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BIKINI INCIDENT.
Yeah, so I was at my friends party, Jaci. & it was at the rec center. So, when we were swimming.. this one girl Ellen, she just kept talking to the guys. [They tried to like crash our party, they weren't even invited.]
**By the way, all the girls were invited.
So, we like hate them. & there like slutty Ellen is FLIRTING AWAY WITH THEM. So, my friend Stephanie & me got mad.. because it made Jaci cry, & so we also were like dude, way to ditch us. So, we went behind her, & you know when you wanna get someones attention, you snap there bikini? like.. yeah.. well thats what my friend Stephanie & I meant to do. We were in the deep end & Stephanie & me suck at swimming, so we both grabbed the ends, & it like started to come undone, but she caught it the second it did. & the guys said they didn't even see anything. So, then she got all mad at us. & like all the girls & half the guys like hate her.. so they were all like GOOD JOB! So, we still apologized, because we felt bad. But, instead of her just slowly forgiving us. She told all these people, & made them think we were lesbians. Which is TOTTALY gay, considering Stephanies had like 4 boyfriends & I've had like 8 boyfriends & madeout with them and such. So, yeahh. We're mad that they think that. I don't know what do. Everyone kept teasing Stephanie in school, about it. They didn't say anything to me, because.. well I'm mean. haha. But, I don't know whether to yell at Ellen, & like completely ruin her life.. or to, just act like I don't care & never talk to her again.

What is the best way to go about this?
I don't care if I'm being mean or nice. So, thats not why I just want to ignore it. But, to act like I don't care.

Hmmmm. Advice please??

ignore it. obviously you guys aren't lesbians. slutty ellen haha =) that part was funny, but anyways, yeah it's just ms/hs drama. nothing more. eventually it will juss go away & everyone will forget about it. you shouldn't really care either. you made a mistake [which every human being basically has done] & you appologized. what else can you do?? send her a huge appology card?? no. she'll get over it & the reason why she's calling you lesbians is most likely because she's embarrased that you guys did that. it really isn't a big deal. if you do want to be her friend, try talking to her about it.

-hope that helped!♥

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How do you know if you got herpes ? And how do you get it ? Can you get it from sucking dick ? What would happen if you kissed someone & you have herpes ? Would they like get bumps on their lips & like break out on their mouth or something ? PLEASE TELL MEEEE

herpes is an std, so it can be dangerous. you should be extremely careful & go to a doctor if it turns out that you do have herpes. there's a few things you should know though.

signs & symptoms-
sexual contact & an open sore. it's commonly caught when you kiss & the other person has herpes & open sores occur. you can get it by genital-genital contact or oral-genital contact, so yes you could get it that way.

you'll eventually have a sore if you catch herpes. it's something you'll know/see.

here's a website-
http://www.cdc.gov/std/Herpes/STDFact-Herpes.htm
that will give you a lot of extra information.

-hope that helped!♥

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k so i still like a girl who a dated two years back. we we're really close had our ups and downs and lasted about a year. we've always had feelings for eachother and recently we've told eachother things about how we want to get married and all that good stuff.

the bad part of it all, is there is this girl who seems to be infatuated with me. i know its not affection, which is the first step i know to recognize what i should do. basically we made out while she was completely naked..and we tried to have intercourse. but thankfully, it didnt go in.

my dilema is telling girl no.1 about what happened, and stopping what is happening with girl no.2

any advice please?!!?!?! im desperate =\

you have to be honest with girl number 1, even if she gets really mad at you. just because you didn't tell her, doesn't mean she won't find out. that stuff happens to go around fast believe it or not. just be open & honest. that's what a relationship is about anyways. you should really stress the fact that it is infatuation, not affection with girl number 2. if you guys aren't together & almost had sex, that means she basically cares about nothing but that. that's how it is in most cases anyway. talk to girl number 2 before girl number 1. why?? you can cut it off with her & then when you tell girl number 1, you can explain that you already have & what not. good luck with this situation.

-hope that helped!♥

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I don't know why, but small noises (such as people smacking their lips when they eat, or someone breathing heavily) make me really annoyed. I can't talk to anyone if they are doing something like that, because I can't concentrate. Can someone tell me what's going on??

