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First off, my best friend and I have been friends for a about 2 years now. We have been close ever since, but suddenly this couple months she started dating this guy I hate, she loved him so what can I do? I told her how I felt about him, but I'm not sure if she did anything... 5-6 months or so, they broke up. She dumped him for several reasons; I rather not say what. But thing is after that we talk for many hours!! I mean like hours!! and all she talks about is her bf at times, of how she misses him.
I just feel like she comes to me when she needs something, before she doesnt talk to me much when they started dating. So in the past couple months she met some new friends, and she makes up excuses to be with them rather than be with me... I don't know I'm so confuse :( (link)
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The best thing to do at this point is tell her how you feel. She might not see how she's acting. Once you meet new friends, you normally spend a lot more time with them and not so much with your old ones.
When a best friend starts dating, they spend a lot more time with their boyfriend and a lot more time talking about them. I know I've had to hold back from talking about my boyfriend with my friends. When they break up, that friend is supposed to be there for them. You might have been, but she already knows how you felt about him. So she probably thinking that you're thinking, "I told you so", even if you aren't. So she has new friends, probably some that will sit and talk to her about ex.
Break ups are hard, and that's when you need your friends. She's probably thinking about him all the time and she probably thinks that she's annoying you talking about him or just doesn't feel comfortable talking to you about him, but these friends make her feel like she can.
So just talk to her, let her know how you feel without accusing her of anything.
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OK! I'm a 14/f and I've been talking with my crush who is just a few years older than me (not much and don't talk about age, its not that huge of an age gap) we are both mature and are both in a school activity. Since it's summer we text literally everyday. I love talking to him (its very easy talking to him :D) and lately we are both struggling to find topics. Cause I can tell he likes talking to me just as much as I like talking to him. I want to keep conversation fun and continuous but I need help with ideas. So please give ideas!! We usually talk about the activity we are both in and how our days are. SO PLEASE HELP!!!! :) (link)
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Maybe talk about your interests, family, pets, school, ect.
I mean there are so many things in the world, so there is always something to talk about.
You can also talk about deeper things, like things you are passionate about, fears, hopes and dreams, ect.
When I run out of ideas to talk to a guy about, we'll normally take turn asking questions.
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I've had Depersonalization Disorder since I was 12 (I'm 13 now). I can't handle it anymore... My mom knows about it, but she doesn't know what we can do for it.
I have severe anxiety and paranoia, so I'm guessing that has to do with something. I am willing to take medication, but I'm not sure what to take... For anxiety? Paranoia? I can't take this anymore. Also, do you think medication can even fix this?
Thank you... Any answer will help.
P.S. Yes I know you guys aren't doctors, but this is pretty much all I have. (link)
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So you have been diagnosed with these disorders? So the doctor should have given you medication for it.
You can't just go to the store and buy these medications. They have to be prescribed to you. So if you haven't seen a doctor, then you can't get the help.
So go to the doctor and see what's going on with you, then they'll prescribe the medication you need.
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I'm fourteen and I haven't started dating yet. I'm socially awkward and kind of shy (especially around boys, regardless of their attractiveness). I don't go to a traditional public school, so I rarely meet boys my age who would ask a girl out. But being a hopeless romantic, I dream of being in a relationship.
I recently went to a summer music festival for orchestral and chamber music where I met a guy who I really, really like. I can't stop thinking about him, even though we said goodbye a week ago. He doesn't like me back, not that way. He's eighteen and going to college next year. Since the world of professional orchestral musicians is so small, I thought I had a chance of playing with him again, but it turns out that he's not going into music. I might never see him again.
Should I try to get over him? (link)
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This must be a hard situation for you to be in. But I do think it's best to try to get over him. Not seeing him will help get over him anyways, as long as you don't sit around and daydream about him.
Even if you were to get in contact with him, you said he's not interested in you in that way. Even if you were planning on dating him, you'd have to wait till you are older.
As long as you don't stress about finding a guy, you'll end up with someone eventually. I mean you are still young and the guys you date now, it's unlikely you'll be with them when you are older so just enjoy being young.
