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My boyfriend is 20 years old and we been going out for a year (this months) and he always tells me that he is going to go to the dome(another word for a strip club) and i always tell him that if he goes i would be extremely mad. He hasn't gone to one yet, but he says he is going to. Do you think that it if stupid for me to get mad at him if he goes? I believe it stupid because he already has a girlfriend(me) that he can look at, am i not good enough for him to look at?
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You seem to have got a lot of answers defending your boyfriend. While I can kind of see where they're coming from may I just take this opportunity to say you have every damn right in the world to be bloody annoyed at this insensitive jerk.
I'm sure he loves you and may well be a great guy generally but he seems to be going about this in totally the wrong way. If it were some kind of guys stag/birthday party it would seem far more harmless in my eyes- just a bunch of lads acting like excited little boys and having a laugh. The fact he keeps holding this over you is just plain mean. Does he use it when you ahve arguements or when you're not in the mood for sex?
Either way you need to explain your insecurities to this guy and try not to worry-as others said, it's probably natural curiousity that makes him want to do it rather than not being attracted to you. Even so he should have some consideration for your feelings.
If all else fails and he does go, find a male strip club to visit while he goes to his, bring along a bunch of girlfriends and a stack of $1s. Dare him to object. When he's put in your shoes he may have a miraculous change of heart about just how good an idea "the dome" is.
And if not here's hoping you come home having replaced the bunch of dollar bills with the numbers of the dancers.
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If he hasn't been to one, it's just the experience of going to one. Or if he's going to one with friends, it's a social thing, it's not that he is sick of seeing you and wants to go see other girls. Just let him.
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you got every right to get mad and sad about. but really you should feel like you dont look good enough for him. you got to remember that just ebcause you to are together doesnt mean he is in lock down.. if he wants to go let him dont hold him back. you trust him dont you? so let him. looking at soemthing wont kill btu if he starts touchin and messing around then you got a problem otherwise let him look at the menu it isnt like he wants to get wit them. those "strippers" are what i think hoes and sluts because they showing off there body to everyone and got no self respect for themself. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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I don't think it's stupid for you to get mad at him, but you shouldn't feel like you aren't good enough. He isn't going to this strip club because you are inadequate in any way, he's probably just going with the guys or just to do what guys do.
-brittany
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Obviously he isn't isn't seeing enough of...uh..well you. Compared the the "dome" you're nothing. I suggest just going topless in the house one day while serving him food. Might work. Probably wont though. He'll probably like it however.
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ok i understand how you could get kinda jealous or angry, i probaply would be too. but guys will awlays look at girls, whether it be you or some one else. and you really cant stop that. but you can try to make him not want to go to the strip club;) just distract him from the other girls.
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