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Hi, I'm Emily. Call me Emily or Em, I prefer either. I have been a featured columnist 2 times now. After disabling my account I had about 3 years ago, a lot has happened which made me want to come back. I feel as though helping people with their problems, helps me solve mine, even if that doesn't make a lot of sense to any of you. Don't hesitate to ask me anything, I will answer fairly quickly depending on the question. If you want a hard-thought out answer, which is what I usually give, it may take a little longer- it benefits everyone in the long run.
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I am 14 and I woul like to make 200-300$ in about a month or 2. How can I do It quick! An please don't say yardsale or lemonade Stan or something. Or babysitting because I have no one to babysit. Also it should take mote then an hr out of my weekdays because of school and homework. Thanks!
Just like what everyone else said, Ebay.
Sell old electronics you don't use anymore or old clothes you don't wear anymore. Gather up things you can find at your house. Make sure to have parental consent.
Good Luck!
hi i had sex with a guy i was dating like two or three months ago and i was taking the pill but the day after i ran out and then im just now like a week ago getting back on it but im always tired i get the hickups all the time i fee weak i feel sick i was eating dinner with my mom it was this stuff i use to like and as soon as i smelled it it made my belly turn and i hjust couldnt eat but i took a test a week after we had sex could it be the pill doing that to me ? i hada miscarriage before when i1st started taking the pill but i didnt know i was pregnant until it was too lated and im getting sharp pains that start at my belly button and it shoots all the way down my vag i have no idea what it is but i had the pain before but i was also on the pill before when i got the pain to so idk if im pregnant the test said i wasnt so i didnt stop taking the pill and i dont want to talk to my mom about it she would get mad that im on the pill she got mad when she found out my 35 year old sister was on it she doesnt like it cause what can happen when you on it and she also got pregnant with my brother on it so please help thanks alot
megan
Just know, whenever you have sex, its a risk. But, I think you have realized it.
I am also on the pill, but I have only taken one brand of them. You have to test out different brands that leave you with the least side affects. The hickups, feeling weak and the loss of appetite sound like side affects of the pill. Try a different brand, but before that- TELL YOUR MOM. Sure, she might be a little mad you went behind her back, but she can help you with finding a good brand for you. As far as the sharp pains, i would see a doctor. They don't sound too pleasant and can only really be cured and examined by a doctor.
Talk to your mom and see your doctor. For the time being, when the pains come, put a heating pad on your stomach, and take advil. It will heal the pain temporarily.
Hope I helped and ask me anything else you need!
my friend is becoming painful.
she so immiture, im moving on, i dont want to do the same kidish stuff we used to do.
i sick of her wanting to do something EVERYWEEKEND
Just because she might be a little less mature than you, doesn't mean you have to cut her out of your life forever.
People mature at different speeds, she might mature a little slower than you. Talk to her about this and how you feel about the wa shes acting, she'll never know. Branch off and hang out with other friends. Suggest to your friend that you want to do more exciting/not childish things.
when my mom was pregnant and I was little she told me that the baby got inside of her because her and Dad kissed.. My parents told me that all of my life.. Well,, I just turned 13 and I never really thought much more of it.. I don''t have a boyfriend or anything and so I never even considered kissing someone or making babies.. Logically I am thinking kissing doesn''t cause pregnancy but I don''t really know how a woman gets pregnant anyway.. I don''t know um so does kissing cause pregnancy for sure or not or..?? I heard sex means pregnancy but is kissing sex then or what??
Nope. Women cannot get pregnant from kissing. If they could, there would be lots of babies! You have to have sex to have children, and get pregnant.
My friend gave me a thing of Velveeta cheese today because she accidentally bought a second box of it when she already had some at home. I accepted it but I've never eaten it. I know it's a processed cheese, obviously, but what are some things I can eat with this Velveeta?
Make some pasta and squeeze the cheese in! Its delicious. As the person below me said, it makes a delicious broccoli and cheese. Enjoy!
i finger myself all the time and im really kinda young and i dont want to get prenate. can you get pregnat from sticking fingers in your vagina? it feels good and i dont wanna stop but i dont want to have a baby because of it. i do it until i cum if that makes a diffrance. and if that can get u pregant then what about just rubbing it on the out side??? is that risky to?
