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Weird Situation
My boyfriend and I can rarely hang out because my parents are so strict. I almost never see him outside of school. But he loves me alot and will do practically anything for me. But lately he has been hanging out with this girl, we'll call her Liz. And Liz obviously likes him. Liz has been using me to get closer to him but he swears that he doesn't like her. He always also talks crap about Liz behind her back. but they continue to hang out. But he doesn't want to break up with me.
Since me and him dont hang out alot, is he maybe trying to create a substitute of me that he can hang out with? What do you think?
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if he truely loves you and would do anything for you..then he will not want to ever hurt you..so he is not going to do anything with her..so you just need to get used to that
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maybe they're just friends.
just cuz she "obviously" likes him, doesn't mean he's gonna cheat on you with her.
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im just gonna make this as short as i can. in my opinion i think he IS using her as a substitute. but i DO think you should be worried. listen, when someone hangs out with the opisite sex for a long period of time they begin to learn more about eachother and begin to find out what they have in common and what they dont. then they will begin to bond and then theres a chance he might start to like her. i dont think you should hang out with Liz anymore if shes just using you. thats not fair to you. for your boyfriend, try to hang out with him more durring school. like flirting with him, talking to him more, and trying not to show any jealousy. ok so maybe this wasnt as short as i planed but I TRYED haha. if you ever need any more advice or just need someone to talk to about your problems just drop it in my inbox : )
Leah
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This is really contradictory. You say that he'll "do anything" for you, but he won't hang out less with this girl when it obviously makes you feel uncomfortable? The situation could go either way. He could just want someone to hang out with, but the situation is a little fishy. You need to confront her, too, and tell her to back off because he is your freaking boyfriend! It's not like there's not a ton of other guys she could go after.
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I think possibly he might be trying to use her as a substitute, but even if that is so he shouldnt do that if he really loves you. He wouldnt want a substitute because that wouldnt be as good as the real thing. I dont understand why he would be talking shit about her and then still hanging out with her, it leaves me to wonder if he has something to hide. Maybe you should be 100% up front with him and ask him to be 100 percent honest with you also. If he liked her though, I'm sure he wouldnt want to tell you because he doesnt want to lose you, but its normal to like other people while your dating someone, as long as its just like. Its always a curiosity factor. Guys like other girls because their curious of what they cant have, but as long as they know they cant have them its alright, make sure your boyfriend knows that. =D
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In a way it sounds like a yes..but I don't think so. If he is talking crap about her I think that it is more like a stalk thing. I think that she might be stalking him...and you said that she might be using you to get to him..there ya go. This is a case of she likes him but he likes someone else. Just talk to him and remind him that it will probably get better, and just to be safe, watch her just in case, just becuase it isn't yet doesn't mean that it won't become that. Don't be nieve, but don't be too suspicious. I hope that I helped, and remember that my ibox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!
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