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i liked this girl i started dating who i thought was an innocent girl. in fact i didn't even try to kiss her until the third date because of how innocent i thought she was. well the thing is after i kissed her and don't ask me why we started talking about sexual experiences ( i thought she had practically none so what did i have to fear). well i found out she is what is known as a virgin slut or virgin whore, a girl who is still a virgin but has kissed around 40 guys and had blown off 4 guys just because she was horny and returning the favor after they had sucked her off.
i feel a little disgusted with the horny attitude with random guys in the past and don't know what i should think.
anyway, she is leaving the country for a year so we broke up but still talk as friends. we only kissed so i didn't even get blown off myself but she is going to do some religion studies outside the country, meaning no more sex life for at least that year (no kissing, no nothing). the thing is she went to Aruba as her last opportunity to party and i hate the feeling i get when i think about the certainty of she kissing at least a couple of guys a night (which really doesn't bother me that much)and the possibility of she sucking a guy off just because she is horny (that one does bother me).
i know this inst exactly a question but i need counsel from someone.
thanks in advance. (link)
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You have no reason to be uncomfortable over what some random girl does in her spare time. She is not your girlfriend. She kissed you one time. You are #41 on her list of guys that she has kissed. Put that into perspective.
Besides, what she is doing is actually smart. She is enjoying sexual satisfaction without any risk of pregnancy. She is smart enough to know when to say no.
If you are interested in dating her, don't judge her. If you ask her out and she agrees to date you, just make sure that she understands that you want the relationship to be exclusive.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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I'm Male, 19 years old. I've been with my girlfriend for almost 16 months. We're both virgins. Lately, since I started working, I've had the temptation to just go out and cheat. I'm always super horny and fantasizing about doing stuff with other girls. I love my girlfriend and I feel super guilty for wanting to cheat. We never really do anything besides kiss. I don't want to pressure her into doing anything she doesn't want, and I don't pressure her. But she'll do stuff that hints that she wants to do something, then doesn't do it. Like sometimes we'll be sitting and she'll grab me and/or stroke me for a few seconds then stop. Sometimes she'll put my hand on her crotch so I could rub, but we never go any further. I work at a busy place in nyc, so I'm always seeing and meeting nice attractive girls. I always fantasize on my train commute too. Like everyday. Sometimes I even wonder about calling an escort, but I don't want to mess up. (link)
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Why don't you just tell her that you want to go further? It's not nice to pressure people, but telling her what you want is not the same thing as pressuring her. If you have been dating for sixteen months, it is understandable that you are ready to progress sexually. If she says she doesn't want to go further, ask her why and try to understand and then go from there. If it's just that she is a virgin, try to take small steps. Start with handjobs and fingering. Then, when she gets comfortable with that, start ejaculating on various parts of her body. Then ask for a blowjob....if you take it slow and do baby steps (progressing to the next step every couple of months), it will be less scary for her.
As a side note, watching less porn might help you to stop fantasizing so much (assuming you watch porn). Try masturbating to thoughts of her rather than to images on a screen. Porn is likely to leave you feeling unsatisfied.
Oh yeah, and don't call an escort. Those people have some crazy STDs.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Jist of what happened in the past
- I liked his best friend, same college
- We met and even though things got messed up ended up liking each other
- Started dating when he passed out (im still doing my undergrad)
- we have been dating a year. I'm 19 he's 22
- our parents know about us and we have met both sides
- we met in college and then he passed out and started giving exams
- he couldn't clear the exams he gave so his parents got paranoid about him going on the wrong path or getting distracted because of me
- he promised his mom hed clear the last exam for us to prove to her he can do something
- he started working with this ngo in town so we would see each very often
- our friends knew and he even told his best buds that he'd marry me if we continue dating for a while
- we never had any problems even though he is a bit flirtatious with other women he was loyal to me
- Had a few fights because of the guys friends I had but it was all sorted out
A week back since I'm on vacation across the country he texted me saying that his result came out and he didn't clear it so he had to break up to concentrate on his career
He said he still loved me but he had to let this go since we were mad about each other. He said he hoped we got back together but couldn't promise anything for the future and didn't want to give me false hopes.
