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i have start my period and my breast doesn't grows (link)
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Just because you started your period doesn't mean your breasts just start growing. It will take time. Some people don't start growing till they are in their late teens.
Some start early, it really depends on your body.
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I'm really confused about this, I place my penis inside her but it doesn't ENTIRELY go in, half inside half outside! There's something inside like a layer that stops it from going in , this must mean that she's a virjin right?
By the way my finger also goes in easily and doesn't reach that layer.
So how much distance is there between the outside layer and the inside virjinity layer?
High five to all.
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Either way, you and her are both not virgins. You both had sex.
I can't tell you whether she was a virgin before. Having a hymen doesn't mean that she is a virgin or not a virgin. They don't break or anything. It stretches when you have sex. So I don't think you went in far enough to stretch it, but that doesn't mean she isn't a virgin anymore.
There is no such thing as a virginity layer.
You had sex, you and her are no longer virgins.
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I dunno what to expect in 9th grade. I mean the work is nothing to me i have great work habits idc about that its just like i go to a PreDominantely white school, and im black so people make a lot of jokes about stereotypes for black girls over the years ive never had a lot of problems with things maybe a weave joke or two mostly but now thag im going tohigh school im scared that people be rude to me. Does it get like that in high school? Or does it just stay the same with an a fewjokes i mean im not sensitive but i have some friends that might be not sure. Im also afraid that some people i hangout with are going to like go down the wrong road (link)
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There are people who are really immature. I'm Indian, and I get a lot of 7-eleven, and even terrorist jokes. It's just from the people who are immature. It never ruined my high school experience though.
If you have friends that you don't think you can rely on or are not the right type of friends, then go make new ones. You don't need to hang out with the same people you hung out with in middle school.
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Okay i will be going into college in 2 years, and i Really want to study for a field agent, but my boyfriend doesn't agree with me. He wants me to have a job where i can spend some time with him, and our future kids. He says i need to find a job where i'm going to have time for him, and be able to spend time with the kids, not a job that i will probably never be home, or always have to travel places and blah, blah, blah. We are planning to get married and have children, but anyways. I really want to become a field agent, and i don't know if i should look for another career to satisfy him, what should i do, i don't want him feeling sad ???. : /
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This would be a completely different answer if you were older.
But you're only 16, why would you change your plans for a guy you might not even be with when you go to college? Not everything is guaranteed.
When you get older, you'll see where your priorities are. If you really want the career of a field agent, or if you want to settle down and have a family.
Keep doing what you're doing. Do what you want to do, not what your boyfriend wants you to do.
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My mom complains about me sitting round the house all dau but NEVER lets me hangout with my friends! Is that bs? (link)
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What does she mean by sitting around the house all day? If she means you don't do anything but sit on your computer or sit in your room all day, and doesn't let you hang out with your friends, I can see why. If you do chores, clean up, cook, help in different ways, then I can see why you're having a problem with it.
So figure out why she's having this problem. If you're doing everything you're supposed to, and she still won't let you hang out with your friends, you might want to talk to her and figure out why.
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well it's been a year since me and my ex boyfriend broke up, and its pretty weird lately i keep getting these next feelings, basically yesterday on twitter i posted a picture and he Favorited it, a while later he un done it, i don't understand whats wrong with him? Something in me tells me he doesn't want to admit to himself deep down he still has feelings, he hasn't had a girlfriend since we broke up, it actually shocks me.
I think he isn't brave enough to admit to himself nor to me that he still likes me, (i am his first love anyway), and i know some guys are too stubborn to admit to anything.
But from my point of view if your over your ex you would't still have them as a contact or like their pictures right?
I can't lie i still have feelings for him but i do try not to think about it.
He's on holiday atm, and i got the weirdest phone call it was a number from another country and a feeling in me said it was him, we have not heard each others voices in a year, as a women I have this sort of 6th sense that tells me he still likes me, but his pride is getting in the way of telling me.
i really don't know what to think anymore ... (link)
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Are you thinking about getting back together with him or something?
