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Hi! At this point, I'm just checking back when asked a question. When my life gets less hectic, I'll start browsing to find questions to answer. But please ask; I will answer within 24 hours.advice
I can only access internet explorer on one user account. Access is forbidden on all other users account. How do i change this to allow access for all users?
If you can't get it to work after following the link below, tell us what version of windows your using.
hi, i asked a question like 3 days ago and the answers i was getting were...you've got a yeast infection.
my questions is...what exactly is a yeast infection?!
x3michelle04x3 covered it well. I did not see your first question, so I can't be sure that this is relevant.
I wanted to add that if you catch the yeast infection early, it won't get to the thick chunky discharge stage. It starts out a little itchy inside the vagina. I've never had much itching outside the vagina other than immediately around the opening.
It's best to go to a doctor for your first yeast infection to confirm that it is a yeast infection because many women confuse a vaginal yeast infection with a vaginal bacterial infection. The suppositories for yeast infections won't cure bacterial infections - and may make them worse.
However, yeast infections are much more common than bacterial infections.
ok well if i put like icons or pictures on my livejournal but i dont like that people could save/copy the images so is there a code that i can put in or whatever like that when you left click to copy/save it wont let them? i know there is and i have a site with one but it didnt work. Please help. I`ll rate high. -thanks ` ash
Honestly, while the aforementioned code will probably disable the menu in Internet Explorer (I only say probably because I didn't test it myself), I don't believe it will work in all browsers. Even if they did, it's not that hard to look at the source code and copy the url. There's an additional problem with livejournal in that you don't have total control of the html - even with a paid account and the ability to make styles.
If you put pictures on the internet that people like, someone is quite likely to copy them. You can make it a little more difficult, but if they can see the picture, their computer already has a copy in the cache.
Sorry, that's just the way it works.
I feel like the worst person in the world. On March 17 me and my boyfriend of 3 years got into a huuuge fight because he cheated on me. Our relationship was sooo good and we always got told that we were the role model for couples, well anyways..we got into a huge fight and we said things that we didnt mean and I told him that I wish he wasnt in my life and he would just die because I hated him so much, those were my exact words. Later that night at 11:26 I got a phone call from his sister (we were really close, she was like a little sister to me) she was crying really hard and she told me that she had found him in his room laying on the floor, dead. I didnt even know what to do with myself. He had taken a gun to his head. She read me a note that he left and it said "I'm so sorry, I love you so much" thats all it said, and he had the date that we started going out until forever carved into his arm. That night when my parents found out they tried to comfort me and all that but I just didnt want to be around anyone. I went to my room and I cut myself so bad and my mom walked in and stopped me and just held me and I cried for hours, with my wrists bleeding, and I fell asleep crying in my moms arms. I'm getting help now. I went to his funeral and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life, I fell to the floor when I went up to his casket at the wake and his mom had to pick me up and just hold me while we cried. I go to his house all the time and talk to his family and just tell them how sorry I am and we talk about all of our memories. I havent slept since the night it happened, and I havent been to school, the doctors say I probably wont go to school for about another month, I might be homeschooled. I can't even look at myself anymore. I can't beleive those hateful words were the last words I ever got to tell the love of my life. I'm sorry it is really long but does anyone have any advice on how to help me get through this?
You are not the worst person in the world. Not by a long shot. His death was not your fault.
Unfortunately, our society is screwed up enough where you probably need fairly long term psychiatric help. This is not because your crazy, it's because we no longer have a culture that gives individuals the time and support they need to grieve.
Grieving, and all the associated "not normalness" that goes with it, is indeed normal. In your case, you are feeling guilt as well. This is also normal - regardless of the circumstances. People almost always find something to feel guilty about when some one they love dies. I'm sure the psychologists have a few hundred theories as to why, but I'm not so sure any of them really matter to you right now. Know that it would not be inappropriate for you to feel angry, betrayed, confused, depressed, or well, anything else really. Spring is here, and you may find yourself overwhelmed with the beauty of life for a few min. It's ok to be happy while grieving too. The two don't cancel each other out. Grieving is a long, complex process, and you will need extra support given the circumstances.
Many people find religion to be comforting at times like this. I won't suggest anything in particular because I don't know your religious background or orientation. If you would like religious comfort from one of the er, less mainstream, faiths, I know enough people to find you readings or other religious comforts and reassurances.