He said I was the best thing that happened to him. He also said his parents raised him and he needs to make them proud by achieving something in life and hence he needs to give up all the distractions in his life.
Its been a week and he wouldn't answer any of my calls or messages and has completely cut off. He told his friends he called it off and didn't give a reason and he wouldn't reply back to my friends at all.
I don't know what to do. I want him back because I love him even if it involves waiting but I don't know what is going on in his mind. I am also scared out of stupidity hed go any do something really reckless to get over me.
I don't know what to say to him when we meet when I get back but I am willing to do anything to rectify this. Do you have any advice as to why this happened and it could truly get him back? Or am I living in a dream world where fairytales exist and he is truly over me? (link)
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I do not think you are living in a dream world. He probably is not over you if you were really in love. Love doesn't just disappear.
There are several reasons he could have broken up with you. But, the most likely reason is that your boyfriend has gotten used to you being away on your trip and is enjoying his independence. He says he doesn't want to keep you waiting, but I think he does. I think he wants to go about his business and then have you back later. This would satisfy his parents and give him some space to act like a silly young adult before he takes you back. But, this is dangerous because chances are he will get addicted to the independence and will forget about your relationship in time.
My honest advice to you is the following: When you get back into town go to his doorstep. YOU MUST HAVE THIS CONVERSATION IN PERSON IN THE MOST DRAMATIC WAY POSSIBLE. You are creating a mod here! Tell him you have thought long and hard about this and that you cannot be without him. Repeat all of the promises he made to you and make him feel guilty. Then tell him you love him until the end of time and that you absolutely REFUSE to wait around while he establishes himself. Tell him you are NOT just a "distraction" and that you are hurt that he would ever call you that. Ask him if that's all your relationship ever meant to him. Chances are, he will say no and that he loves you. Tell him if he loves you he needs to man up and show it. Tell him he can't be so selfish as to break up with you over something like this. Let him know that MANY people have strong relationships and still pass school. Tell him if he didn't clear his exams that is because he did not try hard enough. Tell him other people manage and if he keeps having this attitude in life how does he ever expect to have a job and a family at the same time? We need to multi-task in life. Tell him it is time to grow up. Tell him you will not let him use you as an excuse for his failures and that your relationship is more than just a "distraction".
If he doesn't apologize at that point you are dealing with a heartless person. Walk away knowing that you tried and DO NOT CONTACT HIM. He WILL contact you.
Believe moi. Moi has a charm that is lethal to men.
Miss Piggy
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I've been engaged since September of last year. My fiancé's sister just got engaged a month ago. My wedding is in September 2015. Her fiancé wants to have the wedding in May 2015. They have only been dating for 2 years. My fiancé and I have been together for 7 years. We were going to get married this year but I've had a lot of medical complications. I'm upset about that fact they want to get married before us and want to take away our thunder. I think it's rude and disrespectful. His parents originally said they would stand up for us and tell her to wait and now they don't want to. My fiancé and I are getting into fights about this. We are suppose to talk to his sister and fiancé but honestly I'm so upset. Don't know what to do.
Sincerely,
Invisible (link)
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Honestly, I get where you are coming from because my frog and I have been together for eight years. My sister has been with her boyfriend for two years and she wants to get married on the same year as us. I am literally in the same situation as you. Moreover, Kermit and I picked our wedding year six years ago, so my sister new she was infringing on our day.
But you know what? It never bothered me that she wants to do it on the same year because for me, a wedding isn't about getting attention or "thunder". It is about you and your husband. It's a personal thing, not a competition.
She can plan her wedding whenever she wants. Get over it, and focus on your own wedding. Don't be that person who needs all eyes on them in order to be happy. Create your own happiness.
I'm sure you are the one with the stronger relationship, and that is what counts in the end.
The love expert,
Miss Piggy
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Women have told me that they love my husband and would do anything to get with him. I've been told that he is THEIR exact type and ask why is he with me. I am not an ugly woman and I scratch my head wondering what they see in him. He is attractive to me and very nice but this is becoming a problem. The checker at our local store asked him if she could be the strawberries on his shortcake. He tells me when some woman hits on him which makes matters worse. There's woman at his job that makes him lunch and he says he just takes it because its free food and that he isn't interested in her. What is going on? This has become a frequent event (once or twice a week) at least. Some women will smile all in his face even if we go out somewhere together and or stand near us & make loud comments like "Why is he with her?" . One woman told him that if he became bored with me, she was available. Is he encouraging this behavior? I see other attractive, married men and nobody is making the moves on them! What's up?