You didn't say why you guys broke up, so I guess we won't get into reasons why or why you shouldn't get back with him.
He may or may not still have feelings for you.
Some ex's can handle having them as a contact. I still have an ex that I'm friends with on Facebook. I'm over him, he's over me. We're both seeing other people but we still like each others post sometimes. That's not something you really read into, you know?
I don't see it as an uncommon thing unless it was a terrible break up.
One of my ex's and I had a terrible fight when we broke up. We didn't end on good terms. He unfriended me on Facebook and we haven't spoke since. If he came back around and liked my photo or something, I'd think it's strange.
So it really depends.
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There is this teacher that I have an intense attraction to, I pine for her all the time. I asked my friend how I can get over her and he said when you get a girlfriend in the future ask her to role play as the teacher. Do you think if I ask a girl to do this she wouldn't mind or she would get mad?
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It would be one thing if you were asking her to role play as a teacher, but asking her to role play as that specific teacher, that would make her uncomfortable.
So I wouldn't go with that approach.
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Ok.14/F Well, for the last couple of weeks I've kind of been down. I went through terrible bullying my 7th grade year and I will be a 8th grader next year.I was tortured that whole year by a girl who said I really just want to kill her and what I thought were my best friends who always made me a second choice for everything. Well, I went to counseling for 8 months and I was cured from my chronic depression and I was happy again, but Yes i do think I'm not the smallest person because I have shape I think that I'm not pretty and I get called "emo" a lot because my hair is short and I get called annoying to be around because I act myself around basically everyone but I personally don't think of myself as beautiful even though I tell a lot of people themselves that they are beautiful. People and friends think I'm beautiful and I have a great personality but I worry about what others think too much but I am confident about my personality but I don't have many friends I could probably count them on one hand but I feel like I need a answer. Help? (link)
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You already know your problem. You're insecure and you care too much about what other people think.
Bullying is a horrible thing. I'm really glad that you got the help you needed with your depression. You don't need to stand someone bullying you. Nobody deserves that.
I have a friend, while she was in high school, she was called emo. She didn't talk much, although she was never down or anything like what people would actually say "emo" is. People are just stupid and like to talk crap because their life is boring.
As for your own insecurity about your looks, you need to work on that. It's crazy how much we listen to people who call us names and tell us we're annoying but we don't listen to the compliments.
So many girls don't think they are beautiful. I struggled with it when I was your age. I dealt with it all wrong and should have tried to be more positive.
When looking in the mirror, don't start pointing out your flaws. Every time you look in the mirror, pick something you like about yourself.
The key is confidence. Don't wear things that are too tight or too baggy. Where things that make you feel good and are comfortable.
On bad days, dress pretty, paints your nails, do your hair, ect. You will be feeling ten times better.
And definitely don't start comparing yourself to others. That's how you just get more insecure.
As for your friends, if your handful of friends are good to you and they really are great friends, then you don't need a lot of friends. It's fine to just have a few friends.
Work on yourself, it'll take time but if you're persistent enough, you'll be happier.
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So i like this guy and he might like me back. We have held hands etc. But i think that i might have been friend zoned. How to i get him to date me. What makes it worse is that i use to date his friend. (link)
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So why do you think you have been friend zoned? You guys already went past the friends stage by holding hands.
You can't make anyone date you. He has to want you.
So what made him friend zone you?
Is it because he was heartbroken before and would rather not get into a relationship?
If that's it, he still has a lot of baggage to work through and isn't ready for a relationship.
Is it because he's just not attracted to you?
This one you can't change at all.
Being in the friend zone is when he only sees you as a friend.
If you want different results, you need to change what you're doing. That doesn't mean totally change who you are and your entire personality though.
Starting with your looks, like I said, you don't have to go overboard. Each guy has different taste in women, different body types. Most guys would agree on liking a happy, fit, healthy woman. Don't aim to be skinny or something, just to be healthy. It definitely helps your self esteem even if you don't end up with this guy.
