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Classic 2 Guy Scenario
I am 21 and I've been dating a guy for 7 months. We've definitely had our downs and ups, but we always find a way to make our relationship work. In the past, this guy has hooked up with a lot of girls and also had a few long term relationships being 1-3 years long. At first, I thought he had a commitment phobia, but then he asked me out and I was happily surprised. Since then I have caught him flirting with other girls on fb, accused him of cheating once and had my upset moments where I've ended up leaving his house. When I mentioned that I thought he was cheating, he told me that is absurd because he would never do that to me since he's had numerous girls cheat on him in the past. But because of the messages I seen on fb, I get this feeling that he might be playing me though he calls me his gf... Yes i looked at his fb cuz i was suspicious. Now on the flip side: he is making time for me more, insists on cooking for me and is overall becoming the guy I hoped he was when we started seeing eachother. And here's where my dilemma begins.. I met this other guy not too long ago and we hit it off instantly. My first thought was 'why didn't I meet you before I started seeing this other guy?' and we instantly connected. Now this 2nd guy wants to date me. He says I'm the perfect girl for him and we cuddled once which was the most amazing feeling I've had with a guy before, though I feel horrible for doing so. I mean, just when I start making things work with one guy another one shows up and makes me question seeing the first guy. What do I do? I know you are going to say 'if you fall for 2 guys choose the second' and whatnot... but I just cant bring myself to do that. I like them both! I've even made a list of pros and cons between both and it comes out very close. I feel like ive known the second guy longer even though we've only known eachother a short while and I feel like the guy I've been seeing is trying his best for me and that we could be happy in the end... I've never been in this situation before.
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I know exactly what you mean and how you feel . ive been in that situation so many times before. i think maybe you have the fear of what if you leave the guy you were with first just when everything starts going right for a guy you recently met. in all honesty its all about what your heart feels. if you end up breaking up with the guy you've been with for 7 months to be with the other guy or vice versa . if it doesn't work out with with whoever you choose , if youre meant to be with the other guy it'll all work out .
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In these situations, I'll normally say don't be with either of the guys, at least for the time being.
You can't make a choice when you're talking to both of them. It just makes it ten times harder. Take a break from them, and figure out what you want.
I've dated a guy who told me he would never cheat on me because he was cheated on in the past, but he did cheat on me soo you can't believe what he says when other things are showing you differently.
It's not ok to flirt with other girls on Facebook, even if he hasn't physically done anything. Take that into consideration.
You like both, but you obviously can't have both. So take your time without them and think about what you're really looking for.
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This is a tough one.
First of all let's consider age - perhaps the 2nd guy is better at communicating because he's more mature. He's probably had more relationships and more practice. It's impossible for anyone to give you a "right" answer in this situation. But my feeling is...would you be seeking attention from someone else if you were happy in your relationship? Perhaps because of the early trust issue you are having trouble fully committing to him?
Maybe you should take a break from boy 1 for a week as well as boy 2. Maybe some alone time would give you perspective on what you want?
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