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Hey! Im Nicole. This is my second advice column. I really ♥ to give advice. I am rated pretty high here too, even though ive only answered about 260 questions. I have pretty much answered every type of question && i can certainly give you some advice. It may not always be what you want to hear, but i'll give you wat you need to hear. Also if your having trouble with finding something on the net, i am really good at that! haha. well please feel free to ask me anything! id be really glad to help you!

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Hi guys.
Sorry if this is really long...i rate high.
Alrighty.
Well i have a boyfriend and i love him to death. We've been together for over 3 months and ever since ive knwn him he never EVER talks about his problems.
If i know somehtings wrong he'll say things like.."Its not important" or "Its nothing" when i can seeeee that its bothering him a lot. I want him to know that he doesnt need to act all tough around me. And i need him to know that he can talk to me about anything. I just dont know what to say to him.
Ive tried the usual..."you know im always here for you" and all that and he says he knows but it doesnt change anything.
Do you guys have anything i could say or do that would get him to know that im always there...and ready to listen?
Any advice is great advice!!
Thanks...
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I know a guy who was just like that to me. I'd tell him all my problems, and stuff, but he would never tell me any of his. I knew a lot was bugging him & everything. And i'd ask whats wrong? and he'd be like its nothing. And i never could get him to open up. There isnt much you can say to make him open up to you. Tell him you want to hear whats going on with him and its important to you. But your not going to pressure him to tell you. That may not work, but i think you should say it anyway. He knows you are there and im sure if he's ready he will tell you. Sometimes guys are like that. Sometimes the problem is too much to handle and they dont want to tell anyone. Or maybe he doesnt want to worry you. Or bother you with his problems.

♥ nicole

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Can anyone help me on riding horses? Like what do I do to make him walk, trot or anything else? How do I stop him? I need answers in the next 1 and a half hours or so. I rate 5's for decent answers. HELP!!!

Well heres something i found for you on the internet.

So finally, your horse is handed to you, and you are about to ride for the first time. Approaching and handling your mount should be done as described above, in a calm and respectful manner, The reins should not touch the ground (the horse could walk on them and break them) and they should be held as follows: one hand should be holding both reins below the bit, while the other one should hold the end of the reins. Most horses are trained to be mounted on the left side, so as a precaution, it is better to always mount them on that side.

Before putting your foot in the stirrup, you need to make sure the girth is tight enough. If not, the saddle can flip around the horse's body and end up under their belly. A pretty funny situation indeed, but rarely when it happens to you. Like everything else in horseback riding, mounting the horse should be done calmly and slowly.

In English riding, the rein should be adjusted when you mount, to prevent the horse from stepping forward. In Western riding a hand is kept on otherwise loose reins, but their horses as usually somewhat better trained at standing at attention. Excessive agitation, speaking loudly and squeezing the horse at the side should be avoided.

Talking to your horse in a soothing voice and relaxing your whole body will make this a better experience for both the horse and rider."

and for more just go to http://www.frontrangefrenzy.com/ridinghorses/beginnerguide.html

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Well, I have been VERY depressed lately about different things. My dad makes me really mad. I'm tired of being depressed. I can't get to sleep at night. I hate it. My best friend is wonderful and she tries to help me. But nothing works. EVER! I feel so bad because she tries her best. I love her so much for helping me. I'm just.. I don't know. I'm always sad. I need help. And I can't afford some REAL help, if you know what I mean. SO.. Does anyone have any advice?? I will rate 4s and 5s!!

Well a lot of people go through what you do. Just dont do anything to physically hurt you. The only advice I can give you is to go to a school counselor or someone like that. You could go to another family member & tell them whats bugging you & ask them what to do as well. Counselor is best though, i think. But what else you can do is draw, paint, read, take a relaxing bath, take walks, and things like that, that will relax you and make you feel less depressed. Try solving the issues between you and your dad & that might help. I dont know what else to tell you. Listen to music, that helps.

♥ nicole

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Okay well yesterday was my first day of a new school. I didnt know anyone but I met this guy and we kind of walked together and sat with each other at the schedule place. He's so cute and really cool, i dont have any classes with him...how do i get to know him? I dont have his number or intantmessanger.

Well since you dont have his number, next time you talk to him ask him for his number then (and his email.) You will see him again at school. And you will get to know him more. Dont worry about it. You'll see him at lunch & things like that. And you'll get to know him then.