No. Sperm needs to enter your vagina to be pregnant. Don't worry about it.
ok i dont know what to do anymore. my ex bf of 2 years dumped me last year and it took alot of getting used to like no more kisses no more hugs i had to get used to living the single life and it was hard. this boy i went out with last year after him i only went out with him for 2 weeks. then he dumped me. after like 2 months we talked again. then i didnt actually until like 5 months later. and he kissed me. then waked right back out of my life again. i was mad for like a few days. then after that i still talked to him and then i seen him again like 3 months later i seen him one day he randomly said he wanted to see me. so i said ok and i seen him. its like everytime i see him we do things. ater that he said he wanted me to be his gf and like an idiot i said yes. that was last month. i still texted him and stuff.. then i didnt see him again until last week i met up with him like 4 days in a row more then i would usually see him and we did things. and this time i got really attatched to him for someone reason. and now he isnt texting me back. and he has pulled this kind of stuff before but i just wasnt really as mad but now i am so upset i feel like i have to start over again and it makes me mad cuz i love the feeling of being loved and kissing and hugging and now i cant do that anymore cuz i am alone and have no one. why cant i find someone who is a good bf to me and would treat me right. to me it seems like all boys are the same. help me what should i do.
Sounds to me that this boy is a real scumbag. You don't deserve to be treated like that. You should have a guy that likes you for you, always, and doesn't just stop at a certain time. That's wrong, and I can tell you right now, he won't get very far in relationships with that attitude. You need to either tell him to stop with the way he's treating you, or ditch the kid. He isn't worth your time, or pain. I am positive you will find many more douchebags, and one where you can settle down with. Everyone does. Don't fret.
18/f; he's 17/m. i am developing feelings for this guy but i'm not sure how he feels about me. i work with him. just started talking to him pretty recently. my friend gave me his number because i found a funny pic that reminded me of him so i sent it to him. we havent stopped texting since and this was a week ago that i first texted him. so all day every day we text. he was flirty from the start, but now his flirts are more specifically about me - like he compliments my eyes, for example. just little things like that that he couldn't really say to another girl. i'm really confused though, because there's things that lead me to believe that he likes me, and things that don't.
he describes himself as shy, but i really disagree. i think he's been pretty friendly. i've been around a shy guy that liked me before, and it's never been this difficult to decipher whether or not he wants to be more than friends. i just really want to know if he wants to be friends or likes me or not. here's some more info:
- so far each night this week, we text until we fall asleep. each morning he's been always texting me first.
- the first time we we hung out outside of work, we went to a park until 4 am just walking around and talking. we kinda got lost but found our way home then sat in his car listening to music. he didnt try to get close to me or anything, so i was kind of put off by that. he also doesn't really act like he likes me in person too much. he pretty much acted like we were friends.
- but, that night he hugged me goodbye. but it was kind of halfhearted. he didnt put much into the hug; it was kind of one-handed.
- he told me to text him in the morning that night, but when i got home i had a text from him that said "i know i said to text me in the am, but i actually had a lot of fun with you tonight :D "
- then the next day he sent me a text that said "you looked pretty beautiful last night and it would have sucked to get lost with anyone but you'
-i hugged him at work the next day, and i think it kinda freaked him out. i didn't like, attack him or anything. lol. but i think it was too long of a hug, because it seemed like he wanted to let go.
- he asked me to go to the movies with him, so we're going to the movies tomorrow.
- i'm pretty sure he has a lot of friends who are girls, so i have no idea how exclusive his behavior is. and like i said, he flirted immediately with me. i think it might just be how he is. but like i said the flirting has become more specific now.
i dont want to jump into a relationship with him, but i'm just not sure if things are even going in that direction or what. if he doesn't have feelings for me, i don't want to keep having feelings for him; i want to end the flirting if thats the case, and i'll want to think of him as just a friend then. but, if he does like me, i'd kind of like for things to keep progressing as they are. do you think i should make a move, wait for him to make a move, confront him, or give up?
any advice??
You're right, these are mixed signals! I think he sees you as a possible 'parter', but I think he just wants to give it some time and see how he feels about you as time progresses, which is perfectly fine.
I think you might also want to examine the relationship too, but it seems like your really into this guy. I personally think its very gentlemanly like (word?) to not make a move on the first date. Maybe he is nervous and hasn't that kind of relationship with anyone yet. Give it some time, and I am almost positive he will come around. It seems from what he texts you that he really likes you. Definitely don't give up on him. There could be something really special there.