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Women are often selfish and thoughtless. Nobody should flirt with a married man under any circumstances. This is hurtful to you. It is also classless and rude.
Your husband probably allows it because it gives him an ego boost. Tell him this needs to stop, especially the free lunches. He does seem to be encouraging the behaviour. It seems as though you married a stud.
A word of comfor though: the lunches thing is extremely desperate and I would be shocked if he were interested in her. That's pathetic and something to be pitied.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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I need a little advice on how to handle a coworkers behavior! I started this part time job about 2 months ago! Everyone has been verynice! One guy in particular has been overly flirtatious, and at first I wasn't sure if it was because I was the new girl or if he really likes me! After some time has passed he's continuously hit on me and its making me a bit uncomfortable! I've already tried the nice polite route and told him I'm not interested and I don't get with people who are in relationships already! He's continued to hit in me still! Again I told him I was all set, a bit more stern! He still doesn't seem to get the idea! Should I tell him again or should I go to management? I don't want to create waves or drama, but I'm uncomfortable! (link)
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Tell him if this continues you will have to go to management.
Then,follow through.
Yours truly,
Miss Piggy
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so basically im having trouble deciding if i should break up with my byfriend he dosnt message me first we barley hang out and when we do we dont really talk we like kiss in stuff i dont know what to do should i stay and see where things go or dump him because honestly i dont feel like we are gonna last
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Guys aren't complicated. Girls are complicated. You don't talk because like many young guys he is horny and interested in sexual experimentation, not a real relationship. I don't recommend you dump him. I recommend you stop making out with him. Wait a few months without doing anything other than and holding and a few pecks. If he sticks around, then you can be confident that although his first reaction was to focus on the physical, he is open to a relationship. If he dumps you that will pretty much say it all: he was using you.
If you don't think you can date him without making out with him just dump him. But, if you are up for the challenge of turning him down, trust me it works. I have been with my frog for eight years. He treated me that way when we first started going out. Now, he's a perfect angel.
From moi to you,
Miss Piggy
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I went on a coffee date with a guy yesterday, and it went really well...we talked the whole time and he seemed really interested. At the end of the date, I said I'm glad we met up and we should do it again. He said absolutely and asked why my schedule is like. I said that I'm in a certain city (where he works) during the week, and around during the weekends. I said "I'm pretty open for now"...and after that there was no word or confirmation. Just a bye and that was it. So I'm wondering if i sounded too available or over eager and turned him off? I mean, I thought I was being honest... But now I'm thinking he might not reach out for a second date bc of that. Any thoughts? Especially by men... (link)
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You probably did sound overegar, but not with the part where you were honest about being available. You were overegar when you suggested you meet up again in the first place. Always leave the planning up to the guy. This is not about playing hard to get. It is about the fact that most guys are lazy and will put the minimal amount of effort they can into a relationship if you let them. You took the initiative to tell him you would like to have a second date with him. This tells him that you will do the work for him: instead of him wondering whether or not you will accept a second date, you have volunteered to sit around wondering whether or not he wants a second date. Don't put yourself in these positions. Let him initiate next time.
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An old boyfriend, lives in another state, texts me, calls me, sends me pics of his kids. He is divorced. It was 30+ years that we didn't talk. Found me on facebook. Could this mean he might want to get back together? We share, on the phone, everything going on in our lives. I am a 55 year old woman. (link)
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Only time will tell what he is feeling. For now, why not meet up for lunch someday soon? I know he lives in another state, but it could be fun. Don't come right out and say that you want to be a couple, just meet up and see what happens. See if he takes the hint.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Once I have anal sex and it didn't slipper to my vagina, am I still a virgin? (Stressed) (link)
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This is called being a "technical virgin". Although you have not technically had intercourse, you did do something intimate.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Hello, I am female and 19. I've been talking to this guy I met at college. We started texting on move out day and we haven't really stopped since. He has no problem wearing his heart on his sleeve whereas I'm very introverted and have a hard time with "feelings." We argue a lot and that sucks a lot because we both get kind of pissed off pretty easy but I think that factors into us knowing each other so well that it just kinda happens.
