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Q: hey, i heard this song on the radio that i love. but i don't know who wrote/performed it (it was a woman though).
some of the lyrics go..
"i held your hand through all of these years"
Anybody know?
i rate
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Ooh! I love that song! That's "My Immortal," by Evanescence. Awesome group. Their other songs are good too. You ought to check them out. ^_^
-Siren =)
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Q: My boyfriend is a punk and i am like a cheerleader and im like a prep and stuff i dont know if i shold break up with him because later on in life i mean we might not work because he is a punk and he told me to choose him or cheerleading i am half hawaiian so like i have been doing hceerleading since i was 5 and surfing since i was 2
please help
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That's not right, for him to make you choose between him and cheerleading. Talk to him. Tell him you're not going to choose, and that you can balance a love life and cheerleading. He needs to know that you won't blow him off for cheerleading, I think.
If he's gonna keep making you choose things, then you really might not work. Tell him that. He has no right to try to control your life like that. That's like my boyfriend telling me to choose singing or him. Singing is my life, and I couldn't just stop singing, but I love him with all my heart. It's just not right, and he needs to realize that. I hope I helped!
-Siren =)
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Q: I really am inlove with this boy that my family and i have known since in was 2 years old. we are so in love that i think i want him to be my first. i know about safe sex and all and i am 15 but i am planning on spending my life with this guy. we have everything in common and he is so hansom and sweet, not a jock at all. we really want to be with eachother. but i wonder, does it reall hurt that bad the first time, and how do i get him in the mood for sex?
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Awwwwwww.
If the guy's big, and you don't use tampons much or whatever, it's probably gonna hurt. It hurt like hell for me because I never used tampons, lol. It doesn't hurt everyone, but it hurts a lot of people.
To get him in the mood, you just have to know how to turn him on...Act all sexy, dress revealingly, tease him a lot. Kiss him, etc...you'll figure out what he likes in no time, lol. Guys are really obvious as far as turn ons go, lol. Good luck, have fun, and be safe!
-Siren =)
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Q: I have a question that i hope someone can help me with. Is it right to change for a guy? I use to have this one boyfriend that was a punk and I was jusst a normal 13 year old girl. all of his friends were punks to and at that time I was overwhieght and diddn't care about what I looked. Well then all of a sudden my boyfriend just dummped me w/no explanation. And a little while later I started getting into the punk music and cloths and i lost 20 pounds. Now I'm obsessed w/punk music and cloths but i don't know if it's b/c i want him to see what he missed out on or if it's really what i want. About 6 months have passed since my break up w/him. Since our breakup was just b4 the summer no body not even my friends have seen me, so I can't wait till school starts so i can see everyone's reaction esspecially his. But do n-e-of you think this is righ? Pleae someone help me.
Always
Nat
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Never, EVER change for a guy. If a guy can't like you for who you are, then you don't want to be with him. A relationship cannot be based on lies, and if you change to become the kind of girl he'll like, you're lying to both him AND yourself.
Decide for yourself if the punkness is what you want or not. If it isn't, just be yourself. You'll find a guy who WILL appreciate you. There will be someone. Just keep your options open!
-Siren =)
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Q: How the hell do you get a tampon it! i have been trying for ever! i even used some KY Jelly and the slender sized ones! i found the hole and all but i just cant get it in! anyone have any tips or anything??!! EMERGANCY!
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Aww, that's sucky...I used to have some trouble getting them in. I used to use playtex slimfits. They're really easy to get in.
Or, you can use ones WITHOUT applicators and use your finger to get it in. (I hear those are really easy to get in) That way you can sort of feel where it's supposed to go, as oppoesd to guessing.
The main problem I had is that I needed to relax.
I really reccomend for you the ones without applicators. You can get your finger in there, right? Or maybe just wait awhile, if you've like just started your period. When I'd just started, I couldn't get a tampon in.
I hope I helped!
-Siren =)
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Q: when should i look into a boyfriend? i'm 11 now, and i think i'm way too young. whenever i have sex, it will be when i'm married. i will not ever use a condom, because it's against the catholic religion, which i am. so i'll have two kids at the most (maybe). and i will definately be having one child. when should i have a bf? i don't want to go throuhg a break up...should it be when i am old enough to get married, just in casE?
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You do realize you don't have to have sex the first time you have a boyfriend, right?
Just checking...
There's no "best time" to have a boyfriend. It's whenever you are ready. You can wait 'til you're old enough to get married, but you might not find the right one straight away. That's very, very rare. Like, disgustingly rare. Don't count on finding your true love on your first try, okie?
I hope I helped a little!
-Siren =)
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Q: If your bf or gf got you a limo for a surprise for like 3 months of going out and it was a boxy kind of limo.. would you care?
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Heh...
If my boy got me a limo, I'd probably ask where the hell he got the money...Lol. I'd probably be happy about it, though. God knows he would - he's always driving us everywhere. Lol.
