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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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When I used the bathroom today (pooped) there was large amount of blood in the toilet. The water was basically red. Completely. But it didn't hurt me to use the bathroom. I had no idea there was all that blood in the toilet until I looked down to wipe. Even though it didn't hurt me to use the bathroom, for the past few days I have been experiencing random pain in my anus. I could be sitting down, or even walking. Is this something to be concerned about? Do any of my symptoms ring a bell?
You should go to a doctor about this. We can't diagnose medical problems.
Hi,
My best friend of 15 years is getting married next year.
To my surprise she posted up a facebook status the other day listing her four bridesmaids & I was not included.
I've never felt so hurt by someone in my entire life, I was crying all night thinking I had done something wrong & trying to figure out why she didn't pick me.
Now I don't want to be friends with her anymore or even go to her wedding. I don't have a boyfriend, never have so I will be by myself as usual. Also I don't want to be embarrassed in front of her family who I've known for years starring at me wondering why I'm not there.
She lives in Australia but is coming home to New Zealand to get married here then go back to live in Australia.
How do I tell her I don't want to be friends with her cause she really hurt me & that I don't want to go to her wedding?
I know it's mean but I am just so hurt. If I ever got married I would've picked her to be mine.
Her excuse was that she can't afford to have an extra bridesmaid.
I just want to tell her to f off & to go get stuffed.
Kind of a silly thing to end a friendship over, don't you think? Especially such a long lasting friendship.
I understand you're hurt and all, but geez...
I really have this crush on a guy can anyone tell me how to know if he love me too
Ask him?
Okay well im 18, me and my ex boyfriend ended like 7 months ago. The problem is that well yeah he dumped me and such and like im not over him and i know he ain't too.
What bothers me is that he says he doesn't care what i do and stuff... as in date someone else (even though i haven't dated anyone after him)
so then on twitter he goes on like he cares, it's as if he doesn't like me being happy since i show it on twitter... even though he doesn't exactly know i feel ...
why does it feel as if he don't want me happy? does he still care and feel the same?
we decided to be friends well since he came back to me, lol what makes me mad is that he said he missed our friendship but doesnt bother communicating with me? i bet it's cause he knows im there. Well too bad i'm not cause i don't want him to see that i care anymore, he obviously doesn't care..
i know he goes out with girls and stuff, i actually don't see why he said 'lets be friends?' must that mean something? on new years it was me who wished him a new years, not him..
he got drunk and said all these things at the end he was like how he misses me..
next morning he goes he was chatting rubbish typical right?
ah i acc don't know what to do anymore this sucks cause i do feel alot for him ah please try help me...
This ended 7 months ago, and you're still worried over "why does it feel as if he don't want me happy?"
He's 7 months gone... Why should you care what he thinks?
Stop trying to be friends, or whatever it is you got going on, because it's not working so well, is it. You need to be able to move on, and moving on you're not.
It's not healthy for you at all.
Is it right to love your cousin??
It's right to love them as family. It's wrong to love them as lovers. That is called incest.
I'm 13 and there's this girl i like. I joined the play because she was joining and our characters dance together, but i really don't like to do plays but i still joined. I had to memorize my lines and some songs but i didn't memorize the songs cause i didn't have time. So i just thought i went to the rehearsals without knowing the songs but i really feel bad... what should i do?
Well I guess you better get it in gear and learn those songs before the night of the play, don't you think? That's the responsible thing to do.
I owe $11,246.34 on a 2010 Chevrolet HHR LT with 47500 miles on it. I'm looking to get rid of it and get something cheaper, so I posted an ad on Craigslist. A man contacted me saying that he'd like to set something up where he takes over the payments. He specifically said that he didn't want to do it through the dealership because he didn't want ownership to be transferred right away. Said something about how he just financed a new Corvette. He did mention documents and getting things notarized and everything, but I'm still a little suspicious of why he would go through all that. Where should I go from here?
Don't do it!
Well I'm 12 turning 13 in a few months anyway my boobs are quit big for my age its not huge its a nice size but anyway my mom had breastcancer and so did her mom or they had a lump or something well my boobs are really sore if I touch it and its very sore!! Please help! Is this cancer?
Well, we wouldn't be able to tell you if you had cancer. Only a doctor can do that.
The soreness is natural at your age, so don't fret.
I'm 13, and i have a really complicated love problem and really need help on this. So there is this girl, lets call her Susan, that i really like and shes beautiful and really fun to be with. I like her for a long time and then eventually asked her out but she rejected me! Then the next year i fell for two other girls( and people say that if you loved her for 4 months means she you really love her... it happened!) one is... daisy! and the other one is...Vicky! So i really don't know what to do daisy isn't the one people see me with and if i go with her they'll think I'm a freak, but Vicky and Susan then they'll think high of me... please help i don't know what to do!!!
I'm afraid I just can't help you because I couldn't make much sense of what you're trying to ask? Who is Susan??
And since when do we date people based on what other people think? That's not a very smart way of going about it.
