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Why do women think it is "ok" to hit on my husband & why does he allow it?
Women have told me that they love my husband and would do anything to get with him. I've been told that he is THEIR exact type and ask why is he with me. I am not an ugly woman and I scratch my head wondering what they see in him. He is attractive to me and very nice but this is becoming a problem. The checker at our local store asked him if she could be the strawberries on his shortcake. He tells me when some woman hits on him which makes matters worse. There's woman at his job that makes him lunch and he says he just takes it because its free food and that he isn't interested in her. What is going on? This has become a frequent event (once or twice a week) at least. Some women will smile all in his face even if we go out somewhere together and or stand near us & make loud comments like "Why is he with her?" . One woman told him that if he became bored with me, she was available. Is he encouraging this behavior? I see other attractive, married men and nobody is making the moves on them! What's up?
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"I think it's time to take out the serious voice and have a talk with Mr. Husband. He should at least say that he is happily married."
Ron777, this would not discourage them in the least. Not even a little bit. If anything, it's a plus.
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Hey! I think it's time to take out the serious voice and have a talk with Mr. Husband. He should at least say that he is happily married. Also, learn to feel good about yourself. You're beautiful! Show off your beauty! Let confidence radiate around you! You're too glam to give a damn, so don't give a damn! Be the beautiful woman that you are and don't let those other (trashy) ladies get to you. Classy, not trashy is what I like to say. I hope I helped :)
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Women are often selfish and thoughtless. Nobody should flirt with a married man under any circumstances. This is hurtful to you. It is also classless and rude.
Your husband probably allows it because it gives him an ego boost. Tell him this needs to stop, especially the free lunches. He does seem to be encouraging the behaviour. It seems as though you married a stud.
A word of comfor though: the lunches thing is extremely desperate and I would be shocked if he were interested in her. That's pathetic and something to be pitied.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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This is a hard question for any of us to answer. It would be easy for me to say something like it takes two to Tango which would give you reason maybe to suspect your husband of something but I just might be wrong. Some women are just jealous of what other women have.
Before I retired, yes I may be old enough to be your grandfather, I worked as a sales rep selling into an industry that employed women that ranged from pretty to beautiful. It was more or less part of the job description for that job. I don't consider myself overly handsome, I might qualify as having average good looks.
My problem was similar to yours as if my wife and I were out someplace it almost was without fail we would run into some of these women. They would come up to me and hug me, kiss me and if the had babies they had to show them to me. I knew this had to be upsetting to my wife as I'm sure if good looking guys kept coming up to her I would be upset.
Early in my career I explained to her what I did each day. I also made sure to be home every day at a specific time. I also let her know it was only her bed I slept in except when traveling, which was rare and I was always alone in that motel bed.
Part of my job was to get these women to want to sell my products. To do that meant having a good rapport with them. It did not mean I flirted with them all though there were one or two who tried to flirt with me.
If your husband comes home to you each night. If he comes home at the same time each night. Then I would say you have nothing to worry about and these women are just being jealous and stupid. Either ignore them or tell them he's yours and to put their claws away.
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