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I have no clue, but it's possible. Here's a list of things people think I have.
-type 1 diabetes
-A.D.D
-sleep apnea
And now here are some symptoms others and myself have noticed I have.
-stress
-bad mood
-urinating frequently
-increased thirst (drinking lots of water lately)
-I'm always tired now
-I have bad memory during the day
-I sometimes wake up with sore throats
-every once in a while I get this like sour/sweet breath
-Some days I get really hungry, some days I barely eat anything
-I've been getting a lot of headaches lately ( I rarely got them before and no it's not because theres been more noise)
-I have pretty bad anxiety
-I can rarely focus for a long time
-I always give up on things if I don't them right the first time even though I know I should give up
-I get really frustrated when I try to do home work/school work or a lot of things
-I'm almost always worrying or nervous about something
Shall I go on?
I don't know I think i'm just being a hypochondriac. What do you think?
In case this helps I just turned 15.
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Here is what I think about each of your "symptoms"
1. Stress -- EVERYONE experiences stress. EVERYONE. The key is this: Should you be experiencing stress? Are there stress factors in your life? you are very young and at an odd age so the answer is most likely YES, you should be under stress.
2. Bad Mood -- Again, EVERYONE has bad moods. Everyone has up and downs. Again, your age applies to this because you're under...STRESS! You are pressured to be beautiful, intelligent, well-liked, etc. by your peers. Of course you're going to get cranky sometimes.
3. Urinating frequently -- this could be from a small bladder, overactive bladder, or even from excessive thirst. If you're dehydrated your body drinks more--and will still have to get rid of the nasty gunk so you'll urinate more. What a concept! ;)
4. Increased thirst -- are you playing a lot of sports or sweating more than you have been? It is summer time, after all, and you may be sweating more than you think. If you have an overactive bladder it also would cause this to happen.
5. Tiredness -- You're a teen--do you stay up late? Do you get 8hours of sleep a night? Stress can cause you to become tired very easily. Plus, if you're dehydrated you can be tired.
6. Bad memory -- Stress, dehydration, and tiredness all cause bad memories and memory loss. Relate back to what you've stated above and what I've listed for causes of it.
7. Wake up with sore throats -- Everyone wakes up with sore throats sometimes. It usually means that you were in a really deep sleep and had your mouth opened a little. It's nothing to worry about unless it's VERY painful or happens extremely frequently. If you snore, you may not be getting a good enough rest, keep in mind, so it may trace back to why you are tired.
8. Sour/Sweet Breath -- Everyone ends up with weird breath at some point. Think back to what you've eaten within the past few hours and if you've brushed, flossed, and mouth washed since then.
9. Really hungry but barely eat -- Your body could be lacking vital nutrients really. Pick up a multivitamin.
10. Headaches -- Stress. Dehydration. Tiredness. Vitamin Deficiency. Being 15.
11. Anxiety -- Stress and tiredness. You would NOT believe how much stress messes with your life. And, again, you're 15--people are constantly pressuring you to be perfect.
12. Can't focus for a long period of time -- A person with ADD can't focus longer than few seconds. They can't read a book. They couldn't even typed what you typed without it taking hours because of their constant mind jitters. This is way overly diagnosed when it isn't true. You're stressed. You may need vitamins. You're tired. You could be dehydrated. You're 15. If you can sit still for one full minute without having the NEED to jump up and DO SOMETHING or SEE SOMETHING then you're OK.
13. Give up -- Read 12 and what I am writing below after I get done with these.
14. Refer back to 13.
15. Refer back to all above.
You are a 15 year old. You sound like you're overly worrying because people keep saying that you're not perfect.
You see, you are being pressured every day to be perfect by your peers. You're at a time in your life that you're easily influenced. When YOU believe something then your mind will show symptoms of it. You simply sound like a stressed out teenager to me.
You probably cannot focus because teenagers now have so many things they have to constantly be thinking of. "How will my friends feel about this? Where are my friends, do they see me? I need to look good. Do my friends REALLY like me or are they just being nice? I have to do [THIS] to make people like me but it takes up a lot of time!" When you're stressing out, you're not going to be able to focus. You're not going to be able to sit still and say, "Okay, I NEED to do my hours worth of homework. Let's do this."
Your mind is a wonderful thing. If you keep saying, "I am poor. I am poor. I am poor." then you begin to dress, speak, and act like you are financially unstable. If you keep saying, "I can't do this!" then you will talk yourself into not being able to do something. If you keep telling yourself that you are sick then guess what? Your body starts showing symptoms of that illness even if you don't have it!
I suggest you RELAX.
If you are seriously concerned that you may have a medical problem then please see a doctor for testing. Diabetes can be easily tested within seconds. Most people with sleep apnea are very overweight--usually obese. You definately do not have ADD so please stop making yourself believe into having those symptoms.
Regarding to work/school issues about being frustrated with homework and not being able to focus. You may want to have some testing done on yourself about your mental abilities. Some people with dyslexia and various learning disorders experience these problems. People with learning disorders (no matter how small) also feel anxious, frustrated, nervous, unable to focus, irritable, etc. because it is hard for them to keep up with the students without the disorder. You may not even realize your disorder--some people go YEARS without finding out from a few tests that they are dyslexic--and then they realize why they struggled to get through the book that was assigned and got so nervous over the test. To me, it sounds like nothing but being a stressed 15 year old but only YOU KNOW.
Enjoy being 15 and stop worrying about being imperfect. I'm sure you're just stressing over nothing. Make a doctor's appointment for some testing and tell your school about your learning issues and maybe they will be kind enough to do some testing.
Please do not get sucked into medications. So many people are prescribed medications so that the big man will get a buck. You don't have ADD so please don't fall into that pit. That is a hard road to travel.
I hope you learn and grow enough to relax about being a teen. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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I was diagnosed with chronic depression a few years ago. My doctor and I tried quite a few different treatments, including medication and counseling, but it didn't help and the medication made me more suicidal than I already was.
So, I went off the meds and I was able to keep it under my own control for the past year, until recently.
I haven't been able to do much lately because I have felt so tired, I feel like everything is going wrong, and that there isn't anything here for me, but I know in my heart and my head that this isn't true.
I feel as though I am losing my mind over this and I can't seem to remember the little things, like conversations that I had with my bf just a few minutes before.
Or I'll remember something that happened 2 weeks ago and I'll randomly start to laugh or cry about it, however it made me feel at that time, I repeat that action.
