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Pregnancy
I'm 21 just findout that I'm pregnant but they can't tell the month or weeks is it possible? problem the father I'm no longer dating him and I dont love him we used protection I dont know how did it happen I haven'nt even dating him for more than 3months I realized the relation would'nt work but we din't discuss verbaly, the main question is shall I tell him and the biggest problem he is already got a baby of 10months thats why I could'nt continue in with a relationshirp, and he said to me he regrets his child if there was a way he could have suggested abortion so now its me I really dont know what to do, and I've grown without knowing my father so I dont'wnt the same for my child tell what to do pls
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no abortion!
go to the doctor and hell tell you almost everything
first you have to decide if you want to keep the baby
alot of things go into deciding this...
if you can support it
if your ready
if you are mentally capable..and so on and so on....
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about that dad...tell him..he deserves to know and if he doesnt want anything to do with his baby then go to court for child support
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wow that is sad that you dont get a chance to be happy about your first child when you should be. i dont think you and the father have to be together for your child to hae a father in their life. i think your best bet is to be honest from the very beginning, i know that you are scared but he does have the right to know he is about to be the father again, and that way you can find out in the beginning how he is going to take it. if he is going to be negative, you dont need that, your body will be going through enough carring his child. so if he wants to be an ass, that just gives you more of a reason to work hard on being the very best mother you can be. i know plenty of people who are great, and have done very well for themselves and there is no father to speak of. if things would be negative and upsetting when he is around sometimes children are better off not being around their fathers when they are that way. i know from experence, i have a father like that.
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A doctor should easily be able to tell how far along you are.
As for the father, even if you know he doesn't want a child, he still needs to know. Tell him.
Even if he doesn't want to be part of the child's life, he is still financially responsible - even for some of your hospital bills. In the near future I would start talking to a lawyer.
Another option for you is adoption. Then you know your child will have both a loving mother and father that are financial stable.
Whatever your decisions are, make sure they are what is best for the child.
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If you don't know when your last period was its possible they wouldn't be able to tell you when baby is due.
They will eventually do a sonogram. When they do that then they will be able to give you more of an idea. They can make a guess based on baby's size.
Whether you tell ex about baby is up to you. I'm one who thinks they have a tight to know, but if he isn't going to be a positive influence in the child's life then maybe the child is better off not knowing him.
If you live in a small town he will probably find out anyway. If he regrets his first child, I doubt his attitude has changed much. If he is still involved with first child's mother then he will resent this child even worse.
I know growing up not knowing your father had to be difficult. Would it have been any better though growing up knowing him, and knowing he didn't want you? I honestly don't know which would be worse. You have been there so you'll have to do some soul searching for the answer to that one.
Another thing you need to ask yourself is if he is able to help you financially support your child. Raising a child is not cheap, and you shouldn't be expected to carry that load by yourself. It has been done by many a great mother though.
I wish you well, please feel free to contact me if you think I can help further. :)
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He has every right to know and he should know. It's his responsibility now, as well as yours as you know, to see for this childs future. Who cares if he doesn't want this child for right now? It's his responsibility. He'll have to deal with it. But first, talk to him about it. Tell him that you're pregnant and then you need to get his view on how he's feeling about children or this child. Maybe he won't feel as bad as you think he may feel. Just talk to him about it. Tell him, no matter how much that he doesn't want to be a father, that this child really needs him and that it would be unfair to do this to a kid. Also, if you have to, tell him this can be settled legally or calmly, logically, and rashionally. Just make him listen.
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