the relationship, so he never displays any jealousy.
His focus is not on what he can get from her but what he can give to her
He would never do anything that hurts her.
He encourages her and her dreams, he knows her favorites and her fears and comforts her when needed. That is what you are looking for because a guy like this will also like to protect and keep his girl safe. He would be willing to give his life to save her. That is what girls really want but they are looking at the wrong guys.
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A protective boyfriend...
The kind us girls want is the kind who you could feel safe walking around in the dark with. Someone who would walk you home at night to make sure you get there safely. Someone who might tell you to watch out for certain places and people and would defend you from a fight.
HE IS NOT someone who goes through your phone out of suspicion. or must know what your doing every 5 minutes. That's obsessive. Not someone who is suspicious of everyone and everything and cant let her go anywhere alone- certainly NOT someone who doesn't let their girlfriend hang out with who she wants too, go to the parties she wants too. That's controlling.(Unless, I dunno, you have legit evidence that her new guy friend is a rapist...)
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