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I am a retired member of law enforcement in my late 50s. My wife of 35 yrs left me suddenly last month. No discussion, she just was gone. A few days layer she called saying she needed a break. She suffers from major depressive disorder. My kids, late and early teens live with me. My son has shut her out of his life as this is the 2nd such departure she has made in the last yr. My son is angry and hurt by her actions. My young daughter is confused. I know i must care 4 my kids and do so but i am so down. These were to be my retirement yrs,instead it is hell. I am not interested in starting over. But i refuse to get old and eventually be alone. There are no 3rd parties involved here unless u count depression. On the job ive seen how these things can and do play out. Im not going to be sitting all alone staring at the walls or making umteen trips to a therapist. This will end badly 4 me no matter what.But at least i can end me. There is no other options. I feel very sorry 4 my kids. Mayb this way they can find a way to reconcile with their mother.
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So you want to end your life because of this?
I understand that this is a hard time for you. My father went through something close to the same thing, except he never wanted to end his life.
You obviously are rocking back and forth between this decision or you wouldn't have written here.
So many people go through what you have gone through and have made it out and are happy now. They don't always end up sad and depressed, unless they choose to be.
I don't know if you realize this or not, but you're just going to make things worse for your kids. I also don't understand how you think that they can reconcile with their mother if you do this. I mean they'll most likely blame her for it and not want anything to do with her, which isn't a good thing at all.
Your son is also not handling this well. And you have to be there for him. It's understandable for him to be hurt, but he shouldn't shut her out of his life. So you need to help him get past this.
If you feel sorry for your kids, you wouldn't do this to them too.
Anyways, you need help and your life will get better. Go talk to someone and get the help you and your family deserves.
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I am thirteen years old, female, and about to go to eighth grade. I'm really scared about it, though, and I don't think I'm prepared enough.
Here are a few things you should know:
- My school closed, so I have to go to a new one.
- I don't know my way around the school.
- I tend to get stressed out about grades.
- I'm awful at making friends.
- I am a perfectionist, and I usually stay up late to finish my homework. (That's something I like about summer -- I can go to bed as early as I want and get enough sleep.)
- School starts in a week.
- I was teased a little about my race at my last school, and I don't want it to happen again.
- I'm very close to my teachers from last year, and they won't be at my new school.
- I was supposed to be put in journalism because I'm a writer, but they put me in something called office aides. I'm rather frustrated about that.
I would really appreciate any advice about how to be more prepared and less anxious. Thank you! (link)
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Once you get past the first day, everything should get easier from there.
I always hated first days of school. When I went into 9th grade, I went to a new school where I didn't know anyone. It was scary because I didn't know anyone and I didn't know my way around.
You could get online and see if they have a map. If not, then while you're there, there will probably be staff hanging around because there will be lots of new kids there.
I was never good at making friends. I was very shy but somehow I always had a friend in each of my classes. So once you get settled in school, I'm sure you'll end up making some friends.
As for staying up late for homework, that's not a good thing. I always did that and I hated it because I never got enough sleep. I know kids who did there homework once they got home. That'd probably be better to do than waiting till later.
Again, I was also teased in school about my race. I'm Indian and somehow got terrorist jokes, 7 eleven jokes, and making fun of Indian's accent. Kids are really immature, if they do make fun of you, tell them to stop. If they don't, then tell a teacher or counselor.
So to be more prepared and less anxious, don't freak out. Don't procrastinate on work, and just enjoy your time in school.
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Ok so my first day of eighth grade is coming up, (August 21) and I'm super nervous!!! At least 15 kids (out of 60 in 8th grade) left last year, so a lot more are coming in. Basicaly, I need advice on how to get people to like me on the first day (how to leave an impression). I have short blond hair, I'm white, I get strait A's, I'm 5'2, and 89 lbs, (I have health issues so I need to eat or I'll get really sick, but I just end up losing weight) and I'm 13. Ps: I reallly want a boyfriend this year ! I've had one before, but we broke up like 2 years ago. And it's really hard to get one because I 'hang out with a slut', and they notice her and not me :× ---Thank you! (link)
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You should be yourself. I mean even though you'll hear that a lot, it's true. You don't want to be a fake you throughout your eighth grade year right?
What I've noticed throughout my middle school and high school years was that there was two types of "popular" girls. There was the cliche kind that had her own group and was mean to people she didn't like. The other was the girl who was nice and friendly to everyone. Everyone wanted to be her friend because she was a good one.
So basically, you don't want to be the first one. They normally end up with fake friends and lots of enemies. So be nice and friendly to everyone, even if they aren't nice to you. You don't need to be friends with those kinds of people. Don't gossip about other girls or guys either. That will probably be one of the hardest things once you get later into the school year because there will be people you don't like.
As for the boyfriend, he'll come when it's time. A guy that would be worth your time won't be looking at your friend but at you. In the end, personality will overcome looks.
