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why are guys so compplicated
so basically im having trouble deciding if i should break up with my byfriend he dosnt message me first we barley hang out and when we do we dont really talk we like kiss in stuff i dont know what to do should i stay and see where things go or dump him because honestly i dont feel like we are gonna last
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Before you go and break up with him, I really think you should talk to him about this & tell him how you feel. After you talk to him, ask him his opinion about it. If you feel like things aren't gonna change, then break it off and move on to something better. Hope this helps!
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Have you talked to him about this at all? Or is this something you've been keeping to yourself?
You should talk to him and tell him how you're feeling. Just sit him down and tell him that you guys do a lot of kissing but you'd actually like to hang out more and do things together. If he seems up for it and understanding, he's worth keeping around and seeing where things go. If he doesn't seem willing or that enthusiastic about having a real relationship with you, then you should break up with him.
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Ask yourself first ' How much do I like this guy? ' If you gotta think about it then either you should get to know him a little better or if he aint that hot, then dump him...
If you like this guy teh keep reading. Guys dont think like girls so sometime you need to think like them in order to communicate, Thats right .. it s that word communicate. Now I m gonna warn you.. it wont be easy ... but it works.
First, stop kissing and stuff .. instead say 'Hey I wanna talk to you' ... dont get all mushy and emotional cause then he wont hear a word you are saying. Start with something like 'Hey we've been doing alot of kissing but we dont do things like...' and list the things you would like to do with him. Pay attention to his body language .. does he look like he is interested in what you have to say ? If no, then thats a good sign that he is dumber then a door knob and you might wanna say good bye. Now if he does engage and show interest, tell him what activities you would like to do with him ... you never know .. he may feel the same way. Tell him in a clear way what your needs are, even if it is to text you first (although I find that irrelevant it might be important to you.
So conclusion ? Communicate and make sure what you want is what he wants and that you both have a common goal.
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Guys aren't complicated. Girls are complicated. You don't talk because like many young guys he is horny and interested in sexual experimentation, not a real relationship. I don't recommend you dump him. I recommend you stop making out with him. Wait a few months without doing anything other than and holding and a few pecks. If he sticks around, then you can be confident that although his first reaction was to focus on the physical, he is open to a relationship. If he dumps you that will pretty much say it all: he was using you.
If you don't think you can date him without making out with him just dump him. But, if you are up for the challenge of turning him down, trust me it works. I have been with my frog for eight years. He treated me that way when we first started going out. Now, he's a perfect angel.
From moi to you,
Miss Piggy
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If it's bad, break up. If it's not bad, then give it a little time.
In terms of messaging, match his pace. If he doesn't message you, don't go out of your way for him. Maybe he's busy, or maybe he's just not that into you (sorry if that's the case).
Only doing stuff like kissing doesn't sound right. There's a balance between no kissing, and just kissing, with a sweetspot in the middle, where you talk, and date, and do things together that aren't just kissing. It doesn't sound like you have that balance right just yet.
Look up some date ideas, and plan out some dates. If he doesn't seem interested in the date, in you, or anything but kissing and touching, then that's what he values about you. If that really is all the value you have to him, get rid of him fast.
Hopefully by going on some dates and trying to cool things down a little, you'll develop something stronger.
Best of luck - Silentone
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