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I was just so chock-full of things to say and stories to tell, I decided the best place to share them with all of you was right here on my advice page. So go ahead, ask me a question, and rest assured that it will be answered promptly. Luv ya, Odette
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Hey, I have been trying to lose weight for idk how long now and it hasnt worked. I've been playing lacrosse to, so its not like i dont have any exercise.. but it sucks because I've lost weight before, and i want to lose it again to look good this summer when i go back to california to visit friends and family. I always tell myself, 'okay today im going to not eat fatty foods and work 29835 times harder in practice and run when i get home' but i never pull through with it. I need some will power or something that will help me actually LOSE THE WEIGHT, because i hate feeling like im FAT. I want to wear a size 3 in pants again, i wear a 5 and sometimes a 7 depends on the pants, and i want to look good in a bikini.. can someone please help me to get some will power to actually go through with losing weight and what should i eat? sorry it's sooooo long.. (link)
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If you play lacrosse, you probably have a lot of muscle, not fat. If it is fat, the best thing to do is just to eat low-fat foods, like change from regular yogurt to fat-free, and from 2% or 1% to skim if you haven't already. Eat a lot of vegetables (I know that sounds cheesy, but it works- I've been a vegetarian all my life and never once have I been overweight) and make sure every day for around 30 minutes to 1 hour run on the treadmill at the YMCA or at your house if you have one, or just run around your house, or jog in place, etc. Get exercise every day, and make sure that you don't overexercise- that is, exercise only to the point of discomfort, not to pain.
Good luck:-)
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for english i have to gather information on adolf eichmann (involving the holocaust) and make a 5 minute presentation in front of the class with it. Its not the nervousness im worried about, its the fact that i cant bring cards or a speech up to read from..i have to know the information enough to talk to the class about it ..for five minutes! thats a long time. we can use the aid of a visual, but my teacher doesnt want us to just stick pictures on posterboard..she wants us to be more creative. Any ideas on what i can do? (link)
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A great, innovative idea is to use a timeline or chart with your key points on it. Add pictures on it to help you remember your key points, and use your visual that way. Organize the timeline to have the first points at the beginning and so forth in order, and then you just need to glance at the visual to remember your points.
Good luck!:-)
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Can eating a lot of yogurt make you fat?? Just wondering because I gained a lot of weight recently and I've been trying to figure out why. (link)
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Low-fat yogurt won't make you fat, but eating too much high-fat yogurt could possibly make you fat if you eat too much of it. If you want to eat more yogurt still, low-fat tastes just like regular, but it is a lot healthier. Don't drop yogurt because you think it made you fat, though- yogurt is an extremely healthy food.
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I am a 27 year old female. I don't know what to do. I dated someone for 7 years and we broke up. I got married and the ex and I avoided each other for a long time. Then one day we see each other and he starts unloading how bad he feels for what happened with us and that he got hurt by a girl and realized how much he hurt me. Well, I felt I would have the opportunity to unload and now, he won't talk to me. I don't feel I can truely move on with my life. He is all I think about. Please help. (link)
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He may feel bad about what he did to you, but this doesn't account for what he already did to you. If I were you, replay the situations in your head where he didn't treat you as well, and next time you talk to him, tell him that you also feel upset, but you two need to move on. Gracefully accept his apology and just continue on. This will help the both of you move onwards from this broken relationship into a better one.
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Man, I feel stupid asking questions on this thing, but anyway...kind of a two-part question here.
First, I had a pretty big crush on a guy friend of mine...but I found out that he was dating someone else. I was kinda sad about it, but I was okay with it -- UNTIL the weekend later where he was flirting with me like crazy, and I know it was because his girlfriend wasn't there. I don't think the guy knows it, but it really hurt me, especially cause I'd just found out about his GF...and, well, even though it was a month ago, I'm still pretty ticked. Should I talk about it or should I just let it go?