Ok, so im not entierly sure what my question IS, but i really need some help with this. You see, ive had a crush on my best friend for almost a year now, and yeah she knows about it. And as our friendship grows stonger and we grow closer, my crush on her grows, and now i actually think that im IN love with her. But, she isnt lesbian, and has a BF too. I cant even begin to explain how much i like her, and how badly i want to kiss her every day when i see her in our only class together. (PE) the only thing that does keep me from kissing her, is that she told me if I ever did, she would hate me forever and never talk to me again, amd i just cant lose my friendship with her- she means the world to me. But even though she does have a BF, shes always telling me that despite how badly SHE wants to kiss HIM, hes really unromantic and she might as well not even have a boyfriend. Also, even though she is straight, i always seem to feel like shes, maybe flirting with me, or trying to make a move or something? (Ex: Calling me "Sweetie" ,occasionaly saying "love ya!", trying to poke the picture of Harry Styles on my shirt, which just happened to be right near my boob, etc.) I dont know, i just really really really like her and dont know what to do or what to think. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!! (Oh yeah and both me and my crush are girls and 12 years old, almost 13)
You need to get over this girl, because how can you be her best friend if you are always desiring her in a romantic way?
"OMG, she poked me near my boob!" Just stop it, already. The girl is straight, and you're having pipe dreams about her- turning things she does into something they're not because of an extreme case of wishful thinking.
Come on, now. Find a girl who IS a lesbian so you can focus on being her friend.
Okay, so I get basically 'good' grades at school and everything, but this year I want to try out for the girls' soccer team-even though the coach is sort of rude. The coach doesn't like me, and I'm afraid of her. She says I'm not good enough for the team. And I'm afraid my friends will laugh at me since I think I'm sort of fat, and that they'll say the same.
Here's a thought for you:
Wouldn't you just love to prove that coach wrong?
If you go out there and put heart into your game play, you will be good enough for any team.
And what kind of friends would laugh at you??
I ate my hair when I was a child along with things such as dirt, paper, glue ect. Now I have started To eat things such as scabs, finger nails, and continue to eat paper along with other things such as chalk, bath salt, soap ect I am a picky eater with regular foods but I enjoy trying stuff that is not supposed to be eaten. What's Wrong With Me?
I agree with Razhie. You need to set an appointment with your doctor.
Does that even make sense? I mean, I'm a woman and currently in a relationship with a man. And that's fine by me. I'm attracted to men, but at the same time, I want to be a man. I've always been a bit of a tomboy and I'm not shy about a man's body at all or the way it works. These thoughts have been in my head for years now, this is the seventh year, but I'm not sure if I should act on this or find something to purge the thoughts. I've never told anyone this, not my family or my therapist. What should I do??
Why haven't you talked to your therapist about this? Who better to help you figure this out?
in all honesty i've never done this before but i just feel like i have noone to turn to about this. so i've been working my ass off to save money fly and see this guy. he lives in the states and i live in canada. we met here when he was on vaca meeting some relatives. anywho at first we webcammed texted and talked on the phone and eventually i geuss our lives put more distance then.. we already were. we planned for me to fly over at the end of the month but im having second thoughts we barely talk.. its just how are u okay bye... dull. and now a new guys popped into my life and he's all ears and gives me so much attention. i dont know if i should go we talked for nearly 8 months.... and its fading.. since we live so far communication is so important and i dont know if we have that. should i wast 1000 dollars to just give it a try?
Sounds like things aren't really sparking anymore, so why spend the money on a potentially boring trip? If you want to go on a trip, use the money to go somewhere with sights you want to see. I'm sure there are many great places to check out in Canada that you've yet to see. Or heck, save your money for a rainy day.
She was my best friend, now she's a bitch. She acts cool and back-stabs me. I feel hurt and just because I said one things about her, she blew her top off and threatened to break off all ties with me. She then spread vicious rumors about me and now I feel so sad. I wasn't in the wrong!
My other friends tell me to forget about her and keep a distance. Because it was her who made my life hell. But how?! It's so hard! She was my best friend! How can you forget an ex-best friend even if she is so bitchy now? Help:(
So wait... What was the one thing you said about her? Sounds like you really hurt her and pissed her off. Her retaliation is uncalled for, but you say it was her that made your life hell. You sure you didn't have a hand in that hell with what you said about her?
hmmm...
My husband and I have been married for 3 years. He cheated on me with his ex our entire 3 year engagement, through my pregnancy, and I didn't find out until right before we got married. I still married him because I love him, and I figured it would be a fresh start for us.
Now the tables have turned.
About a year into our marriage, I guess I finally decided that I can't trust him and he wasn't changing his ways, so I ended it. We were apart for a week or so, when I decided to sleep with someone else. I'd never been with another man; I was curious. It was a terrible experience, and I regretted it instantly. My husband and I ended up getting back together, and he has yet to forgive me for what I did. From my perspective, I ended things before I slept with someone else. From his perspective, we were married-I cheated.
I decided at that point after seeing how miserable my "leaving" made him, that I loved him and wanted to stay. Now, I have serious issues.