Anyway, I have a lot of guy friends and I talk to him about them quite a bit but they are all only friends and I can promise that's all they ever will be. Well, he gets jealous of me talking about them because he thinks I'm going to hang out with them so much and forget about him. I talked to him about this numerous times that they're only friends and I don't hook up with them and all of that stuff. Whereas, he talks about this girl that's now his best friend but he used to like her a lot and, honestly, I get pretty jealous when he talks about her because I know how much he used to care about her and I told him that and he completely overlooked it. I believe he actually told me "i think you're making it a way bigger deal than it is. She's so cute but she isn't who I like right now." So, that pissed me off. Then today, we were talking about people from school and who we miss and everything and he told me he thought there were a lot of cute girls living in our building so I became very despondent in that conversation which lead him to name all of the cute girls in our building. He put me first in the list, obviously, but it just pisses me off a little when he does that because I am trying so hard to not talk about my guy friends as much to him anymore because I know he doesn't like it but he talks about all these girls to me all the time even after I told him that I'm not the biggest fan of that. What do I do? (link)
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Tell him you do not like to hear about other girls and make an effort not to talk about your guy friends either. The two of you need to really make an agreement and stick to it!
From Moi to you,
Miss Piggy
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I am married for 3.5 years. My husband thinks i dont deserve him. I am too inferior too him. He is a doctorate nd i am only a diploma holder. Nd moreover he thinks i am dumb which probably i am. He married me under family pressure nd now asks me to leave him. I come from a very orthodox family ehich doesnt accepts divorced ladies. I love my husband a lot nd dont want to leave him. But he is not happy with me. So i dont know what to do. Please advice. I am 26 years old. (link)
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Ask your husband if he loves you. If he does love you, then try to see if your educational background is the only reason he wants to break up. If it is, maybe you should consider going back to school. If your husband has a steady income and you could afford to further your education, this could be a good solution. If he doesn't love you though, then break up with him and find someone who appreciates you.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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I've been in a relationship with a girl from overseas for almost two years. I'm a 26 y/o guy, and she's 24. She came with me here about a year and a half ago. I treat her well, romance her, buy her roses, bake her cakes, take her out when I have time, tell her that she's beautiful, help her look for work, and a lot with English.
Last year she started acting funny and talking about a guy, and I found out she cheated on me by looking at her phone, and reading her emails (Not saying this was right, just that I did it). I confronted her, but I never really felt she thought what she did was wrong. I promised not to look at her stuff again.
For the half year since then she's been using her phone a ton, and hiding it from me. Lately she has been getting calls and messages from the guy she cheated with on me again, so often that even though she doesn't want me to know, it's inevitable that I would see at some point. She gets pissed off over trivial things, she's stuck to her phone 24/7, we hardly ever have sex anymore, and sometimes I don't feel like she even wants to be here.
So I gave her time, and everything just felt kind of wrong. I broke my promise and checked up on her. She's still cheating on me, and things never really stopped. She tells me she's faithful, nothing has happened, and she loves me, but I know she's lying.
Recently she got offered her dream job in my country, and the contract process is happening fairly quickly. She's staying here on a Partner visa with me, and we live together. If I break up with her, she either has to leave within a month, or become illegal. Apart from that, it will obviously make my life more hellish for that month than it already is living with a person who you know is lying to you with a straight face, while making out with another guy. I know that she is planning to stay with me for the two years it will take for her to gain permanent residence, and then leave me for the guy she is cheating on me with.
In my country, you can only ever sponsor two people to be partners, and if your first partner is granted PR, the length your second one has to wait grows to 5 years, rather than just 2.
I don't know how to handle breaking up with her, and what to say to who, when. I don't want to be taken advantage of, or have my name smeared by this. Breaking up with her before she gets PR will pretty much destroy her whole life as she knows it. She quit her job to come here with me, which is kind of a black spot on her employment history in her home country. I feel angry and upset about what she has done to our relationship, but I'm still battling feelings of love for her, and I don't want to see her broken. I wish everything I know about what's happened could be a lie, but I know it's not, so I have to deal with it.
