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((sorry if this is long!!!))
okay he's the background of whats happening ::
i was talkin to the guy i liked online and he asked who i liked. i said i didn't know and asked who he liked he said he didnt know. so im like well you have to like someone -a little-, and he still said no and asked who i liked since i had to liek someone a little too. and i said it'd be kinda pointless. and he asked why n all that stuff. i told him it was obviuos and he's like why do you like me a little? and i said yeahh and he's like well i kinda like you too. and i was happy and stuff.

soo that was like maybe a month and a half ago and i've heard all kinds of rumors. like he just wnats to sleep with me and that stuff. so i confronted him and everytime i talk to him (which is pretty oftne latley b/c im getting pissed) he's always like dont believe anything i really like you a lot, but he wont ask me out and he "doesn't know why". he says he'll call and stuff but he wont tlak to me at school and he hardly ever calls when he says he will. like seriously if he didnt tell me he liked me i'd have NOOO idea!!!

and its not like the whole he doens't want to be seen with me .. or actually idk it could be but i dotn see why. b/c like not to seem like high onmyself but im more popular than he is. hes like the typical new hampshire redneck or w/e. and the people at school tease him. so if either of us would get laughed at or w/e it would be me .. and i mean it doens't matter to me .. i really lik truly honestly fully like him .. and he just wont be straight with me ..


i mean you think he'd be giving me the hint to let it go and stuff by not calling but when i ask him if he just wants me to forget i ever said i liked him and just stay friends and things would be a lot better. but he says every time no please dont i really like you .. well how am i suppose to react to him ignoreing me .. i told him if to be HONEST with me and tell me to give up or not and he like is really clear that i shouldn't. but i dont know. i used to get the butterflys and all that stuff when i saw him, like i'd get nervous. but no im just plain mad, mad beats pissed


i just need a guys opinion .. thanks

Just give up on him. There is no point in getting mad over some guy who is just being flakey. Just be his friend, it's appearent he will never be anything more. Guys are losers and like to do stupid shit like this. I don't know why, we kinda suck.

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I am a 25 year old female with a huge life decision to make.I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now. And i love him with all my heart, he's pretty close to being perfect. Hes kind, caring, smart, athletic, he's the whole package. And of chorse im not satisfied. My problem is, i still have a crush on my high school crush...i know it sounds silly because high school was 8 years ago for me, but yes there has not been a single day since high school where i have not thought about him in some way. After high school we kept in touch at college for about a year, and after that we kinda lost touch. But that didnt stop me from thinking about him all the time. I always compared every guy to him, and every guy i dated i always told myself if "Bob" (my high school crush) were to ever come to me and say he wanted to be with me i would breakup with whomever i was with and date him. About 2 and a half years ago me and "bob" found each other again. We began talking again, it was like we never lost touch, we picked up where we left off. The problem was that i had a boyfriend whom i really care about and love. "bob" on the other hand was single. And since i already believe that him and i are soulmates i thought that was a sign, because he is so gorgous that him being single wasn't bound to last long. Just like high school every female that lays eyes on him instantly is drawn to him. I have opted not to tell him my feelings because of my boyfriend. Him and i still talk on occassion, and maybe once or twice a year we hang out and catch up on "life". I have found out from sources that he too once had a crush on me in high school. And when we do see one another he always asks if i still have a boyfriend and when he finds out i do, he asks if im happy, and if i see a future with me and my boyfriend. He has been in and out of a few relationships, but i know the time is going to come soon when he thinks he has found the person he wantst to spend the rest of his life with, and when that happens i would have lost my chance to tell him anything forever. And this just kills me because i want him so badly. I want to be able to tell him everything on my mind. I want to tell him that i love him...yes i do love him, but i cant tell him that cause its not fair to my boyfriend. But at the same time this is just killing me inside. All i want to do is just get everything out in the open so i can have a sense of relief. Im curious how he would respond to my feelings. i truely believe he is my soulmate, i have always been drawn to him. i believe he is the person im suppose to marry. Whenever i have dreams of him (which are often) i try to hurry and go back to sleep just so i can be with him. What do you suggest? am i crazy? is this jsut a silly crush?...well i dont think its just a crush because the crush evolved to me loving him....and you see the reason wny i never told my crush my feelings when i was single was because i am really shy, and i thought that he was too perfect for me and that he could have any girl he wanted so why would he choose me....and i use to push him away big time a few years back because i was affraid of my feelings for him, and i was affraid of getting hurt if i told him. But now i feel an almost need to tell him my feelings just so i can get on with my life. What do i do? please suggest....

You're not truly happy if you're with someone who you don't like as much as someone else. Sure it may not be fair to your current boyfriend if you say something to Bob, but neither is living everyday thinking about Bob, and about how you'd rather be with Bob. This is one of those decisions where if you make it, and it hurts someone else, it really isn't selfish and unfair. You need to be fully happy with who you're with for them to be fully happy, so if I were you I would say something to Bob.