14/f

i've had the problem with the eating thing & believe it or not, a lot of people do. it would be extremely rude to say something, especially if you aren't friends with that person. the best thing to do would be to get over it. yes people are going to do it & some won't even care if it bothers you. you'll have to find another way to concentrate so that it doesn't bother you. basically they're juss bad habits. if it's really bad, maybe you can just move, think of someone else, talk to someone, or sing a song in your head. sometimes that stuff helps. if it's seriously really bad, it wouldn't be a bad idea to talk to a physcologist about it. if not, you'll have to learn how to get over it by yourself.

-hope that helped!♥

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I have a strange problem.
My boobs got smaller.
My bras don't fit anymore, but my old bras do.
I went down about a cup size.
How is this possible???

losing weight causes you to lose a cup size. if you are on any type of diet or have just been doing a lot of exercising, that happens.

if not, i'd suggest talking to a parent & going to the doctor just to make sure.

-hope that helped!♥

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What styles are really in this season for the whole "preppy" look. All the way from hair and make-up - to shoes? My favorite stores are hollister, abercrombie, and american eagle. So anything from there will do =) ...or any other store you suggest! Thanks a bunch!!

uhh i'm not really sure how you would define 'preppy' cause i don't like labels too much, but here's a cute outfit from those stores-

hollister-
www.hollisterco.com
they have really cute jean skirts
& leggings. go on their website
& you can look it up

now take that & get boots
american eagle-
www.ae.com
they have cute boots/clogs you can try

also, you need a cute sweater or shirt
www.abercrombie.com
you can get a long sleeve or sweater you like.

for hair & make up, i'd suggest
straightening your hair or curling it/scrunching
it & then have brown/light makeup.

-hope that helped!♥

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My school dance is coming up and I have a really cute outfit in mind, and it would look best with metalic leggings. I've looked around on the internet, but I caoon't seem to find any. If you anyone could tell me where to find some, I would greatly appreciate it! Thanks in advance!

you can find them at hollister. they're a bit expensive, but every other website i tried, they didn't have any.

here's a website-
www.hollisterco.com

-hope that helped!♥

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i just started playing tennis and i was wondering if you are suppose to wear anything under your tennis panties

yes, i'd highly suggest wearing underwear of some sort that are comfortable. a lot of bacteria could build up if you don't.

-hope that helped!♥

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14/f

Last night (Friday), I went to my crushes house. I was there with 5 other guys, and 1 other girl (who left early). Anyways, my crush made it totally obvious that he liked me. The thing is, even though he is really funny, every one is always saying how annoying he is. I've also never had a boyfriend, and I guess you could say I'm pretty, just not hott.

Anyways, I am basically almost positive he likes me, but I don't know its just pretty awkward, and I really dont know what to do.

The other thing is, my group of friends have never really dated either, and its because they don't really hang out with guys. So when I told them I was going to his house with 5 other guys, they were like acting really wierd.
I'm kind of sick of these friends, and I sort of want to hang around with a new crowd (not such a prude-ish crowd)

So I need help on either question: What should I do about my crush, and what should I do about my friends

there is a few things you can do. first of all, try not judging your crush by what other people say. just because other people think he's annoying, doesn't mean you have to think that or that he is. spend more time with him & build your own opinion on it. however you feel, go by that. your friends, well this problem is really common. everyone either likes being with their friends all through school & some don't. just because you want to hang out with a different crowd, doesn't mean you have to forget your old one. why not try having both?? if it doesn't work out, then you can pick one to stick with. explain to your friends how you feel. you should be open & honest with them.

-hope that helped!♥

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I don't understand my bf. This is what happened. Well for the first two years of dating him I had been collecting a small disability pension for an old injury. My bf used to give me a hard time about me not working even though I was volunteering at two different places and wasnt just sitting around (and he never gave me credit for these either) I never asked him for any money and could afford to live on my own so I didnt know why if bothered him that I wasnt working. He was so mean about me not working that he made me cry in public once by cruelly saying I was just living off the system. Well about two months ago I got hired at a decent paying job. When I told him how happy I was and that I was meeting some nice people he sarcastically said "so it's working out for you". What in the world? First he's bullying me into finding work and then when I do he's even more unhappy. I know he makes tons of money at his job so I don't think it's jealousy (although he hates the long hours) Does anyone have any insight to this behavior?

i guess it could be anything. the best thing to do would be to talk to him about it. it doesn't really sound like jealously, but it could be. i don't think he should be acting that way since he did want you to get a job, but that's just my opinion. sit down & ask him. that's really the only thing you can do. he'll probably give you a decent explanation.

