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alright i ahve had a bf for 6 months and i have been havin ttrouble wit my parents since. they think i should have a black bf but i cant help. it is what i like not them. i have really strong feeling for him and i only see hime 2-3 times a month. i am 15 and he is 16. he doest go to the same school as me but i have been dealin wit it. anyways i have tryed tellin my parents that i cant help who i like and they cant stop me from it. well they havent stopped but now my mom says i always have an attutide wit her and i have changed. thing is i havent changed i just gotten older. and she still treats me like a kid. what should i do..
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its a very tough situation.. and one thing you can try is ask your parents what they really dont like about him. if they say its because of his race.. ask whats wrong with their race. they probably dont know what he really is like.. so answer their negative points about him with positive points. try to stay mature and calm in the whole situation.. its hard not to blow up on them but if you are mature.. they might realize you really like him.. and start accepting it. hope this helps.. <3*
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oh my. usually my parents are telling me not to be racist, and to never judge a person by the outside, but on the inside.
seems to me you need to teach your parents that lesson.
tell them straight out-
that they are being racist and cruel.
and tell them they are the ones acting like the kids.
ask them if they've ever heard the phrase
"never judge a book by its cover"
then if that dosnt work, then talk to me.
hope everything works out,
C
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I'm so sorry you're stuck in this situation. Any kind of prejudice is hard to fight but when you're parents racially discriminate against your boyfriend, it makes life a lot harder for everyone.
Perhaps you could try bringing your boyfriend home to meet them, maybe bring him over for dinner? At the end of the day, they need to get to know him for something beyond his skin colour and if he's prepared to try it then it might be well worth the effort.
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Well, first of all, your parents are obviously closet racists. I applaud you for staying true to your values and dating out of your race.
Try to show her some responcibility. You might already be required to do that, but do all the stupid stuff like making your bed, feeding pets if you have them, loading dishwasher, ect.
Responcibility often makes parents shut thier trap and force them to think how 'proud' they are.
If all else fails, throw the race card at your parents. It's not bad to do that in this sort of situation.
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