♥ nicole

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Does anyone have any tips for how to redecorate your room with very little money? I don't want to paint it or anything, but I want it to look less plain.

Well i have the same exact problem except im too lazy to do anything about my room. You can buy posters for pretty cheap to put up on your wall. You can always rearrange your furniture, that always helps it look different. You can also buy a few cheap things to make it look more colorful. Such as a rug, a cute lamp, curtians, and pillows. Things like that can help make your room cuter!

♥ nicole

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Alright so, my Mom is alright. She buys me everything and anything I want. She lets me go anywhere. I want to get my belly button pierced and she's making me wait, but that's about it. Anyway. She nags me like a normal Mom and whatever. But she goes on and on. Like she just doesn't shut up. Sometimes she'll explain to me step by step how to do something, like she'll tell me how to feed the dog. HELLO. I know how to feed a dog, just tell me to actually DO IT. And she talks really slow on purpose, I think she just likes to hear herself talk. She's the most organized person in the world and I'm the most unorganized person in the world so we don't mesh. She yells at me for things all the time that are stupid. I tried explaining to her that it bothers me. But she just gets upset and yells at me even more. I told my Dad and my Grandparents and they all tried talking to her but nothing seems to work. I'm not perfect, and I don't expect her never to yell at me again or anything but she annoys me sooo much. What do I do?

Well you shouldn't give her such a hard time because she does do so much for you, but i do get what you mean. I think most parents are like this, at one point or another. All parents get annoying. What you should just do when it gets bad is just walk outside & get away from her for a while. Or maybe you should just go to a friends house or something for awhile. I know you already tried talking to her and it made her upset. But i think you should calmy talk to her when she is in a good mood.

♥ nicole

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Hey I'm trying to lose weight, so I've been drinking all water and eating cantalope as kinda my junk food instead of like Chips..like as a snack. Any idea how many calories it has?

Will rate high. Thanks.

Cantaloupe: calories:
1.0 cup, balls has 60 calories
1.0 wedge, medium (1/8 of medium melon) has 23 calories
1.0 melon, medium (about 5" dia) has 188 calories
1.0 wedge, large (1/8 of large melon) has 35 calories
1.0 melon, large (about 6-1/2" dia) has 277 calories
1.0 NLEA serving has 46 calories
1.0 cup, diced has 53 calories
10.0 cantaloupe balls has 47 calories
1.0 cup, cubes has 54 calories
1.0 wedge, small (1/8 of small melon) has 19 calories
1.0 melon, small (about 4-1/4" dia) has 150 calories

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i have a problem this guy will not go out withme untill i get a b/f 4 my friend and he wants me to get my brother to go out with her but he only likes her as a friend wat should i dooooo???


PLZZZZZZ HELP ME!!!!!!!!!

This guy doesnt want to go out with you unless you do something for him?? thats kind of not right. It's like you have to do him a favor for him to go out with you. He's not really worth your time. He obviously doesnt REALLY like you. Or else he wouldnt have done that. Sorry.

♥ nicole

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I will be freshman this year. And I'm so scared and nervous. My curent friends are like family, but I can't really be myserlf around them. They are too much into guys. But I've been through alot with them in middle school. And I don't really have any other close friends. So what should I do? Should I find new friends, or stick with the ones I got?

I'm going to be a freshman too! And im nervous as well!! lol, anyways.. i think you should make new friends, but that doesnt mean you have to get rid of your old ones! there is plenty of people in highschool. Ones who are boy crazy and ones who arent. There is nothing wrong with having both be your friends.

♥ nicole

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all of my friends are some of the nicest people in the world...but my dad just doesn't seem to like any of them. he always calls them brats or says that i can't hang out with them. they've all met him, and i keep telling him how great they are...but he just doesn't listen. how do i get him to see how amazing ALL my friends are?

Sometimes thats the way it is. Parents dont always like their kids friends. Maybe he has a good reason for it. Besides that he thinks they are brats maybe he has other reasons not to like them. Then again, he doesnt know them like you do. Tell him that. Just sit and talk with him. Tell him all the amazing things they do, and make him listen. You also should listen to his explanation. Sometimes parents think they know who we should hang out with and whats best for us, but they dont. But maybe he knows what hes talking about, you never know.

♥ nicole

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Hey, im on a diet, but i have no idea what foods to eat.
I kno veggies and fruits and no white bread.
But like for actual meals, what should I eat?

I have to make a grocery list for my mom so it would really help to have this info asap. Thanks will rate high.