Second, it's stupid, but I've never had a boyfriend and I'm starting to feel really bad about it, especially because all my friends seem to be hooking up -- I don't really want to date right now, but I wouldn't mind just finding a couple of guys I can flirt with and hang out with just so I can feel a little better about myself. (This, along with all the stuff above about the jerk-guy, has left me feeling like the Dateless Monster from Hell.) Any ideas? (link)
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This guy friend of yours is either a player, or he just flirts with everyone. For a while, one of my friends thought that this boy had a crush on them, until she realized that my other friends thought so too, because he just acts that way to everyone! We're cool with him now, and we know that he always acts like that. You should just let it go unless he does it again; then casually ask him about how his girlfriend is doing and listen to the answer. If it's sincere, you're fine. If it's not, or evasive, then this guy friend really isn't a friend. And if you feel like everyone has a boyfriend but you, it's perfectly fine making friends with a couple of guys to hang out with, as long as you don't give them the impression that you're looking for a boyfriend, because that could lead to uncomfortable situations where he asks you out and you say no, which leads him to believe that you're a player, which you are clearly not.
Good luck!:-)
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Ive got 2 friend, Tamsinn and Ben and theyre a couple. Well Tamsin wants to break up with Ben because she says he's annoying and all that...but Ben is trying to kill himself now that he heard that...I need help because i really dont want to lose a friend.
Thanks (link)
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You really need to focus on Ben in this situation. Remind him about all the people who don't think he's annoying- his parents, his friends, you. Tell him that there are other people who will love him, and that he will never give himself a chance to find them if he commits suicide. Tell him how sad you will be if he commits suicide, and help him through. If he still feels suicidal, refer him to a school councelor. They will be able to help him out of his depression.
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ohk so i have liked this guy already for about a year. he says he likes me too but i dont think he does cuz one day he acts like it and the next day he dont. he keeps getting my hopes up and it hurts cuz i noe he's just messing me. he also keeps flirting with one of my best friends, and with everyone else he also tells them every single thing he says to me. so i am hurting so bad. what should i do ? (link)
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Calm yourself down and repeat after me- "I don't like this boy. He is mean to me. He tells everything I say to him to his friends. He is hurtful. I do not like him." Find someone else who truly cares about you, and for now, tell your friends how you feel, and that you got hurt. When my best friend was turned down for a date by her crush, we were there to support her, and so will your friends.
Good Luck:-)
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Hi! Ok, This may seem weird, but I discovered that my bf doesn't like the smell/taste of mint. So I was wondering what type of non-mint things can I use to freshen my breath? Like candy or something... Please help. Thanx! (link)
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Tic Tacs have many different flavors, like lime, orange, and cinnamon that are not mint but still freshen your breath. Listerine also has out the Pocket-Pacs of Cinnamon Strips, which are extremely powerful, but they do their job very well. Also, if you haven't eaten any strong flavored food (Garlic, pizza, etc.) then go right ahead and eat a piece of candy. This will be nice and freshen your breath too.
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SORRY THAT IT'S LONG
Today my friend and I were sitting together in the gym and we were getting in our groups for our graduation trip. We promised each other we'd stay in the group together - just us, we actually even needed 2 more people in the group -since about three months ago. Well, we wanted to be in a group with 3 other girls, but you were only allowed four per group, but they made an acception of five if you really had to. My friend and I asked if we could room with them- they said no - two of the three girls like me.
About 5 minutes later.. she gets called over by them. I'm sitting there by myself talking to other people and she "sends a message down" saying that she's gonna stay in their group. Luckily, I found another friend to room with.
Do I have the right to be pretty ticked off, and if she apologizes or not, should I say it was rude? (link)
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You do have the right to get ticked off, because this girl was with you, then ditched you for her other friends. You don't need to tell her that you thought it was rude- just treat her normally. If she apologizes, forgive her and be kind to her. This has happened to me before, where one friend leaves me hanging to go hang out with other people, and it really hurts my feelings. If you feel really upset about it, go ahead and tell her. If she really is your friend, she would apologize to you. If she acts defensive, she may just be upset and guilty. So yes, you have the right to get ticked off, and just treat her normally.
