jbdreamer's advice column

Hi ok f/13

so i got braces this summer and since them they have had to fix 4 braces that came off. Now he yelled at me and said this was very uncommon and that i was doing it it was noithng he did. Now i have an appoitment and for more of my braces came of in like a half year period is this noraml. im scared to go bac hes gonna yell alot! please help

I don't know how braces work, but if your dentist is actually yelling at you I would ask your mother to find you a new dentist. That's ridiculous.

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well their this kid that i been dateing for like a year and cheated on me like 4 time i dont no if i wamms be with him or not but their this really nice kid that likes me and i dont no i need help

No, he does not want to be with you - he wants to be with girls. You should have left him the first time he cheated. After 4 times I would hope you would get a clue.

I think your other problem is you are dating kids expecting them to be men. If you are looking for a meaningful relationship, wait a few years so these boys can grow up.

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ok, i am an 18 year old female and my boyfreind is 22 years old. we live a ways apart (him new york me ohio) because i was forced to move. well, we have been living apart for about a month and a half and we can't take it anymore. but we can't decide wether we should have me move up there with him or have him move down here with me. at first we had sorta planned me going and living with him. but then my mom found out that she might have a tumor on her ovaries, tubes, or liver. She doesnt want me to leave because she needs me and my brother will too. (in situations where there is trouble, my brother looks up to me, if im doing ok he will be fine and he knows that). So my mom asked me to ask him to move here so that we coudl both support her and each other. (my mom likes him) but then i owuld be asking him to uproot his life. from the place he lived for 20 years. from his family and his freinds and everything he knows. so i asked him if he would be WILLING to do so. He told me "Whatever i have to do to be with you". But now i feel like i am being selfish in asking him to do that. did i do the right thing in asking him to move here? please help i will rate all good answers as 5's. any smartass comments dont get rated!

You did the right thing. If you want to be togther, unfortunalty one of you is going to move. And since your mother is sick, there is nothing wrong with asking him. And it sounds as though he is very willing to make the sacrifice. And I am sure he knows you would do the same if the situation was reversed, so don't feel guilty. I'd say you are lucky to have someone that loves you so much.

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Anyone know a website that you can enter your activity to and it'll tell you how many caloires you burn in a certain amount of time. Thanks

I was a member of this site last summer, and lost 15 lbs!

http://www.calorieking.com/

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i havent had sex and i dont masterbate, but i have a bump not alot, just one, on my pubic hair area. i dont know what it is or why its there but i noticed it the other day and its kinda iches. does anyone know what it is?

I could just be a zit or ingrown hair. Give it a week. If it doesn't go away, go see the doctor.

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lately my boobs have been hurting, i am pretty sure its only because they are growing really fast and ive gone up a few bra sizes.... but now today i figured i was starting my period soon so i started wearing a pad. i looked today and there was some brown liquid stuff there but no blood, i dont know what this brown stuff is. i still have not gotten my period. i do not have sex. i dont eat healthy and i have been craving weird foods lately. what could be wrong with me?

What you are experiancing is perfectly normal. Brown is blood, only a little dried up. It often happens at the end of your period as well.

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okay well i have to do a research paper and i picked my to be on Teen Suicide. does anyone know any statistics on Teen Suicide? thanx a bunch

Google is a great resource, you are not going to get accurate statistics here. Facts for a research paper should be from a reliable source.

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=108

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Okay, my friend from another town has a guy friend. And she showed him my picture before and he thinks im hot and wants me to hook up with him. Id make out with someone because Im not prude. But he wants me to give him a blowjob - In the movie theatre! And my friend doesnt think its a big deal. What should I do? Would it be wrong to just make out with him or is that bad? Hes really cute from his pic...My freiend has given him a bj once but ive never done it. 14/f

I think it would be wrong to even "make-out" with this complete stranger, much less give him a bj! If you are going to the movies, watch the movie! The other movie goers don't want to see kids making out. It's rude!

Get to know someone before exchanging sexual favors. You will feel better about your self and the situation if there are feelings behind the action.

Besides that, this guy doesn't even care about you - as he has never met you. All he cares about is the free blowjob from a hot girl.

I hope you would respect yourself more than that.

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OKAY I REALLY REALLY REALLY NEED HELP! so anyone who can help PLEASE DO=]

OK so here my PROBLEM - how can you really flirt with a guy (by the way im 13 hes 15) if you ONLY see him on fridays; ONLY FRIDAYS! and you have his sn, and tlak to online. also, you have his cell number but never call.

ps- i like him vvery much, so i cannot give up just liek that, and ive known him for about ayear now so please help me. i reealy like him and i dont know what to do.

Why is it urgent? You have until friday to prepare yourself.

The simplest answer is just tell him you like him. If that's too bold, just compliment him. Tell him he is really nice, or looks good in that shirt. He'll get the idea that you are interested. If he is attentive to your comments, give him YOUR number and tell him to give you a call sometime.

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Okay my boyfriends birthday is Saturday so I want to throw him a big supper but I dunno what to cook for him. I got the cake lol. I'm not sure on what to cook though. So can anyone help me out plz..

♥Shawntay

Well you know him better than we do. Make his favorite.

If it was my husband's b-day, I would make chicken curry, or take him out to eat.