I have no idea what to do and I feel so lost.
But I know that I can't take the medication again because of how it makes me feel and the extreme side effects that occur, so any help would be greatly appreciated.
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I suggest you become more involved with the people around you.
Make your life meaningful in this respect.
Many people seem to be having this sort of problem now and I truly think that it's because we have lost the right path in life.
I don't mean this to be bad but I'm not sure how to put it: you need to start focusing on other people other than yourself all of the time. If you make your time useful and helpful to others, you will gain a sense of care about yourself. You will soon realize that you HELP others and that other people need and appreciate you.
Many people now are so busy with their own lives that they lose sight of what it is to be loving and caring. You see, knowing that you are helping others does great things for the self-imagine. You soon realize that you aren't useless and just a blob of flesh bobbing along through life.
It really seems that the problem is our current lifestyles. We no longer "have time" to help others. Nobody volunteers now because they feel that they should be paid money for their time. Nobody goes out of their way to show care for others because that time could be used for something else. Both of these are common and we're taught (it's drilled into our heads) that we are the most important in our lives. This is not true at all: the people surrounding us are the most important.
The people who surround you create your sense of belonging though. Those people help you to see yourself as useful. Those people are the ones that can show care back for you. Without those people, you aren't anything anymore.
The media keeps telling us to only worry about ourselves. Sure, it's fine to tend to your own needs--but what happens when everyone is too busy with themselves? What happens when everyone stops worrying about caring for others? They become depressed, wondering why they don't belong somewhere and why they feel lost in society. That is what is happening to you, most likely, whether you realize it now or not.
What's strange is the more we focus on ourselves and stop helping others, the less we feel good about ourselves. As humans, we NEED interaction. We NEED acceptance. We NEED to know we are important in life. Most of all though, we desperately NEED to help others to gain all of that plus more.
I highly suggest that you stop focusing on yourself. Yes, still continue to get help but try to put your excess time/energy/efforts into others. Find places to volunteer regularly at.
You need to make more of your life. By giving to others, you are creating your sense of worth. You will soon realize that YOU DO make a difference and that people appreciate and care about you. You will realize that when you have to skip a volunteer day for a doctor's appointment that many of the people you have been helping will ask what happened to you--Ah-hah, there's your sense of belonging! You will begin to realize that being involved with the care of others can be very fulfilling spiritually.
Spend time at soup kitchens helping the hungry, volunteer at shelters, visit the elderly in homes so they're not as lonely (not everyone has visitors and just about everyone has neat stories to tell), read Bible passages to younger children, volunteer at local animal shelters, donate your time to what needs you, and do whatever you can with that time. You may even consider doing random acts of kindness:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=546646
If you feel like you don't have time now--make time. Alter your daily schedules to fit a few hours in for volunteering. Instead of being on the computer for an hour, log in only for 15 minutes and do what you NEED to do. Instead of sitting at home for dinner every day, take one day a week to eat at the soup kitchen after volunteering there.
Focus on who needs you. In essence, this is all for YOU so this is important. Helping others will help you.
I suggest you grab a phone book and make a few calls. Sit down with a calendar and set up one or more days a week to volunteer your time at certain places. Don't stress yourself out trying to fit things into busy schedules, but move things around so that your schedule won't be hectic but will have the fulfilling volunteer time in it.
It isn't your fault that you feel this way. You have just been fooled all of these years into believing that you are number one. Relax and focus on taking time for others and you will eventually find what is missing, trust me.
After awhile these problems may fade off completely. First your depression and anxiety will fade. You will find comfort in the people you are helping and will not be lonely any longer. You will relax in stressful situations because you know you are needed and that you will make the right decision. In time, you will be better.
I hope you take my advice and improve your life before things get worse. If you have any further questions regarding this subject please feel free to ask me!
P.S. Anywhere you volunteer your time at, you will happily fit in :) I promise, you'll see.
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I missed my period, so at first i thought i was pregnant, but i took a pregnacy test last night. The result was negative. Are there other reasons that i could have missed my period? Or was the test just wrong?
I've looked up early signs of preganancy, and the only symptom i have, is not getting my period, so i really have no idea.
anything advice would be great.
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After you have sex you actually do not instantly become pregnant--it can take days before the sperm find and fertilize the egg and then another 6 - 10 days for the egg to actually attach to your uterine wall. Sperm can live in your body for a long time--they've even been some found alive in a woman 2 weeks after being ejaculated inside of her!
This being said, it could take weeks to actually become pregnant after one sexual encounter. It could be that you were so early into pregnancy that your body had not produce enough of the hCG hormone yet.
Purchase another few home pregnancy tests and test yourself occassionally if your period does not come. Some home pregnancy tests are better than others. According to a couple of studies done, First Response and Early Result Pregnancy Test are the two best kinds to purchase because they are slightly more sensitive than the others. You may want to pick up a couple of those for home usage.
Sometimes the hormone is simply not strong enough in your body to be picked up by home pregnancy tests. I had a friend that took many pregnancy tests throughout her pregnancy (yes, even as far as 8 months into it) and ALL of them showed up negative.
So, your best bet is to make an appointment at your doctor's office for a pregnancy test. Those are the only pregnancy tests truly accurate enough to tell early into pregnancy anyway. Go on and call for an appointment so they can fit you in soon so you'll know for sure what the answer is. You can take another home pregnancy test while waiting on the appointment.
As a note, some women never experience many pregnancy symptoms other than the obvious growing belly and breasts.
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What are some really awesome games for the Nintendo Wii? I really want to buy some more Nintendo Wii games but need some good recommendations please! A list of Nintendo Wii top games are okay too but personal choices are extra nice!
Also, I can order at online stores or go to game stores like GameStop to pick up the game so if it's a hard game to find don't worry! Any recommendation is good to me!
