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Blabbermouth
13/f
A lot has happened to me: parents have cancer, getting a divorce, was rapped (twice), have depression do drugs, smoke and i told my friend alex and he can relate (depression and sorda my supplier) and i told my BEST FRIEND allie and one more person cuz she said she new ppl who are on drugs and i needed some more..and she told.a bunch of people AND the school councilor alex tells me she was trying to help but ive been getting a lot of questioning lately and i hate it.but then again, i wanted an adult to know, but i dunno if i should be mad at her i mean i AM REALLY PISSED!!!!! but still..PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
much love..
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You have a lot to deal with that you can't control (your parents' divorce, etc.), and a lot of things that you can (who you choose to spend your time with and what you do during that time). If you can make 50% of your life stable while the other uncontrollable 50% is in total chaos, then go for making that 50% as good as possible!
Your decisions, your responses, your actions, your attitude: they dictate so much about the happiness, contendedness, and success of your own life. If your own actions aim to throw you down (illegal activities- whether in general of for minors- which follow you whether you're caught or not ), and the actions and circumstances of those around you (divorce, rape, cancer) are also working to destroy you, then all you've got left are the gestures of others who try to help as best they can (like the person who told the guidance counselor at school). And those people will only try to help for so long because eventually they will either 1) see that you're rejecting their help or 2) see you're beginning to help yourself so they can now fall back into the role of a supportive friend rather than one of doing damage control.
Alex may be able to relate, but that's a sign that he needs help too because that's a hard life to juggle with school, friends, depression, etc., so having something in common that only brings you down isn't going to do either of you any good towards bringing you up.
Surrounding yourself with people who will hold you accountable for you actions, support you in doing those things you know to be best, and encourage you in all good things is, about the best thing you can do for yourself right now. And in the beginning it will probably suck in many ways (ex. the guidance counselor is required by law to notify certain folks when they know a student is endangering their own life, the lives of others, or engaging in illegal activities). But working with those who are genuinely trying to help you (as opposed to the sappy brain-washing shrink types) will make it suck a lot less and for a lot shorter amount of time. And the results will be as dramatic as you will let them be.
You're already moving in that direction- let your momentum for making the choices that are smartest for you carry you even further!!
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im confused about who told on you?
you obviously know now that you cant trust that person. and if you are going to continue to do drugs. i wouldnt have them in your pocession on school campus. just in case you get searched.
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just be happy a person cares for you.dont be mad at her for wanting to help. she may be mad. she may think she failed herself.you need to stop doing drugs of course.being raped and all that other stuff with of course be sad. but to move on and be stronger is better. remember, you are not worthless.
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No, dont be mad at her she was just trying to help. And if people are bothering u tell them that you rather not talk about that, its something personal and you would perfer if they would not ask anymore. My mom has depression, it runs in her side of the family, she is not taking any drugs anymore because she says that you dont need them. You sound like you have depression because you have gone threw alot. I suggest to get involved in things, volunteer, join a club. Do something you like to do and have not done in a long time, it will make you feel alot better.
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You can be pissed all day but don't be mad at one who seems to be one of the best friends you have.
She is only tying to save you. Because she is your friend and wants you to be around a while.
Take help wherever you can get it. Sounds like you need it. Talk to the counselor...get your life back on track. :)
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