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Does anyone know the name of the movie, it's about a boy who goes to boarding school and falls in love with a girl who lives near his school and they have to overcome a bunch of obstacles including family issues? i think it stars someone from american pie. I really need it badly!! THANKS!!

Here is a tip on finding the movie:
Go to the internet movie data base: www.imdb.com
Search American Pie and see the cast list. Each cast member will have a filmography list. Your film should be listed among those.

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My boyfriend & I were trying to figure out how we can get a condom. We're both ready to have sex, but neither one of us has our license [we are 16, just don't have them for certain reason]. So, what are some ways that we can get some? And please don't say they have them in the bathrooms at certain stores, because those are very cheap & break easy. We want to be safe- not have a baby.

If you are not responisble enough yet to even drive a car, how can you be ready for the responsiblilities that come with sex? You can't even obtain a condom by yourself! You are too young.

Besides that, condoms are found EVERYWHERE. Try gas stations or convienent stores or ask your school nurse.

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ok so i have this friend...n she said she was lesbian but i fel bad cuz then how can she have sex 1 day?

Who says lesbians don't have sex, lol. She doesn't need a man for that.

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I'm 21 just findout that I'm pregnant but they can't tell the month or weeks is it possible? problem the father I'm no longer dating him and I dont love him we used protection I dont know how did it happen I haven'nt even dating him for more than 3months I realized the relation would'nt work but we din't discuss verbaly, the main question is shall I tell him and the biggest problem he is already got a baby of 10months thats why I could'nt continue in with a relationshirp, and he said to me he regrets his child if there was a way he could have suggested abortion so now its me I really dont know what to do, and I've grown without knowing my father so I dont'wnt the same for my child tell what to do pls

A doctor should easily be able to tell how far along you are.

As for the father, even if you know he doesn't want a child, he still needs to know. Tell him.

Even if he doesn't want to be part of the child's life, he is still financially responsible - even for some of your hospital bills. In the near future I would start talking to a lawyer.

Another option for you is adoption. Then you know your child will have both a loving mother and father that are financial stable.

Whatever your decisions are, make sure they are what is best for the child.

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ok i asked this question earlier but i didnt see it posted. anyway i am a 25 year old married woman, i have 2 georgeous children. my problem is when i am at work i have access to a computer and for the last 6 months i have been talking to a really great guy. sometimes he calls me also, we talk about everything and he makes me feel really good. i feel like if i wouldnt of gotten married he is the man i would want to be with. to make things more complicated, i am falling in love with him. we have never meet, i want to but he knows i am married and only wants to be a friend, i did to at first, but my feelings are changing. i dont want to destroy my family life ever, but i know it is also not fair to my husband, me sitting there thinking about what if im supposed to be with this other guy. what should i do, follow my heart or do what society and everyone else would say is right.please help

I think it is time to stop being selfish and stop all contact with this man. Your duty is to your husband, and more importantly your children. Don't destroy their lives so you can maybe be with a man you have never met. Even if you were single I would recommended this relationship to be terminated. Your time and energy should be focused on your children, not love affairs. You are a mother now, what you want no longer comes first. Do what is right for the children.

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where is the cholesterol found in eggs? the yoke (yellow part) or the whites?

It is all in the yokes. The egg whites actually have no cholesterol. I think an egg white only has about 15-20 calories. Thats like a stick of gum! It is much healthier to eat an egg white omlet or scrambled egg whites. Most of the cholesterol intake from eating eggs is actually from the cooking. Frying eggs in butter and oil will double your cholesterol intake.

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Why do atheists have a problem with Christian's trying to spread their religon? They seem to always get so defensive and mean. It really bugs me because they can't have an open mind to what someone else says without flipping out. Like Christian religon says "help those who don't believe in God" or something, and the atheists just FLIP out. I've been open minded to many atheists I know and listen to what they say about it calmly without saying their opinions are dumb, but then when I mention my relgion, they say it's so stupid and get mad at me for talking about it.

Anyway, to sum it all up, you basically just need to read the first sentence.

You really are generalizing Atheists and Christians. All the Atheists I know (including my husband) are not like that at all. In fact they know more about religion, and the different kinds or religion then most Christians I know.

I think people in general have a problem with religious fanatics trying to shove their beliefs down our throats.

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What is the average cost of college? I'm in 10th grade, and I have to pay college on my own, like my parents aren't helping, and I was wondering what the average price is for a private college, and the average for a community college. If anybody has been through with college (recently) could you please tell me what college and how much money it cost?
Thank you! :)

Also, when I get a job (when I get my drivers liscense) would it be smart to save up some of the money (take like 1/3 of it) and save it for college, or would it really not amount to anything and not be worth it in the end? Thank's again!

College can cost anywhere from $20,000-$40,000+. Few people can afford it, so that's why there are student loans. I will probably be paying off my student loans until I am 30, but the interest is less than 3%, so it's not that big of deal.

Saving money is a smart idea anytime. I wish I hadn't wasted my money on clothes and CDs when I was in highschool. I could have used the money for a car and funishings for my apartment!

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can you be in love when your 13?

I suppose you could. But by the time you grow up, you and the one you love will be completely different people. And your feelings will have changed as well. Enjoy what you have, but I caution you, don't take it too seriously.

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