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Some of the top selling Nintendo Wii games, that are actually affordable being under $20, are:
Zack & Wiki: Quest for Barbaros’ Treasure
Resident Evil 4 Cover Resident Evil 4 Wii Edition
Puzzle Quest: Challenge of the Warlords
Geometry Wars: Galaxies
Rayman Raving Rabbids
Elebits
Sega Superstars Tennis
NiGHTS: Journey of Dreams
Excite Truck
Blast Works: Build, Trade, Destroy
In addition, some Wii games can get pretty expensive. If you're willing to spend more than $20 per Nintendo Wii game then you should definately check out:
Cooking Mama: Cook Off
Dragon Quest Swords
Final Fantasy Crystal Chronicles
Metroid Prime 3: Corruption
No More Heroes
Resident Evil: Umbrella Chronicles
SSX Blur
Super Mario Galaxy
Super Paper Mario
Super Smash Bros. Brawl
Some sites claim that the best Nintendo Wii games are:
Big Brain Academy
The Legend of Zelda: Twilight Princess
Excite Truck
Metroid Prime 3 Corruption
Mario Party 8
Wii Play
Rayman Raving Rabbids
Super Mario Galaxy
Wii Chess
WarioWare: Smooth Moves
Now, I do not have a Nintendo Wii so I cannot really recommend certain games; however, I am interested in a few of them. If I had a Nintendo Wii I would definately check into:
1. The Wii Fit (Why not get moving AND have fun?)
2. Mario Party 8 & Mario Party Galaxy (because Mario Party is good for the whole family)
3. Big Brain Academy (Might as well try to increase your mental capacity)
4. Wii Play (Hey! You even get the old duckhunt game from Mario!)
So, I hope you find some really spiffy new Nintendo Wii games to play. Some of the best Wii games are fairly cheap so make sure to check out the under $20 list if you haven't already.
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Where can I get ringtones of the Jonas Brothers for free? Even if it's just of one of them (Kevin Jonas, Joe Jonas, or Nick Jonas) playing one of their hit songs or singing it would be so awesome!
What about a website for Jonas Brothers wallpaper or backgrounds for cell phones and computers? Again, I would be happy with just a wallpaper or background of one of the Jonas' but more thrilled if I could find the whole Jonas Brothers group.
Also, is there a website I can go to and download the Jonas Brothers screen savers for my computer?
Is there, by chance, a Jonas Brothers desktop theme for windows I could download somewhere too?
I am trying to find free, reliable sites to download Jonas Brothers things from so I don't get computer viruses and it doesn't mess up a cell phone.
Thank you so much for the help! (link)
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You can find many things with the Jonas Brothers on them. I'm sure they even make pillowcases and bedsheets of the Jonas Brothers by now. They have Jonas Brothers T-Shirts and various other merchandise here:
http://www.jonasbrothersmerch.com/
The Jonas Brothers have a special link on their site to help you find their music online. They have a link to iTunes so you can find your favorite MP3 of their song. It's safe and the Jonas Brothers themselves are promoting it! While you're on the Jonas Brothers website you might as well check out some of their uploaded videos too!
As for free Jonas Brother ringtones, I found this site that seemed simple to use and has a list of ALL of the Jonas Brother songs (including S.O.S.):
http://www.justclicknprint.com/jonas-brothers-ringtones_12189.html
If your cellphone can play MP3s you can also get free Jonas Brother ringtones from:
http://www.myxertones.com/
and Ventones is also suppose to be good for getting free ringtones:
http://www.ventones.com/
Here are some free Jonas Brothers backgrounds and wallpapers for your computer and websites:
http://jonasbrothersfan.com/Interact/FanGallery/tabid/18458/AlbumID/26295-1695/Default.aspx
Take note that the free wallpaper and background may only have one Jonas Brother on it. Such as, a free Kevin Jonas Jonas Brother wallpaper, Joe Jonas Jonas Brother wallpaper, or Nick Jonas Jonas Brother wallpaper.
Here are some more Jonas Brother Desktop wallpaper links:
http://ima-fan.net/wallpaper/3.png
http://www.tigerbeatmag.com/wallpapers/Nick-Jonas-Birthday.jpg
http://www.go.ilcannocchiale.it/mediamanager/sys.user/10939/jonas_brothers_wallpaper.jpg
http://www.jonasbrothers.com/client_images/jonasbrothers/1188312747_logo_wallpaper1.jpg
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2167/2279787618_b2f682f3da.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.flickr.com/photos/mrs_emily_jonas/2279787618/&h=375&w=500&sz=73&hl=en&start=40&um=1&tbnid=hf4RhLv9py6JqM:&tbnh=98&tbnw=130&prev=/images%3Fq%3Djonas%2Bbrothers%2Bdesktop%2Bwallpapers%26start%3D20%26ndsp%3D20%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26client%3Dfirefox-a%26channel%3Ds%26rls%3Dorg.mozilla:en-US:official%26sa%3DN
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2167/2279787618_b2f682f3da.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.flickr.com/photos/mrs_emily_jonas/2279787618/&h=375&w=500&sz=73&hl=en&start=40&um=1&tbnid=hf4RhLv9py6JqM:&tbnh=98&tbnw=130&prev=/images%3Fq%3Djonas%2Bbrothers%2Bdesktop%2Bwallpapers%26start%3D20%26ndsp%3D20%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26client%3Dfirefox-a%26channel%3Ds%26rls%3Dorg.mozilla:en-US:official%26sa%3DN
http://jonas-pandemonium.com/
Remember that:
http://www.ima-fan.net/
May be helpful in finding the Jonas Brothers graphics and such.
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Okay, so apparently all of the Jonas Brothers (Kevin, Joe, AND Nick) all wear purity rings and vow to be virgins until they are married; however, exactly what religion is/are the Jonas Brothers?
I know some Christians wear purity rings but I'm not sure about other religions or if the Jonas Brothers are just doing it outside of a specific religion. So, do the Jonas Brothers believe in God? If they ARE Christian, could anyone tell me what denomination they are for sure?
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The Jonas Brothers are obviously Christian since they are actually considered a new Christian band.
Their father actually use to be a minister.
All three of the boys (Kevin Jonas, Joe Jonas, and Nick Jonas) do their Bible studies on the tour bus since they have very busy schedules.
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So, do any of the Jonas Brothers have girlfriends or are they all single? I would like a for sure answer, please! You know how those tabloids are with rumors.
I know they all three (Kevin, Joe, and Nick) wear purity rings and are wanting to be virgins until they are married, but does that also mean that they aren't going to date anyone?
I heard at one point that Nick Jonas was going to date Miley Cyrus (Hannah Montana), but is it true that they are dating each other or did they decide not to right now?
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Yes, all of the Jonas Brothers have dated; however, they are all currently single.
At one point Nick Jonas and Miley Cyrus were dating but have recently broken up. They remain friends. Nick Jonas has recently been accused of dating Selena Gomez, but this is not confirmed and he has stated that he is currently single.