I know I sound cold compared to the other columnists, but I don't think hearing "that's so sad" and "I'm so sorry" another 50 millions times is really going to help you. My family isn't the sort to send flowers - we send lasagna. :)
um.. ok i go to a catholic school and i'm going through rough times. i know many of my friends who've cut themselves well i was doing my s.studies project and i was using sharp scissors and i was questioning myself if it would go through my skin b/c the last time i had i tried to cut myself it didnt work.. well this time it did. so know i have 3 cuts on my arm, i seriously regret doing it, i showed my mawmaw and im never doing it again BUT i have a passion play tommorow and i'm afraid that my religion teacher will see it.. should i be afraid or is there any tips to hide it b/c a big band-aid will be noticable. thanks for the help
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Don't stress on it. If she notices, and ask, tell her you cut yourself while doing your social studies project. It's true - you don't need to go into detail. If she pushes, tell her your not comfortable, and suggest she talk to you mother about it (since you've already told your mom, this shouldn't be a problem).
i can't make a habit, i do want start cleaning my drapes there got dust on it. hardget them off. any advice?
Are you trying to get the drapes off the hangers, or do you have a stain on your drapes?
If your just trying to "dust" the drapes, use the brush extension on the vacuum cleaner and leave them hanging. (This only works for heavy drapes, not shears.)
i happen to work as a janitor in a mental hospital, and there is many a stain that penetrates my jumper suit and stains me clothes. i know how to deal with the usual: urine, feces, vomit, but i want to know how to clean out those unidentified disgusting stains, or U.D.S's. I need to know how to clean off blood most importantly.
regards,
sir salad
Usually, blood has to be removed within a few hours or it will leave a slightly yellow brown taint on white.
The previously mentioned suggestions of cold water, vinegar, baking soda, and of course, soap, are good. (not all at the same time though!). You can also add baking soda (up to 1/2 a cup) to a regular load of laundry as a color-safe detergent enhancer (instead of bleach). I don't know why the vinegar works, the soap (real soap - like Ivory) and the baking soda work because they are bases, and bases are effective at breaking up organic material.
Never use hot water (or the warm setting on a washing machine), or put a possibly still stained item in the dryer. Organic stains especially set in with the heat. Many stains sometimes look like they're gone when the cloth is wet, but shows back up when it dries, so just hang dry those items.
ok in my english class I have to write a paper on a assigned topic. My topic is abortions. I need opinions and any information that is good and bad about abortions. Please I need help on this. I have my own opinion but I need more than just what I think.
Well, since you've gotten so many opinions against abortion, I will give you a few arguments against making it illegal.
1. Women still die carrying and delivering babies.
I won't go into all the possibilities here, but if you want them, ask. Even if we accept that a baby becomes a person with all the legal protection that a child has at conception, outlawing medically induced abortions is not the same as asking someone to be inconvenienced for another person - it's forcing them to risk their lives for them. The answer to "put it up for adoption" can be "why should I risk my life so someone else can have a baby?" It's considerably less likely that a woman will die as a result of an abortion - at any stage of pregnancy - than that she will die as a result of pregnancy or labor complications.
2. Conception cannot be used as the point where legal protection begins.
Using conception as the point where legal protection should start is well, impossible really. Excepting the instincts of the occasional woman who is really in tune with her body, there is no way to tell that conception has occurred for several days with any available test. Pregnancy tests rely on hormone changes that don't occur until after implantation (the attachment of the fertilized egg to the uterine wall). An ultrasound can't find something that small. On top of that, accepted birth control methods like the IUD don't stop conception, they stop implantation. We honestly don't know if the birth control pill will cause the uterine lining to shed even if there is a newly attached zygote. No one has ever tried to find out, although a lot of people spout their opinion on the matter.
3. Difficulties Determining Pregnancy.
Sometimes you don't know your pregnant until after the first trimester. My sister's pregnancy tests kept coming back negative - all the way through the 5th month - after they found the baby on the ultrasound. It's not all that rare for a woman to still get a light period the first month. Take into account that irregular periods are not considered abnormal until after your 18, and become normal again after 40, you have nearly 1/2 of the time that a woman could become pregnant where it's not unusual to miss a month. So it's not all that unbelievable that many unexpectedly pregnant women won't realize they're pregnant until the start of the 3rd month of pregnancy. If the woman's life includes exposure to alcohol or drugs, irreparable harm has most likely already been done.
Anyway, those are some bits that might help you out. Remember, in a persuasive paper, you want to take the arguments for the side you don't agree with and show why you don't agree with them.