Good luck:-)
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(15/F) I have two best friends, and I'm either with one or the other. I don't have any other 'good friends' in school. Everyone is already settled with their own group of friends and I feel so alone when I'm not with my best friends. I think girls view me as a snob though, because I do have more guy friends and honestly I'm attractive. How do I get more friends and find people my age that I have stuff in common with? I don't want to come off as desperate or dorky but I do need more girl friends to hang out with. (link)
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The best thing to do is just go up to someone who you'd like to be friends with, smile and say hi to them, and start a conversation. In my school, I used to think that this girl that I saw hanging out with some of the popular kids and the jocks was snobby just because she hung out with them. During my music lesson, I decided to talk to her, and discovered that she is an extremely kind, sweet, and nice person. You won't come off as desperate or dorky at all; just go up to them and say hi. If they are snobbish enough to refuse to talk to you because they won't change their image of you in their minds, then they are not worth it at all.
Good luck:-)
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I have to give a speech in fron of the whole class next week, and I'm absolutely terrified. I am really bad at speeches. I start shaking and I can't read my notcards. Does anyone have any suggestions to help me get over my fear? (link)
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Aha, public speaking is my specialty:-)
When I was giving a speech, you just need to take deep breaths and relax. Look only at the friends that you have in your class, and look at the teacher. Mentally prep yourself- "I can do this" "I am strong" "The audience will love me". Hold your notecards in one hand and use the other hand to emphasize points with light gestures while you speak. Are you passionate about your subject? Let it shine through. Show them why your topic is so captivating and interesting. Make the audience think that you're the best.
Stage fright is one of the most common fears in the world. When you are about to give your speech, remind yourself this- The people in the audience are your classmates and peers. These people know what it's like to stand up and be terrified. Tell your friends that you're worried about this speech, and take comfort in their words. Look at them while you give your speech. That should give you an extra boost of confidence once you commence. Just finally remember this- You are only afraid of public speaking because you tell yourself you are afraid of public speaking. Tell yourself that you love public speaking. Tell yourself that you're fabulous at public speaking. Just pretend to have a conversation with the whole audience, and they will love you to bits and you will be just fine.
Good luck and I hope you do a great job!
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i just started a new job a couple days ago, and i've come to believe that one of my co-workers doesn't like me very much.
why i think that is because on my second day, i came up to her to ask her a question to see if our store carried baby books for a customer that was looking for one. my co-worker just rudely glared at me for long while, and looked away without answering my question.
as you can imagine, i was pretty pissed off because i hadn't familiarized myself with the merchandise and the customer was waiting on me to give her a response. and my co-worker, who was working in infants, didn't even bother to put any effort into helping this customer!
not only that, she ignores me every time i'm around and she complained to the same customer i was dealing with: "she doesn't know anything, she hasn't even been working here long."
what i want to know is what i should do about this situation? obviously i don't want to confront her about it with the risk of increased hostility between us. and i'm not sure if it's appropriate to talk to my other co-workers about it...should i just wait it out and toughen up and hopefully she won't be so "bitchy"?
-zero tolerance (link)
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That is extremely rude and hurtful of your co-worker to say such a thing. In order to be successful in the job world, one has to be friendly and willing to accept new situations and new people. I think what you need to do is ask a couple of the other co-workers that you are friendly with if she is always like that, or if she truly dislikes you. If she dislikes you that much, and she's treating you this rudely, don't be afraid to go and tell the manager with a group that this person is not accepting you into the department, and this person isn't helping customers, etc. When you go with a group you assure the manager that you are not overreacting, but you are telling the truth about this worker being moody and unkind. The manager should understand and take care of it for you.