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My name is ashley im 15 & i have this friend leanna .. we both liked the same person for the same about of time just about .. then she started goin out with him .. is that right .. i think if two friends like the same person neither of them can have that person cause its not fair .. she always uses the excuse against me that its happend before & she tells me im not a goodfriend and im selfish & if i was a good friend that i would be accpecting of this .. am i right or wrong in this situation? .. i feel betrayed because of her .. i never would do something like that to her .. so what do u think .. am i right to feel that way or am i wrong ?

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So the guy liked her more, that's not a crime. You are being pretty selfish by being mad at her. There are no laws, rules, or anything about two friends liking the same guy. Accept it and find a new guy, there isn't a shortage of them or anything.

Oh I'm sorry, did I not tell you what you wanted to hear? You didn't seek advice, you sought people's pity and telling you your friend was being mean. She was not being mean, you are. Get over yourself.

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I have been stuck in a situation where i have to choose beetween where i've lived for 7-8 years and gone to school (not popular there)and a place where my dad has lived his whole life and im very popular there (i just shadowed someone there) i need help deciding plz help!

i rate HIGH

Decide on which place makes you happier in general, that is the place to go. If you're attached to your home right now, and not being popular doesn't matter (which it shouldn't), then stay at home. If you enjoy having a lot of friends, then move. This is more of something you need to decide on yourself.

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What is Mental Abuse?

That is where you take your brain, and abuse it. Hitting it, throwing it against a wall, lighting it on fire. Pretty much anything that is considered abuse...


...just kidding. It's stuff that messes with people's minds in a very serious manner. Let's set an example. (This is completely fictional.)

Everyday when my brother comes home, I call him a stupid faggot and start hitting him. I don't do it in a playful way though, I actually injure him. After having this happen everyday for years, something in his mind will change. He could be so scarred he thinks he's gay, he could have an un-natural hatred for gay people, he could repress it all and pretend like nothing happened only to one day snap, anything like that.

It is a very serious thing, and it is in no way funny. It can lead people to do things they don't want to do, such as self harm, harm of others, and possibly suicide.

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hey
well basically ive got a best boy mate. i think he might be gay?
there has been several hints, we were talking about will and grace and the characters in it and i said i love will hes is so fit and he was yeah he is.
and the other day he wouldnt answer me on msn then he said he was watching porn and i said ok then and he said i like willys (OMFG)
he walks kinda campish and he squeeks when a leaf or something falls on him.
i have asked him a few times in the past and we talk about sex alot and i said can i sleep round .. i was joking of course and he was like erm.. no so i dont know if he his or not
o yeah this morning he asked to borrow my mirror :| yeah....
so i think he might be gay but i feel if i ask him i might offend him.
all GOOD help will be rated 5's
thanks in advance xx

Sounds to me like he likes to joke around. He said he likes willies? Ok, I tell my friends about how me and my friend Matt have wild anal sex all the time. It's not true though, it's all in good fun. I'll make stupid sounds when stuff hits me, I love the glances I get from people. And you think he's gay because he asked to borrow your mirror...but wouldn't that make you gay since you had it to begin with? I seriously doubt he's gay, so don't ask him. Unless you want to. Then do it.

Haha, sorry. I should have paid for attention to what my little info box said.

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Hello. . .19/f here with a problem...

I met this guy about 2 months ago. We've already had sex, and we act like a couple to an extent. . spending a lot of time with each other, kissing/cuddling/ect, talking on the phone for hours... He has told me that he cares for me and loves me.

He's afraid to be in a relationship, though, because his last (very serious) girlfriend cheated on him with his brother and is now pregnant with his brother's baby. He doesn't trust anyone. He has admitted to me, though, that he holds back some of his feelings for me.

Some days, he's very sweet to me and wants to be around and is very affectionate. Other days, he's kind of cold and shuts me out a little bit. Either way, he wants to hang out; it's just the way he acts around me that varies.

He has bi-polar disorder. I'm begining to think that maybe this disorder, although medicated, is making him act this way.

So these are my questions.
1. Does anyone have manic depression/bi-polar disorder? If you do, can you tell me how this disorder effects your social skills?

2. I want to be in a relationship with him, but I don't know how to help him take that extra step to trust me. He says "I love you, but i'm not in love with you. I don't think I could be in love with anyone." How can I help him stop holding back?

I'll rate you highly if you at least try to help.
Thanks.

You can't really keep him from holding back. He has been affected mentally, and will do things the way his mind works. Try and get him to talk to you though, because talking about things when you have mental problems like this always helps. Just be patient with him, he only acts that way sometimes because of what has happened to him, it has nothing to do with anything you're doing.

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just a simple question-o.
how do i flirt? my three best friends always flirt and make out like 24/7 but i havent been KISSED yet. ;[ it might be my looks, but idk. i hate the cliche "smile and wink" so dont tell me that. think new 2005 ways to get a boy, haha but not get laid. kids im only 13.
when i go places with 2 of my best friends, we go with these guys and they ALWAYS flirt with my friends not me. i mean this twig skinny guy flirts with me and some wannabe goth guy does but ew. come on. i mean maybe its because my friends are punk and all guys like punk rock chicks or what?
h - e - l - p.

