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my guy friend that i like a lot and he likes me back. the problem is that he got a girlfriend and i got a boyfriend(well had not anymore) but i know he likes me because he is always askin me to hang out and i think like i lost my chance because when he was single i didnt ask him out but it was only because i just meet him. do guyes think i lsot my chance. but he keeps telling me he dont care what his gf says bc what she doesnt noe wont hurt her. what should i do? i am confussed.

Um...if he STILL likes you and STILL asks you to hang out, you didn't lose your chance and he obviously wants to be with you.

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I have 2 kids no husband. I have made alot of mistakes in the past escpecially being premiscuous. I have compltly turned my life around now. Is it too late for or will God forgive me and except me into Heaven. Please someone who belives in God or is a Pastor or something help me.

You don't need a husband to be a complete person. Focus less on that and more on being a good mother. Most people believe that God will always forgive you. I believe that no God would punish His or Her people. I think that whole Heaven/Hell thing is sick. There's nothing wrong with being a single mother. MEN are trying to bring you down, MEN are trying to opress you and control you. That's why MEN tell you that your lifestyle is wrong. Even God is depicted as a MAN, and guess what else? MEN wrote the Bible! You're a woman. DON'T LET ANYBODY CONTROL YOU. And don't worry about getting to Heaven until you're dead. -.^

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I'm questioning my faith
i'm not sure what it was in the first place really
um... but I think i'm just kind of having a bit of a crisis, not sure where to turn
I come from a semi-Christian background

It's totally, totally okay to question yourself. Even when you are much older, you probably won't know where you are in life. It's okay to experiment with your religion. You can try out some Wicca stuff, Christian things, Buddhism, Judaism, etc. You can even take what you like from different religions and combine them into your own personal faith. You might find that you don't want to have a religion at all. Whatever you do is perfectly fine. Don't define yourself based on a religion...you are YOU, and no matter what you believe in you will ALWAYS be you. When it comes right down to it, that's all that really matters.

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i need help in my spirtul life with god. im a christian an all that but i wan to grow mor with god!
how can i get closer to god?

Best thing to do is not to try. God is all around you, you can't be any closer to him. Focus on your life and yourself, and others around you. God's always with you no matter what you do.

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Hey guys, i like to read a lot, and i've read many famous books like To kill a mocking bird, Catcher in the Rye, Harry potter, and so on. Anyways does anyone know any really really good books, and authors for when i go to the library next time? And i dont want books that you have heard sound good, but actual books you guys have read and really enjoyed, like an "i never want to put it down" kinda book if that makes sense. Thanks luv ya!

Jane Eyre is my favorite book of all time. And I like Gossip Girl. Yeah, I know, it seems like it's really lame, but it's not. It's cool. And they're easy to read, too. If you like Harry Potter, read the Bartimaeus Trilogy and City of Ember. Ooh, ooh! A Series of Unfortunate Events. Those books rock my pet sperm whale, whose name is Hawk. And I saw this thing in the bookstore today, only read the first chapter but it was amazing, Seduced by Moonlight. Or something like that. Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy is also very, very awesome. And if you're into comics/manga at all, try Fushigi Yugi, Fushigi Yugi: Genbu Kaiden (that's the prequel to Fushigi Yugi), and Ceres Celestial Legend.

Ta for now,
Tasuki

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Im 15/f. At the moment I'm a Christian, but I'm considering becoming a solitary witch. I've got some questions I'd like to know the answers to from people who actually practise witchcraft and aren't just writing a book

1) Do I need to start praying to the God straight
away?
2) Do I definetely need a separate altar, goddess
shrine, god shrine and lunar shrine because I
only have a small room
3) Does being a witch cost a lot of money?
I'm too young to get a job so I don't have
much money

Don't get me wrong, I really want to become a witch. It's just that the books I'm reading just aren't answering all my questions as they are written by older women dedicated to the craft completely, not a young beginner. Any sources of information or tips on becoming and being a solitary witch are also welcome.

Thanx to the moon and back xxx

1) You don't even need to pray. Some people don't believe in it. Just do what's right for you.

2) Not really. I don't have an altar. I mean, my whole universe is pretty much dedicated to my deities.

3) Again, not really. A lot of people want to sell you "Wiccan" things. They're just capitalists. Don't trust them. You don't need a fancy athame, a regular old butter knife will do. You don't need a big leather Book of Shadows. You can get a five dollar journal at Barnes and Noble or an even cheaper spiral notebook at the grocery store.

Just as long as you believe in it, you don't need trendy witch stuff. You should atleast get incense though. It's very cheap.

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my parents are so over protective. im 13 and they wont even let me jog aroung my block or go to the mall with a friend it gets on my nerves cause my dad always bring up these stories of about these 25 yr olds who get kidnapped raped and killed i told him to sign me up 4 self defense if hes so paranoied but he just gets mad he wont listen. Please help @ this rate i will be a prisoner without freedom and locked away in a tower at age 45.




thanks ill rate high!