With make up, there's different looks for each person. Find what looks best with you. You don't need make up. But I've noticed a lot of girls feel more confident while wearing it. So even if it's not very noticeable, you might just come off as more confident.
Same with the way you dress. Don't dress to look like everyone else or to grab a guys attention. You'll just get the attention the wrong way. You want him to want to date you, not jump right into bed with you.
What's more important is putting things in your life that makes you happy. If you're just looking for a guy to make you happy, it's not very attractive. To start a relationship, you need to be a happy, fulfilled person.
Keep in mind that the majority of guys aren't interested in difficult girls. Not a girl who has drama following her. A normal, happy girl will have a happier relationship.
Lastly, don't chase him. You don't need the relationship. It's definitely fine to want one though. Chasing implies that you're desperate.
If all else fails, don't limit your options. There are tons of guys out there and you don't have to wait around for one who can't seem to make up his mind.
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Hey guys. I'm a female, almost 20, and I have feelings for my coworker. I work somewhere that a lot of more established people work. I'm the youngest in the company by far. There are a lot of guys in their late 20's and early 30's and everyone is interesting and most of the staff is pretty good looking. I, however, have feelings for one of my managers. He's 40, he's married, he has a kid, and he's black. Now I know the last part seems unnecessary, but I've actually never been physically attracted to a black guy before. For whatever reason, I've always gone for babyfaced white guys. Anyways, he is wonderful. He's calm and quiet and very smart. Only recently have I been lucky enough to get to know him. We were paired up to do inventory a couple months ago and in that time I realized that I had some pretty intense feelings for him. I'm in a serious long-term relationship with a man I love undeniably and would never cheat on, so these feelings are really confusing. My manager is very respectful. I've never heard him say a bad word about his wife (who is about 10 years older than he is)...in fact I've never really heard him say anything about her at all. He's shown no signs that he is interested in me, while most of the guys I work with have made a pass at me at least once. However, he really enjoys talking to me. He shares stories with me and we vent to each other whenever something is wrong. He doesn't do this with anyone else at work, nor do I. I went to watch his band play the other night. Luckily, 2 other guys I work with are also in the band so it didn't seem like I was just there for my manager, but seeing him outside of work was weird. He could barely make eye contact with me, even though he invited me. While the rest of us were drinking wine in the alley, he separated himself and just said he'd see me inside. I couldn't take my eyes off of him though, and I saw him look at me a few times from the stage. He thanked me multiple times for coming, but I'm just confused now. Does it seem like he has feelings for me that he feels guilty about or am I imagining things? I've never hit on him or said anything to anyone about my feelings, so I don't think I make him uncomfortable. And how do I get over these feelings? I love my boyfriend and don't want to be burdened by a stupid crush. It's gotten to the point where I dream about he and I kissing. Seeing him at work is bittersweet. My life would be easier if I could just figure this thing out. (link)
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I wouldn't know if he has feelings for you. It just all seems normal to me.
I think since you like him, you're putting the picture in your head that maybe he feels the same way so that you're just not crazy or something.
You're not though, this kind of thing happens.
You already know you should move on and past this crush. You just need to figure out how to do so. It's harder when you work with them. But for the time being, try to keep your distance. Don't stare at him and keep yourself occupied. You don't need to have long conversations with him until you move on. Focus more on your man and keep yourself busy when you start thinking of your manager.
Once you start trying to move on, you will. The only time you won't get over him is when you convince yourself that you can't. That's why some girls are still "trying" to get over someone for years. So make sure you know you can, focus on your boyfriend, and keep yourself busy.