-hope that helped!♥

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how can you get your teeth whiter? like without having to buy crest white strips or like getting it done professionally. i heard that you can brush your teeth with like baking soda or something?! is there anything else you guys can think of.

THANKS

here's a website-

http://www.fatfreekitchen.com/teeth/tooth-whitening.html

if you scroll down to the bottom of the site, it has some whitening instructions that you can do at home.

-hope that helped!♥

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I need to make 2 different spirit shirts for 2 different highschool football games my friends and I are going to.

The first one I'm going to is Wylie. We are the Wylie Pirates and our colors are Maroon Black and White//Gray

The second one I'm going to is Plano East (PESH). They are the Panthers and their colors are black gold and gray.

I have no idea what I'm going to do for shirts. ANY ideas would be so much help right now. Both games are on Friday!

I kind of want black shirts for both of them.

i did a bunch of these for school & since my school's mascot is a panther, i can probably help you out.

before you make them, get your supplies together & make sure you have enough. you want it to be neat & organized. i would use a black shirt for all of them. it's a lot nicer looking. for the Wylie Pirates, you can spell WHYLIE in maroon [maybe outlined in gray/white] with pirates underneath or a sword or something. on the back, maybe you want to add your last name & a # of a football player or someone's last name & number. you can also put patches or pirate hats on the sleeves.

for panthers, try writing put PESH/PANTHERS/PLANO EAST/PLANO EAST PANTHERS, etc. however you want. maybe do that and gold and then have panther paws going up your shirt from the bottom, up diagonlly across your shoulder in gray or something. you can probably google ideas online too.

-hope that helped!♥

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i've never had sex... so i don't know why i'm freaking out. but i'm fifteen and terrified that some random sperm may have seeped into me or something, though that's not very likely, i'm just PARANOID. plus, i had a cold, and now my body aches and im freezing, but i think i just have a virus. i'm just scared because i didn't get my period this month. and as nasty as it sounds, i'm sure my brother is having sex with his girlfriend, and i masturbate with my hands, so. terrified. i've been having my period for a little over two years, and it's not really regular. i miss a month sometimes, or for instance it will come on the 22nd of june, skip a month, come on the 5th of july, come the 19th of august. who knows. but i'm totally freaking out. sorry, sorry, sorry for seeming so immature. but mostly i need reassurance that this isn't possible... i haven't been throwing up or anything. just. ugh. help?

blah! i had this. you get over it over time, trust me. i also have extreme ocd so maybe that's where it came from. also anxiety. it's your mind playing tricks with you. if this was possible, there'd be far more people in the world then we have right now. i would freak out [& still do] in public bathrooms. i was convinced i could get pregnant by a toilet seat, until my bf convinced me its basically absolutely impossible. it's really uncommon. you most likely have an irregular period which is common for teenage girls [sorry if you arent a teenager]. also, sperm has to live in very stable conditions for them to be able to swim & what not.

-hope that helped!♥

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OK me and my friend have told eachother everything,
and secrets? never told to anyone.
So one day she asks me, Can I tell you a secret and I'm like sure, and she's like you cant tell anyone.
But one her other friends gave her two ciggartes! and I asked her "Are you gonna use it?" and she's like I dont know. But you have to do it with me. she said and I didnt say anything. I dont know. Shes like so will you and i said SURE!! why! I DONT KNOW! I was stupid! b/c Im not the type of person who stands up for hreself very often. I mean its just a ciggeret. it wouldent hurt me to have just one? would it??

no-- you cannot get addicted off of one cigarette. think about this. one cigg leads to two, which goes on & on. you do not want to do this. starting to smoke is how people get addicted & it sometimes cannot be avoided. if you smoke a cigg with your friend [& you truly dont want to] everytime she goes to smoke one, she'll invite you with her most likely. stand up for yourself & explain how you don't want to smoke, but you'll go with her. it can do major damage in the long run. you have to stand up for yourself in situations like these. you don't want to be stuck in this situation. you can also get in a lot of trouble & the smell stays on you for awhile.