You may also wonder what the Jonas Brothers want in girlfriend. Well, according to a few sources, they have claimed to want someone who:
Does not overly nag
Does not whine about trivial matters
Is very family-oriented
Gets along with their own mother
Kevin Jonas really reveals that they aren't looking for girlfriends, simply because of their hectic scheduling, while saying: "We're not ever really with people, 'cause we're always traveling. And you get on the phone and they're like, 'My day is awful, blah,' and you're like, 'This is not what I need right now!'"
So, in short, they aren't seeing anyone now but they have in the past. They are simply too busy to have girlfriends right now, but they will probably be back into the dating scene once their touring finishes off.
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Does Kevin Jonas of the Jonas Brothers really have a purity ring? If so, does he really wear the purity ring all of the time? Is it just a rumor that I heard?
If it isn't a rumor, what does his purity ring look like anyway? Does anyone have photos of it?
Can anyone supply me with pictures of Kevin Jonas actually wearing his purity ring if it's true?
Does his brothers (Joe Jonas and Nick Jonas) wear purity rings too? If so, what do theirs look like or are they all the same? Does anyone have pictures of them all wearing purity rings?
So, if they all do wear them, they are all virgins, right?
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Actually, yes, they all do wear purity rings to remind them of how special their virginities are and that they should keep pure until they are married.
Kevin Jonas was recently reported to have lost his purity ring, but order another one almost immediately. Kevin lost his purity ring on vacation at a water park.
Nick lost his first one and he got his second one in Disney. His is reportedly said to be engraved with the word "poned" but I have no evidence to back this up.
All three of the Jonas Brothers (Kevin Jonas, Joe Jonas, and Nick Jonas) wear their own purity ring on their left hand, ring finger.
When asked why they wear purity rings, Joe Jonas responded: "...promises to ourselves and to God that we'll stay pure till marriage."
Joe Jonas' ring is silver and adorned with a cross.
Joe Jonas has this to say about the ring: "It actually ripped apart a little bit, just on the bottom, here, but I didn't want to get a new one because this one means so much to me."
Nick Jonas said, " got mine made at Disney World. It's pretty awesome."
Kevin Jonas has a purity ring made by Tiffany, believe it or not. His silver ring is covered with studs. "It's pretty rock and roll," Kevin said. "It's getting banged up a little bit because of the guitar."
Here a photo of what CLAIMS to be the Jonas Brothers purity rings (although, I'm a bit skeptical since they don't match the descriptions given by the Jonas Brothers):
http://us.st12.yimg.com/us.st.yimg.com/I/tpa_2013_79589975
You can also see the Jonas Brothers wearing their purity rings here:
http://g.photos.cx/jonasbrotherspurityrings-75.jpg
This is aid to be Joe Jonas' new ring:
http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3080/2297277597_e69d726daf.jpg?v=0
This is said to Kevin's new ring:
http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3097/2297277595_daa0f33f1a.jpg?v=0
Yes, all three of the Jonas Brothers are virgins and plan to remain that way until their wedding night :)
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I'm a 18 year old Female.
I think i may be pregnant, and i really do not want to raise/give birth to a child. There is no abortion clinics around the area i live in, and i have no ways of getting to a close one(the closest one is 4 hours away). Me and my boyfriend are really not expecting a child, we both how alot of our life ahead of us. So getting to my question, since theres no way i can get to an abortion clinic, are there other ways that i can "abort the child", or "cause a miscarriage"? I'm too scared to confront my parents about this, and don't really know if it's possible i can make an appointment with my family doctor without my parents finding out.
Any answers are appreciated, and i know, i shouldn't be hving sex, because i know this is a consiquence of it, and i also am agaisnt abortion myself, but there is no way i can go on with this pregnancy,(if i am infact pregant) i know for sure i will not be able to raise it, and i would not be able to give it up for adoption.
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I really, truly understand your fears about being pregnant; however, you really need to realize that this is your fault and that you should have been more educated than you were. You made adult decisions and now it's time to deal with the adult consequences that have trailed behind it.
Now, I definately do not think abortion is right for you. You are young and I really don't want to see you screw up your entire life because you felt a baby was going to cause you issues. The problem should be in finding the right ways to raise your child than trying to find a way to get out of the mess you've put yourself in.
Abortion can really harm your body just as much as giving birth to a child. I understand your body may not be mature enough to handle pregnancy but no woman's body is truly ready to abort a fetus. A baby can deplete your body of nutrients (which is why pregnant women need to take their prenatal vitamins) but an abortion can leave you scarred physically and/or mentally.
Women who have had abortions can experience problems later on. Many women suffer from major depression for years after having an abortion because, in the end, they come to realize that they have completely stopped another human life. The dates of conception, abortion, and the estimated day the child would have been born haunts many women for years. Some woman can't deal with this so much that they end up committing suicide. If that isn't enough, many women experience difficulty conceiving years later after an abortion--yes, it can render you infertile for the rest of your days.
I found a VERY interesting site for teenagers on abortion. These girls had abortions when they were your age and have gained courage to write about their experiences for other teens to read:
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/abortionhome.cfm
Most of them regret that they had an abortion. Many of them cannot get over that fact and have the dates stuck in their minds. I'm sure that when that date passes each year they are reminded of what they went through to rid themselves of a life they were developing inside of their wombs.
I also want to direct you to a site that shows a live abortion. It's in different parts because the speaker gives you a lot of information on what the fetus and the mother will be going through. The video shows the ultra-sound as the procedure happens. It is important you see this before having an abortion so that you know fully what will be happening--it is best to inform yourself well. Before clicking the link to watch the video, prepare yourself because it is real life:
http://www.silentscream.org/video1.htm
...Part 3 really starts to show the actual abortion happening. The speaker does add that the doctor that did the abortion never did another one and that the woman filming it never spoke about abortion again, though she was previously for it.
Yes, that is a real baby, really feeling pain and maybe even fear during such a procedure. You can see that it was fully aware that it was being harmed and was not oblivious to the foreign object as many people would like you to believe.
