about

My name is Angel, and I'm from northern California. I come from a large family where I'm the oldest, and I've lived a long, strange life. I have just about seen it all. In the last couple years, I have kicked a bad drug/alcohol addiction, and I can proudly say that I'm a sober teenage girl. I have a job, I'm a nanny/family assistant, whatever you want to call it. I'm a senior in high school, and I'm genuinely happy. I have a boyfriend, and we've been together for almost a year now. I have a lot of good advice, because I have a lot of life experience. I come from a broken family, I have step-relatives, and half-relatives. I just reunited with my mother after 10 years. My sister is a drug addict of the worst possible kind. I've been in all types of relationships. I guess it's safe to say that I know a little bit about a lot of things, and there's a lot that I know a lot about. Then there's things that I know nothing about, and that's when I ask questions. Thanks for reading my little rant, ask me anything. I check my email everyday, so if you can't reach me on my column, email me. ~Angel xoxo

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there is a girl who is on this website who started trouble with me and my boyfriend awhile back .. i didnt like her because she sent my boyfriend i love letter. i tried to be nice to her and everything and one day i got sick of it so i sent her a message on myspace politely asking her to stop talking to my boyfriend as much and she flipped out and sent me fake IMS (she later admitted that not all of them were real-some were) between her and my boyfriend saying things like i love you and stuff .. well its been 5 months and even more stuff has happened .. i dont wanna go into except that she said they hooked up and that they hung out like once a week over the summer .. i know that my boyfriend loves me we have been together for a year and 3 months. i cant get over this girl .. and ive tried can anyone help me please!!!

Your boyfriend should be able to solve this for you. Since this girl is lying, and making your boyfriend look like a bad cheater, he should want to stop this problem if he's not siding with her. If you can't get through to her have him tell her to stay out of both of your lives because clearly neither one of you feels like having a love triangle so she should back off. If she doesn't want to cooperate, then she's super dumb and you really shouldn't let her bother you at all, because once she sees that she's not even phasing you or your boyfriend, she'll give up and call it a lost cause. Hope I helped, keep me posted! -Angel

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I really like this guy at work and hes realy funny, but i cant tell if he likes me back, i mean, i try to give him signals but i think he's like dumb or something, what should i do to let em know i like him?

Well first I should say that he's probably not dumb, most men actually aren't as dumb as we women think they are. He may be picking up on your signals and misreading them. To let him know you like him (without directly telling him) you could maybe take interest in his life out of work, ask him what he likes to do.. does he play sports.. what does he like to do on the weekends, maybe you'll find a common interest and he may just insist that you guys have to hang out.. to be able to tell that he likes you, if you don't know some of the flirtacious behaviors; the stares and glances he gives you but thinks you don't notice, he may try finding ways to touch you, he might tease you, and other little things. Flirting hasn't really changed from when we were little, if he throws tanbark at you and chases you around the playground, he likes you. Hope things work out && best of luck! -Angel

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can i loose weight by not eating but one time a day or not eating at all or will that make me sick i really wanna loose 20 pounds by november plzzzzzz help me give me some advice?

Avoid eating carbs, breads, rices, starches, or any of the kind. And get in lots of cardiovascular activity, it's hard work, but starving yourself never works to the way you want it, you could start seeing results from diet and exercise in two weeks if you work out 4-5 times a week, and maintain a healthy diet. By November, you'll look 25 pounds less.

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im 14 and about 5`3-5`4 and 110 pounds and my waist is like 31 inches so I'm wondering would I fit into a size 2 mini skirt at abercrombie and fitch? or what size fits me because I'm buying the skirt on ebay and i dont know what size i am.

You could probably even fit into a size 0 at abercrombie and fitch because their sizes run a little big. My sister fits the same body type as you and I know she wears a 0. Good luck.

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hi, well do martial arts help you lose weight, because im pretty overweight, and i want to do martial arts. thanks

Any physical activity will help you lose weight as long as you're eating healthy. Martial arts is good if you have the endurance and put your all into it, because if you slack off, you won't get good results.

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What do you do if you fall in love with your best friend, and can't tell them?

You only say you can't tell them, when really, you should be able to tell your best friend anything right? Ask them what you asked all of us on advicenators.. word for word, see what your friend has to say.

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ohk, i work at Taco Bell and i admit that i work with alot of HOT guys. but the only guy i really care about is David. he is always so nice to me and is really cute. i want to be able to hang out with him outside of work but i don't know how to like ask him. any ideas on how i might do that? please help me.