-Siren =)
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Q: My boyfriend, we'll call him *Bob*, and i always fight...like seriously, we can't get through a day with out fighting about something. but i love him with all my heart...and couldn't break up with him even if i tried...but what should i do? i can't handle all the argueing?
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Have you talked to him about the fact that you fight so much? Communication is often the problem in relationships. Explain to him what you just told us; that you fight daily and you can't handle it. Reassure him that you love him with all your heart and don't want to break up and all that. See if you can't smooth it out. Good luck!
-Siren =)
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Q: I had sex for the first time last night and I didnt bleed at all. Doesnt every girl bleed? That kinda makes me wonder.. Also, we didnt do it very long or hard so I think thats why? Just making sure Im not strange or messed up..
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Not every girl bleeds the first time. I know someone who didn't, because she used tampons a lot. Doesn't matter how hard you do it. The first time I had sex, I bled, and my guy was, like, insanely gentle. *Shrug*
You're not strange. You're fine. =) You're lucky, actually. Bleeding isn't fun. Hope I answered your question!
-Siren =)
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Q: i weigh 92 ponds and im 5 foot 3... am i over weight? or under weight?
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Honey, I think you're underweight...I was 5'3" and weighed 105, and I looked at my BMI, which told me I was underweight. Like, barely, but still underweight. Be careful you don't get any lighter. Hope I helped!
-Siren =)
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Q: this might sound stupid...but whats an orgasim?
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Okay, an orgasm is the peak of sex. You feel sort of...butterflies, but instead of in your stomach, they're in your abdomen, really. When a guy orgasms, he ejaculates. It's hard to explain/describe, really. I hope I helped a little...Lol
-Siren =)
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Q: Are you damaging your eyelashes by using an eyelasher curler?? And what if you do it everyday?? Is this risky and damaging?? Thanks!
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I don't think it's damaging. All you're doing is bending them up, right? It's like folding your hair. *Shrug* I use an eyelash curler sometimes, and my lashes are still perfectly intact. Hope I helped!
-Siren =)
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Q: everytime I get a bf my friends think he's too ugly and that I need better, but it hurts him whenever i tell him what my friends think about him and makes me feel bad. I know how he feels because they dont know what hes like. I told them to stop but they keep at it. and my bf dosnt feel like doing any thing when im around bc of what my friends say. how do I get them to stop???? for me and him
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Hey now...those "friends" of yours have no right to judge your boyfriend without knowing him. That's not right. You need to tell them that, 'cause they don't seem to get the hint. Your boyfriend does know that YOU don't think those things about him, right?
You've just gotta tell them that they have no right to judge him, and it's gotta stop.
Good luck!
-Siren =)
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Q: does a guy kno when he pops ur cherry or no? iight cuz I wanna have sex wit this guy an he thinks im not a virgin an i am... an i was woundering if he would be able to tell like would it bleed that bad that he would notice or is there some way he would kno cuz i dont wanna make it sound like im lieing i just dont want him to find out someone plzz write back asap..Or e-mail me at Lilfarmerchick75@yahoo.com
*Jess*
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Alrightie, lying in a situation THIS intimate is bad to begin with, but I'm going to assume you know that.
I'd guess that he'd know he "popped your cherry" 'cause of the way it'd feel for him. I'm not sure, but I'd think so, wouldn't you? Blood doesn't go EVERYWHERE, but a lot of girls bleed. It's like having your period, but with real blood instead of menstrual blood.
I hope I helped!
-Siren =)
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Q: I have been getting zits ever since the beginning of 7th grade. I really hate it. And I use Clean & Clear to clear them up, but the product doesn't exactly work. Do u know any product that will work? What advice would u give me? I looked at ur Zits link, but i've tried all of that..and i still get zits. Please tell me what products u use! It's hard to walk in school when a lot of boys are staring..
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I use Retin-A micro, but I think it's prescription. It's a little drying. Wash your face every night, too, and THEN use the pimple stuff. Hope I helped!
-Siren =)
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Q: im really sensitive at school...if some1 teases me, i take it so hard. then when they reply saying im so sensitive, i feel hurt...is there anything i can say to "my friends" if they insult me..like in a joking way?
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Be FIRM. Stand up for yourself. I used to have the same problem. I usd to cry whenever someone teased me. Lol...then I got my first boyfriend and it just got worse. I just learned to deal with it. I remember thinking "They're just saying these things to make me feel bad because they're jealous" (Even if they weren't. I tricked my subconscious so I wouldn't cry, lol.)
Just tell them that it REALLY bothers you, and to stop. If they say "you're so sensitive!" tell them "yeah, I am, and it bothers me that you tease me so much, so I really want it to stop."
Just be really firm about it. Hope I helped!