Just as a note, some states will not perform an abortion past 4 months, most are done before the first 14 week mark. Abortions after 24 weeks are only performed because of health complications just as another note. The further along you are, the more expensive it will be. Here is also some information on how different types of abortions are done and what the baby is like during certain stages of development when these practices are performed.:
http://www.lifesitenews.com/abortiontypes/
Here are some REALLY, REALLY good videos that explain the different kinds of abortions:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBOAPleF1t0
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HDj12ffvpgY
Abortion is also a very risky procedure for the mother of the fetus as well. The woman does not just pee out some blood and experience pain--the mother bleeds out the lining of her uterus as it contracts strongly to expel the fetus. The baby, placenta, umbilical cord, and the thick lining of the uterus will come out of the vagina. Even if the doctor suctions all of the "matter" out of the uterus, the woman will still bleed and may suffer some scarring in her uterus (preventing her from EVER being able to have children).
Many women have even DIED because of hemorrhaging, infections, and other complications. It's usually a very painful process for the woman and she is usually let in physical pain for days/weeks following. As another note, the woman usually bleeds for WEEKS after the abortion so it honestly isn't just a little blood in the urine.
Here is a super great website that has links to all sorts of abortion-related issues:
http://www.eadshome.com/AbortionUgly.htm
...and they even have a section (and a couple of links) of women who have passed away because of an abortion:
http://www.eadshome.com/AbortionDeaths.htm
http://www.prolife.com/marlas.htm
...as a note, MANY women are dying because of abortions:
http://www.revver.com/video/824430/daughter-died-in-abortion-procedure/
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1331962/posts
http://www.prolife.com/DEADWMN.html
Please know that abortion is not your only option. Please give yourself plenty of time to decide what is the best choice. Even if your parents are upset that you are pregnant they will eventually get over it. Some parents can be really hurt in the beginning that their son or daughter disobeyed but, in the end, they still love you. Many parents later realize that the unborn baby IS their grandchild and help their son or daughter to figure out how to raise the baby when it comes.
Please do not put your body through the mess that is abortion. Please do not end a life that you have been helping grow. If both of your parents are not aware, take your chances and open up to your parents about what has happened. Like I said, even if they are upset they WILL get over it. If you're scared, there is help out there for you. You've learned the hard way about sexual consequences but it doesn't mean you can easily throw away the result.
Think about the life the child now. Yes, you were selfish and did not consider this major consequence (pregnancy) but you don't have to be any more selfish than you already have been. Even if you're not able to give him/her the best life, someone out there can. When couples look to adopt, they tend to look for infants anyway. By taking this child's life and ending it before it even gets started, you destroy what chance they had at being something. The baby did not do anything wrong here and should not be punished by death.
Adoption is always an option of yours if you are not physically, mentally, or financially capable of caring for another human life. Please look into it if you feel you can carry the child but not raise it properly. You can contact an adoption agency in your area or you can relinquish your rights of your child and place it in the custody of the state for adoption. I've read something about Volunteers of America for adoptions being really good but I have no personal experience with them myself. Here is a link directing you to their site:
http://www.voagno.org/Services/ChildrenYouthFamilies/AdoptionServices/tabid/1238/Default.aspx
Just as another note, some agencies actually let the expecting party interact with possible parents to ensure they are giving their child the best chance at life as possible. You may want to look into those agencies to help find your child good, loving parents. It may even be possible for you to work out a way that you can still be in the child's life lightly as they grow so you're aware of their progress.
Please give your child the best life you are able to. It's so stupid and unreasonable for you to end a life because you were too scared about your own. You CAN find a way to let this baby live. Don't let others pressure you to murder an innocent life because they are afraid for you. Many women go through this same battle every day and are able to raise a child successfully.
Any way it is, when a woman loses a baby--abortion, miscarriage, accident, etc.--it is extremely risky. Accidents are probably the most riskiest followed by an actual abortion. Purposely miscarrying means you damaged your body so much that it can no longer function properly.
You do not need to murder your unborn child.
Adoption is completely available and it costs NOTHING.
Hell, you can even leave a newborn at a hospital and you won't be questioned or anything. It is LEGAL to just up and leave your newborn in the hospital if you don't want it.
Regarding your pregnancy: Your parents WILL get over it.
Your partner WILL get over it--even if they do not support you! There are MANY women who make it as a single mother.
I hope that you take enough time to decide what choice is the best before rushing into things. If you have any more questions regarding this subject, please feel free to ask me. :)
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So, do the Jonas Brothers and Miley Cyrus (Hannah Montana) go on tour together? I mean, do they at least have some concerts they do together? I know they both haves on the Disney Channel so I was thinking that maybe they have to do a few concerts together every now and again.
If so, could someone please direct me to where their tour dates together are?
And does anyone have photos of Miley Cyrus with the Jonas Brothers, by chance? I heard they took photos together at some point but I can't find them anywhere!
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Actually, they no longer tour together but did for quite some time! The Jonas Brothers opened for Miley Cyrus/Hannah Montana on all of 54 scheduled tour dates back in 2006/2007. That simply was when the Jonas Brothers were trying to get better known. They now have their own separate tour dates, with Miley Cyrus currently not touring and the Jonas Brothers finishing up this tour.
Miley Cyrus and the Jonas Brothers will still be performing some concerts together, of course. They are both part of the Disney corporation at the moment and will be scheduled to do holiday concerts as they did last year for the Disney Christmas Parade.
Miley Cyrus and the Jonas Brothers will take the stage with other performers at Disney's Concert for Hope, a benefit concert supporting cancer research and treatment programs at City of Hope. It will be held Sunday, September 14, 2008, at the Gibson Amphitheatre at Universal City. Tickets for the concert will be available Saturday, August 16, 2008 at 10am.
Here are some photos of Miley Cyrus and the Jonas Brothers:
http://www.orbitcast.com/archives/miley-cyrus-jonas-brothers.jpg
http://www.bignews.biz/primages/jonas_brothers02.jpg
http://content6.flixster.com/photo/11/05/99/11059952_ori.jpg
http://i26.tinypic.com/9icp40.jpg
http://media.justjared.com/headlines/2008/01/miley-cyrus-new-years-eve.jpg
http://bp2.blogger.com/_TE7FfTo6R1s/R4bcEYl1G-I/AAAAAAAAACs/GXj7Rjuu16o/s1600-h/2086469063_35d42da7c7.jpg
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If I go to Disney World in Florida would I get to see Miley Cyrus or the Jonas Brothers play/sing a song or two? I mean, if I go the right night? If so, does anyone know of specific dates of them being at Disney World?
I heard Miley Cyrus (aka Hannah Montana on Disney) goes to Disney World a lot, but is that true? When Miley Cyrus does go to Disney, is it to just have fun in "The Magic Kingdom" or does she sign autographs and sing too?