Chelsea

You should talk to him at work, ask him when he gets off or something. Be casual about it, like, "hey what are you doing after work?" Or be like, "hey we need to chill sometime.." the more comfortable you are about asking him, the more comfortable he'll be saying.. "sure let's chill after work." Good luck && don't trip.
-Angel

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i constantly think of killing myself and i dont know how to stop it. i constantly think that everyone hates, me nobodys really my friend, people just use me & try to take advantage of me, im fat, ugly, ill never be happy.. ect. and i cant deal with it anymore cause i really think im becomming suicidal, i used to cut a long time ago but i stopped & now i just like have alot of mood swings witch turn into me wanting to kill myself, like stab myslef or o.d on medicine or something i dont know what to do. my mom says i have depression and i bottle everything up. but i cant deal with it and they want me to go talk to somebody but i cant. i dont like talking to nobody cause i cant trust anyone i cant even trust myself thats how bad it is .. i think negitive of everything and i just need help .. can somebody help me please ?!

As far as being suicidal goes, I've been there. It's a horrible feeling when you're positive you've hit rock bottom and the only way out is taking your life. A friend of mine's brother shot himself in the head when she was 11 years old and she showed me a different view on suicide. "Imagine everyone you know at your funeral, crying and bawling their eyes out, and you can't be there to console them." It doesn't matter if you think they like you or not, a lot of people would be sad to see you go. Period. And nobody ever wants to talk to someone to get help, but obviously you value your life enough to go to a bunch of strangers on a website, would it hurt to talk to a professional? I wish you the best of luck.

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I'm a 19/F in my first student house, and I'm living with (gasp) four boys. We've got a really sweet arrangement going between three of us where each of us is responsible for dinner two nights a week... it's great because it means you spend less time cooking, and we're like a little family eating dinner together every night!

The thing is that although I'm a good cook and make up my own recipes all the time, I'm kind of short on interesting ideas for what to make for us. Does anybody have any cool, inexpensive recipes that will serve 3-4 people? The only real restriction is that one of us doesn't eat spicy food.

Thank you!

I'm used to having to satisfy guys' stomachs, and I've found that it's not incredibly hard at all. Boys will eat just about anything. An inexpensive favorite that everyone seems to like, something like macaroni and cheese, hotdogs and some kind of vegetable. It's simple, inexpensive, and tasty. Or something like spaghetti and meatballs with some french bread. It all depends on what kind of budget you're working with I guess. But good luck.

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So it turned out that I wasn't ready to kiss him. So I didn't. Will there ever be another chance?

Life is full of second, third, and fourth chances, especially when it comes to the first kiss. My advice to you, do it when you're absolutely ready and don't feel pressured or nervous about it. Good luck.

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Hi. Im f/13. I am 5'7". I weigh 103. Do i need to gain? lose? are there charts that you can show me with healthy weights for girls my age? what signs (other than your lbs, coz bone size and stuff differs) show you are under or over weight? thank you.

You should check out this website http://www.am-i-fat.com it's kind of cool && interesting.

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uhm, ok. i started smoking last january and i really didn't want to start but my friends were doing it and i didn't want to seem uncool. well, i kinda got hooked on it and smoked whenever possible. i got caught one day and swore i would never do it again but my friends still smoke around me and i find it harder and harder to turn away from taking a drag or something like that. how do i stay off smoking for good?

I'm a smoker myself. So I know exactly how it is, I've wanted to quit forever. But enough about me.

Instead of smoking a cigarette, eat a skittle, or one of your favorite little candies. Everytime you want a cigarette, eat a lollipop instead. You can't really quit unless you really want to. So if you're as dedicated as you want to be, it should be easy to start cutting back and eventually stop. Good luck, keep me posted && please let me know what worked for you. -Angel

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Well me and my bf have been going out for about 3 weeks and I think I just might get my first kiss. But im really nervous. When the kiss is over I dont know what to do or say? Please help! Im so nervous.

This may sound corny, but tell the guy how you feel afterwords. Like, "Wow, that was everything I expected and then some," or maybe "you're an amazing kisser." Maybe you won't have to say anything, he could beat you to it. Your first kiss is what you make of it, so don't be nervous, you didn't spend three weeks with someone so you could be nervous around them. Good luck, keep me posted. -Angel

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I have been single for almost a year now after a three month relationship with the best guy ever (We'll call him Anthony)! Lots of guys have asked me out since then, but only one got me to go out with him (we'll call him Andrew). I always tell them to give me their phone number and then I will call them. I really have no intentions to call. Ususally I toss out the number. When I went out with the one guy (Andrew) a few times, all I could think about is my ex (Anthony), and how not like him the new guy is. I know it is over with my ex (Andrew). How can I get over him?