Since that night, I've slept with 7 different men, and kissed two more. I've found myself in a viscous cycle that I can't seem to get out of. I don't know if I just seek validation, if I don't really want to be with my husband, if I'm resentful, if I can't trust him, if I've completely lost myself, if I even care about anything anymore.
I'm lost. I'm confused. I'm sickened by my behavior. I'm a coward. I need help.
Have you considered the thought that you're wasting your time being married to a man you can't be faithful to? You're wasting his time, too.
Just throwing that out there.
What is a synonym? and where i can find it?
You can find it in the dictionary.
Sorry. Couldn't resist.
Over the past year I have developed some unusual ways of thinking and behavior that I have no idea how to handle. I have become more and more socially withdrawn. I never leave my house, and rarely get out of bed. My fiancé has been trying to get me to be more active socially and physically, but I somehow always end up staying home. This has gone on for over a year and has become worse and worse as each day passes. It's not that I'm scared to leave my house, I just don't want to deal with people, and I am paranoid that everywhere I go people are watching me, talking about me, and judging me. Next, I have become very unorganized. I used to be a complete control freak and now I have piles and piles of clothes everywhere, dirty dishes, food wrappers etc, and I have no interest in cleaning because I know where everything is. Next (This scares my fiancé the most) I have become very paranoid and scared about demons. I think they are out to get me. I somehow convince myself that when I open the door to my room, or the shower curtain, or when I look in the mirror a demon will appear and try to hurt me. I constantly think about this and it keeps me from getting out of bed, getting out of the shower, and looking in the mirror. When I lie in bed at night and close my eyes, I always feel like a demon is hovering over me. Or when I am home alone, I feel like they follow me around and end up running everywhere I go. The fear is paralyzing. Next, I have trouble concentrating and communicating with my fiancé and family because my head is so cluttered with thoughts. There's always a million different thoughts going on at once, some I can make out, some I cannot. Some are whispered thoughts, and some are screaming thoughts that won't go away. They all have different tones of voices, some more aggressive than others. I don't know if I am making any sense. This is my most recent symptom, and it's keeping me from falling asleep. These symptoms are starting to ruin my life and I don't know what to think of them. I know they are not normal. What do you think it is, and what are some steps I can take in dealing with this?
You need to get help right away.
I have a mental illness, and how I finally got properly diagnosed and treated was:
Step 1: Go to a therapist.
They can figure out what exactly is going on with you and set up a therapeutic treatment plan. (Therapy helps tremendously)
They will also determine whether your condition needs to be treated medically (medications) and refer you to a doctor that specializes in mental disorders.
Step 2. Go to the Doctor.
Step 3. Follow your treatment plan! The results of feeling better again are worth it!
I hope this helps, and I hope you make an appointment right away.
Hey guys, I am a freshman in college without a license. Before you give me grief, I did try for it twice, it's not like I'm not trying at all. The thing is; I can parallel park anywhere, there is a place at my local mall that is perfect practice that I can nail, I can do it in front of my house in between two cones.. but when I get in the car with the man, I fail the parallel parking. I can never get inside the barrels far enough. I think I get too nervous and I don't know how to stop that because I NEED my license. Long story short, the college I go to is pushing all returning students to live in off campus apartments or suites on campus which is so much more money that the traditional hall I am living in now. So, I want to get my license and commute.
So, this question is, I guess, asking how I can calm my nerves and pass next time? You'd think I would know what to expect and wouldn't get nervous again but I still have. How can I just get in the car with the man, do everything up to par and pass so I can have my license? Because this is just getting ridiculous now. Thanks.
Hey, I totally get where you're coming from. Parallel parking raised my anxiety too! You know you can do it- you've practiced enough times and did it just fine, right? Pull up and get ready to parallel park, then stop. Close your eyes for a few seconds. Take a couple of long, deep breaths. If that doesn't calm you, take a couple more. Deep breathing is an excellent relaxing technique.
See if that helps you.
Good luck to you!
okay soo . idated this guy for a year and a month. i broke up with him because we would fight all the time , and he changed dramasticly . he gets very very jealous . even though we broke up he would still call me and say he loves me and i would say it back . but one day he called and i finally told him that we cant do this anymore . i told him we cant tell each other that we love each other , or we will get back togather . and we cant be anything more then friends. then he told me he would always love me no matter what and he had gotten me a birthday present .. and it was this braclet that had my name engraved and had our date on it ..
sooo after he told me all that. we havent talked in while. then i find out he went to the movies with some girl and they kissed .
wooooow . im so heart broken. and i cant stop thinking about him . and i dont want to call himm or text him . but its werid he still has all our picturs on facebook and instgram. i dont know what to do . if he calls i dnt know what to say ?
You need to either break up or be with him and stick firmly to the choice you make. All of this texting and I love yous and present getting isn't seeming very broken up, now is it? No wonder your heart is broken, allowing yourself to be only halfassed broke up.
You don't want to call him and text him? You want to be broke up? If he calls, tell him it's over, don't call again, then don't answer his calls, don't read his texts. You've already discovered that doing so only causes you more heartache. Plus it will take you that much longer to get over the guy, and sounds to me like he's a guy worth getting over.