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Lesbian in love with BFF
Ok, so im not entierly sure what my question IS, but i really need some help with this. You see, ive had a crush on my best friend for almost a year now, and yeah she knows about it. And as our friendship grows stonger and we grow closer, my crush on her grows, and now i actually think that im IN love with her. But, she isnt lesbian, and has a BF too. I cant even begin to explain how much i like her, and how badly i want to kiss her every day when i see her in our only class together. (PE) the only thing that does keep me from kissing her, is that she told me if I ever did, she would hate me forever and never talk to me again, amd i just cant lose my friendship with her- she means the world to me. But even though she does have a BF, shes always telling me that despite how badly SHE wants to kiss HIM, hes really unromantic and she might as well not even have a boyfriend. Also, even though she is straight, i always seem to feel like shes, maybe flirting with me, or trying to make a move or something? (Ex: Calling me "Sweetie" ,occasionaly saying "love ya!", trying to poke the picture of Harry Styles on my shirt, which just happened to be right near my boob, etc.) I dont know, i just really really really like her and dont know what to do or what to think. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!! (Oh yeah and both me and my crush are girls and 12 years old, almost 13)
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Well, your at the age of searching who you really are. I don't think your really going to know if you are ONLY an lesbian. I mean, you could be bisexual. It's all about exploring. You still have many years ahead of you, to find out all about you and who you really are. And to me, she sounds like she is not a lesbian. Sadly, through life we are going to go through heart breaks. And we will slowly get through them and become stronger. To me your friend sounds like a regular, funtastic girl! I have many of friends like that. They do the exact same thing...they're just being funny and silly, just joking around. If she can't except the real YOU then...she's not worth it.....
Hope it works out for the best, write me for anything else! :)
~Angie!~
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Unfortunately, every person at one point in their life falls in love or develops a crush on someone they can never be with. Whether its because their crush already has a boyfriend/girlfriend, or because they are not gay, the only way to fix this problem is to move on.
I don't think your friend is intentionally flirting with you, she isn't a lesbian and has a boyfriend.
Also, if she can't accept you as a lesbian then she isn't a very good friend. BUT you can't expect her to accept that you are "in love with her".
Remember you're only 12 and will have plenty of time to find someone who loves you back.
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You need to get over this girl, because how can you be her best friend if you are always desiring her in a romantic way?
"OMG, she poked me near my boob!" Just stop it, already. The girl is straight, and you're having pipe dreams about her- turning things she does into something they're not because of an extreme case of wishful thinking.
Come on, now. Find a girl who IS a lesbian so you can focus on being her friend.
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If she told you she is straight, then just let it be. You're going to have to move on. I'm sure she's a great friend and you don't want to lose that so don't let your feelings get in the way. She straight up told you how she felt about it so just let it be.
If it helps any, just do other things and don't spend all your time around her. Of course you guys are friends but you can have other friends to hang out with and other things to do.
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