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We've been together for over a year, he's my first boyfriend, I'm his first girlfriend and it started out brilliantly. He's going to uni in a month or two and I'm not and I wanted to make the most of the time we have left because I think a LDR is unlikely to happen. He's been so good to me, I have a few medical conditions that make life hard for me and he's been amazing, I really don't want to lose him. However, he recently has been trying to get me to go away with him for a weekend or so with his relatives (about 10-11 of them). I keep saying no because I've never been away from home, I'm not the sort of person to go away, I'm not great with people, I've had panic attacks in cities before and my parents aren't keen on the idea (we're both 18 & still live at home with parents). Any stress makes my medical conditions worse but I'm in the process of getting it sorted and I don't feel ready to go away yet because of them. I've tried to reason with my boyfriend and explain this but he won't drop it. I've told him I would consider it in the future if we're still together, when it's more serious but not right now. Also, in the past few months we've been arguing a lot more, and I've gone to bed at night in tears on many occasions because of how much our relationship has changed but then again, I am very easily upset. I don't know whether it's me being oversensitive but I don't understand why he would make me do something that he knows makes me very unhappy. All I wanted to do over the next couple of months is have fun. Every time I speak to him now I feel pressured, we end up arguing and it's ruining our relationship and I don't know what to do about it. Days where we don't argue are great, we have fun like we used to when we first started going out. Has anybody any advice about what to do? Thank you very much if you do. (link)
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If you're not ready, it's that simple. You already know that but you need to make sure it's just not going through one ear and out the other.
When he talks to you, tell him you don't feel like speaking because he's making you feel pressured when you're not ready. He needs to get that.
If he doesn't stop, then don't continue this with him. You might love him, but he's not respecting your feelings and that's not a wanted trait in a boyfriend.
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I am 21 and I've been dating a guy for 7 months. We've definitely had our downs and ups, but we always find a way to make our relationship work. In the past, this guy has hooked up with a lot of girls and also had a few long term relationships being 1-3 years long. At first, I thought he had a commitment phobia, but then he asked me out and I was happily surprised. Since then I have caught him flirting with other girls on fb, accused him of cheating once and had my upset moments where I've ended up leaving his house. When I mentioned that I thought he was cheating, he told me that is absurd because he would never do that to me since he's had numerous girls cheat on him in the past. But because of the messages I seen on fb, I get this feeling that he might be playing me though he calls me his gf... Yes i looked at his fb cuz i was suspicious. Now on the flip side: he is making time for me more, insists on cooking for me and is overall becoming the guy I hoped he was when we started seeing eachother. And here's where my dilemma begins.. I met this other guy not too long ago and we hit it off instantly. My first thought was 'why didn't I meet you before I started seeing this other guy?' and we instantly connected. Now this 2nd guy wants to date me. He says I'm the perfect girl for him and we cuddled once which was the most amazing feeling I've had with a guy before, though I feel horrible for doing so. I mean, just when I start making things work with one guy another one shows up and makes me question seeing the first guy. What do I do? I know you are going to say 'if you fall for 2 guys choose the second' and whatnot... but I just cant bring myself to do that. I like them both! I've even made a list of pros and cons between both and it comes out very close. I feel like ive known the second guy longer even though we've only known eachother a short while and I feel like the guy I've been seeing is trying his best for me and that we could be happy in the end... I've never been in this situation before. (link)
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In these situations, I'll normally say don't be with either of the guys, at least for the time being.
You can't make a choice when you're talking to both of them. It just makes it ten times harder. Take a break from them, and figure out what you want.
I've dated a guy who told me he would never cheat on me because he was cheated on in the past, but he did cheat on me soo you can't believe what he says when other things are showing you differently.
It's not ok to flirt with other girls on Facebook, even if he hasn't physically done anything. Take that into consideration.
You like both, but you obviously can't have both. So take your time without them and think about what you're really looking for.