To complicate things, accepting the job involves costly medical and security checks for her, and may mean we consider moving. I'm at university, and I only just found this out, right before the exam period. I really don't want to think about this before exams, and I definitely don't want to break up with her just before my first exam, so I am putting it off, but I feel so guilty for "supporting" her through the process of getting checks and references for this job that I know will be difficult if not impossible for her to keep.
What would you do?
What should I tell her? The truth? Or that I've fallen out of love, but don't know why? Or that one of her friends told me the truth?
How do I deal with the stress of living together with this oblivious lying girl who tells me she loves me?
What should I do to handle the resistance that I'm likely to have to breaking up with her? She won't want to break up with me, because she wants PR.
Can you tell me some steps and the order in which I might do them?
Any other general advice about the situation that I haven't asked a specific question about is more than welcome.
Thanks in advance.
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Step 1: Tell her you know she is still cheating. Tell her you looked on her phone and found out. If she gets upset that you broke your promise and looked at her phone, tell her that you would not normally break a promise but that your intuition was telling you that something was not right. Tell her that your intuition was obviously right and that you do not regret looking on her phone because you needed to know the truth. If she still complains that you looked on her phone, repeat that you did this because you had the feeling she was still cheating and you were right. Tell her that when she starts being honest with you, you will be honest in return but that she shouldn't expect you to keep all of your little promises when she can't even keep her legs closed. She seems to expect a lot of you: for you to keep your promises 100% of the time. But, she seems to think she can do whatever she wants and screw around on you behind your back. This is a double standard.
Step #2 Accept the fact that she is using you to get the PR. You got screwed over.
Step #3 Tell her it is over and that you know she is using you. When she resists this, tell her that it is not her choice and that you have made up your mind. Tell her that next time she wants to use a guy for immigration purposes, she should keep her legs closed for the brief period of time that it takes to do so.... I don't mean to encourage you to be rude to her, but sometimes manipulative people need a reality check. They need to know that other people are not clueless to their antics.
Step #4 Kick her out. Give her $200 if you think you need to so that she can have a hotel room for the night.
Step #5 Do not answer her calls.
Step #6 Look for someone new. There are so many nice women out there who are looking for guys like you. The fact is, it is normally the guy who cheats on the girl. The fact that you are a loyal and honest man makes you a great catch. Just know that you can do better than this manipulative woman.
From moi to you,
Miss Piggy
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So I have been with my bf for about 8 months and this is the 2nd time we tried to make this work. The first time, he screwed it up and then left but later came back. This time, we compromised and talked and made a "request list" of what we don't want each other to do. Because we are both super protective, its requests like not checking out members of the opposite sex and not lying, etc. Over the course of our 8 months, he has lied to me a couple times and broken requests. I can't leave the house without seeing a girl and thinking "oh gosh I look awful and he would totally love seeing her" yet he denies breaking the opposite sex requests. I'm over the lying. I want to trust him but I don't know what to do. Over the course of time, particularly when he started lying, I started doubting and second guessing my love for him. So now I don't know if I love him and I don't trust him yet I can't really make myself leave. I don't know what to do. Its like I don't want to leave but I do. Ive seen The Fault In Our Stars and all I could think about was him. He tells me "you will see a change" but he has said that before. I don't know if I'm pretending to love him just because I don't want to be alone of a bunch of stuff like that. I really need help. Plus its like I don't want someone to reply back to this and say "yea leave him", I want good advice which then means I care about us lasting so I have feelings for him. I just feel empty and like there's something missing and he claims for it to be trust. Is he right? Is my doubt just because I don't trust him? How do I trust him once and for all? How do I love him once and for all? (link)
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You could be paranoid like he is suggesting. You could be insecure and that could be why you are so nervous all of the time.
Or, he could be a liar.
It is easier to believe the first option, isn't it? It is easier to blame things on your own insecurity because then you feel like you can change it. If it is that your paranoia and your insecurity, then you are in control. This is a comforting thought.
