I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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i found this guy from a couple towns over through myspace. we met today and totally hit it off! we like each other a LOT . but he lives 1/2 hour away..making it hard to see each other. i think i have to tell my parents..so maybe they can drive me out there sometimes..but how do i word it? i always kept my love life private from them..i never had the need to tell..im afraid of their reaction. help please?
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First of all, the boring bit where I point out it is NEVER safe to meet someone in person after speaking to them on the net. I'm glad it's worked out in this case but most of the time, it could be anyone. If you do meet people off the net, you should always take someone with you, in case of emergencies.
Half an hour is a very passable distance for a boyfriend. When my other half and I first started dating, he was a good 20 minutes from me. But, if you don't have your own car it does make it more difficult.
Now, as far as your parents are concerned, the best option is always to tell the truth. Unfortunately, the truth may have consequences but it's a lot easier to cope with that than to work out lies to make up to them.
Why not get him to come round to your house while they are there? Ask him to pick you up or come round for dinner and introduce him. If your parents meet him before you tell them how you met? That way, they will know him for who he is and you have a chance to squash their concerns before they have a chance to rise.
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he's been dropping hints he likes me he straight up told me he likes me we hooked up. he has a girlfriend of 5 months which he cant see and is moving away in may. he cheated on her. hes confused about the whole situation. i dont know what to do either because im confused about the whole situation also. please help (link)
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I hate to say it but if he's moving away in May, there doesn't seem to be too much future in a relationship with him.
Long-distance relationships are never easy, although they can work but if he has cheated on his current girlfriend before, can you really trust him to be faithful once he has moved away? You may like him but this guy is a heartbreaker and you need to keep your heart intact for a guy you know you can trust.
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Okay remember im not conceited at all!
Okay well im in a party crew and ive been in it for a couple of weeks...Its a blast but it sux cause 4 of them like me... Theres only like 10 guys in it... And they are all in the same crew... So i dunno what to do... I know i dont any of them cause they are in my crew and if i went out with one then i would have to deal with the other crew guys hating me... What should i do?? (link)
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Well you are a lucky girl!!
The only thing you can do in this situation is to resolve not to date any of them. It's the fairest thing to do to all involved. It seems a little harsh I know, but if you don't want anyone to lose out and if you don't want to affect the group, that's really the best way to do it.
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I'm mad, one time i'm like all over this lad then i'm thinking of pulling this really cute older lad. But then the lad who i kissed 5 weeks ago and i dumped, is nice to me again. I fancy him but i don't. When i go out wiv a lad i start not fancying them, how shall i not get bored of boys when i pull them? (link)
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Sounds like it's all in the chase for you. You love the chase and the feeling you get when you find out a boy really likes you. There's nothing wrong with this at all and I can assure you it's perfectly normal.
Don't worry, when you meet a guy you really like, you'll know it and you won't go off him so easily.
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Pls help We broke up about 9mnths ago now he is contacting me on a daily basis he said he wants to talk to me but he does'nt know how and when & I know its not gonna be easy he broke my heart in bad way now I can see he is so scared of me we sms each other so me I want to talk coz I am tired of this thing pretending as if we Ok but the problem Yesterday he did'nt sms me & I prefer not to initiate anything in this situation am I doing a write thing or am I making it dificult for him because he is so scared he must be, I can take him back but under so many conditions coz I never stop liking him he is a good man, so What must i do initiate the chat or back off (link)
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Well you need to decide first of all what sort of relationship you want from him.
You haven't said what he did to break your heart but judging by what you have said, I'm guessing it was pretty bad.
It's entirely up to you but if you want to give him a second chance, lay down the ground rules and let him know if he does anything like he did to break your heart before again, that's it and there will be no getting back together.
If you only want to be friends, you need to tell him this. Even though he hurt you, if he is showing remorse for what he did, you need to show that you are the bigger person and forgive him for what he did, even if it doesn't mean you'll get back with him. Then tell him there's no way you want to be any more than friends, that he hurt you badly and you're not quite ready to speak to him again yet.
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ok me and this girl liked each other for a while and she just broke up with her boyfriend and we liked each other while they were going out and now were prettty happy and ready to move on with eachother as a couple and today i found out that we might be 5th or 6th cousins, were not like some rednecks on jerry springer it was completley unexcpected and unwelcomed i wanted to know is 5th cousins to close for comfort?
should we just be cousins/friends or what.. (link)
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Cousins are allowed to be together. I hate it when people refer to it as 'inbreeding' and so on. My Grandparents were 1st cousins and they've been married for nearly 50 years.
If it is 5th or 6th cousins, there is no problem. It's not like she's your sister so if you really care about each other then go out. If you both think it's too weird then you'll know to call it a day.