-hope that helped!♥

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okay well i weigh about 150 pounds.
and i rly want to lose weight.
do you think if iran about a mile
everyday i would lose about 50 pounds by nxt year doing some other things too.
and would i lose it all over like my arms, legs, stomach and such and if not what are some ways i could tone them especially my arms like theyre flabby. please help i want to be skinny.
thanks in advanced.

i don't think you can lose 50 lbs by just running. yes, exercising will help you a lot, but you need some food restrictions if you want to lose that much weight. what you can do, is watch your portions. don't eat too much, but eat enough. it's basically all about portion control. sure, you can have cookies, but i have 1 or 2 instead of 3-5. make sense?? substitute junk food for fruits, veggies, crackers, yogurt, etc. make sure you eat breakfast every day. exercise for maybe an hour er so. drink lots of water to keep yourself hydrated. drink milk if you like it. if not, stick to some kind've juice. orange, apple, etc. no soda or candy. if you stick to things like that, you'll be sure to lose weight. here's a few websites-

http://www.weightlossresources.co.uk/exercise/body_toning/upper_body.htm

http://www.virtualfitnesstrainer.com/articles/toning_your_troublespots.htm

http://www.briomag.com/briomagazine/healthandbeauty/a0006215.html

http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/fitness/tone_it.html

http://aolsvc.health.webmd.aol.com/content/article/11/1676_50034?z=1676_00000_0000_rl_02

you should check out all of those websites & find exercises that fit you.

-hope that helped!♥

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I bought a silver Motorola Razr V3 last December. I lost it a week ago, and my mom is really mad. However, she said that I have to have a phone, so I'm going to have to pay for a new one. This isn't a problem because I have enough money for it, but what I'm worried about is my address book in the phone. It has 90+ numbers in it, and there's no way I can replace them all. There are also pictures in my phone, but those aren't as important to me. They are all stored on the SIM card. Is there a way to send the contacts to my new phone (same phone number, same plan, same everything, different phone) without having the actual phone? There's still a chance of me finding the phone sometime so I can retrieve that stuff from the SIM card, but I was wondering if I can get the contacts transferred from my old phone without actually having possession of the phone. Thanks.

i don't think you can do this, but it wouldn't be a bad idea going to your provider & asking them when you go to buy your new phone. just explain the whole situation & they'll help you from there.

-hope that helped!♥

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you know how on internet explorer if you go to like myspace and where you go to put in your email address if you put in an 'a', all the email addresses you have used that begin with 'a' come up, how can you delete them?

i think what you can do delete them manually [by right clicking and deleting it] or in IE go to TOOLS, INTERNET OPTIONS, CLEAR HISTORY, etc. all websites are different though. for example, on AIM you can delete sns you've been on from sign in popup, but somethings [like myspace] i don't think you can.

-hope that helped!♥

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how do you put/make holes in jeans?

here's a website-

http://www.wikihow.com/Rip-Your-Own-Jeans

it basically explains the whole thing.
haha whole/hole sorry bad joke

-hope that helped!♥

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i have a ipod nano that can only hold 500 songs, but i have more then 500 songs now. is there any way that i could buy more memory, or do i just have to buy a whole new ipod?

you'd have to buy a new ipod. i have the same one as you. juss delete all your songs that you don't listen to if any. other than that you have to buy a bigger GB ipod.

-hope that helped!♥

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My parents decided to let me get a 70 dollar l.l. bean rolling backpack, because I have so much books that I my back hurts if I get a regular backpack. But before I buy it, I was wondering, is a rolling backpack ok for an 8th grader, or is it like out of style and babyish? Like do alot of people have rolling backpacks? Thanks!

in my school, you can't have rolling backpacks, because they don't fit in your locker. soo i'm not sure if it's babyish or not. who cares if it's babyish as long as it helps your back. i'm sure that a lot of people are in the same situation as you. don't even care about what they think of it. it's juss a backpack. you should check if you do have a locker though. they definately don't fit.

-hope that helped!♥

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