Do the Jonas Brothers go there too for fun or vacation or do they stay away from Disney World since they have a show on Disney too?
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Miley Cyrus (aka Hannah Montana) does vacation at Disney World and Disneyland fairly frequently. She has been spotted there in The Magic Kingdom at Walt Disney World Resort in Lake Buena Vista, Florida on May 1, 2008. On May 02, 2008 she was reportedly seen talking with Walt Disney World guests about their favorite rides and attractions. She even celebrated the end of her tour on the 27th of January 2008 at Disney World--having a Wrap Party with her friends and family. As a note, she even skipped a red carpet event to relax at Disney World for awhile!
Obviously Miley Cyrus does concerts at Disney World in Orlando Florida. She did one on June 22, 2006. She has also appeared in the Walt Disney World Christmas Day Parade on November 18, 2007. Miley Cyrus/Hannah Montana made a performance on May 10, 2008 at Walt Disney World in Orlando, Florida. She had two concerts on January 27 and 28, 2008 in Disney World for the end of her touring bash.
Miley Cyrush/Hannah Montana participated in the Disney Channel Games April 24-27, 2007. Recently she had a Disney World concert on July 26, 2008 that aired on the Disney Channel.
Miley Cyrus, the Hannah Montana: Best Of Both Worlds concert singer celebrated the end of the tour on 30th of January at Disney World
As a note, she plans on being at Disneyland October 5th, 2008 to celebrate her birthday this year. The party will be from 6 to 11 p.m., with ticket sales limited to 5,000 fans. Tickets, priced at $250, will go on sale at 9 a.m. PDT, Saturday, Aug. 30, 2008 at:
http://disneyparks.disney.go.com/disneyparks/en_US/minisites/mileyCyrusSweet16Birthday/index
Miley Cyrus will probably be performing at Disney for scheduled holidays--such as the big Christmas Parade, but she cannot perform there very often. She has a show running and I'm sure will be touring again so will need a bit of rest at some point.
The Jonas Brothers also have tours going on currently so they, most likely, will not be at Walt Disney World performing. They did perform at the 2007 Christmas Day Parade for Disney World so they, most likely, will again this year. Nothing is set at the moment since their Parades are huge and it takes a lot of time to plan them out perfectly. They will be playing near Orlando, FL nearing the end of their tour:
9/4/2008 Tampa, FL [Ford Amphitheatre]
9/5/2008 West Palm Beach, FL [Cruzan Amphitheatre]
So they MAY end up dropping in at Disney World to relax but that is only a theory. It has been only suggested to The Jonas Brothers that they should have a big party for the end of their tour at Disney World. I'm sure they'd love to relax a little after their touring is over for the year.
As for performing together at the moment at Disney World or Disney Land, Miley Cyrus and The Jonas Brothers currently do not. They are busy with their own television series, especially that the Jonas will be having a new one coming out next year on the Disney Channel. The Jonas Brothers, believe it or not, do not get much free-time outside of performing and acting.
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What is Madonna's real, full name?
I figure she wasn't born as "Madonna" and ended up changing it to that because it's catchy or something. So, what is Madonna's birth name and current name anyway?
I know she has an album that is entitled "Madonna" so I'm curious if she had her middle and last name dropped officially and is seriously just named Madonna. Do you know? If not, what do you think?
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Who we know today as Madonna was actually born as Madonna Louise Ciccone. She was born on born August 16, 1958 in Bay City, Michigan.
Her legal name is Madonna Louise Ciccone Ritchie; however, she simply goes by Madonna just as each of us tend to go by our first name. She is married to Guy Ritchie, which is why she has tacked the name "Ritchie" to the end of her legal name.
It now seems that she wants to be called Esther, for newly found religious reasons; although, she has not legally changed her name to such.
So, in short, her name is Madonna Louise Ciccone Ritchie. She is typically referred to as Madonna, but would like to be referred to as Esther now.
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Is Eminem's name really Marshall Mathers or has he changed it to be Eminem or Slim Shady? If so, when did he change it legally/officially?
Also, was he actually born as Marshall Mathers, was that a nickname, or did he somehow get it changed to that at some point? What does Eminem prefer to be called anyway?
I know some of his CDs are labelled as such names: The Eminem Show, The Marshall Mathers LP, The Slim Shady LP, and Eminem Is Back. So, I was wondering what his real name happens to be!
Thank you! (link)
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Eminem's real name is actually Marshall Bruce Mathers III. Since we typically do not call people their middle names he is simply referred to as Marshall Mathers.
He has two stage names the currently goes by: Eminem and Slim Shady. He has never changed his birth-name to either of these.
He simply used the fact that his own initials are M.M. to create a stage name. Initially he took up the stage name as M&M, which later changed into the present spelling – "Eminem". He simply took the logo M&M and his birth initials and spelled them out to form an actual word, which is what he began going by. He was being referred to as Eminem by the age of 17.
When asked the significance of the nickname "Slim Shady" at the Hoboken Musical Festival in 2000; Marshal Mathers simply stated that: "Slim Shady sounded cool so I stuck with it."
His close friends tend to refer to him as "Em" or "Slim" -- shorter versions of his nicknames.
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Is there a website I can go to and view old photos of current celebrities. A lot of websites of these people are okay too as long as they have not-recent photos of them. I'm talking about childhood photos or even high school year book shots.
I'm specifically interested in finding young teenage photos of Angelina Jolie, Avril Lavigne, Britney Spears, Justine Timberlake, Drew Barrimore, Pamela Anderson, Jennifer Lopez, Sarah Jessica Parker, and Christina Aguilera.
I am also wondering if I can find photos of Miley Cyrus and the Jonas Brothers as children? Even baby pictures would be neat to see!
