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Hello. My name Is Solemnstar.
I'm a fifteen year old (assumed) male-to-female Transexual.
I want to help, plain and simple.
I like plain and simple, I like to catergorize people, ptu them into nice little boxes in my head.
and I LOVE figuring out the ones that don't fit.

Chatspeak annoys me, It takes an extra two seconds to type the real words.


I don't anwser advice as often as I should. Mainly because of School.

advice

should your boyfriend/girlfriend come before your best friend?

please explain too ♥ thanks.

It depends.usually if one is pressuring you in any wayshapeform, to remove that person, and that person has had no negative influence. you need to judge that yourself. me? i would take my best friend of a GF in an instance.

Solemnstar

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Hey
Does anyone know any good novel books you would recommend reading. I want to read but i want to read something good. Help! I rate 5's.
Can it be for ages 12-16 PLEASE?

thanks again!

animorphs.#1-54
harry potter.
war of the worlds
because of winn-dixie

anything you cna pick up at a library im sure.

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13/f
A lot has happened to me: parents have cancer, getting a divorce, was rapped (twice), have depression do drugs, smoke and i told my friend alex and he can relate (depression and sorda my supplier) and i told my BEST FRIEND allie and one more person cuz she said she new ppl who are on drugs and i needed some more..and she told.a bunch of people AND the school councilor alex tells me she was trying to help but ive been getting a lot of questioning lately and i hate it.but then again, i wanted an adult to know, but i dunno if i should be mad at her i mean i AM REALLY PISSED!!!!! but still..PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
much love..

just be happy a person cares for you.dont be mad at her for wanting to help. she may be mad. she may think she failed herself.you need to stop doing drugs of course.being raped and all that other stuff with of course be sad. but to move on and be stronger is better. remember, you are not worthless.

Solemnstar

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what do i do if i really like my ex still, but we never talk anymore? we used to before we went out, and then it turned akward so we broke up. and its still akward now! i miss him, how he used to act around me, now he just acts all quiet and different. what do i do!?

-female
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tell him. its always that simple it seems.it scares me how some can think the same thinking that starts a problem can solve it. if you worry bout the past, you cant fix it.

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How do you download MSN Messenger for a knoppix linux system? If you could give me any links, that would be great! i rate 5's

linux?
i hate you.JustKidding
i just have a thing for windows. though i hear linux is less glitchy
(COPIED FROM MY tech support)
you don't

meebo would work.
but i did find http://amsn.sourceforge.net/

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ya this is chad i relized that blackmail never posted anything here to mess wit us lukey cuse this would have been the perfect place to do it
in any event my question

does anyone know how to get runescape on a filtered computer!

runescape? they have a customer support as far as i know.
you coul always set your Com to allow access to the site though.
as long as you know how that stuff works.

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Ok, my problem is that my boyfriend's really jealous of my friend, troy. He thinks that Troy's gonna steel me away from him or something and i don;t really get why cuz i treat troy the same what i treat my other friends and i think it mught have something to do with the fact that my bf's really insecure and everything, but i was just wondering if there was any way that I can assure my bf that I won;t leave him for my friend...... without never speaking to troy again.... and please don;t say there's nothing i can do, cuz there has to be something!

the fact that you treat him like all your other friends might be it. he may want to feel important or special so as to insure you "love"(i hate how loosely that word is strung around nowadays.)

if hes insecure, your right it most likely will have something to do with it.

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Hello,
I am a 14 year old guy...

...I realized I liked my best friend for the 3rd time around Valentine's Day. So, I told her that I liked her, and she said, "No offense, but you need to get over me,". Well, since then, we've barely said a word to each other. My friends have been trying to get her to say something to me, so she did after I gave her a birthday card. I asked her to talk about what had been going on between us, and she said, and I quote,
"Not to be a beyotch, but I just don't feel like talking to you. I don't think we have the connection we used to have,"
After that, I was so upset. I didn't know what do to... I'm still upset, as she now has a boyfriend who is a complete jerk to me. What should I do???

meh....not too big a deal. i find it annoying that so many people figure things like this will be the primary factor in what happens to them in life.( i do this alot to, so i guess that makes me a hypocrite)

get over her, do whatever helps....well not drugs or cutting or any of that.

I play vidio games to get over things, and to pass time, and to start converations, and to....umm play video games.

I like video games......Alot...

"until my eyes bleed, i have no reason to stop playing video games"-Ethan, http:www.ctrlaltdel-online.com

reading comix, writing poeitry. or singing, or some poker or soemthing. just move on... but be careful not to date, out of lonelyness. it would make you quite shallow to do so.....

Solemnstar

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My freind is on an un-healthy diet. She hasn't told my freinds and I but at lunch she only eats and apple AND she on this website she said she was on a diet. We are worried that she is not eating much. What should we say to her? Should we talk to her?

Ok some of that was a little wierd....but i think i got the gist of it.

talk to a doctor or somebody who will know signs of what she is doing. ask her parents how she's been eating at home.So just relax for now. if you for sure see something is going on, yeah talk to her. fat lotta good itll do ya'. if there is something, shes most likely in denial and will lie to you if you question her.

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okay well i have a dell computer,and im trying to find the thing where you type something and the computer like speaks what you typed ? if you know what i mean.My friend said to go onto control panel and something will come up like "speech" or "speak" but i cant seem to find it,does someone know what im talking about and can help me find it like give me directions on where to go? thank you!

Its called naturalvoices.com
but im not sure if thats the URL

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Hi,I was wondering how to French Kiss someone.I saw on some websites that your supposed to tilt your head like a normal kiss but it don't say what to do after that like how do you move your head or what are you supposed to do??Can you please describe to me what to do and how to do it?...Thanks i rate 5.

ummm. sorry. never have.... The first time with a new partner may always be aqward..

