I like fairies (thus why I am wearing fairy wings in the picture). Good grammar rocks, too. It doesn't have to be perfect but I get frustrated when people completely disregard it. I like every color except pink. I hate the wind. Sometimes, I carry around a little teddy bear I found at an antique store. His name is Robert. I dress very eccentrically. It's not unusual for me to wear a prairie dress one day and a Mod dress (think Austin powers) the next. I don't dye my hair, or wear much make-up. I think it's sad that no one puts any emphasis on natural beauty anymore. I think it's a good thing to be open and educated about sex and other issues that are considered taboo. I have a hard time seeing where homophobics are coming from.
Basically, I'm just some weird teenager in Arizona. If I haven't scared you off already, feel free to drop me a line. -Danielle
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First off, Im 13 years old girl and I play lacrosse. It requires alot of running and I have asthma. I dont have it very bad, but the inhaler seems to help. Anyways, im not very good at running. Its very annoying, because in this sport you must run long distances, and you have to run fast. Im not sure if its asthma or if its because im out of shape. Im not fat or anything, normal size, but im not very flexible and my personal fitness teacher said that if your not very flexible and you cant run a mile in under 11 min. that your out of shape. I took 15:30 on my mile and a BOYS average on flexibility. I am pretty good at sports though and I dont feel out of shape at all. (link)
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You probably are out of shape and just don't push yourself enough to see that. If I were you I'd just start running every day. Run like you normally would at first, and then every week try to get your time a little shorter. If you warm up and cool down before and after with stretching, it will probably not only help you be less sore after you run but also help flexibility.
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hey my name is frances i am 19 yrs old recently i broke up with my boyfriend and i am doing pretty good. he is 23, we have been together for 2 1/2 yrs. i decided that i wanted to get a tattoo to symbolize my realtionship becuase he was my first love. but i am not sure what to get. i dont want anything like his name. no way but something like. love will prevail, or growth or strength or something that i can ge tattooed in japanese or chinese. let me know what would be a good idea. (link)
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Rather than getting a relic of the relationship marked on you forever, why don't you get something that symbolizes the freedom you now have? Realistically, when you're 50 years old and you look back at what you put there, it would probably be more pleasing to see something inspirational that makes you feel free than something that ties you to this person forever in ink form.
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How to forget a boy that just played with you and that broke your heart. (link)
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Just repeat to yourself that he doesn't care, so why should you? Why would you waste your time and energy on someone who isn't even giving you a second thought... it's pretty silly, isn't it? Spend time with people who WILL give you a second thought and won't break your heart for now, like your family and friends.
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should you see a doctor if you have a tear in the lining of your vagina, but its beging to heal? should i be worried that it will re tear in the process of trying to have sex later on? (link)
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I'd go to a gynecologist about it, just to be safe. Might as well kill two birds with one stone by getting a check up/pap AND getting your questions answered, right? :)
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My bf moved to another state for a job. We were still together when he left. He hasnt contacted me in 5 months, and I'm so tired of waiting around for him. I think he's been completely selfish not contacting me. I've finally come to the heartbreaking realization that it's over.
My question is how can I get over him so I can move on with my life? Everyone tells me I'm a pretty girl and can find another bf very easily.
The problem is I would feel really guilty if I started dating someone without letting my bf know. I need some sort of closure, but I have no way of contacting him because he shut off his cell and everytime I email him they get returned. Does anyone have any ideas? (link)
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Why would you feel guilty? He broke up with you (in the most cowardly way possible, but he did). Even if he came back and still wanted you, he'd DESERVE to find you with another guy. Please, for the love of all that is holy, don't ever try to date this guy again. What a loser.
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ok well i have like soo many pimples and i have cream but does toothpaste really help them go away? please ii need help. this guy said he likes but i have too many pimples&ihate them too so please help. ill rate high. (link)
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uhh... what the hell? I know you want me to tell you how to get rid of acne but it looks like plenty of people told you how to do that. What they didn't tell you is that you shouldn't be trying to date you a guy that won't date you just because you have some zits. You're a teenager, it's normal! Why would you want to date a superficial asshole like that? and even if he's "nice" otherwise... to be cliche, you should just date people that like you for you, and not on the condition that your face is void of some specks.