Like most women, I've been in your position before. Something good that I've heard works really well is just to focus on yourself and make yourself happy. Take yourself for a makeover or buy yourself a really cute outfit. Think; you, you, and more you. The more time you focus on making yourself happy, the less time you have to worry about finding someone to be happy with. Like they always say, you can't take care of someone and be in a relationship until you've taken care of yourself. And don't lose hope, because you will get over Anthony* and you will find someone that will make you just as, if not more happy. Just give it time, give someone a chance, only when you know you're absolutely ready to move on. Good luck, keep me posted. -Angel

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Ok i was wondering if anybody knows some good ways that i can say surprize this girl i have known for 4 years and some how draw her closer to me. The only things i can think of right off the bat is one just kiss her outta the blues and 2 go buy her flowers or something but i know at the same time thats the same ole thing to so if you have any suggestions let me know.

Being a girl myself, I do love surprises, so I automatically give you so much credit for thinking about this girl and wanting to do something nice for her. Since you've known her a long time, you must know the things she enjoys and loves. For a corny example, if she likes chocolate, maybe take her to a place where gourmet chocolate is made and she can have lots of free samples. Do something thoughtful and creative to win her over, because it will mean so much to her and I'm sure she'd really appreciate that you took time and effort to do something special for her. Good luck. -Angel

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I messed up bad this summer with this guy i liked. I never went o ut with him but we were together. we tried ending it a lot of itmes but we both still liked ecahother so we always gave in.

now its been over for good for a couple weeks and he was trying to get over me and told me we couldnt hang out one on one and stuff, it crushed me. i cant get him out of my head and i love him sooo much. homecoming is coming up and our friendship has been a little rocky since we ended but i really want to go with him. i was thinking id tell him i know someone who wants to go with him really bad, and then later tell him the pesron i know is me. and ask him if he would want to or no. do you think this is a godo idea? shoot.... hes perfect.

If he's the guy that's meant for you, then he must know you pretty well. So by telling him that 'someone' really wants to go to homecoming with him, and that someone is you, chances are he would've known all along. If there's no chance of you two going together as 'dates' then maybe you could ask him to go as a friend, with no awkwardness and no pressure. It could be a good experience for the both of you, maybe even a chance for him to realize what he's missing out on. Good luck, keep me posted. -Angel

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ok my question is...
How do you know when a shy guy likes you?
Or when a non-shy guy likes you?
Or a guy that isnt shy but wouldnt tell you he liked because hes also hard to get likes you?
sry i just need to know because im VERY confused

The best way to find out if someone likes you is simply by asking them. You don't want to come off weird and shy by asking one of your friends to ask him. Just be totally nonchalant and ask him what he thinks about you. The more nervous and shy you are, the more nervous and shy he'll be. If you like him and can't work up the courage to ask him if he likes you, then you should question yourself on if it's really worth knowing how he feels. Good luck. -Angel

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i met this amazing guy. i guess you could say that we have fallen for eachother. but he says that he wants to meet me. im kinda nervous cause first impressions are one of my biggest fears. i met him by way of one of my bestest friends, rachel. he wants to go to a football game (highschool) together. how do i get over my fear of first impressions?

I'm sure everyone always says this, but just be your genuine self to the best of your ability. If you're comfortable talking to him over the phone or internet, it can't be so hard in person. Wear a cute outfit that you love and feel great in, and just be the person you always are. That can never fail or deceive a great first impression. My best of wishes to you. Good Luck! -Angel

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I've tried to stop drinking soda but going without the caffeine gives me headache. I've cut down on it so now its only once in a while but does anyone know a way to cut it out completely and replace it with something else???

When I quit drinking soda, Jamba Juice, and other juices, smoothies, and teas became a big part of my life. There's got to be something out there you can drink that you love just as much as soda, good luck!

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I have a puppy. She pees on the floor constantly. I just got new white carpet. Does anyone know how to get the stains and smell out?


Also, she smells. I wash her like once or twice a week. She made the whole living room smell. Does anyone know how to get dog just smells out of the room. I mean I've tried everything.

Thanks!

You should clean up the urine with baking soda and make sure to soak it out of the carpet with a rag first. I would suggest steam-cleaning your carpets, but that can become tedious. As for the way your dog smells, there are certain dog shampoos and puppy shampoos made just for that, you just have to look around. Try a Petco or a Petsmart store. As for the house smelling, try some febreeze after cleaning up the urine. Hope I helped. Good luck! -Angel

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