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What is wrong with me? I just don't know.
20,f
I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. We had been fighting a lot in the past month and he hasn't been the same since. Then yesterday he said he loves me,but he doesn't know what he wants and he can't be with me right now. We were together for 3 years. I am studying medicine and I am extremely busy,yet I still made a lot of time for him. I gave all my love,support,I always listened to him and offered my help,I was 100% loyal and devoted. He is younger than me and will get to college this year. I know the amount of pressure he's under. I had it a lot worse in my senior year in high school but I never let him suffer because of that. So I end up giving it all and I get this. And it's always been like this for me. I am no doll when it comes to appearances,but I am a good,loyal girlfriend. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. What was my mistake? I realized that no matter what I do I will just get hurt. The sooner I accept nobody wants me,the better I guess.
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Just because a guy broke up with you doesn't mean that nobody wants you. That's a stupid way of thinking.
My ex of over two years broke up with me a few months ago. It was an awful experience. It was for the same reason you and your boyfriend broke up. He said he loves me but doesn't know what he wants and he's also under a lot of pressure from school.
The thing is, people deal with things differently. Not everyone is going to handle stress the same way you do.
I think the best thing to do is give it some time. Maybe a short break will give him time to realize he misses you and he made a mistake. In about a week, just talk to him face to face and let him know you want this to work. That you'll be supportive during his stressful times and won't make him even more stressed with fighting.
You don't need to blame him or call him out on what he's doing wrong. He'll end up getting defensive. Find a good way to express your feelings to him.
One more thing, each person you date will hurt you. You'll even hurt them, even if it's no intentional. So I guess you just gotta make sure that person is worth getting hurt for. Just some people make it through and some don't.
Pick yourself up, take care of yourself and I'm sure things will work out.
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Men are not always as loyal as women are. This isn't a rejection. It's a sign that your boyfriend wants to get with other women. It's a sign that he can't keep it in his pants.
Tell him if he loves you that he needs to man up and put some effort into making the relationship work.
Believe moi. Moi has a charm that is lethal to men.
Miss Piggy
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Hi.
Ok, please don't talk like that. I hate it when people say that "I just have to accept that nobody wants me." You broke up with your boyfriend, you didn't break up with the world.
I know you broke up with your boyfriend of three years which must be extremely sad, but it's really is not the end of the world. It will take you a while to get over a bad breakup but it really will not take you forever.
On the other hand, you can repair your 3 year relationship.
Your ex-boyfriend was under a lot of pressure. He just had a different way of dealing with it than you did and now he just wants to throw away a 3 year relationship. Talk to him. Tell him that you thought it was unfair that when you were under loads of pressure you never let him suffer but when he was, he started fighting with you. Tell him that you always gave him your love and support and that you really don't believe that you deserve this.
YOU MADE NO MISTAKE. It was him that made the mistake and it is HIM that should come crawling back to you. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU and you should stop believing that there is. Sometimes when we are under loads of stress we just freak out and do things that we will regret later. Other, more reasonable people like you keep calm under stressful situations.
Please don't think negatively of yourself in this situation because you did nothing wrong and made no mistake. It is him that should come back to you and if he doesn't, then maybe this breakup was for the best.
Anyway, whatever happens, I wish you good luck and I want you to remember that when somebody else does something stupid, don't waste time blaming or pitying yourself- but forgive them if your heart is telling you to.
-talldivaofbeverlyhillz
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