17/m .hi there.been going out with this girl for nearly a month now and was wondering whether i need to get her a gift .if yes then what would be good things to get?was thinking just some chocolates and a card.anyway.Thanks:)
You shouldn't feel the need to get your girlfriend a '1 month aniversary' gift. Its only a month, and nothing special. Maybe wait until your 6th month?
But, if you feel the need too, chocolates and a card sound perfect. She will appreciate anything.
I started talking to this boy and I really like him and I was thinking about having sex with him for the first time I want to but I don't know what I should do I am a female and I am 16 years old
Just know, everytime you have sex, its a risk, and you could get pregnant. No matter how much protection you use.
I suggest you wait. If you aren't in love with him, and even questioning this, (which you are, since your asking us) I think you need to wait. You have your whole life ahead of you to do that type of stuff! Wait, and maybe down the road, you will be ready.
But, ALWAYS USE PROTECTION.
My bf is just turned 24 and I really REALLY like him a whole lot, hes so funny. The thing is I told him I had just turned 18 yrs old. That isn't the truth tho. I'm really almost 15. I guess you could say I developed fast and am mature for my age? haha Anyways, he totally believes I'm 18 and I kind of feel bad because my bff just said it's illegal to date when he's so old and he can go to prison for it. He hasnt ever been to jail. idk what do I do? My mom don't know I'm dating even tho.
He can go to jail. You could ruin the rest of his life if you keep seeing him.
You say your almost 15, meaning, your 14. He's 24. That's a 10 year age difference. You can't like him if he's that much older than you. You guys have different interests, and you absolutely cannot participate in the kind of things he does at his age. Just because you 'developed fast' doesn't give you this excuse to date someone a great deal older than you.
You need to tell him your real age. Yeah, he'll probably, and I'm almost positive, that he'll break it off with you, but it's because he doesn't want to go to jail, and he doesn't want to ruin your life and have you get in trouble for it later in life. He is doing what is best for both of you. And I suggest you do too.
Play it safe and date someone your own age!
What kinds of things would a guy say to flirt on aim? This is assuming you know this person in real life and are classmates. Thanks.
He might always chat you. Needing homework, or a 'Whens the next test?' kind of thing. But, if you don't realize right off the bat that he's flirting, he might not be, and don't get discouraged. You might have to initiate it first.
Make sure he isnt hiding behind his computer, and acts the same around you in school. Good Luck!
OK! I am totally freaking out because I came home and the house was quiet and I was being stupid I guess and just walked right into my brothers room without knocking because I didn't think he was home and I wanted to borrow one of these sweatshirts he has that are really comfortable and he was totally jacking off like right there when I opened the door. I slammed the door and ran to my room because that is DISGUSTING. Now I can't even THINK about him without wanting to vomit. What do I do now? Do I confront him? Should I say something about him being a nasty perv? I KNOW HE KNOWS I SAW but he hasn't come out of his room and said anything to me. This is so gross.
Lets just clear something up- He isn't a nasty perv. It's normal for a guy (and a girl!) to masterbate. Theres nothing wrong with doing that.
I know you might feel weirded-out by the whole experience, but if you really want to talk to him about it, maybe you should suggest that he keeps his door locked so that this type of thing doesn't happen again. He shouldn't have to explain to you what he was doing, he has the right too. If you feel that there's things you need to clear up with him, definitely talk to him about it! It can't hurt.
I never measured myself to find my correct bra size. My mom just kind of decided when I was younger and I've went with it. I only increased the cup size when my boobs couldn't really fit any more? Anyway, I was reading about how it is important to find your right bra sizing before buying bras because I can help all sorts of things like decrease sag and help your back from hurting (not that I got big boobs). But so how do you find your bra size? like I mean how do you measure yourself for your bra size? I have no idea how bra size is calculated lol
Knowing this from experience and such, if you stop by at a Victoria Secret, they can measure you and tell you what cup size you are. Its easy, and I am also sure there are some online sites you can use. I just find going into Victoria Secret easier. It's hansds-on, and its the exact right size, when online, you might exaggerate a little.
16/f/usa
hi i need advice coz last night me and my boyfriend 'did it' and he gave me a lick out and i gave him a bj and now he has a itchy cock and i have a itchy fanny did something bad happen coz my friend did exact same thing and nothing happened to her please give me advice.