You're not a failure because you haven't kissed a guy at thirteen. Just wait til it happens, there is more to life than flirting and guys.

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My boyfriend is 20 years old and we been going out for a year (this months) and he always tells me that he is going to go to the dome(another word for a strip club) and i always tell him that if he goes i would be extremely mad. He hasn't gone to one yet, but he says he is going to. Do you think that it if stupid for me to get mad at him if he goes? I believe it stupid because he already has a girlfriend(me) that he can look at, am i not good enough for him to look at?
thanks

If he hasn't been to one, it's just the experience of going to one. Or if he's going to one with friends, it's a social thing, it's not that he is sick of seeing you and wants to go see other girls. Just let him.

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First of all, i'm not asking this to be told to go to the doctor. I just need advice from people who might now what this is. Anyways, during the summer i had like a racing heart beat for two months and i felt weak but really nervous. I would fall asleep and then jump all of a sudden after like five minutes. It eventually went away, and last night it started all over. I could tell the symptoms. I felt really bad in the morning. Everybody thought i was sick and my heart beat was abnormally fast again. It eventually calmed down but i now it's still there. It's actually getting worse as i'm typing this. Does ANYBODY know what this could be or what could happen as a result to this???? My parents wont let me go to the doctor and i dont think the school nurse can help me. I have no medicine to take or anything. Please help me y'all!!! (Sorry its so long but i need help...)

Your parents wont let you go to the doctor when you're having heart problems? You have horrible parents, I'm sorry to say it. If you are getting weak and sick, and your heart is the cause, tell your parents to become responsible and let you seek professional help.

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hey im a freshman in highskool and ive just been asked out by a freshman and he like almost in all my classes! when he asked me out, i though i shouldnt b a heartless bi*ch so i just said yes. i mean hes cute but like a lil brother cute. i feel like an ass**le. i will not say no now n tomm. i go bak 2 skool wat will i say wats next i dunt like him! oH MY GODDD ive made a big mistake n i need help PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me! thnxx

I deffinetly think you should break up with him and spend your time studying English, you really need to learn our language better.

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I got a lunch detention for saying "dumb". I was teling my friend about how this girl said to me "omg how did you not know that your so dumb!" and he told me I had a lunch detention. Does anyone think this was unfair? I didn't put anyone down or anything

You probably got it for saying "your" instead of "you're".

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no websites seem to be working for me when i try downloading music. I've tried downloading music from limewire.com, blubster.com, and bearshare.com -- are there any other sites that are free and easy to download? can anybody please help me ive been looking for months.

oh, and no kaaza.

thanks... ILL RATE =)

Downloading music is illegal :(.

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I just started a new job in the clothing department of a superstore. I want my coworkers to like me, what could I do to accomplish this?

The work place is like high school socially, so just be yourself. If you don't normally have problems making friends it shouldn't be different here.

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Yes Pills. Me and My two closest friends pop in and outta school. Cough Drops are all we take though. And yes its wrong but we actually are sick and use them just a little more than the suggested dose. I probably take 20 a day for the past week. Is this harmful and should we stop?

No, overdosing on a medicine is a perfectly safe and fun hobby for you and your friends to partake in....


OF COURSE YOU SHOULD STOP! Overdosing on anything is bad and could harm your body. Please find something safe and fun to do, like play X-Box or prance in fields.

Coughdrops are medicated, and therefore taking too many could cause health problems. Don't wanna believe me, that is perfectly fine. But if something happens to your health, just remeber that the really cool badass guy on Advicenators told you so.

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13/m
i need a polo shirt, for a party. i dont have any, not the preppy type. where can i buy the shirts? how much are they? easy 5's

At Wal*Mart for like fifteen cents or so.

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I have to write half a paper, write a summary of a play, and do a review sheet. If i start at 7:00 do you think I will be able to finish around 11?

If you get off this website, then sure.

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what does it mean " boys like you are a dime a dozen" and yes i know its from a song

When something is a dome a dozen, that means they're average and easy to find. It's usually not a good thing if you're trying to be different.

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I am 13 and I think Im to old for trick or treating any ideas on what to do during halloween?

I'll be tweny-one by Halloween and I still think Trick Or Treating kicks ass.

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ok... I Have A Boyfriend And Hes The Oppisite Color Of Me But I Dont Care About That!...But Everyone Says That I Should Date My Own Color...And I Think He Likes Another Girl..But HE SAYS HE DONT...Everyone Is Tellin Me That They Were Together At The Festival this Year But i Ingoure Them But What Do i Do Belive Him or Them??...

You should have trust in your boyfriend, but you should also learn to not capitalize EVERY WORD. This is a very good way to have people ignore (not ingoure) what you type because it is very hard to read.

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