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The neverending problems
I've loved this guy since July. First of all, when I say 'love'...I'm sure you're thinking "she's just another naive girl." Well maybe I am, but I don't use the term 'love' loosely. I love him so much it physically hurts. I mean...when I think about not having him, I feel like I've got needles and glass in my veins. But he kept confusing me, because he seemed to keep changing his mind about whether or not he liked me. So when my friend asked me out on New Years Eve, I of course said yes, because I didn't imagine it going anywhere with the other guy, and figured this would be a way to get over him. Well...it's just getting worse. I love him even more! I told him I still like him yesterday. And he likes me again. (he said with all his classes last semester he was just so overwhelmed he couldn't have a girlfriend, but now he's only got two classes). But my boyfriend...I love him, but I'm not sure if it's as a friend or as a boyfriend, and he says he loves me. He was a good friend before this and...I just don't want to hurt him. I don't know if I want to continue going out with him if I love someone else. Any additional info [in case this matters]: My boyfriend is my age (sophomore) and the other guy is a senior.
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Oh dear, you are caught here aren't you?!
Okay, no matter how much you care about the boy you're with at the moment, if you don't really know that you love him, you're better of ending it nowand salvaging your friendship than risking getting involved with someone you DO like somewhere down the line, breaking his heart and losing him altogether. You need to tell him that you just don't think you can see beyond your friendship with him and you wanted to tell him so you didn't lead him on or lose him as a friend.
As far as the other guy goes, if he doesn't know what he wants right now then it's best to steer clear. However, it might be worth telling him that you care about him but that you don't want to get involved unless he knows how he feels. Then suggest not seeing each other as friends or anything else for a while. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. A little time apart will help him make his mind up. But be warned, there is no guarantee that this will work in your favour so tread carefully and don't put you're heart at risk with him until you're sure you can handle it being broken.
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