Either something on both of your mouths triggered something to appear in the genitalia areas, or its just coincidence. I'm leaning towards the 1st one.
This doesn't mean your dirty. Lots of people don't know they have bacteria that can spread when you do that type of stuff. I am sure there is over the counter perscriptions you can get to cure it, or simply, wait it out.
What does it mean if you keep dreaming of a person?
That the person is on your mind. Simple as that.
I've had a headache for 7 days now and it really sucks. At first it was like a migraine and it calmed down to just a hurting headache pain and now it's back to a migraine and I'm so sick. I don't know why I get headaches but having one for a whole week seems excessive to me. Is this normal to have a headache for more than just 1 day or 2 days? Should I just keep taking aspirin and hope it goes away soon enough?
Definitely not normal. Anything that persists for that long is something worth seeing a doctor for. He will prescribe you with the best medicine for you to feel better. Feel better soon, and good luck!
Okay, I'm 16 & a female. I'm also bisexual & my boyfriend can't accept the fact that I'm bi. He says he wishes I liked ONLY guys & stuff like that. Then he says that he hates gays, lesbians, bisexuals & it hurts. But then my bigsissy ( well that's what I call her ) can't stand the fact that I'm bisexual either. Like when I told her, she said you spent the night over my house & we slept in the same bed together, you could've touched me. Like I mean really? I'm not attracted to every female/male I see, so that doesn't mean I'll touch them. It just hurts, plus when I hang with both of them, they high 5 each other for disliking me being bisexual. "/ what should I do?
I know this is really cliche, but if they are true friends, they wouldnt treat you like this, or make you upset.
Tell them honestly how you feel. You need to stand up for yourself, or else its just going to keep happening, and its going to make you even more hurt. Speak up, it can't hurt.
Theres no shame in being a bisexual, lesbian, or gay. We are all human beings, and need to be treated that way. I'm sorry to hear your friends arent treating you the way you deserve. Talk to them. Don't hint. Just come right out and say it.
im a dancer. and every year in may my dance school has this big recital. well the seniors always get their own solo. im a senior this year. i have no idea what song to dance to! im a girly girl. i dance and im a firefighter. i love it. i live my life for God. i love being outside and the sunshine. i plan on going to college. i really want to be a trauma nurse or paramedic. i love helping people. im random, loud, silly, stubborn, quiet, fun, friendly, sweet, outgoing.i love seeing the joy that a simple thoughtful act can bring to other. i want someone who appreciates that and who also wants to get the most out of his life. i adore my family and friends. i want a man who is there for me and vise versa. i want a guy who is ready for a relationship and commmitment. who knows what he wants in life. so my question is what are some song choices.? please and thank you!!
Such a great idea, and such good qualities you have!
I went through my Ipod and found some of these:
I'm Walking on Sunshine- Katrina and the Waves
Summer Sunshine- The Corrs
Ultimate- Lindsay Lohan
Pretend to be Nice- Josie and the Pussycats
Just Dance- Lady Gaga
Last Dance- Miley Cyrus
Love Me- Justin Bieber
Baby- Justin (not sure if you like his type, but try it, wouldnt hurt!)
Express Yourself- Madonna
My boyfriend and I are 18 years old, and my boyfriend has a younger brother who is 16 and also has a girlfriend well we both talk to their mom but its like their mom likes his brothers girlfriend more cause she knows spanish and i dont (and im mexican too). What do i do? When we're all together they are all laughing and talking and i just sit there because i have no idea what their talking about.. ive tried telling my boyfriend how i feel and he just doesnt understand how i feel he just says i feel left out because i never talk but how can i when i dont know what their saying.. It just feels like his mom likes her more than me. What do i do??
Well first, if you don't feel comfortable taking to his mom about how you feel, you need to have your boyfriend do it. Its his mom. Getting on the good side of a significant other's parent(s) is for sure intimidating and scary and you always want to impress them all you can. You say he doesn't understand, let him know it seriously bothers you and how you feel and you want to clear things up with his mom.
Now, I'm pretty positive you have other (and possibly better) qualities than your boyfriends brothers girlfriend. Such as maybe cooking. If you like to cook, offer to help cook for everyone one day when your over. It could get you and her to bond a little more. Just because you don't speak good Spanish, shouldn't give her a right to not like you.