Sorry, but I agree with your parents. Somewhat. I mean...I think you should be able to go to the mall. It's a nice big place filled with lots of people. Little kids may be targeted there, but I'm sure if you stick with your friends you would be able to handle it. But around the neighborhood, I'd be scared to let my thirteen-year-old out alone. Try to negotiate with your parents in a reasonable, mature way. No whining. They love you and want to protect you, but you must make them realize that someday you will be an adult and you need to learn how to take care of yourself or else you'll never KNOW how to take care of yourself. They want you to be independent and happy, even though they seem to be clouded by their fears. Tell them that they're not giving you permission to do drugs, you're just growing up. And as you grow up, the shackles of childhood are slowly taken off, one by one. You're not completely going out in the real world yet, you're just getting a little taste of it and that's exactly what you need to grow up to be a normal, respected member of society. And if that doesn't work...go rent a kenpo tape and get some self defense books...then kick their asses (no, that's a joke). Parents always have trouble realizing that their baby is becoming an adult, and it's your job to help them through this difficult time. Good luck.

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I really like the kid im going out with. He asked me out a little over a week ago but I had said no because Im so busy over the summer. Now, I regret saying yes this time because I have way too much going on. Im gonna be a freshman next year and Im on the high school cheerleading squad. It takes up a lot of my time and im also playing softball all summer. I go to the cape almost every weekend, and I need some time to myself, plus I have a lot of work to do before I go back to school. I dont know what to do because I wont ever see him and I feel so tied down because im always worried about finding time to be with him. Should I dump him? If so, how should I do it in a way to let him know that we're still going to be great friends like we have been? I'll rate high

Don't DUMP him. Dumping someone is when you say, "I hate you, never speak to me again." Just tell him that even though you really like him, you can't spend as much time with him as you'd like to so it's not really going to work out. If he takes it the wrong way, forget him. You're better off.

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i don't know what to do because my boyfriend got grounded and he says he's going to sneak out to see me but last time he did that he got caught and got grounded for even longer. I've been trying to talk him out of it but its not working. what things can i say to him to try to talk him out of it because if he gets caught then we won't be able to see eachother for even longer.

Tell him that you're not even going to be home, you'll be at your aunt's house out of state, so it's totally useless for him to sneak out anyway and he should stay home and watch a movie with his family.

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My mom and dad are making me get a 93 peice of crap ford explorer for my first car, any idea's on how to increase its sexyness, help would be much aprechiated

Hm. That's too bad. Probably for the best though. You might crash it. You don't want to do that for a brand new sports car. Plus it costs less for insurance. Personally, old cars turn me on sooo much. I see a guy--hell even a girl--driving an old 1920s style car, and I'm horny for days. My friends agree with me, as well. Just keep it clean and be good to your baby, and appreciate what you have. I'm totally jealous of you--I don't even have my own car! I have to share!! But I think of the people all over the world that can't even afford to eat a decent meal and have to have sex with disgusting old men just to pay for a grain of rice, and I suck it up. So whenever you're feeling down, just remember that there are a LOT of people worse off than you. And that old cars are sexy. Ooh baby.

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Does shaving your legs make your skin rough and make the hair grow darker? I've been using many other products like exfoliators that don't work, and my parents refuse to buy me a hair removal cream because of the excess of chemicals. I want to shave my legs, but I don't want the hair to be coarse and dark. Is this a myth? Should I shave? My hair is already really dark, because I have black hair...

Nope, that's true. The more you shave your legs, the darker and thicker the hair will be when it grows back. It will also grow back faster. Thankfully this is only true for your legs, nature is more merciful for those required to shave their faces. Try wearing long pants, or you could just shave them and get used to the whole faster/darker/thicker thing. For your skin, it doesn't make it rough if you use Skintimate brand shaving gel and some nice, soft Johnson's brand lotion, like the kind used on babies. As for the hair removal cream, don't bother with it. It smells really bad and I think it removes some of the skin on your hands because whenever I used to use it, my hands would always feel like they had a layer taken off. But if you do decide to atleast try it out, just tell your parents that 1)You'll pay for it yourself and 2)The world is already filled with dangerous chemicals. You can't eat, breath, drink, go swimming, or anything without taking in thousands of toxins and absorbing radioactivity. So how much is it gonna hurt if you use Nair?

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This is kind of embarrassing, but I'm concerned that I'm not normal. What is the usual number of bowel movements a person should have per week?
Ag, Thank you!

Like one a day. If you're having problems, talk to a doctor, take some pepto, get some diapers or don't eat food that disagrees with you. Having a condition doesn't make you not normal, it just makes you...um...let's put it this way, everybody has something weird about them.