Good luck:-)
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This boy admitted to liking me a while ago and I have recently told him I think we should just be friends. He wanted to go out with me during the summer. He doesn't listen and I think I need to run it by him again in different words...will this do?...."I need to talk to you, about this summer, I have to be honest, I don't think we should go out because I like you but not in that way and I don't think it will work out. You deserve someone who can return your affections for them. I just want to be fair with you. I'm sorry, but I want to be upfront." What do you think? and also, if u have anymore advice feel free to share the love. (link)
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That's an excellent way to nicely tell him that you really do not want to go out with him this summer. I think the part that he will appreciate is when you tell him that he deserves someone who can return their affections to him. That shows him that you care about him, but in a friendly sort of way, not in a "going out" sort of way. What I think that you really need to tell him is that you've already said no, and you doubt the answer will change easily. He is being extremely pushy, and he needs to back off. Once you say no, he should realize it's not going to work if he tries asking you out again in a week, or a month. Be friendly, but make sure that he completely understands that no means no.
Good luck:-)
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I'm 17 and I have started going out with someone a few days ago. I have liked him for awhile and before we started going out he was messing around with another girl but promised me he had called it off with her. I want to believe and I'm trying to trust him, but this weekend I went camping and I tried calling him to say hi but he wasn't home so I called his best friend wondering what he was doing but he wasn't with him. He finally called me back and said he had been driving around but he wouldn't tell me with who. I'm scared that he was with the other girl. And also at school I show affection to my b/f's but not alot to smother them. He doesn't show any affection at all except when we quickly kiss before I leave for class. I know we just started dating but he shows all this affection for me when were alone but none if someones around. What do I do? please help me.
~confused chica~ (link)
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I'm pretty sure that you can be safe with this guy. At school, he probably is embarrassed to give PDAs (public displays of affection) because he doesn't want to do it in from of his friends, no matter how mature they are. Otherwise, he just might not be ready. He might not want to rush into it any more. The time that he was driving around, he might have been going by himself. If he really cares about you, ask him who he was driving around with and if he evades the answer, tell him you want a straightforward answer. If he continues to talk around it, tell him that you don't want a boyfriend who keeps secrets inbetween the two of you, or something to that effect, and if he still won't tell you just get rid of him. If he evades the answer too much, you can pretty much assume that he was driving around with the other girl.
Good luck:-)
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I like two guys who are really awesome. I haven't been too close to either one of them yet, but I still don't want to like two guys in case on of them asks me out. I'll call the two guys Ben and Caleb. Ben has always been really nice to me and teases me playfully. Caleb sometimes has been mean to me but never teases me at all. Ben has actually talked to me and he's really cute, while Caleb has ignored me when his friends were around but has smiled at me when no one was looking. I want to give Caleb a chance because he might be nicer if he knows I like him, and Ben already knows I like him and has always been sweet. Any suggestions? (link)
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If you really can't decide whether you like Caleb or Ben better, just don't ask either one out for a little bit. Get to know both of them a lot better. If Caleb, no matter how nice you are to him, still treats you meanly sometimes, then he's not worth it. Ben seems like a really nice guy, and if Caleb ends up not being nice to you, he seems like a great person. I had a crush on this boy in my grade for a long time, until I realized that when he was teasing me he wasn't being playful, he was being mean. I at the same time had a crush on another guy who was a lot nicer to me, and if I had the courage to ask him out I would have, and I should have. Don't be like me; find the courage to ask one of them out.
Good luck!
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Helloooo I am 16/female and Korean..except I'm kinda preppy..actually very preppy..most of my friends are white..Anyway, is it weird that I only have crushes on WHITE GUYS? Is this normal...or am I racist?? I don't think I'm racist because I do have Mexican and Black friends..I just am only attracted to white abercrombie-type guys...Why??? It's not like they would go out with me though because I'm asian...so if there's a white guy out there, please answer and tell me why won't you go out with me?? I will rate 5's for honest but non-critisizing answers..also I want to know why I know have crushes on white guys! (link)
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It's perfectly fine that you only have crushes on these kinds of people. Just because you don't have crushes on people of other races doesn't mean that you are racist. A 'Racist' is someone who degrades other races, and you are not doing that. You are probably influenced by your society (all the white male models and actors, etc.) and none of the people of other races really interest you. Someday you may meet someone of another race who you will crush on- for now, don't worry about being racist, because you are not.