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Help!!!! I am a 23 year old female currently in a relationship with a male who has a baby girl from a past/current relationship. me and him have been dating for 3 years now and one bad summer evening him and i got into an argument which lead to a brake up. He went back to his ex and got her pregnant. after 5 months of not speaking to each other i forgave him and decided it would all be okay. It has been over a year and things have gone from bad to worse. Every time we argue, no matter how small the argument is he decides it okay to seek "meaningless attention" from his ex who is in a different state. I have found multiple texts, pictures, and even videos, on his phone from her (and other women, also different states) which he claims to have only received during times of arguments or when we are not speaking to each other. I don't believe he has actually cheated on me, we are always together but I'm extremely worried he might if this behavior continues. He is not abusive at all, he has never cursed or even attempted to insult me in anyway. the outside picture of our relationship is perfect. I wish the times were always that good. He has tried to get me pregnant and he has even tried to leave the state in hopes we'd never see each other again but he always comes back looking for me, it never fails. I cant seem to stay away either obviously. Any Advice in this situation? (link)
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Being in a relationship means caring for the other person. He seems to only care about your feelings when things are going good. I mean you don't go running to other guys when you guys get into an argument right?
It's not ok to do that, you know that and you don't have to live with that. When you're in a relationship, you're not supposed to be afraid to disagree because he might go run off to another girl. That shouldn't even have to cross your mind.
As with the child, do you want him to be the father of your child? I mean if something goes wrong, he's just going to run off to another girl. You know the child won't make him stay.
He just seems to not care very much about how you feel and only about how he feels.
Take some time to think about this relationship and if this is really want you want for the rest of your life. You can't expect him to change, and you can't make him change.
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So I had a friend, he was 3 years older than me. We ended up getting close and started liking each other but never officially were in a relationship. But I ended up ending all communication with because I felt betrayed. He was talking to other girls, to a point that I think he was engaged. I thought that we were just seeing one another, but he always wanted a open relationship, I didnt, but things happened, we stopped talking for 2 years now we are talking, he says he loved me, I have feelings for him. But I am hurt from a past relationship. Should I talk to him or move on.
Should I clear everything out? We never really talked about everything that happen. he says that he has changed. Any advice on how I should handle this? (link)
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Well it seems like it was miscommunication. You both liked each other and were "talking" and were not official. So you thought you guys were exclusively talking to each other and he wasn't looking for that.
So was he engaged to be married? Anyways, I don't really know what to say about that part because maybe the girl he was engaged to might have wanted an open marriage or something, who knows.
When you guys were talking a couple years ago, did he tell you that you were the only girl he was talking to or something?
If so, then I understand why you feel betrayed. If you guys just didn't clear it up, then you can try talking to him again. But make sure you guys make it clear what you want. If he can't give you that, and you can't give him what he wants, then it's not worth it.
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Me and this guy I like were texting back and forth. He seemed interested in the conversation he was asking me questions about me complimented me and told me I was pretty and asked me if I was free to hangout. I responded back to him but all of a sudden he stop talking. Now its been days since he responded back. I sent one more message to make sure everything was ok but that was it because I dont want to be annoying. I understand he could have been busy at the time but I would think later he would respond back. Do you know y guys do this? (link)
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A lot of guys I know will do that. Mostly because they're not that into texting. In the beginning they'll text a lot because they like the girl but eventually it'll become less and less. Not always because they're not interested, but just because texting isn't that fun.
So he could be busy, talking to other people, not interested, or just didn't feel like texting.
It's good that you don't want to keep texting him over and over though. I had a friend who if a guy didn't respond back, she would keep texting. It scared the guys off. So obviously, don't do that.
But he'll eventually get back to you if he really likes you. So don't worry about it too much.
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When my dad gets drunk, he lay in bed most the day. When he is in bed, he says stuff real loud and sustained like "Ohhhhhhhh Myyyyyyyyyy Godddddddd!", or "Goddddddd Daaaaammmmnnnn iiiiiitttttt!". That or he just moans loudly. Why does he do this? (link)
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Is it after he gets drunk or during the time he is drunk? If it's after, it could be a hangover or something. If not, then I really don't know how to explain it.
My mom used to do it too. She would talk to herself or just start screaming out like how your dad does.