Well when your making the list keep in mind what you need each day. 2-3 servings of the milk, cheese & yogurt group && 2-3 servings of meat poultry, fish, dry beans & eggs group. 3-5 servings of the vegetable group & the fruit group. 6-11 servings of bread, cereal, rice & pasta group. =) i'll make a list of what you should buy to keep you eating healthy.

Healthy food for breakfast:

- bagels with your favorite lowfat cream cheese
- ready-to-eat cereal topped with sliced banana and yogurt
- quick hot cereals
- bran muffins served with fresh fruit
- peanut butter on toast with milk
- dinner leftovers wrapped in a tortilla
- yogurt sprinkled with whole grain cereal
- breakfast shakes can be made with milk or yogurt, fruit and a teaspoon of bran

Other foods:

- pasta & noodles
- salads & sandwhiches
- beans
- nuts
- whole grain crackers & cheese
- peanut butter & celery
- yogurt

heres the things you shouldn't have:

- fast food
- soda, or any sugary drinks
- chips
- candy
- deep fried foods

* buy lots of milk & water
* have 5 small meals a day instead of 3 big ones.

hope that helps. need more, leave one in my inbox.

♥ nicole

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okay well ill be 16 in less than a month, and already my family and friends are asking what i want... i have no idea... so i need some help on what to get for a 16 year old girl... i really want a car... but i doubt my parents will do that, and i was thinkin a tiffanys neckalce and one of those sequin purses... but what else is there?!! please help!!

- money (best idea)
- gift cards
- makeup
- jewelry
- cds
- movies
- a cell fone, but you probably have one already
- an ipod (if you dont have one)

money is probably what you should do and ask for the tiffanys necklace & the sequin purse.. and then anything else you'd really love. If i were you i'd go to the mall and show your friends & family what you want. haha, well happy early birthday.

♥ nicole

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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost three months. He lives a town away from me, but we still barely ever see each other, and for some reason he barely calls anymore. What do i do to make myself feel better about the relationship?

Talk to him on email, or call him or something. If it's not working out and you both arent happy with your relationship, especially long distance, then you may have to end it. The only way i think you can feel better is if you talk to him more. And sometimes that means you have to be the one to call. Long distance relationships will always be tough. You just have to learn to move on, because it might never work. Especially since you guys never see eachother, maybe its best you just let him go. There isnt much else you can do, except try to plan a visit with him sometime.

♥ nicole

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~~~Heyy~~~
well i want to find a website where i can find kjute things. like those dollz with quotes or poems. and all that glittery stuff. like i love you. well its kinda confusing but if you know a webiste please put it down~~

8) tx a lot pplz ill rate ya high

well ok here is a few.

- http://www.freewebs.com/brandiskoolstuff/

- http://www.angelkizz.net/ak/main.php

- http://www.diamondrains.com/babypixelnames.php

- http://www.quotemania.2ya.com/

theres more to but my computer is being dumb so ask me in my inbox if you want more.

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I KNOW THIS IS LONG.. BUT I REALLY NEED HELP AND ILL RATE 5'S FOR EVERYONE NO MATTER WHAT.. I PROMISE!!

Well i have these two friends... nd lets say their names are Bob and Rob.. well ive been good friends with bob longer than i have with Rob.. Both Rob and Bob are a lil chunky.. but they're not Fat.. So me Rob and Bob became a group this year.. and ive always felt like i fit in until one day rob was me and bob are fat.. nd we hate pool partys.. and we have something against skinny people cauz we're jealous of them.. so i was like you guys aren't fat.. nd since im like a twig,.. i got offended and i was like well now im gonna feel uncomfortable in the pool with you guys since we're gonna be in bathing suits.. and rob didn't answer.. so since bob is my best friend i decided to talk to her about it.. so i told her how i felt.. and im like its not like you guys excercise or try to loose weight.. so then we straightened it out... but rob and bob want to go shopping together and rob doesn't wanna invite me cauz im skinny.. i mean i understand how they feel but now i feel like rob feels more comfortable around bob and i feel like rob and bob are friends and im not part of the group anymore.. i mean i wouldn't consider rob my best friend... cauz she's not my type of person.. nd now bob is like turning into rob.. like they use the same font colors and fonts on AIM and bob started listening to rock just like rob.. and now whenever we're together and we talk about clothes.. bobs like Lisa your such a twig you can fit into abercrombie.. and the way she says it, it hurts my feelings.. so like rob has bob brain washed practically and i hate the way she's acting now like all punk and into rock or watever and like how she's saying .. i hate you, your so skinny.. its not my fault im skinny.. im a runner.. and ive been skinny all my life cauz its in my genes and ive been doing sports since i was like 2.. so i dunno wat to do.. please help