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how do i find out how many questions ive ranked overall, not just in the past 30 days? (link)
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There's probably no way except to add up ALLLLL of the scores and then divide them by the number of scores. (IE. You have 20 scores that are all 5's. You add up all the 5's and divide it by 20)...sorry if you already know how to do that but I just thought I'd make it clear.
Edit: Whoaaa there, RELAX! I misread the freakin' question. I hope you're not that bitchy to everyone.
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does anyone know who the song "boom boom boom boom" is by? or any other songs by that band? thank you. (link)
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I think the song could be by Aqua. Their first album (self-titled) is better than the one with that song on it though.
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I'm 14 and I started my period like 3 years ago. I thought that when you started your boobs grew faster and stuff. But mine havn't grown that much. Like I still have cleavage with a push-up bra but I thought I'd be bigger by now. My moms' are really big so she told me, mine would be too. So is there a reason why this is happening? Is it normal? Thanks for your help in advance! (link)
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You're only 14, so you still have some growing to do. Different people have growth spurts at different times. I know it sucks to hear, but just because your mom has big boobs doesn't always mean that you will, or vice versa. My mom had tiny boobs and yet mine are a relatively good size. Lots of complicated genetics come into play from both sides. Your body is just moving at its own rate. Your boobs might not get that much bigger, but they also have a good chance of doing so (I know a girl who jumped 2 cup sizes her junior or senior year), so don't lose hope yet!
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someone asked me, "are you a liberal?"
what does liberal mean?
the dictionary's definition doesn't make sense to me. (link)
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A liberal tends to support the less republican viewpoints. Many liberals support abortion, gay marriage, and taking the troops out of Iraq. They're not huge fans of George W. Bush Jr. It mostly applies to democrats, whereas conservative mostly applies to republicans.
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my bff has been my bff for as long as i can remember. but since we've been in high school she has really gotten inot the party scene and sexual thing. i do the party thing. so idc. but what has been bothering me is she doesnt care who she hurts, if she wants it she'll do it. my other bff, she is into two guys. both of which are bad guys that arent loyal no matter what. well my 1st bff was at my party last night and she had sex with my 2nd bff's man. one of them. and she told me to not say anything. but i hate this. it happens between the two of htem all the time. what can i do. (link)
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If I were you, I'd talk to them both about it in a group, and see what happens from there. Tell them that you care for both of them and that you hate to see them hurting one another and themselves like they do. Try to make it seem more like you're just a worried friend than accusing anyone of anything. If it continues to happen, I would suggest to ignore it and try to stay out of the middle of it, even if it seems impossible. It's not really your problem, as long as you are a good and loyal friend to both of them. Listen to both of them when they want to talk, but don't offer your opinion and try to stay unbiased. Staying out of the drama is the best way to cut the tension and awkwardness for you.
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My girlfriend "Allison" and I broke up about six months ago, after a 3-year relationship (a year in the same city before I had to move away, then a year of long-distance, then she moved halfway across the country to join me, and we lived together for a year before breaking up). With every other breakup I've ever had, I felt worst immediately afterwards, and then felt better and better over time, but this time it's just the opposite; I felt pretty good at first, and have felt worse and worse since. I was really sad to lose Allison, because in many ways we were fantastic together. But we spent most of that last year fighting and making each other miserable, and it seemed like that would never change, so I was sure we'd done the right thing by breaking up, and I felt pretty good about it.
But I've since realized that our differences -- which seemed irreconcilable -- could have been easily resolved. A medication I had started taking (for attention deficit disorder) made me feel stressed out, depressed, and incredibly irritable, but the timing made it seem as if living with Allison was causing that, and I didn't realize the truth until I stopped taking that drug recently. Plus I was immature and had my priorities all mixed up, and I've grown up a lot since the breakup. It's not that Allison was perfect -- her reactions to all the stuff I did wrong just made things worse -- but the breakup was my fault. I treated her amazingly badly, I deeply regret that, and I'm sure that if I'd handled things better, our relationship would have been great.