So take care of yourself, take care of your friends, do well in school, be nice and friendly, and your eighth grade year will be great.
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I am an 18 year old female and I find myself to be way more attracted to older men that guys my age. Not old as in anything higher than 30, I wouldn't even go above 24. I just think that 22, 23, 24 are so much more mature, they know what they want in life, they are probably living on their own. By that age as well, they are probably done with the whole pimp thing and thinking they're hot shit, going around and getting all the ladies they can. I also think that older men are more respectful. I was just wondering if anyone found this to be weird. Now, don't preach to me that not all older men are more mature and know what they want type of people. I am talking about the older men that I have personally met and found to be attractive are such as I described.
So, anyway, do you find this weird? I am 18, so it's not like there would be any real, technical issues. Just curious, I guess.
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It's not weird. I've met lots of girls who were into older guys because they seemed more mature.
Like you said, not all of them are mature and know what they want. I think it really depends on the person. I've met some guys in their 20's that are extremely immature, but can hold it together in social situations. Also some that can't. I've met guys who still go around trying to get all the ladies, because in their 20's they are still young. They're mature in what they want, but not in relationships.
But it is really the person. I've met 18 year old guys who are really mature and 18 year old guys that are really immature. Then guys in their 20's who are really mature, and guys that are in their 20's and really immature.
So best thing to do, is to not limit yourself to older guys. If you meet one that you find extremely attractive, and has great qualities and is a mature guy, then go for it. If you meet a guy around your age who is like that, then go for it.
It's true that some mature with age, but some don't, obviously.
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Hey everyone!:) so I'm reletively young and I like this guy naed Jacob. Hes a total sweetheart, goofy, funny, nice, old fashioned, and so polite!:) hes my definition of perfect! He and I have been talking for a while and we've hungout a few times before at a festival that our city has yearly. He has asked me out to a movie on Wednesday and I said yes. I'm super super nervous because it will kinda be our first "date".. he hasn't really made a big move on me before but he has given me a few hugs. We've been talking and we both know that we want to kiss but I'm so nervous! never been this nervous to kiss someone before! How do I keep calm and act natural ? Help?? (link)
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When you're on the date and when you're with him, you won't be as nervous as you are before the date. So don't freak out too much. The kiss will be completely natural and it will happen just when the time is right so all you have to do is keep a hold of yourself and enjoy the time you spend with him. Don't think about the kiss, just think about the great time you are having.
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My girlfriend and I have had sex a few times.
I was her first and we went slow and stuff. She bled the first time and every time still she bleeds.
What is causing this? How can we stop it or will it go away?
Sometimes we are a little rough lol (link)
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She's not supposed to bleed during sex so the best option if for her to go see a gynecologist.
My best guess would be that you go too rough or you don't use lube. If she's really tight, you need to go slow and use lubricant. Also foreplay helps a lot.
But if this keeps happening, definitely have her see a gyn because that really isn't supposed to happen. You want to make sure there is no infection or anything too. There could be an underlying problem that she doesn't know about, so tell her to go get checked out.
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Okay so I asked a question about losing my best friend because of my depression. I'm writing her a letter to say I'm sorry this is what I've writeen so far: Okay so like I'm really sorry. For everything. Like for being so down and whatever. Like I realzie it was stupid to get mad at you for saying its hard to be my best friend, because it is, and I know that. I can't blame you for not wanting to be best friends anymore. And I know it must be hard to be with someone who's down all the time, especially best friends with them. I understand if you'd rather be best friends with tristynn, because she has like no problems and she's always happy. I really miss you.. I'll try not be so down and stuff, I'll do anything to keep you as a best friend and not lose you,even though I already have.. To be honest, I was jealous that you and tris are better friends than me and you. I've like not been able to sleep lately because I'm so upset about all of this.
What else could I say? It feels like I'm losing her to these two girls chloe and silky, and then our other friend tristynn. She knows about my cutting and bulimia. (link)
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Well you use "like" quite a bit.
I like how you started off saying sorry, you should end it the same way.
The first apology should make it clear what your letter is about. The last one should show your completely genuine regret.
I would use more "I" rather than "you".
Make sure the letter is short and to the point.
You shouldn't ramble about Tristynn, or bring up the other girls. I think a simple letter that gets the point across will be better.
These would be good points to go by..