It is much harder to admit that you are not in control. It is harder to admit that the guy you are in love with might lie to you, and that he might check out members of the opposite sex.
Don't be afraid to be honest with yourself: the guy is lying. You can feel it in your gut, can't you?
The reason he keeps telling you to trust him is that he wants you to blame yourself. He wants you to blame your insecurities. Why? Because he does not want to admit to the fact that he sometimes lies to you and that he sometimes checks out other girls.
But, there is good news. Not all guys who lie are bad boyfriend material. Sometimes people lie to be mean, but other times people lie to protect the ones that they love. It sounds to me like your boyfriend is a liar, but that he is a liar with good intentions. He does not want to hurt you by telling you the truth. He probably doesn't want you to know that he does sometimes check out other girls.
And you know what? He SHOULD lie to you about that. Why would he tell you that he checks out other girls when it would only hurt your feelings? I'm also sure that he probably does his best not to check out other girls, but sometimes it is a natural reaction. I'm sure you've experienced it yoruself: you see a good looking guy and you think "wow he's sexy", but you don't mean anything by it. You love your boyfriend and that is what counts. Same goes for him. He might accidentally check out other girls, but then he probably thinks about how much he loves you and how beautiful you are and forgets all about them.
Bottom line: Don't start to trust him more. Instead, forgive him for lying.
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Several months ago I started seeing this really amazing guy. We are both in college; he is graduating in a few days and moving away for work. His job is 6 hours away (driving), but less than an hour by plane and tickets are very cheap.
He doesn't believe that a long distance relationship will work, and wants to become "just friends" when he moves. His job relocates every 2 years or so and he may eventually return to my city, but I'm scared that he will lose interest in me (as a friend and otherwise) in that time.
What should I do? (link)
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Next time you date someone, don't sleep with them so early. The reason I am bringing assuming you have already had sex is that sometimes sex creates the illusion that two people are closer than they are.
I know this is not what you want to hear, but I'm guessing you are very serious about him and he does not seem to feel the same. Even if he says he loves you, his actions show that he prioritizes his job over your relationship.
Next time, do not sleep with someone unless you have talked about things such as: do you plan to stay in this city?
You dove in too early.
All you can do now is sit back and see if he loses interest in you or not. Chances are he will lose interest, because he clearly does not prioritize the relationship.
And do you really think he would act this way if you hadn't already slept together? Of course not. He would be still trying to get with you, not trying to put you in the friend zone. Remember, the harder you are to get, the more interested men are.
Believe moi. I am a technical virgin who has been with her frog for eight years. This is not a coincidence.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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I am 21 years old (female). Me and my 23 year old boyfriend have been dating for 3
years now. We are very close, and spend a lot of time together. Since 2 months in, we both knew that this is it, we are meant to be together and one day we'll get married :)
We are both still students.
My boyfriend is a foreign national, and is here in my country on a study permit.
He's planned to immigrate here for many years, but applications for citizenship require work or permanent residence permits, that he can only acquire through getting a job. He has been looking out at carreer fairs for when he graduates and he is usually unsuccessfull in finding a company that employs foreign national graduates. The few opportunities that have presented themselves seemed promising untill recently. Our immigration laws are changing, and it will be even more difficult for him to get citizenship now.
Even though he doesn't want to get citizenship through the marriage route (because he feels its better he gets it first, then we'll marry anyways for the right reasons and only the right reasons), I've told him a few times that I feel that if its our last resort before his permit runs out and he is made to go live in his country again; I think we should get married because we're going to anyway. Otherwise, we may lose each other if he gets kicked out of the country.
So now we are both final year, and new laws are coming in that limits his stay more and more. He is trying to get in to postgraduate studies, but I don't know if he'll get in.
He hasn't proposed, and hasn't mentioned that he'll take his last resort.I know he doesn't feel its the right way to do it (and perhaps he also feels we're not ready). But I know that he does want to marry me.
So I'm feeling the pressure mounting. I know I said I'll just marry him, and I want to... but I am so young, and big decisions are scary and even with a marriage certificate it takes 2 years till he's allowed in the country. SO in the mean time I'll have to move with him to some other country or his own (Zimbabwe - where there is no work).