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whaT DO you do if u hear your parents ummm..... doing it. they're like 48 and i think its wrong. They were both making sounds and i don't want to confront either one. please help me i dont no y but it bothers me.




ill rate high for good answers

It's not wrong for them to have sex. They're human, they have needs, and they're a married couple for crying outloud. But it's understandable that it bothers you. Nobody, not even the most sick minded person you can think of, wants to think about, see, or hear their parents having sex. Maybe you could get some headphones and listen to music at night, or if you have a spare room far away from your parents you could ask if you can move your stuff in there. Or...*giggles evily*...I don't really condone this, but you could blast your TV and stereo at the same time and when they come in and say, "Stop being so loud!" you can say, "I will if you will." I know a guy who's parents have sex ON HIS BED. I once walked in on my parents playing video games in the nude, and for some reason my father loves to joke about it. I know it totally sucks, but it's just another thing you have to deal with. Just remember your pain for when you have kids and be nice by only having sex when they're at their friend's house or having a room far away from theirs. But for now, you just have to accept that your parents have sex, and put those headphones on. Other than that there is not much you can do, and I really don't reccommend confronting them about it...that's...freaky.

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does sex hurt the 1st time? how bad? plz help

Yep. It hurts. A lot. You'll think you're dying. When you finally get over the pain, you'll realize that--horror of all horrors--you're pregnant!! Brace yourself, as much as the first time having sex hurts...childbirth is infinitely worse. Best way to go? Don't have sex til you're ready, and no offense but you don't really seem ready.

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hey! i stay home in the summer (cant go outside or anything like that) soo what can i do? being online bores me too much. so what are some other things that i can do to keep busy && things that are sumwhat fun? any ideas? all i do now is just like be on the computer or watch tv... so what else is fun to do? ♥ nicole

Why can't you go outside? That seems kind of--no--extremely sketchy to me. Do your parents make you stay inside all day? You can't even go out and play in the yard? Or in the parking lot if you live in an apartment building? Anyway, stuff I like to do is reading books, writing my own wonderful stories, and drawing. Release your inner creativity. Maybe write a story about how you're not allowed to go outside. Someday when you're famous you can publish it. Or maybe you can publish it to become famous. I dunno. Good luck and I hope someday you're able to get a breath of fresh air. =)

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im 14 years old. My mom isnt working right now so we dont have alot of money. The clothes i wear are american eagle, aeropostale, hollister, and abercrombie mostly. Well for school my mom said i cant get alot of clothes unless i buy them with my own money. i was wondering if anyone knew a way i could make money for some clothes. The place that i live at there arent that many kids, so i cant baby sit around here. Does anyone have any ideas?

I don't get it. If your family is having money problems, why are you crying about clothes? I mean, really. There's nothing wrong with buying your clothes at Wal Mart for a little less money. What does it cost at Abercrombie? Like $70 dollars for a shirt that will get stained the first time you wear it and then shrink in the wash? I don't know because I've never gone there, but it sounds to me like a ripoff. My family has money issues too, most do (especially these days, with the end of the world upon us and all). I try not to worry about it, but when I do get really worried, I concentrate more on the fact that my family needs food than the desire I have for a few new outfits and the new Genbu Kaiden novel. I think you can get a part time job at fourteen. I worked at the city library. Try doing that. And remember that there's nothing wrong with wearing shirts you've worn before, buying slightly cheaper clothes, or buying less clothes.

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My question is:

I have a sports bike, a crotchrocket, and am wondering if I wear a jacket that says "chopper" would I look weird wearing it? Is it clashy? I know that if I wore a Harley helmet that says"Harley Davidson" than it would look weird. So I'm thinking the same anology aplies here, since a crotchrocket is definitely is not a chopper. Does any one know if I can wear a jacket like that? Money is not an issue, I just want to look put together on my bike. By the way, I'm a female.
Thanks!

I think it's kind of stupid to wear something that other people wear just to look cool. Wear something unique. Or maybe cause you think this is "weird", you should do it and then you'd be unique. I think creativity is the most important thing ever.

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Ok, well there is a dude at my church. He is so sweet, funny and hott. I wish he would like me. I mean I do not know if he doesnot. But one time I asked him out and he said maybe. SoOo, how do I get him to like me?Or get him to hang with me.

Make friends with him just like you would anybody else. Invite him over, maybe be a little flirty, hang out with him but bring a few other friends along so it's less like a date, but so you can show him you're trying to get close to him. But don't focus on trying to get him as a boyfriend. You have to treat him like a human first. And anyway, if you become friends and realize that he's not right for you, it's no big deal. You will still be friends. If you dated him and found out he wasn't the right guy, that would suck because then you'd break up and it would just be awful. There's a lot more to guys than being sweet, funny, and hott. Believe me.

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What can you use for masterbating besides your fingers?

Well you should NOT use knives, pencils, scissors, razors, or other things like that. You can buy a dildo or, um, make your own. But make sure it's CLEAN and that you use it safely.

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Hi um...evertime my period stops i always have this goey white stuff come out of my vagina i dont kno if it is normal or if i should tell a docter.

That's totally normal, so get used to it. ^^

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