I was hoping I could get a good older photo of celebrities so I could mail them off to be signed by them! I know if you mail a photo of Miley Cyrus or Jonas Brothers to Disney they are suppose to mail it back to you with their autograph! :)
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You can find many childhood / teenage celebrity photos on this site:
http://www.eatliver.com/celebrities-kids/
Childhood Angelina Jolie:
http://www.eatliver.com/celebrities-kids/angelina-jolie.jpg
Teenage Angelina Jolie:
http://eatliver.com/celebrities/img/angelina-jolly.jpg
Teenage Avril Lavigne:
http://www.eatliver.com/celebrities-kids/avril-lavigne.jpg
Childhood Britney Spears:
http://www.eatliver.com/celebrities-kids/britney-spears.jpg
Childhood Christina Aguilera:
http://www.eatliver.com/celebrities-kids/christina-aguilera.jpg
Young Teenage Courtney Love:
http://www.eatliver.com/celebrities-kids/courtney-love.jpg
Childhood Demi Moore:
http://www.eatliver.com/celebrities-kids/demi-moore.jpg
Childhood Drew Barrimore:
http://www.eatliver.com/celebrities-kids/drew-barrimore.jpg
Young Teenage Eminem/Slim Shady/Marshall Mathers:
http://www.eatliver.com/celebrities-kids/eminem.jpg
Childhood Jennifer Lopez:
http://www.eatliver.com/celebrities-kids/jennifer-lopez.jpg
Teenage Pamela Anderson:
http://www.eatliver.com/celebrities-kids/pamela-anderson.jpg
Young Teenage Sarah Jessica Parker:
http://www.eatliver.com/celebrities-kids/sarah-jessica-parker.jpg
Teenage Sarah Jessica Parker:
http://eatliver.com/celebrities/img/sara-jessica-parker.jpg
You can also find other celebrities there like: Tom Cruise, Tom Hanks, Nicole Kidman, Ricky Martin, Leonardo DiCaprio, Kurt Cobain, Madonna, Mariah Carey, Meg Ryan, Marilyn Manson, Michael Jordan, Michael Jackson, Janet Jackson, Helen Hunt, Jean Claude Van Damme, Jennifer Aniston, Halle Berry, and Julia Roberts.
Here are some adorable baby photos of Miley Cyrus when she was growing up (she still is)!:
http://www.buzznet.com/tags/mileycyrus/photos/baby-miley-cyrus/?id=37962001
http://mileycyruslovers.wetpaint.com/page/Miley+Cyrus+Younger+Years+Pictures?t=anon
There are tons of cute photos of the Jonas Brothers growing up (even a photo of them as little sailors!):
http://www.thejonasbrotherssite.com/page/Jonas+Brothers+Baby+Pictures?t=anon
http://media.photobucket.com/image/baby%20jonas/emilymarrymex/510945993_l.jpg?o=
http://media.photobucket.com/image/baby%20jonas%20brothers/kk_wwe/Jonas/babyjb.jpg?o=
http://media.photobucket.com/image/baby%20jonas%20brothers/shikttlexbishkit/Jonas%20Brothers/baby.png?o=
You can also type in exactly what you're looking for regarding pictures of idols at TeenIdols4You:
http://www.teenidols4you.com
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When did Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher get married? I don't remember seeing it in the tabloids and I really want to know about their wedding.
Was it a big wedding in a fancy location or small and secretive? Does anybody know where it actually took place at?
Did they honeymoon off somewhere in like Italy or France?
I remember when Demi Moore and Bruce Willis finally divorced back in October of 2000, I think, but I had no idea she actually remarried Aston Kutcher! Did she change her last name and become Demi Kutcher?
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It was definitely a secretive marriage between Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher!
Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher were married on September 24, 2005 in the evening. They were wed in their own home in Beverly Hills. The wedding was fairly small for a celebrity marriage, having only about 100 close friends and family attending. Some of the guests included: Demi's three daughters (Rumer Glenn Willis, Scout LaRue Willis, Tallulah Belle Willis), Bruce Willis, Lucy Liu, Soleil Moon Frye, Jason Goldberg, and Wilmer Valderrama.
The Moore-Kutcher wedding ceremony took place around 10p.m. and was led by Rabbi Eitan Yardeni. Demi Moore was said to have worn a cream Lavin gown while Aston stood handsomely dressed in a cream Brooks Brothers suit and fedora.
Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher honeymooned in Barcelona, Spain. They stayed at the Hotel Rey Juan Carlos I. On their honeymoon Demi shot a commercial for Freixenet, a Spanish sparkling wine.
Typically celebrities do not change their names legally so that they do not have to go through the hassle of being unrecognized on-screen. Demi Moore, most assuredly, kept her last name so that when her name appears on screen she will still be recognized. It takes a lot to make their names famous so it will take a whole lot to convince them to change it.
Here is a photo of Demi and Aston facing each other during the actual ceremony:
http://www.engagements.ca/images/ashton_demi.jpg
Here is a photo of Ashton Kutcher "kissing the bride"--his new bride Demi Moore:
http://frillr.com/files/images/Lanvin%20%20bridal%20range.JPG
Here is a photo of the happy couple cutting their wedding cake together:
http://media.podhoster.com/theliberators/images/demi-moore-ashton-kutcher-wedding.jpg03.jpg
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How many guitars does each of the Jonas Brothers have?
There are three of them, just for reference: Kevin Jonas, Joe Jonas, and Nick Jonas. I'm not talking about Frankie Jonas though!
Also, does anyone have photos of the Jonas Brothers with some (or all, if it's possible) of their guitars?
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According to Question & Answer section on the official Jonas Brothers website:
Kevin Jonas has 12 guitars.
Joe Jonas has 5 guitars.
Nick Jonas has 12 guitars.
So, altogether, they have about 29 different guitars.
http://www.jonasbrothers.com/?content=q_and_a
Here are some photos of Jonas Brothers holding some guitars:
This is a photo of Nick Jonas playing one of his guitars during concert:
http://www.peace-love-jonasbrothers.com/nicholas.jpg
Here are all three of the Jonas Brothers (Kevin, Joe, and Nick) holding a couple of guitars for a photo shoot:
http://jonasbrothersfan.com/Portals/12/biopicthree.gif
Here is another photo from a photo-shoot of the Jonas Brothers:
http://lh3.ggpht.com/_IHkD9waLX4w/Runtb5KyLlI/AAAAAAAABic/o8IypI3gixo/normal_lq033.jpg
Here is the Jonas Brothers holding a blue guitar that they signed and auctioned for charity (I believe the charity was the Make-A-Wish Foundation ):
http://www.missangelamarie.com/images/jonas_brothers_holding_signed_guitar_fips.jpg
Here is another photo of the Jonas Brothers holding another guitar they auctioned off for charity (guitar signed by all of the Jingle Jam artists):
http://alt.coxnewsweb.com/cnishared/tools/shared/mediahub/09/16/17/slideshow_317169_IMG_4971.JPG
Here is two of the Jonas Brothers playing a couple of guitars:
http://cache.viewimages.com/xc/73699863.jpg?v=1&c=ViewImages&k=2&d=17A4AD9FDB9CF1935B3684F2B7A07BEB4D00551417EC5C11284831B75F48EF45
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Are the Jonas Brothers still on tour?
