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I Can't Get Over My Crush.
I'm a thirteen-year-old girl, and I have a major crush on a guy who I met at a place called Camp Stevens over a year ago. I really need to get over him, but I can't.
Here's what happened: Last year at camp, we were good friends, but I started having feelings for him. I was embarrassed and didn't want him to find out. But right before we left, he told me that he liked me. I hugged him and said I liked him back. But I wasn't able to get any of his contact information.
Even after that week at camp was over, I still liked him. I wanted to have a way to remember him, so I wrote a novel about our week together at Camp Stevens.
I just went back to Camp Stevens a few weeks ago, and he wasn't there. I cried for a while, and my experience at camp this year wasn't as fun because I was thinking of him the whole time.
I miss him so much, and I would give anything to see him again. It seemed like we were perfect for each other -- we have lots in common, and he is so sweet and thoughtful. But there is no way I can see him again, and I have to get over him. Sometimes, it is very hard to stop liking someone who you wrote a 140-page book about and think of every day.
If you have any advice on how to get over him, I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you!
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I want to give you a heads up that what you are going through will happen over and over and over in the years ahead even through college age. It's all part of a learning period in our life, the experiences, of what crushing feels like, what a healthy relationship with the opposite sex is like, and of course, what a bad unhealthy relationship is like too, or where its a good person, the perfect guy but what it feels like when that spark or chemistry is missing, it's important to have someone not just to have sex with to take care of urges but where you both have deeper feelings for each other and sexually the excitement level is still there once the excitement of a new relationship wears off. Thats called New relationship energy NRE and we all experience it.
End result is that you will go through several relationships over this period of time before you find someone who is perfect for you and you for him and you end up having a life time committed relationship together, whether married or not.
I still remember a family vacation where a guy paid me attention and sought me out and flirted with me. It was my first time experiencing anything like that and it's still clear in my mind even though I'm old enough to be your grandma. Yes, eventually the pain of a possible relationship or a real one not working out, will fade and all you'll be left with is the good memories attached to it, how wonderful it felt at one point, and also the memories of what you learned. You'll learn to take in all in stride if you keep in mind, that its all part of the learning process in dating and relationships.
Good luck dear.
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It's good that you want to get over him. Lots of girls who have similar experiences will just sulk and continue on missing the guy and miss other chances with other guys.
It's going to take time. When you really like someone, it's always going to take time to move on.
So don't write anymore books about him, don't sit and daydream about him.
Keep yourself busy, start doing new things, go out with your friends, ect. It's not going to happen overnight. I'm sure you know that, but know that you will get over him eventually.
Some girls will convince themselves that they can never get over someone. That's why they still like that guy years later and end up depressed about their dating life.
So don't do that.
Just keep your head up, try new things, keep yourself busy, hang out with your friends, and then you'll end up meeting a new guy.
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I know it stings like hell right now, but trust me when I tell you time will heal it. I know this sounds like a totally cliche answer, but it's true. You're at that wonderful/terrible age where your emotions are just going to run away with you sometimes. When I was your age, what really helped me get over heartbreak like this was to remember I was so young and I had my whole life ahead of me to fall for other guys. Sure I was going to get some scrapes and bruises, but it's worth it for the times when the guy catches you. (: Give yourself time to heal and don't let anyone tell you to "get over it already." They're not you, and only you know when you'll be ready for another guy. Good luck and take care!
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