-Apologize (Which you have down)
-Acknowledge what happened (You lost a best friend due to your depression)
-Solution/What you learned (You'll be working on being more positive, ect)
-Conclusion (End it on a positive note, express that you would like to discuss this, and that you're sorry)
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Does losing your virginity mean that you've had a man's penis enter you or is it only when your cherry pops? I just had sex I guess but I did not orgasm, nor did my cherry pop but he came sooo? (link)
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What you call virginity is your choice. It's whatever you feel it is.
In most cases, it's when you've had sexual intercourse, penis in vagina.
Some people consider losing their virginity as oral sex, or anal sex too. I mean gay men and lesbians don't consider themselves virgins when they have sex with their partner and then don't have penis in vagina sex.
So really, it's whatever you personally want it to be.
Most of the time you have actual sex, you won't orgasm unless he pays a lot of attention to your clitoris.
Also, you don't "pop your cherry". That refers to your hymen, I'm sure you know that. And hymens aren't supposed to "break" or "tear" I mean, you can tear them and you end up bleeding but that's because you guys did it wrong.
Your hymen doesn't cover your whole vagina. (Obviously, or else you wouldn't be able to get a tampon up there)It stretches.
Most of the the time, girls bleed because the guy when too fast or too rough or there wasn't enough lubrication. So it's a good thing you didn't bleed.
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the tv program i have really grown tired of is the Big Bang Theory i mean my parents started watching that show from 2007 to 2012 i watched it too but later i grew tired of it and stopped watching it i really dont like the jokes on that show and i dont like how Penny Leonard Shelden and Amy and the others made fun of fictional characters and my parents brought up the characters telling everyone about them so any news on when it might be cancelled or maybe just when they might stop making new episodes like they did with That 70s Show (link)
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You can't exactly get rid of a TV show because other people still do enjoy watching it. So the best thing to do is not to watch it.
If it has a lot of support and lots of people watch it, then it probably won't be cancelled any time soon.
That 70's show ended because it started getting low ratings once Topher Grace and Ashton Kutcher left.
So just don't watch it.
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Hi So I hooked up with this guy the other night and we texted all weekend and he said he was looking forward to hanging out with me next week and that he would call me on monday. It is now tuesday and he still hasnt called me. Who texts to say they are going to call and doesnt? It seems like a lot of effort when he could have just not talked to me after our fling. (link)
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There could be a few reasons. He could have been busy or he lost interest.
So really, it's hard to tell. You can probably try texting him and see what's going on and see how his responses are.
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I'm a thirteen-year-old girl, and I have a major crush on a guy who I met at a place called Camp Stevens over a year ago. I really need to get over him, but I can't.
Here's what happened: Last year at camp, we were good friends, but I started having feelings for him. I was embarrassed and didn't want him to find out. But right before we left, he told me that he liked me. I hugged him and said I liked him back. But I wasn't able to get any of his contact information.
Even after that week at camp was over, I still liked him. I wanted to have a way to remember him, so I wrote a novel about our week together at Camp Stevens.
I just went back to Camp Stevens a few weeks ago, and he wasn't there. I cried for a while, and my experience at camp this year wasn't as fun because I was thinking of him the whole time.
I miss him so much, and I would give anything to see him again. It seemed like we were perfect for each other -- we have lots in common, and he is so sweet and thoughtful. But there is no way I can see him again, and I have to get over him. Sometimes, it is very hard to stop liking someone who you wrote a 140-page book about and think of every day.
If you have any advice on how to get over him, I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you! (link)
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It's good that you want to get over him. Lots of girls who have similar experiences will just sulk and continue on missing the guy and miss other chances with other guys.
It's going to take time. When you really like someone, it's always going to take time to move on.
So don't write anymore books about him, don't sit and daydream about him.
Keep yourself busy, start doing new things, go out with your friends, ect. It's not going to happen overnight. I'm sure you know that, but know that you will get over him eventually.
Some girls will convince themselves that they can never get over someone. That's why they still like that guy years later and end up depressed about their dating life.
So don't do that.
Just keep your head up, try new things, keep yourself busy, hang out with your friends, and then you'll end up meeting a new guy.
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Hi , Im 13 years old , & Im 5'6 & I weigh 256 pounds . I am WAY over weight . I cannot go to dieting because I have a physical in one month so i NEED to loose weight before I go off the charts and I dont want him to yell at me . I literally just started making myself puke to loose weight . How long will it take for me to be average weight ? (link)
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Like everyone else said, don't make yourself throw up. It doesn't make you lose weight.