Alcohol reduces your inhibitions. It makes you feel the need to voice your opinion or how you're feeling about something. It also makes it ten times easier to yell out anything just because you can. A lot of people over exaggerate their emotions and speech as well.
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Okay, so I finally talk to the cute guy who works downstairs at the welcome center, and he's so much cuter when he talks. So on tuesday I went down to check the mail and he told me it would be $5,kidding of course so i got the mail but I had to come because another department's mail ended up in ours. So i went back down and asked him if could return it, and he looks and smile and says "i'm gonna tell" Flirting? or am I over thinking it. So later in the day I had to go back and check the mail (it comes twice a day) and he saw me walk up, and he said nothing new has come in since I was last there, but I should check anyway, since I'm already here. So I did. He gave me the mail bin and turned to his computer but didn't do anything and was drumming his fingers on the counter, like he was waiting for me to say something. I was about to, when a person came up and asked him something. So was he flirting or am i reading too much into this. But it seems were past the awkward stage, so what should I do now? Advice desperately needed. (link)
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It does sound like he's kind of flirting/teasing with you. So that's a really good sign.
I think he wants to talk to you, so while you're down there next time, try talking to him a little more. Maybe something that reminds you of your family, and then talk about a story and ask him about his family. Or something that you're interested in, try to turn it into a conversation. If he continues with the conversation, you know he's interested in.
If you're feeling bold, give him your number or ask him for his.
I would find something that can be easily talked about but only enough to where it won't distract you from work too much. Just a short conversation. Something that interests you, or a movie that's coming out or a place you love to eat at and maybe he'll go with you ;).
So just go with the flow, and make conversation and possibly give him your number.
Good luck!
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so dont judge me please because I just want to break my wrist so that hopefully that pain will stop me from cutting for a while. 14/ f by the way.. and so i want to know some ways that i can break my wrist! Please help!! (link)
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I just want to say that we aren't allowed to tell you how to hurt yourself. So you won't be getting the answers you want on here.
I won't judge you, I get what you mean. There are other ways to stop cutting. I went through it for about 6 years and since I didn't get help for it, it just got worse and I'd want to do stupid things just to make myself stop.
I'm just going to advise you to talk to someone. Cutting is one of the hardest things to stop by yourself. Maybe talk to your parents or a counselor, even go see a doctor. They'll help you find better ways to deal with your problems.
In the mean time, try to find other ways to cope with your feelings.
I'd say go to a gym, exercise, dance, ect because that releases endorphins, it'll help you relieve stress.
What helped with me was writing in a journal when I was really upset. It would pass up time and eventually after I let it out, those feelings would pass.
Do things that help you relax. Like take a shower or bath, paint your nails, face masks, anything that makes you feel relaxed.
The number one thing I want to remind you is that the feeling to cut is impulsive. If you give yourself time, the feeling will pass. Remind yourself of that.
I really hope this helps.
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What can you do for days to go faster , since your missing your boyfriend ? (link)
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Keep yourself busy. Don't give yourself a lot of time to sit and think about him too much.
Start up new hobbies. There are tons of things that you can try and it can be time consuming. Instruments, sports, arts, ect.
You should spend more time with your friends and family and make plans to do things with them.
Just think of things you'd like to do and just do it.
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Hey , um i got into a relationship recently with this girl from Vienna , and both of us really love each other , so um my parents wanted to see her picture so i showed them one of her pictures , and they totally dislike her... Their telling me she looks ugly and they made me dislike her a bit.... and after 2 days we were talking again and she told me that she loves me and she wants to see me in Vienna , so what do i do , should i listen to what my parents say or be with her ?? ... thanks . (link)
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Your parents are wrong. Love isn't about looks. That's extremely shallow. When you love someone, you love them for exactly how they are.
How can you be swayed so easily to grow to dislike someone just because they said she was ugly?
You probably shouldn't be with her until you learn what love is all about.
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