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Breaking up because he's moving away
Several months ago I started seeing this really amazing guy. We are both in college; he is graduating in a few days and moving away for work. His job is 6 hours away (driving), but less than an hour by plane and tickets are very cheap.
He doesn't believe that a long distance relationship will work, and wants to become "just friends" when he moves. His job relocates every 2 years or so and he may eventually return to my city, but I'm scared that he will lose interest in me (as a friend and otherwise) in that time.
What should I do?
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Being in a long distance relationship can be very troubled at times. I dont recommend being in one unless you know for a fact that you can trust him . And that you can trust yourself . You both with be away from each eachother most of the time and feelings can wonder off to another person . But in my eyes if he really liked you then he would give the long distance relationship a try , talk to him and ask him to just try it out for a while and if its not working then try being just friends and open yourself to new people . dont move to fast take things in a slow way and things should be better in time (:
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Next time you date someone, don't sleep with them so early. The reason I am bringing assuming you have already had sex is that sometimes sex creates the illusion that two people are closer than they are.
I know this is not what you want to hear, but I'm guessing you are very serious about him and he does not seem to feel the same. Even if he says he loves you, his actions show that he prioritizes his job over your relationship.
Next time, do not sleep with someone unless you have talked about things such as: do you plan to stay in this city?
You dove in too early.
All you can do now is sit back and see if he loses interest in you or not. Chances are he will lose interest, because he clearly does not prioritize the relationship.
And do you really think he would act this way if you hadn't already slept together? Of course not. He would be still trying to get with you, not trying to put you in the friend zone. Remember, the harder you are to get, the more interested men are.
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Long distance relationships are tough but can work if both people are willing to put in the effort.
It sounds like he doesn't want to put in the effort. And you can't make someone want to be with you.
I think you should sit down and have a talk with him. Talk about what you want and how you both can make it work. If he doesn't want it, just let it go.
I don't think you should continue to keep dating him until he leaves, I think that's pointless as you guys are planning on being just friends. So if he doesn't want this, then just end it now.
You guys just might see things differently and some people just aren't cut out for long distance. It just sounds like he's not willing to put in the effort so you might just want to move on.
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A long distance relationship takes a lot of time, effort, and patience because it is not easy. Try sitting down and explaing all the pros and cons to a long distance relationship. Like not being able to touch, hold hands or kiss. Not being able to talk often(he might be busy with work, and you might be busy with school). If after the talk, he still doesn't want to go for it then you should let him go.
For there to be a relationship, there has to be two people who want to be together. If he thinks that moving away will change things between you two, then maybe you should just move on. Maybe keep in touch as friends. Forcing him to do this could put a strain on any kind of relationship you might want to have with him in the future so good luck!
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