It will take you even longer to get to your average weight.
You're swallowing all of the crap society is giving you. Most girls who end up suffering from bulimia end up gaining more weight.
Purging isn't effective at getting rid of calories. Vomiting immediately after eating doesn't even get rid of half the calories you consume. The only reason you'd weigh less would be your water weight, so you didn't actually lose any weight. You can get rid of water weight just by going to the bathroom.
So if you keep this up, you can have a lot more problems than just being overweight.
These are some of the effects from doing this..
Blood:
-Anemia
Heart:
-Irregular heartbeat
-Heart muscle weakens
-Heart failure
-Low pulse and blood pressure
Body Fluids:
-Dehydration
-Low potassium, magnesium and sodium
Intestines:
-Constipation
-Bloating
-Diarrhea
-Abdominal cramps
Hormones:
-Irregular or absent period
Brain:
-Depression
-Anxiety
-Dizziness
-Low self-esteem
Cheeks:
-Swelling
-Soreness
Mouth:
-Cavities
-Gum disease
-Teeth sensitive to hot and cold folds
Throat and Esophagus:
-Sore & irritated
-Can tear or rupture
-Blood in vomit
Muscles:
Fatigue
Stomach:
-Ulcers
-Pain
-Can rupture
-Delayed emptying
Skin:
Dry skin
So pretty much you can kill yourself slowly and painfully by doing this. And in the mean time, you're not losing any weight.
I'd go see a professional like a dietitian or nutritionist and they can help you. They'll help you figure out what foods you should eat and how to take care of yourself.
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So there's this guy who's friends with my ex, and I like him. Eh, we got closer over the summer and he's starting to show some affection towards me but I have heard stories of him getting blowjobs from other girls. We cuddle and watch movies together in bed but I'm not really sure if he likes me or not. I'm not particularly good at reading people's emotions so yeah :/ Does he want to get sexual with me or something, or is he being sincere? (link)
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Well you've heard rumors so you don't want to back out completely, but you don't want to move too fast. So take your time, don't rush into anything. He's interested in you, but we don't know if it's for sex or if he genuinely likes you.
So just take your time to figure it out.
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There's a pattern I've been noticing with guys lately that starting to get annoying. I would meet a guy I'm interested in and they seem like they are interested back. We would talk everyday and they would be engaged in the conversation, asking, questions, even complimenting me. Then they stop talking everyday then it becomes like once a week and the responses are mostly one word answers. They also seem to flake out on me when it comes to hanging out. Its very annoying. I feel like I'm wasting my time keep meeting guys that leads to nowhere. If they are not really interested why just say it up front. I would prefer that instead of talking to someone for 2 or 3 weeks and then when its time to hang or something they not around anymore or take forever to get back to you. Can you guys tell me why this happens? (link)
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I've normally noticed my guy friends do that when they aren't interested. Like they were interested, but eventually they got bored and didn't see a future. And some start talking, think the girl is cute but turns out they aren't as interested as they thought they were.
Then there are some guys who just like to flirt who aren't interested in taking it any further.
So it's most likely that they were interested in you at one point, but then decided they weren't.
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I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months and I'm scared something is changing between us. I'm not sure if there is or not but I'm really scared there is something wrong. Well we just got back from a camp we went to together but I wasn't with him much at camp but something just feels different like I feel like he thinks there's something wrong but I don't want to tell him cuz it could make things worse and I love him soo incredibly much like we're so in love but I don't know about him... Wht should I do? Should we like hangout and see how things go? (link)
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If you're scared something is wrong and you don't know what it is, it's better to talk to him about it. If you can't communicate in a relationship, then the relationship won't last.
But if you'd rather hang out with him and see if he acts weird or anything, then do that. If something seems out of place, then bring it up.
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Its sunday night and my mom found out I cut and says I can't do my modeling fashion show if they not gone by wednesday because I have fittings and the lady wouldn't let me model with marks all over me. Anyway I wanted to know how to get the cuts to go away by then? I've tried lemon juice. Any other sugeestions? (link)
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If the cuts are deep, those are harder to make disappear. But if they aren't, then you can probably purchase some things at a store that can help reduce the scar.
I used to cut when I was younger, I still have some of the scars. Eventually they did start going away, except for the deeper ones. I did get some scar creams, some worked, some didn't.
So I would suggest trying different kinds.
Also, I really hope you get some help with the cutting. It can ruin your life. So if your mom isn't willing to help you, then go seek help.
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