Just kinda move with them i guess.

sorry i can't be more help, ya' know.

Solemnstar

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I'm throwing a party tomorrow and just wondering, what should I wear? Plus I cant stand being the one throwing the party, anyone know of any ways to lighten up a bit? Alot of people are coming. I'm worried since my parents will be upstairs and I know stuff is going to happen, thanks.

food. lots and lots of food.

i reccommennd games as well. it may seem childish but it can form friendships..

ok heres i what i would get.

enought aero bars for every 2 people. tie them to a fishing rod.

in teams of two a partner must feed the chocolate bar to the partner. and the partner must lay on the ground and keep there shoulders on the ground.

next. get bubble gum balls of a good size. hubba bubba works too. now hid it in a bunch of wjipped cream. one plane of above for each person the have to with hands: eat the whipped cream and blow a bubble with the gum. belive me gum does not blow bubbles after being in whipped cream.

them have soda cans, chips, popcorn twists and cheese stixs as party snacks.

if you can get a splitter( a device that allows to hook up one dvd player to multiple tvs) you can have all the tvs in your house in a room playing the same thing so as to look really cool.

Solemnstar

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hey

hey every one well my dad always hits me for no reasona sif imh is step daughter he always makes me cry and if i tell him not to he will hit i dont know what to do he makes me feel as if im not part of the family :(

umm.no offense ut you do knwo thats child abuse right?

good.

now what do you do when something like this happens?

you call the police.

and if they can't help?

Fostor family

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To start off, I guess I should tell you I'm 15 years old. My mom is VERY religious. She goes to church every chance she gets. She is one of the strongest believers God and the bible that I have ever met. I, on the other hand, am confused about all of this. My beliefs in God, the bible, heaven, hell are slim. I've lost alot of faith. It's my age, I guess.. I'm to the point where I need proof and evidence of everything. I can't believe in something over what a book says. I need evidence from scientists. From what I know, there has been no proff of the Bible Days. So my question is this.. How could I tell my mom that I don't believe and that I don't want to go to church every sunday anymore? I NEED to tell her, this is important. But I KNOW that it would COMPLETELY crush her if she ever knew. How could I break the news to her? PLEASE HELP! I rate 10's just for trying. But please give me good, honest answers.

Thank you.

You are right in thinking there is little proof in the existance of these things.in order to belive in something you will need to see contrast, and not blindly follow.I figure you should just tell yuor mother that.

Solemnstar

PS. ddi you knoe the mesopotamians added jesus's beard as it was a symbol of power?

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I have a slight problem. Sometimes when I get out of the bath/shower I feel like I am going to fall, my eyes change for some reason, and I get real dizzy. This has happened more than once and I have never been to a doctor over this problem because my family doesn't have much money. If anyone could tell me why these have been happening it would be much appreciated.

your eyes seem to be going blind for a second? dizzy? yeah i've feltt stuffa' this nature before. just relax. it has no negative stuff. ive had it looked at at my doctors so you hsould be fine.until you actually fall. then taht could be hurt

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Im 13, and my boyfriend is 12 (I was born very early in the year he was born later on) will he is very sweet, and very nice to me. We've been friends (but not like best friends) longer then we've been dating (hasent been that long at all) I think i have a big commitment issue, i mean once i finally get the guy i want.. I feel different. Like im happy, but im also constantly thinking about him. and almost sometimes i dont feel like talking to him, for like ALL night, so i tell him that i need to get of the phone/computer. Is this awkard? i mean is bad to have second thoughts, but you know that you really do want to be with him. & if your going to tell me about my age, and how many more guys i'll date, Dont respond. I RATE HiGH FOR GOOD ANSWERS.

I figure you might be afraid of losing him and so you aviod him, thinking it will be ruined if you dont. oh well just get to know him

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I love to watch scary movies. My question is, how do you go to sleep after watching one? I just finished watching a REALLY scary movie and I'm really scared! How do I go to sleep without thoughts of the movie?

i dunno. read a book?

i dont have that problem..but you can try to tune out your mind s you dont focus on your fear

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okay i need really good advice for this. my friend, he has some problems from the past dealing with family and friends. that's understandable, but he's really controlling. he used to cut and now threatens to kill himself. would he go through with it? probably not, but there's always that chance one day he might just break, ya know? well he doesn't like people i hang around with like my bf, friends, etc etc. he's very very controlling and today he asked me to choose my friends or him. well i obviously want to be with my friends, but i'm afraid he's going to do something stupid like he says. i really need help. everyone says "you shouldn't be friends with him if he treats you this way" but if you were in my situation (maybe some of you are) you definately know what i mean and how i feel about this subject. any ideas??

thanks!!

Its a type of guilt manipulation, he wants soemthing off you and is making you feel guilty or sorry for him to get it.whether its a relationship or whatever. it is decpetion and lies, some friend.

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I think that I might be bi.. But I dont want to be! what do I do?

I am female by the way

thanks..

k, um is it bad to be bi?that has little to do with my awnser i was just wordring if thats what you thought.

now then, to refuse what yo are and are not is a weakness, you will become dependant on the lie you said to yourself, and will erode and become depressed. you need to be honest with yourself. as for you sexuality.umm does it matter NO
just accept what you may or may not be.

i dont know this person but i hate people who say they are soemthing and hate it....

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16/f.im getting my braces off in a couple weeks. anything i should expect or be prepared for?

you might forget there are gone in the morinigns and may feel wierd after having them on for so long.

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