-Siren =)
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Q: Hi see I have this problem, I like this guy and my friends think he really weird and I dont , every time I say that I like some one then when I tell them they always make comments.... and some not so good ones. Now everytime I like some one I dont tell them , ( It drags me ragidy!!) so what should I do PLZ help me!!!!!
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Have you told them it bothers you when they make comments like that and it makes you not want to tell them anything? (If you tell them that, they may stop. All girls like to know when their friends have crushes. Lol) Just stand up for yourself, honey!
If you like the guy, make sure you don't let them change your mind.
Talk to your friends and tell them it bothers you. If that doesn't work, just don't tell them anything. They'll get sick of not hearing about your life, and they may stop just to hear the gossip. Lol. Hope I helped!
-Siren =)
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Q: i don`t kno if it`sz healthy that i`m 12 nd my bra cup size isz a 36B..isz that bad ??
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Not in the least. Why would it be unhealthy? You're just an early bloomer. When I was your age, I was still a size 34A!
-Siren =)
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Q: so ive made out with a few guys b4 but i get sick of doing the same old tricks and teasing. is there any new moves that turns a guy on while makeing out with them?? i mean i knoe how to kiss and all but i want to learn more please help
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Some of these are weird, but that's okay. I dunno if you've tried these or not, but here goes:
-When you go to kiss him, bite his lower lip gently instead.
-lick his lips a little
-draw a line of kisses down his stomach.
-if he's ticklish, run your fingers down his chest, to the top of his jeans.
-go in to kiss him but hover like an inch away for awhile. If/when he moves to kiss you, move away, keeping a little distance between you. I stole that trick from a character in my book - it works really well. Lol
-bite and/or kiss his ears/earlobes...
*thinks*
That's all I can think of off the top of my head. Guys will have to help you out if you need more ideas. Hope I helped a little!
-Siren =)
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Q: Hey BabesZ!Ok well this isnt really askin 4 advice but,i just wanna kno what ur prospective is on my Relationship cuz ppl think im crazy!Ok make a long ass story short,Last year,july 16,03 i started goin o/w my boyfrined,we lasted 2 mnths nd broke up cuz we never saw eachother,so i never got over him and we liked eachother again,so we started goin out that following Ocober 5th,we lasted again for 2 mnths reason being,he cheated on me w.1 of my ex.best gurls,(they actaulyl Had sex =( ) so that was sad cuz i really had storng feelings 4 him nd i never thought it woudl happen,but we never stopped talking he would ask 4 me back all the time nd tell me that he made the biggest mistake of his life nd he would just go on nd on about how much he cared!so it had been about two mnths that we had broke up,nd i gave him 1 more chance!On janurary 21st i took him back,nd i kno it was dumb all my friends couldnt believe it,but the feelings i had were UNREAL! so we have now been together for about 6 mnths..and its been goin great..the 3rd mnth in i gave him my virginity nd i def kno hes been faithful and shit cuz i live in a small town so i would kno if he wasnt lol,i love him to death but the 5th mnth in i kinda kissed a guy, reason being..he was being an ass so i couldnt take it and it just felt like the right thing to do at the time..:( nd later that night i called my baby nd told him,this was the first time i had ever heard my boy cry :( thats when i new he really loved me,i was in shock hearing what i was hearing.."how could u do this..u dont kno what love is" and i just keept saying baby yea i do i kno i love you, i never knew how much he loved me,i always doubted it,cuz ive never had full turst for him after he cheated,but hearing him cry made me believe nd fall 38493483943 times more in love,so now we are both faced w/hate lol not between eachother but our friends hate us cuz we only hang out w/eachother,but w/e i love him and i kno he loves me,we actualyl wanna get married..i kno its crazy but we do,nd i couldnt be more sure hes the one for me and im sure he feels the same,i just dunno if what we have is healthy,i mean we have been through so many fights bcuz we are both so scared of loosing eachother,but we also fight cuz hes so goddamn jealous of guys and FRIENDS..i cant even go to my girls house cuz he thinks ill do drugs and cheat again..but i guess he has a reason to be scared? i dunno im so confused about shit tho 4 some reason, i dunno what do u think about this? Telllllllllllll meee what ya think hunnie..thanks MuahZzZ!!
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Wow, that guy seems like a total ass...the one you dated for 2 months on and off, that cheated on you. Sounds like a nasty relationship I ended up in.
Thoughts about marriage isn't crazy...My boy and I have discussed it, and I don't think it's crazy - we love each other. *shrug*
Be careful with a jealous guy, though...they can turn abusive.
It's good, though, that your relationship has withstood a fight or two. Means it's strong. I suppose, after all the stuff, you do have a fairly good relationship with this guy. Make sure he doesn't get too controlling, and watch his jealousy. Hope I helped!
-Siren =)
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I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.
I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.
I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.
Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.
***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***
If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.
I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.
Siren
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Website: Gender: Female Age: 26 AIM: Member Since: February 13, 2004 Answers: 1526 Last Update: April 26, 2014 Visitors: 108021
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