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Okay. So this guy is a junior and I'm a freshman...and he goes to my school and everything. We talk online, when he is on. And I see him at school and he like sometimes looks at me and stuff. He talks to me like everyday and like ever since its been after christmas break, he has like stopped talking to me. but he still looks at me and stuff. but like he has seemed like hes mad and I have tried talking to him online, and he wont reply. But one time I did ask why he didnt talk to me? and hes like i dont know. So I dont know if he likes me anymore and I kind of miss him talking to me. (link)
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As harsh as it may sound, if he's not prepared to tell you what the problem is then there's not a lot you can do. I understand that you miss him and it would be great if things could go back to the way they used to be but in this case, it sounds as though you will just have to move on. If you've tried and failed to find out what's wrong, then you'll just have to wait til he comes to you. If you keep asking, it may only irritate him.
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I've loved this guy since July. First of all, when I say 'love'...I'm sure you're thinking "she's just another naive girl." Well maybe I am, but I don't use the term 'love' loosely. I love him so much it physically hurts. I mean...when I think about not having him, I feel like I've got needles and glass in my veins. But he kept confusing me, because he seemed to keep changing his mind about whether or not he liked me. So when my friend asked me out on New Years Eve, I of course said yes, because I didn't imagine it going anywhere with the other guy, and figured this would be a way to get over him. Well...it's just getting worse. I love him even more! I told him I still like him yesterday. And he likes me again. (he said with all his classes last semester he was just so overwhelmed he couldn't have a girlfriend, but now he's only got two classes). But my boyfriend...I love him, but I'm not sure if it's as a friend or as a boyfriend, and he says he loves me. He was a good friend before this and...I just don't want to hurt him. I don't know if I want to continue going out with him if I love someone else. Any additional info [in case this matters]: My boyfriend is my age (sophomore) and the other guy is a senior. (link)
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Oh dear, you are caught here aren't you?!
Okay, no matter how much you care about the boy you're with at the moment, if you don't really know that you love him, you're better of ending it nowand salvaging your friendship than risking getting involved with someone you DO like somewhere down the line, breaking his heart and losing him altogether. You need to tell him that you just don't think you can see beyond your friendship with him and you wanted to tell him so you didn't lead him on or lose him as a friend.
As far as the other guy goes, if he doesn't know what he wants right now then it's best to steer clear. However, it might be worth telling him that you care about him but that you don't want to get involved unless he knows how he feels. Then suggest not seeing each other as friends or anything else for a while. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. A little time apart will help him make his mind up. But be warned, there is no guarantee that this will work in your favour so tread carefully and don't put you're heart at risk with him until you're sure you can handle it being broken.
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Well I WAS going out with this guy,we wanted to keep it a secret cause it is suck an unlikely match,well the whole school found out and people were coming up asking me do we go out and all that stuuf. Well his ex-girlfriend found out and was crying and slamming doors today at school and people made up rumors saying she wanted to beat me up and that the boy was gonna break up with me.Well the ex called me tonight and was saying how she never said she wanted to fight me and that she really wants me and the boy to be together well the next thing I know I'm talkinmg to him on AIM (he thinks I'm my friend) and he said he already broke up with me but he never did. And well he doesn't know it was me adn now me and him are broken up and I told him to never talk to me again cause he will get cussed out and why I'm mad that he went back for his ex is that she cheated on him at a basketball game and I don't think ppl like that deserve a second chance. Well I do still like him some and I don't know what to do,his jokes are funny and I promised myself I wouldn't laugh at them and I wouldn't ever talk to him again!!
HELP ME!! (link)
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Talk to him. Laugh at his jokes. In other words, be friends.
This boy clearly cannot be trusted to be monogomous so don't let him have the chance to do the same to you again.
I know that may sound tough and sometimes when you really like someone, you just want them back and want it to be the same again. But sometimes you have to learn when to say no and this is one of those times. After all, why date a liar when you can find a genuinely nice guy who wouldn't treat you that badly?
Trust me, as time goes on and you get older, chances are you'll encounter many many more boys like this. The sooner you take a stand and refuse to let them walk all over, the better you'll make it through and find one of the decent ones.
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i really like this guy. i am in 8th grade and he is in 7th. i guess you could say that i love him. i have been crazy about him for about 9 months now. he has a girlfriend who is in 9th grade. he flirts with me a whole lot and i catch him looking at me during the one class that we have together. he also messes with one of my friends while i am around her but not in a flirting way. my friends say that he is just going out with this girl to make me jealous. he does stuff like lean on my arm when i am sitting down and he is standing up talking to one of his friends that i sit by. he also shows up in my classes just to talk with his friends. he is like a "dream guy" and i know that lots of girls like him but how can i get him to notice me? we talk pretty much every day but he keeps his girlfriend. i do not want to break him and his girlfriend up or anything like that because i am not going to act like that even though i love him. how can i be the one that he notices? thanks! i'll rate! (link)
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You need to find out what sort of relationship he has with his girlfriend and see whether you are prepared to jeapordise that or steer clear until they're no longer an item.
Also, you've indicated that he's using her to make your jealous and you have to ask yourself, do you really want to go out with a guy like that? Whether it sounds good to you because it means he likes you, the fact is that if it's true, the way he's treating this girl is terrible. Plus, if he's prepared to flirt with you and goodness knows who else while he has a girlfriend, can you really trust him not to do the same with you??