I dont think I'm ready to get married, to move countries, to uproot my career here (I have my first job now). Its all been so far in the future, something we'll do when we feel we are ready.. But we cant wait too long and lose each other...
Im scared he proposes and I say I have to think about it (cause me doubting it will hurt him). Because its so much more complicated than just saying yes cause I love you. Isnt it?
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If I were you I wouldn't worry about what to say if he proposes because chances are he won't propose anyway. He does not seem interested in getting married right now.
One thing is for certain: things will not stay the same in your relationship after this. This is a make it or break it time in your relationship. Either he will propose and you two will get married and work to stay together or he won't and you will break up or he will go back to his country and you two will do long distance for awhile. This long distance option might be the best option since you two are a little iffy about getting married, but you love each other enough to not want to break up.
Just make sure to keep communicating openly and honestly about the situation.
And take some time for yourself to de-stress. A nice dessert and a bubble bath can do wonders!
Miss Piggy
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How do you know wether to walk away from your relationship or to keep trying?? I spent a year and 4 months with him but I don't know what I want or what to do.. (link)
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Keep trying.
Don't ever walk away when you have unfinished business or it will come back to haunt you. Unless you are 100% sure you are ready to move on, stick with it.
Your favourite muppet,
Miss Piggy
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I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. We had been fighting a lot in the past month and he hasn't been the same since. Then yesterday he said he loves me,but he doesn't know what he wants and he can't be with me right now. We were together for 3 years. I am studying medicine and I am extremely busy,yet I still made a lot of time for him. I gave all my love,support,I always listened to him and offered my help,I was 100% loyal and devoted. He is younger than me and will get to college this year. I know the amount of pressure he's under. I had it a lot worse in my senior year in high school but I never let him suffer because of that. So I end up giving it all and I get this. And it's always been like this for me. I am no doll when it comes to appearances,but I am a good,loyal girlfriend. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. What was my mistake? I realized that no matter what I do I will just get hurt. The sooner I accept nobody wants me,the better I guess. (link)
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Men are not always as loyal as women are. This isn't a rejection. It's a sign that your boyfriend wants to get with other women. It's a sign that he can't keep it in his pants.
Tell him if he loves you that he needs to man up and put some effort into making the relationship work.
Believe moi. Moi has a charm that is lethal to men.
Miss Piggy
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I am from india.
i am 22 , never had a girlfriend . i dont know why.
its not like i am ugly but still . never had sex . next year i finish my college , got a campus placement in a good European company.
but it all feels so sick . i like a girl in college shes cute but i dont feel like disturbing her.
i love my parents but you know i cant talk to them about certain things and these things are killing me from inside.i am depressed , dont know what to do...
i want it to be over soon. (link)
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Do not kill yourself just because you havn't had sex! Women do NOT have to sleep with you. You should not expect them to.Nobody owes it to you to make you happy, you have to do that for yourself.
Start by taking a bubble bath. Learn to enjoy your own company.
Miss Piggy
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My husband is in the military and after 13 years he is separating due to medical reasons. He wants to move back to our hometown to be near both of our families, primarily his mother and aunt. Well, I am hesitate. I didn't have the best childhood due to both of my parents being alcoholics. They both still drink heavily and can get violent and emotional when doing so. My oldest brother still lives in the area and drinks excessively as well. To top it off, my sister-in-law and her husband live about an hour away and love to drink and party and are somewhat open swingers. Their sexually active 15 year old daughter is free to do as she pleases and their 12 year old son is often left on his own. While I respect my husband for wanting to be near his mother and his disabled aunt, I am having a hard time dealing with the fact of being near the rest of our family. While it would be nice to be near family, this is not the situation I have envisioned. I don't want our children thinking drinking excessively and having multiple partners is okay. Should I accept the fact we are moving back and deal with the situation as it comes or continue trying to talk my husband into moving somewhere else? (link)
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Talk to your husband. He may want to be near his family, but he is only thinking of himself. Studies show that the #1 thing that effects how kids turn out is what neighborhood they grow up in. Isn't that interesting? You would think it would be how loving you are as a parent, but that is not the case. Neighborhood is the most important thing. Explain this to your husband, and try to get him to understand.
Best of luck from moi to you,
Miss Piggy
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