I've told Allison that, and that I'd do almost anything to win her back, but she's not interested. Part of that is that she thinks she's madly in love with a new guy she started dating two months after our breakup. But to me he seems like just a rebound guy, I think she'll realize that sooner or later, and I'm willing to wait. She's said, though, that even if he weren't around, she still wouldn't want to get back together. I think the problem is that I hurt her a lot, she doesn't really believe I've changed, and she doesn't want to get hurt again (and I can't blame her).
How can I convince Allison that I've changed? I've already started doing some things she always wanted when we were together, but that I never did. Is there anything else I can do that would help me to win her back? Am I being unrealistic to think we might get back together? And if so, how do I get over her? My friends tell me to date other people, but I've gone out on a few dates recently, and just wasn't at all interested in those women -- I felt absolutely nothing -- which again is very different from how I've felt after all of the other breakups I've ever had. (link)
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A very similar thing happened to me. Went out with a guy for 2 years, and I treated him horribly because I was immature and it just didn't seem to be working so I broke up with him. A few months later, I realized what a mistake I had made, but it was too late. I convinced him to get back together, because I really had changed for the better, but it only lasted about 2 weeks and he was totally different because it was just obvious that he was just done with it and didn't want to make it work like he did before. Then a few weeks after breaking up for the 2nd time he got with this chick that I thought for sure would be a rebound or something. I mean, I was wondering what you were, how can you be with someone for so long that you were so in love with and within a couple of months be over that person and on to someone else? Well, it's been a year now and they're still together. I still don't know to this day if he just buried those remaining feelings for me really deep down in there or just truly got over it that quickly... but it seems unlikely for someone who who was suicidal when I broke up with them.
I usually try really hard not to bore people with my own stories on here, but my point is, it doesn't look like you'll get her back, and if you do, it won't be for a while. I know you're not me, nor she my ex, but that's just what it seems like. If she still has those feelings, which she most likely does, she's probably done what my ex did... associated them with so much bitterness and pain that she can too many negative factors. It's a heartbreaking thing to take in, and it took me so long to accept it and move on, but I still made myself date around anyway. Eventually you'll find a person who catches your interest a little bit as time goes on, even if you're not over Allison. It doesn't mean you're using them or that they're a rebound if you're actually interested but still think of her, it just means you're taking action and proactively trying to move on. Sorry that this was so long, but ultimately just remember to heal at your own pace. Don't beat yourself up because it seems like it's taking way too long to get over her. If you do that you stop focusing on the problem and indirectly make it worse by lowering your self-esteem. Just take your time and eventually it won't hurt so badly anymore.
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Is it really true that if you take a cold shower, your body will burn calories trying to get warm? If so, how many?
Curosity strikes :) (link)
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I think both thinks are old wives tales... not just the burning calories, but what that person says down there about being healthy and getting up in the morning. I know people who couldn't be healthier and they still can't wake up in the morning to save their lives.
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Im a girl, and im 16 years old. okay, a few months ago, i did stuff with this guy called Bryan. We did stuff several times at different parties. Hed be nice to me on the night, but after that, like at school and stuff, hed just kinda ignore me. but it wasnt so bad, hed speak on msn. sometimes i wondered if he was using me, so i tried talking to him about it, and he told me it was fine and he wasnt using me. But i feel used. WE havent done anything in a while as hes starting being a dick to me, and more ignorant than ever. he also started trying it on with other girls. but it still really hurts. My friends say i was being used. It feels horrible, how he just dropped me like that. And now i think i like bryan, and cant stop thinking about him. even though i know its a waste of time, but i just wish he liked me, and i dont know what to do. ive tried talking to him but he either ignores me, or convinces me that IM wrong. He doesnt even seem to like me, even as just a friend, and always blanks me. Ive done nothing wrong...but basically he just doesnt care about my feelings and doesnt wanna know about anything to do with me.
i dont understand why im so different from anyone else. Im not jelous, im just hurt. He used to be so nice to me, and now hes evil to me. He talks to everyone else apart from me, and hes rude to my face and insulting, behind my back. Please help! (link)
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Just ignore him. He doesn't deserve your time, or your thoughts. It sucks to be used, but just learn from that mistake and don't make it again. Definitely don't keep hooking up with him! Maybe this experience can help you in the future so that you won't find yourself in this situation again. The minute a guy treats you like that after you've hooked up with him, just move on and push him out of your life before you're even attached. He's not worth it.