If you're still sure you want to take that leap and see if it can work, you're best bet is to come out and tell him how you feel. Don't tell him you love him, as this may scare him away. Tell him you've been thinking about him and you were wondering if there was any way you could be something more than friends? But make it clear you're not wanting to split him and his girlfriend up and that if he is interested, nothing can happen until she is no longer in the picture.
See what happens and I wish you the best of luck!
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alright i ahve had a bf for 6 months and i have been havin ttrouble wit my parents since. they think i should have a black bf but i cant help. it is what i like not them. i have really strong feeling for him and i only see hime 2-3 times a month. i am 15 and he is 16. he doest go to the same school as me but i have been dealin wit it. anyways i have tryed tellin my parents that i cant help who i like and they cant stop me from it. well they havent stopped but now my mom says i always have an attutide wit her and i have changed. thing is i havent changed i just gotten older. and she still treats me like a kid. what should i do.. (link)
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I'm so sorry you're stuck in this situation. Any kind of prejudice is hard to fight but when you're parents racially discriminate against your boyfriend, it makes life a lot harder for everyone.
Perhaps you could try bringing your boyfriend home to meet them, maybe bring him over for dinner? At the end of the day, they need to get to know him for something beyond his skin colour and if he's prepared to try it then it might be well worth the effort.
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Ok, so I think I like this guy (we'll call him A)
A and I are sort of like friends with benefits but I think I am starting to like him! About a week ago he told me that he is confused weather he likes me or not. He says that he does not know if he wants to be my boyfriend. I told him I feel the exact same way. So now we both agree on that we are confused and do not know if we like like each other or not. We are AMAZING friends and love to hang out with each other. We are totally comfortable in front of each other and can talk about anything together. I feel like A sometimes leads me on, he always tells me I am beautiful and how much he loves my kisses and all that other stuff. I love when he says these things but I want him to really mean them! I cannot stop thinking about him. What do I do? (link)
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You need to sit down and properly talk it over. My best recommendation would be to go on one date. Just one and see how you feel about it afterwards. I had a similar situation and I am now living with him!
However, you need to lay down the line with him and say that you don't want him saying that he loves your kisses or anything similar until you're sure how you feel. Such compliments are only likely to cloud your mind when you're trying to make a decision.
Go on the date, see how you feel and work out where to go from there. Just make sure you go somewhere fairly neutral, like out for a pizza so you can talk but also to a movie so you can only use body language.
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Ok, well I kinda like this kid Anthony at my school..but i don't really know him ..well liek we're not friends..but he's becoming friends with my friends. The other day when I wans't at school he was asking about me...and now my friend is trying to hook us up. She talked to him and he said, "i want to get to know her, before i ask her out." Well alot of people have gone up to him telling him I like him..when I told them to stay out of it...so i was thinkin what I would say is: Hey I know you've been hearin that I like you..but i dont really know you, so do you wanna go to the movies with sum people this weekend? so we can get to know eachother...Do you think that is a good idea.. my friends say he'll like the fact that I have ballz to talk to him and ask him to go to the movies. Do you have any other ideas of what I could say...please anything would help, b/c I dont wanna cum off as a total ass!! x0 (link)
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Generally, all guys like girls who make the first move BUT you don't want to scare him off, especially if your friends have been laying down that much footwork on your behalf!
In my view, telling him you like him is a HUGE step and one that too many people are scared to take. After all, what guy will lay himself down on the line without someone else doing it first? I think your plan is great and I wish you the best of luck!
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I am G/16. At home we two sisters share same room. My sister age 14, has a very bad habit of farting in the room. She farts with sound whenever she needs during working or just sitting or laying. she does not care even after my protets. she says that farting is natural and atleast in the room or home she has independence. She is a pretty girl but I am fade up with this. How should I stop her doing this?
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Make sure you keep a can of air freshener to hand in your room and when she breaks wind, spray a load in her direction. If she can insult your air, you can insult her's, right?
However, if you want to take the more mature approach, see if there are any panflets at your local pharmacy on flatulence. There may be a reason as to why she needs to do it so often and if so, she may need to get checked out for things like food intolerances.
The alternative is that she might be doing it for attention. At 14, most kids have strange ways of attention seeking and this may be her's.
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Theres this guy ive talked to for about a year now. Well recently he saw me for the first time..now hes always sayin like you shuld move up here. he'd be like how old are you again and id tell him hed be like damn id say why and he`d take awhile and be like uh i dunno..whats he thinkin?does he like me or is he jus curious? I am 16 hes 18 we both live in california different parts though. THANX A BUNCH! (link)
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No matter how intelligent a woman is, it's almost impossible to accurately guess what a guy is thinking....unless it's food!!
Anyways, it's hard to tell from what you have writte whether or not he's interested but the best thing I can suggest is just to ask him straight out at some point "Why, what are you thinking?" It's risky but at least you'll know.
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I lost the code that is on the cd/dvd case to the sims nightlife. If you have the game and know the code please help! I really want to play it! thanks
i rate 5's (link)
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In most cases, the codes differ in each pack so this would not work. Your best bet is to take it back to the store and see if they will provide a replacement game.
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