Well, thats kind of sad. It's not like your doing something wrong, and its not like they really are. They are jealous of you and probably feel even more self contious when you are around. This is kind of a tough situation to deal with. This whole Rob & Bob thing kind of confused me, but i get it. Being called a twig is almost as bad as being called fat, so i understand why that would hurt your feelings. You really need to talk to them. They probably feel uncomfertable around you because you have what they dont. You should understand that. There isnt much you can do but tell them that their weight doesnt bug you and you wish your size wouldnt bother them. And if it still does and that doesnt work. You should talk to bob, and ask why she isnt your best friend anymore & why she acts exactly like rob. Other than that, i'd just find some new friends that arent like that, i guess. Because if they dont want to be with you because your skinny, there is really nothing you can do.

♥ nicole

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how can i make it so i puke in the morning so i dont have to go somewhere but can stay home? if i take to much cough syrup (but not enough to kill) when i wake up would that make me puke??

I wouldnt stick your finger down your throat like the first people were saying. I'd just do a fake throw up or whatever. Or just fake a cold, it seems much simpler. There is plenty other ways to fake a sickness. Ways that are smarter than to make yourself throw up. Maybe you can look it up on the net, cuz i dont know anyother ways.

♥ nicole

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i found this guy on the internet.. and we met up and i like him.. ALOT! i mean hes sweet nice cute everything i want in a guy.. but i dont know if hes into me.. he says that he wants to see me again and really soon.. and everything but does he like me? I DONT KNOW BUT I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM!

Well if he met up with you, he obviously likes you somewhat. Ask him if he likes you. It really is that simple. Tell him how you feel & see if he likes you too. Sometimes you have to take a chance! well good luck.

♥ nicole

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well 13 months ago my doctor said i was gonna get my period in 6 months to a year.. but then a year passed and i still hadn't gotten it.. and then i went to my physical 13 months later and the doctor said another 6 months to a year.. but ive gotten like everything such as my growth spurt pubic hair.. vaginal discharge.. etc. but im active.. cauz im a runner... but i haven't ran since the end of may cauz i have an injury.. so i know like you shouldn't want your period or w/e.. but i just wanna get it over with because all of my friends have it except me and i feel so left out.. and my best friend just hers and she says she won't feel comfortable talking about it with me until i got mine.. so i feel so bad.. when do you think i'll get mine??.. do you think i'll have to wait another year??

I think yours will be coming soon. Dont worry about it too much, im sure nothings wrong. Be thankful you dont have to go through the pain yet. But you probably will have it soon. Being active does make it so your period comes later, but now that you have stopped, it will probably come sometime this year.

♥ nicole

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ok well my dad is so annoyin no matter wha he does or says. we really dont have dat type of dad n daughter realtionship. we dont fight or nothing like dat but how can i stop being annoyed bu him. im 14/f. i love him dont get me wrong

I totally get what you mean. Try to find something you relate to and talk about it. There has to be something you both like. Try to play a sport with him or something. If he is totally annoying, dont be too mean about it. I dont know what you can do to make him stop annoying you. I guess just tell him it bugs you sometimes but you do love him. I dont know what else to tell you, hope that helped a little.

♥ nicole

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16 F sophomore. guy 17 junior.

Me and this guy have been friends for about 2 almost 3 years i guess.. if i'm couting right. Anyway i suddenly liked him after a terrible break up.. and then I just gave up on it thinking i was still in love with my ex.. moving on... So this crush has kind of been hidden for a few months and i recently told him that i liked him way back then. and he was cool about it but here recently we've been joking about being benefit buds.. and i dont know if he's serious.. and even if he was and we really did like each other and wanted to date should I: b/c a) he's dated like 2 or 3 of my friends and B) this wouldn't destroy our friendship but maybe make it awkward. i dunno just some advice please?~ unsure.

I wouldnt do that friends with benifits, it never works out cos someone gets hurt (well ive heard, lol). Yea, um well if you wanted to have a relationship that would be better, sumwhat. But it will destroy your relationship when you break up. Well, it might, if you let it. I dont think its the best idea. But if you REALLY like him, then go for it. If you kinda like him, dont do anything about it and move on.

♥ nicole

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