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Never Feeling Good Enough
Ok.14/F Well, for the last couple of weeks I've kind of been down. I went through terrible bullying my 7th grade year and I will be a 8th grader next year.I was tortured that whole year by a girl who said I really just want to kill her and what I thought were my best friends who always made me a second choice for everything. Well, I went to counseling for 8 months and I was cured from my chronic depression and I was happy again, but Yes i do think I'm not the smallest person because I have shape I think that I'm not pretty and I get called "emo" a lot because my hair is short and I get called annoying to be around because I act myself around basically everyone but I personally don't think of myself as beautiful even though I tell a lot of people themselves that they are beautiful. People and friends think I'm beautiful and I have a great personality but I worry about what others think too much but I am confident about my personality but I don't have many friends I could probably count them on one hand but I feel like I need a answer. Help?
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I love you. No,not quite like that,--I'm a girl--but in the sense that you are so brave. I have depression, and I know how you might be feeling. I wish I could meet you. (by the by, I have sorty short hair, too! and it's chic and cool!and it's purple...) You are an amazingly amazing person. thats a fact. emo? It means emotional. Not, 'oh I hate the world!'. People need to understannd that, and also that you are beautiful, and the person who's not beautiful, is the anorexic super-popular diva that's probably already lost her v-card. (just going off eighth grade clichès)
:) hope I helped.
“life is like a box of chocolates.” And even though you might not know it yet,maybe while God's giving everyone the chocolate covered pinnapple, he's secretly saving the strawberry one for you. unless you dont like strawberry. Then he's just saving a sepcial chocolate, for you.
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You already know your problem. You're insecure and you care too much about what other people think.
Bullying is a horrible thing. I'm really glad that you got the help you needed with your depression. You don't need to stand someone bullying you. Nobody deserves that.
I have a friend, while she was in high school, she was called emo. She didn't talk much, although she was never down or anything like what people would actually say "emo" is. People are just stupid and like to talk crap because their life is boring.
As for your own insecurity about your looks, you need to work on that. It's crazy how much we listen to people who call us names and tell us we're annoying but we don't listen to the compliments.
So many girls don't think they are beautiful. I struggled with it when I was your age. I dealt with it all wrong and should have tried to be more positive.
When looking in the mirror, don't start pointing out your flaws. Every time you look in the mirror, pick something you like about yourself.
The key is confidence. Don't wear things that are too tight or too baggy. Where things that make you feel good and are comfortable.
On bad days, dress pretty, paints your nails, do your hair, ect. You will be feeling ten times better.
And definitely don't start comparing yourself to others. That's how you just get more insecure.
As for your friends, if your handful of friends are good to you and they really are great friends, then you don't need a lot of friends. It's fine to just have a few friends.
Work on yourself, it'll take time but if you're persistent enough, you'll be happier.
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You're insecure, That's basically what it all comes down too.
You pretty much described me at 14. TRUST ME, You shouldn't give a flyin shit what people think of you. The wirld isn't about satisfying other people, It's about YOU. Be yourself, Be happy. If someone can't except that then find someone who will. Guess what? People who bully are also people with low self esteem. Please, They ain't shit but a shadow finding an image. Yup, I was the victim of bullying for 12 years.
Also, Who cares if people call you "emo" It doesn't matter. Reality isn't about who thinks what. High school is a word of stereotypes and hypocrites. 99% of the population are clueless airheads that have not a clue how the real world works.
Stop caring so much, You will benefit and go far if you don't. If you laugh off the bullshit you will find life gets easier.
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