I've known this guy since like 2nd grade. He and I have been boyfriend and girlfriend off and on for about 2 years. He and i usually hook up most during the summer and not much during the school year. My friends say that we sould either stay friends or boyfriend and girlfriend. I don't really know which one i should choose. i really like him saome days and don't really talk to him others. should we be boyfriend and girlfriend or stayt friends? thanx
Well, if your happy with occasionally being his girlfriend, and he's happy occasionally being your boyfriend, why change things?
If someone's not happy, or if it puts stress on your friendship, then yeah, there's a problem. But if the only problem is that your friends think it's weird, inform them that your both happy with the situation, and since it's not broke, there's no reason to fix it! As far as I know, there are no cloned people running around yet. So what works for some people isn't going to work for everyone. If it works for you, don't mess with a good thing.
Generally, I tend to go for staying friends over romance because it's usually easier to add romance to a relationship than to go back to being friends if the romance doesn't work out. You've known him a long time - as you get older, you realize how nice it is to have someone who's known you for ages.
I use MSN Messenger everyday and usually have no problems with it. Yesterday I was using it as normal when suddenly I was unable to view the emoticons. I can send them and other people can see them on their computers but I can't see them, only the code that you use to type them. Is there any way I can fix this problem?
Most IM clients have an option/setting/preference/what-have-you to allow you to turn on and off graphical emoticons. I don't use MSN Messenger, so I can't tell you to click on this, then that, but I'm guessing it'll be where the other program settings are.
My friend made a Flash movie and I am doing the voice acting for one of the characters. The character has one line, which has to be said very quickly, loudly and forcefully. Every time I say this line into my microphone and listen to it there is a little static "explosion" on the hard consonants. Short of getting a new microphone, what can I do to lessen this?
If you have recording software, see if it has any sort of filters. After it's recorded, you should be able to filter out the static.
Ok, i wanna make my webpage look better .. I want it to look technical .. Ya know ?? Does anyone have any webpages were i can download it to my webpage ??
Thanks so much !!
Actually, I don't know what you mean by "technical". In order to get a more constructive answer, point us to your existing webpage and/or a site you would like to more closely resemble.
If you would like tutorials on how to build a better page, or mistakes to avoid, or on something else, please ask. I don't want you to think your being ignored, but I can't understand what your asking for, and I'm guessing most other serious columnists can't either.
ok .. i am gonna try to do that, but me and his girlfriend dont get along. We have never actually been friends or hung out or anyhting. But she got mad one day because he was talkin about me to his friends or something ((while he is goin out with her)) so she started all kinds of rumors saying me and him slept together and all .. but we didnt because im a virgin! i thought that was stupid too because its her boyfreind so why would she be stupid enough to spread rumors saying he had sex with another girl? you know .. so you got any other ideas than inviting both of them somewhere or should i still do it?
Well, inviting them both would be a show of good faith - just make sure that there are a few people who do get along with her other than her boyfriend there.
You may also just want to wait for them to break up. It sounds like your probably in high school, so it's likely to happen fairly soon. It's a rare high school relationship that lasts more than a school year.
my xboyfriends brother just died today, and i i'm not dealing with it very well. i just dont know what to do, it feels like no matter who i talk to i cant lift up my spirits. my boyfriend right now has been doing everything he can to help me, but its not working. even people who arent my friends are helping me, im just not making any progress. what should i do??
Whoa. He just died *today*? Give yourself time to grieve. Even if you weren't particularly close to the person that died, it's still hard when death hits so close to home. Don't try to force yourself to feel a certain way. Death causes all sorts of emotions - sometimes people are angry, sad, relieved, afraid, confused, or shocked - just to name a few. It's ok to feel any or all of them.
Give yourself time - at least a week, even if you barely knew the guy. If you feel better before then, that's fine too - grieving takes different amounts of time for different people. People deal with it differently - some get angry and need to *do* something (I usually suggest jogging/running), some get really mopey and write poetry or paint. Most people cry, sooner or later or a lot, as part of coping with grief.
There's a big difference between being cheered up and being comforted. You need comfort - lots of hugs, people expressing that they care about you and that they will help you get through this. You do not need to be cheered up right away. You need to grieve.
I wouldn't be concerned unless your hurting yourself or someone else in some way. If that is the case, or if you feel you might hurt yourself or someone else, talk to your parents, a councilor at school, or some a trusted adult. Otherwise, let yourself grieve.
there is this boy and we went out over the summer, but a day before shcool started abck we broke up. We havent talked in almost 6 months and i still like him. He has a girlfriend, but he stares at me and all sometimes. I want to write him a note and tell him that i still like him, but i dont know what all to say. Anyone got any ideas? i rate high!!