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I love books! I love to read, I'm 15, so I need some more good book suggestions. I like to sci-fi and fantasy books, and I love Nicholas Sparks. So, anyone got any good suggestions? 5's for good suggestions. (link)
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the belgariad by eddings
the china garden
mists of avalon
ender's game etc. by card
dune by frank herbert
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doesnt any one know where i can get a henna tatoo get like the ones you get on vaca
i want the kind taht lasts for like 2 weeks (i think thats the only kind but im not sure) and i want one that shows up black not brown (like those idian ones)
also if you can recommend a brand you used so i know its good and w/e (link)
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I just got a henna tattoo at my state's Reniassance Festival... however, it shows up brown. Still, as a last resort you can see if your state has a Ren Fest too and get one done. They can get a little pricy. I also suggest calling up tattoo parlors in your area and asking if any of them do henna or if they know of anyone who does, since they're somewhat similar in nature.
edit: that wasn't obvious and you never said that anywhere, so thanks for that stupid comment. whatever.
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My boyfriend and I can rarely hang out because my parents are so strict. I almost never see him outside of school. But he loves me alot and will do practically anything for me. But lately he has been hanging out with this girl, we'll call her Liz. And Liz obviously likes him. Liz has been using me to get closer to him but he swears that he doesn't like her. He always also talks crap about Liz behind her back. but they continue to hang out. But he doesn't want to break up with me.
Since me and him dont hang out alot, is he maybe trying to create a substitute of me that he can hang out with? What do you think? (link)
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This is really contradictory. You say that he'll "do anything" for you, but he won't hang out less with this girl when it obviously makes you feel uncomfortable? The situation could go either way. He could just want someone to hang out with, but the situation is a little fishy. You need to confront her, too, and tell her to back off because he is your freaking boyfriend! It's not like there's not a ton of other guys she could go after.
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I can wear 32A or 32B, but most stores don't carry size 32, they usually start at 34. Does anyone know where I can get a nice push-up, cleavage-enhancing, curve-enhancing bra in size 32A or 32B for under $30? I've tried Target, Kohls, and Macy's, but I didn't find any I liked. and I'm pretty sure Victoria's Secret bras start at size 34. Any help would be much appreciated :) (link)
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Weird..I never had that problem when I wore a 32A. Have you tried victoria's secret catalogue? I can almost guarantee they have those sizes. Also, you could try looking online by googling for bra web sites. Good luck!
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I just saw "Pride & Prejudice" with Keira Knightley and Matthew MacFayden, and it was delightful. I loved it, and now I'm halfway through the novel
In your opinion, why is P&P so popular? What do you think is so appealing about it?
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The characters are very unique, especially for that time. Women like Elizabeth were likely frowned upon for their outspoken and witty natures and usually weren't glorified in text by ANYONE, much less a woman. The vocabulary was good and the basic style is, for the most part, rather entertaining and only moderately difficult for people in high school... unless they aren't much into reading. As for a movie, there are a number of things. Everyone wants to see Keira Knightly, it seems. At least people adore someone TALENTED, for once. And of course, everyone loves a British Victorian Romance movie. Well, not everyone. But you know it will ALWAYS fly with women and some of the more appreciative, probably older men. :)
Kind of interesting that you gave me a 4 when probably no one else (besides the first person above me) would even look twice at this. Whatever.
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okay, well my friend got fingered for the first time the other day and now she's been worrying about it. she think's that she is pregnant but i'm telling her that she can't be because it's totally impossible because she didn't have sex or anything. and she hasn't gotten her period and she's 2weeks late. i told her that i think it's because she doesn't have a regular period, because she hasn't had it for over 2years and normally that's when it starts getting regular. her boyfriend only fingered her, she didn't do anything to him so i'm really not sure what to tell her except that she isn't pregnant. what do you guys think?
PS. when she got fingered after she bled alittle, and i told her that maybe he scratched her or something because you never know. (link)
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You should tell your friend not to be doing anything sexually if she can't be smart enough about it to know that you CANNOT get pregnant through simple fingering.
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