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talking...
Ok i always have a tough time talking to guyz i like.. i always get so shy and locked up... and the thing is i get all shaky and nervas. It's so emaressing! I no they probably feel the same way but it seems so hard... what should i do?
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hmmm well talking to boys is ok for me, but most of them i dont really like. just pretend you ae talkin to like one of your friends...you shouldnt feel emberessed about it. i reaklly hope this was some what helpful!
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I'm sorry it took me so long to answer.
Talking to someone you have a crush on is hard, and while it does get easier, for some people (like me) it takes an awful lot of tries.
Immediately, you can try simple calming exercises - like taking a deep breath right before you walk up, or thinking about something calming - like the beach, or your favorite flower, or your backyard when you were little. I find that repeating mantras (commonly suggested for relaxation) doesn't work when I want to speak, because I have a tendency to say the relaxation mantra rather than what I wanted to say.
Over the long term, you can practice the things you can imagine saying to them. Start by rehearsing it in your head, picturing their face. If you have any privacy at all, turn up the radio, pretend he's standing right in front of you, stand the way you want to stand, and say what you want to say out-loud. Start with the simple stuff, like saying hi. You'll know your doing a good job pretending if you start getting nervous. :)
There are also methods for getting them to start the conversation - making eye contact, smiling, and then dropping your eyes and blushing is a classical "I'm interesting but shy" move. Some guys may find it cute and attractive that your really shy - especially if you can get used to them and have an interesting conversation once you relax.
If the guy is talkative, ask him about himself, or something he loves. He'll get on a roll, and you'll be able to get away with smiles, nods, and a few wow's or "that's really neat"'s.
Hope some of this helps. :) Good Luck!
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Okay, heres the deal, just like with an animal they know if you are afraid. If you really like this person, then you probably know about them. Act really girly and ask a guy for help with something that is "manly". They love it. Or you could play hard to get. If they try and get your attention, look at them, smile, motion for them to come to you and keep walking, eventually let them come to you. It will drive them crazy! Hope I helped.
~Nokomis~
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Well... See, it is completely natural to feel that way. Especially as a young girl (assuming you are a young female.) I felt the same way, as I am sure all people do when talking to someone of the opposite sex. My advice to you, and the thing that helped me was that I got a best friend that just happened to be a guy. It made it easier to understand guys, which made it easier to talk to them. You may want to try to make small talk with a guy that you really like. As you get more comfortable with speaking to them, talk a little more, and more. At first, have no intentions of becoming their girlfriend, just worry about becoming their friend. Just remember, their is no reason to be nervous, and that they are most likely as nervous around you as you are around them.
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Just make sure that your comfortable with the guy that you like. If he makes you nervous, then he's not the type for you. You should feel bright and breezy! Some tips:
Plan some things to say. Don't go too far with this though. I mean, if he brings up a topic, don't steer away from it just to bring up yours. Go with the flow.. just have a little mental list of some things to say if it gets all silent and such.
Make him do the talking. He may be a jabber! It's a great way to figure out what he's into.. then maybe you could accidentally on purpose run into him at his hangouts.
Hope I helped.. fill me in on what happens!
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just be urself and from what i heard toadi from my best friend dat i like he says theres nothing better then being urself he says he hates girls who are fake and well he would know better then me since hes a guy and hes 18 years old trust me being urself works the best and im learning that 2 lieng to someone just to impress them is not worth it and believe me they sure dont get impressed the wai u think they do
JUST BE YOU!
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i know how you feel, umm well all i can say is try as hard as you can to fight those fears and go ahead and talk to him or whatever..
::.have a nice day!.::
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so your scared to talk to boys and you get nevas? well i'd say stand up and talk to them! if your scared to do that, then go in a pack. it always helps. your friends will talk to them and then you'll get use to it and start talking yourself!then after a while you'll be talking to them and have no problem.
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umm i used to be the same way...i think that you should just pretend that theyre your friends i mean like you know like your best friend or whatever. lol find somthing that you both like to talk about & make him laugh they love that!!
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try to talk to them i kno you get very shy and im the same around lads i try to avoid talking to them if i can. lol. but you shouldn't feel embarrased just try and boost your confidence and try to talk to them.lads feel the same around girls too so its not just us girls. i hope i have helped you
luv shelly
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