I'm a strong proponent of friendship. I wouldn't push anything romantic right away, but there's no reason you can't hang out as friends. I would start by finding a handful of friends - boys and girls - and invite him and his girlfriend to hang out with all of you sometime.
I'd write a note that said something like "Hi! I know we haven't spoken much/at-all since school started, and I'd like to change that. Would you and your girlfriend be interested in hanging out with this-chick, that-dude, a-few-other-people, and I after school on friday? We were thinking about getting milkshakes and hanging out in the park" That way he can write back and say "sure! I've missed hanging out with you too", or "I'm busy on friday, what about going with a group of my friends to the mall saturday afternoon?". He may also just not answer, which probably means that either he's not interested or his girlfriend doesn't like the idea.
hi, i want to know how to make an websight like this , cause i totally want to answee some of my friends questions without them knowing it was me. lol. jk i just wrote freind ship as my category because ididnt hav any other good ones, so how do i make a web ite like this, urs is totally cool.
Advicenators is not my site - it's spacefem's. She's on my list of favorite columnists. :) However, I believe that she made this site from scratch using html, css, and php. I'm guessing that the database backend is MySQL, but I'm not sure.
I personally don't see any reason to clone this site - although if you had a similar idea, spacefem also hosts websites, so you might be able to work something out with her.
Hi
just recently i've found that my scandisc and defrag: processes wont come to a conclusion!!
they just go on for hours and hours!!
sometimes a window will come up on scandsc: saying
another programme is preventing it from completing in normal time!....but I'm not aware of running
anything else.......any advice????
The usual suspect for this is a virus protection program - like McAffe or Norton. Disable them for just long enough to run your scandisk and defrag, then turn them back on.
I want to build a fansite for a close friend of mine who is a singer.The only problem is that I'm CLUELESS!! I don't know what I'm doing with these things.I can't afford a pay site right now.Does anyone here know of someone who would be willing to help out in the designing of a fansite,and be FULLY CREDITED for all their work???I'm kinda desperate here!!!!!! :/
email me with more information: webstuff@katskave.com
Ok i always have a tough time talking to guyz i like.. i always get so shy and locked up... and the thing is i get all shaky and nervas. It's so emaressing! I no they probably feel the same way but it seems so hard... what should i do?
I'm sorry it took me so long to answer.
Talking to someone you have a crush on is hard, and while it does get easier, for some people (like me) it takes an awful lot of tries.
Immediately, you can try simple calming exercises - like taking a deep breath right before you walk up, or thinking about something calming - like the beach, or your favorite flower, or your backyard when you were little. I find that repeating mantras (commonly suggested for relaxation) doesn't work when I want to speak, because I have a tendency to say the relaxation mantra rather than what I wanted to say.
Over the long term, you can practice the things you can imagine saying to them. Start by rehearsing it in your head, picturing their face. If you have any privacy at all, turn up the radio, pretend he's standing right in front of you, stand the way you want to stand, and say what you want to say out-loud. Start with the simple stuff, like saying hi. You'll know your doing a good job pretending if you start getting nervous. :)
There are also methods for getting them to start the conversation - making eye contact, smiling, and then dropping your eyes and blushing is a classical "I'm interesting but shy" move. Some guys may find it cute and attractive that your really shy - especially if you can get used to them and have an interesting conversation once you relax.
If the guy is talkative, ask him about himself, or something he loves. He'll get on a roll, and you'll be able to get away with smiles, nods, and a few wow's or "that's really neat"'s.
Hope some of this helps. :) Good Luck!
I have been having sever pain around my bladder and that area. I know I have a cyst on both of my overies, and they could be getting bigger. I am scared to go to the doctor, because I don't like getting invaded. Should I go no matter what?
First, find someone to help you locate your appendix. If the pain is near your appendix you needed to be at the doctors 10 min ago. Seriously.
Pain anywhere else in your abdominal region can be monitored. As silly as it sounds, gas really does cause the majority of abdominal pain, and it can hurt really bad. Muscle cramps of various sorts are next in line. It's probably not horribly encouraging, but most of the things that go wrong in your abdominal region don't hurt.
The cysts are quite unlikely to be causing the pain, and are also unlikely to develop into anything really serious. If you have a large number of cysts on both ovaries, it might cause difficulty conceiving, but it wouldn't cause pain.