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I have an Alligator Snapper. It is still very young and is only about 9-10 ounces. What should I feed it? I have tried "Reptile Sticks" that float, but Squirt(The Turtle) doesn't eat them that much...What other kinda stuff is out there?
Thanks....
I rate! (link)
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Alligator Snapping Turtles are meat eating creatures. If I were you I'd try some fish-based food product, or sometimes give him some live bait. The best thing to do for you is to ask your veterinarian what food is best for him. If you haven't taken him to the vet yet, it's a good idea to, just to make sure that he will get some nutrition instead of leaving all of his food.
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Well for the past year and a half or so, we've been working on re-decorating my bedroom. Right now I have one of my bedroom walls a hot pink colour and the rest are white. I wanted to accent my room with lime green, so that there wasn't so much pink. I'm painting my closet doors in that sublime green colour with hot pink stripes down the middle of each of them, but I wanted to add more green into my bedroom. My idea was to put some sort of design in the corners of my walls like right at the top where the corner of the two walls meet the ceiling. My only delema is, I'm stumped as to what design I should use in those corners. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what the design should be in the corner? I'm open to any ideas! Thanks! (link)
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I would try one of those fancy twisted iron patterns that are both sophisticated and funky. Also, another way to try to add more green into your room is to change your bedsheets and pillowcases to green. My friend's room used to be bright pink, and her bed sheets were also the same shade of pink. When she painted her walls a light blue, she forgot to change the pink bedspread, and it changed the whole setting of her room. If you use the pink stripes down the middle, it should add enough pink to the room itself. Also, you could leave your pillowcases pink and change only your bedsheets to green, leaving you with a nice blend of colors.
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i have a really complicated sitch but here it goes: ive been with guy A for a bit over a month and since hes really shy, he wont talk to me or make time to be with me.he doesnt like talkin on the phone, in person and he never checks his email. i was the one that asked him out for this reason. he said he liked me and everything but he never shows it and im guessing its cuz hes a bit immature.
anyway, guy B has been my friend for a lil while and i got him together with one of my girlfriends (cuz he liked her) then she broke up with him for no reason...hes a sweetie and did everything to make her happy (he was goth and he kinda changed for her) its been 5 weeks since they broke up and i was talking to him about guy A and how i wasnt sure about him. he told me that bad side about him and how i should wait or just be paitient. then when he was helping me (after talking for 5 hours online) he admitted he liked me. im so confused... i like them both and well im on the verge (dumping guy A) and guy B is on the rebound so i dont know if its "real". please give me your honest view and help. ill rate you for answering honestly...not just go with the first thing that goes through your mind. (link)
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I think it's perfectly fine to go out with Guy B. If Guy A isn't giving you the respect that you deserve, go ahead and go out with Guy B. Guy B seems to be like a nice guy, and he must have really liked your friend to change himself to go out with her. If he's that nice of a guy, he'll be a great boyfriend for you. If you're still not sure if Guy A or B still like you, try this: When you see one of them, look them straight in the eye and give them your best smile. If his face lights up or he smiles back sincerely at you, then you know that he actually cares, or that he really likes you. If he gives back a polite smile or looks uncomfortable, then you know that he doesn't like you as more than a friend.
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So there's this guy I've liked for a while. My friends didn't know until recently. When (for fun) theyw ere deciding who was good for me they said the guy i like. (that was before they knew I liked him). So there's this other gorl that likes him for a short while. she says she doesn't anymore but my friends and i think she still likes him. One of my friends (who is friends with both of us; me and the other girl who likes my crush) says that she thinks me and my crush would be good together. Better than him and the other girl. This makes me think i have a better chance of being with him. One of my guy friends said that if you make moves on the guy your chances of getting with him skyrocket 100% I just want to know what are some subtle fliting tips. And if he responds well, what are some bigger moves? Thanks! (link)
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Some subtle flirting tips-
-If you know he's standing behind you, look at him over your shoulder and smile at him brightly.
-Give him a once-over look while he's watching you
More obvious flirting tips-
-Throw him some compliments. Be sure not to overdo it though!
- Say his name frequently during the conversations you have with him, but again, not too much!
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