If so, where/what are the Jonas Brothers tour dates?
Is there a way to get their autographs without having to go the Jonas Brothers concert?
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The Jonas Brothers won't be on tour for too much longer, but according to their website, they have 8 more dates schedule in the months of August and September of 2008. Here they are:
8/26/2008 Pittsburgh, PA [Post-Gazette Pavilion]
8/27/2008 Philadelphia, PA [Susquehanna Bank Center]
8/29/2008 Syracuse, NY [New York State Fair]
8/30/2008 Allentown, PA [Great Allentown Fair]
8/31/2008 Essex Junction, VT [The Champlain Valley Exposition]
9/2/2008 University Park, PA [Bryce Jordan Center]
9/4/2008 Tampa, FL [Ford Amphitheatre]
9/5/2008 West Palm Beach, FL [Cruzan Amphitheatre]
From their website tour section located here:
http://www.jonasbrothers.com/?content=tour
You can purchase autographed photos of The Jonas Brothers on ebay and at Disney. You can actually mail off your favorite photo of The Jonas Brothers (or separate ones of Kevin Jonas, Joe Jonas, or Nick Jonas) to Disney and they will mail you it back signed by them. The address to do this is:
The Walt Disney Company
Attn: Fan Mail Dept.
500 South Buena Vista Street
Burbank, CA 91521
I am uncertain if it will cost any money to get the Jonas Brothers to sign it; however, you could always contact Disney before mailing off your favorite photo so you know to include a certain amount of money if required. Disney's contact email address is:
wdw.guest.communications@disneyworld.com
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What is Miley Cyrus's (of Hannah Montana on Disney) real name? I heard she was given a different name when she was born. If so, when did she have her birth name officially/legally changed?
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Miley Ray Cyrus was born on November 23, 1992 in Nashville, Tennessee, USA. Her parents are Leticia 'Tish' Cyrus and Billy Ray Cyrus.
She actually was born named Destiny Hope Cyrus. She changed her name to Miley because when she was a little girl her father nicknamed her Smiley Miley. Her called her this because she smiled a lot and he felt it was a cute nickname.
She changed her middle name to "Ray" after her father, who is actually a famous country singer himself. She told ET! that she changed her middle name to "Ray" simply because she wanted to be like her father.
The only person that still refers to her as Destiny is her grandmother, and Miley Cyrus really doesn't mind at all; although, she does prefer to be called Miley.
Miley Ray Cyrus changed her name from Destiny Hope Cyrus mid to late January 2008 (it was first reported changed on the 28th of January 2008).
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Does Miley Cyrus (from Hannah Montana on Disney) have a fan club? If so, how and where do I join her fan club?
Does she have an official website anyway?
Also, is there a place I can get an autographed photo of Miley Cyrus?
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The Miley Cyrus/Hannah Montana official fan club can be found here:
http://www.mileyworld.com/community/home
That I can see, it's $29.95 per year to join. You can chat with other fans, enter Miley Cyrus' contests to win prizes, and even purchase tickets to her concerts since she's on tour.
To sign up, you'll need to make a username, create a password, enter your first name, select your gender, and supply your birth date. It will then go to ask your for your mailing address and credit card number.
Miley Cyrus' official website is actually located here:
http://www.mileycyrus.com/official
You can get more information about her there, tour dates, photos, and even sign-up for a Miley Cyrus Newsletter. It's free to check out and you won't need a credit card or to sign up for anything to get started.
You can purchase autographed photos of Miley Cyrus on ebay and at Disney. You can actually mail off your favorite photo of Miley Cyrus (or Hannah Montana) to Disney and they will mail you it back signed by her. The address to do this is:
The Walt Disney Company
Attn: Fan Mail Dept.
500 South Buena Vista Street
Burbank, CA 91521
I am uncertain if it will cost any money to get her to sign it; however, you could always contact Disney before mailing off your favorite photo so you know to include a certain amount of money if required. Disney's contact email address is:
wdw.guest.communications@disneyworld.com
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Okay so I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 months now, and I am on SSI "Social Security disability" I also filled out a housing application. (State Housing) The problem is.. I can't add my boyfriend to my lease!!! and I'm about to move out soon. My boyfriend an I want to get an apartment together but I have no money in the bank... and I don't know how it would ever work out because of the whole money thing and the cost for regular apartments and I'm worried on how this is all going to work out.. and argh I don't know what too do! (link)
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I'm sorry, but from what I can tell, there isn't going to be a way that this is working out the way you two really want.
If you simply cannot afford a "regular" rent apartment then I'm not sure how things could possibly work unless he had a pretty good job and could support most of the rent and necessities. I understand that the cost of living is pretty high and that you may already have trouble making ends meet by the end of the month on your SSI check.
My friend is living in a low-income apartment at the moment. She wanted to live with her boyfriend but it simply was not feasible so he comes and visits pretty often and spends nights. I suppose that would be a fairly decent alternative for you.
I also suggest that you may want to wait a few months before venturing out on your own simply because you state "I have no money in the bank." This is troubling because I fear you may hit a bump in the road and use what money you will be getting from your monthly SSI check before the month is over. Life throws some curve balls at us that we sometimes don't see coming, so please remember that.
I also want to note that you may be able to talk to the Social Security Administration about getting yourself a part-time job. My father is on SSI and I have found out that he qualifies to work a part-time job that does not involve much physical labor. This may give you a little hope in helping yourself to save up money for the future.
So, the way I see it, it simply is just not time for you to move in a place of your own with your boyfriend. It may simply be time to relax, wait a little while, and save the money you are already receiving. A part-time job may be acceptable if you feel able to work a few hours a day at a slow-paced job, but please do not force yourself to do something that you are not capable of.
In time, if you save wisely, you will be able to afford a better place to live with whomever you choose. If your boyfriend also saves then that time may come quicker than you imagine. This will also give you two the chance to build your relationship further and continue seeing each other frequently for dates (which you may have to stop experiencing if you two move into a place you can barely afford).
I highly suggest you not move into a regular apartment on your income at the time being or until you have a nice sum of money saved up and you and your boyfriend are working jobs. You simply do not want to be caught in the middle of a crisis with no money or stuck in a situation that you see no way out of.
I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news and I hope that things work out with your new living situation and with your partner. If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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