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Hey! Im 13 years old, going to be 14 in january. I love helping people with probalams with family, freindships. If you ever need help feel free to drop a question by me and i iwll be happy to answer it!!

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I'm not sure what to do but i think my best friend might be being sexually abused by her dad...and i dont want to come out and say it but at the same time if it is true i dont want herr to be getting hurt! soo please help me out it wouold be greatly appreciated

try talking to her. tell he she has been acting different and that you think something is going on. let her know you are there if she needs to tell oyu anything.if she has a non you may want to confront her mom even. also let her know that anything you tell her is a secret. hope it as helpful! let me what how it wourks out!




Alyssa

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I always worry about what other people think of me constantly and I really just wanna relax.
Unfortunately I worry all the time and it's not like I'm overweight or anything I just worry 24/7. Can anyone give me advice on how to have lots of self confidence?

wow i am the perfect persomn to ask. i used tp be in your position to! wanna know what i did. simple, i didnt care. i didnt care what other people thoguht of what i wear. i mena like if it is close friends then you should care, but if it is someone who you arnt friedns with then ,who cares

hope i helped!

Alyssa

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i made out with my boyfriend last night. could i be pregnant? please reply quickly because i am so worried!

wel if you have sex, then yes there is a possibility. but if you just kissed and made out with no sex, then hunny it would be pretty hard for you to be pregnant. so i would say mostlikely not. you can specificly tell me the detalis that iwll help more people answer this question. mail me if you ever need help. oh and please rate!

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I'm having my Sweet Sixteen party this month and I was wondering if you had any ideas for ways to keep my guests entertained during the 4-5 hour period. I'm holding it at my house, I have a buffet, a tiki bar, a seating area, music, and giant torches. The only activities I have planned are a candle lighting ceremony, and cutting the cake and opening presents (those will help waste time), then I decided to have a bellydancing contest (just for laughs), and then a hula-hooping contest. My theme is Hawaiian/Luau. Please help me find more ways to get the time to fly by!

well you could do limbo..lol it is fun to play child hood games. im not 16, but i went to a party for my friend who is 14 and we played all these childhood games like red rover and duckduck goose. i think limbo would be fun, lol get some awesome music! that would be kool..i not sure cu aint 16 yet, but i ohpe i helped..please rate


XxAlyssaxX

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ok i have been with my boyfriend for about 2 weeks but every1 says he is playing me so i am goin to break up with him. i dont know what to say to him though. i dont wanna break his heart! he says that he really like me! but he never calls me and he acts like he doesnt wanna be around me. what should i say to him when i break up with him?? please help me out!!

be like, i feel we really have nothing in common anymore,adn say i hink we need to see other people. it should be ok. i not na expert, but that is what i woyld do. also ifyou really do like him you could try talking about and and let him know that is he ever doesnt like you of likes someone else that he can tel you and you will tell him. thats the best idea i have really..please rate, i like to know how good i am in thus catagory (sorry if there is alot of spelling problems, i ma a bad typer)

hope this was helpful,

XxAlyssaxX

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is it a good idea after you meet a guy to tell your friend to tell him that you think he's hot?

does this instill a wrong impression?

is it better to let it wait and become friends with him before you tell him he's attractive?

guys opinions on this one would rock. what would you think if a girl you just met told you she liked you, and how would you feel about a girl who didn't tell you she liked you?

im not a guy, but i say let her. if you dont you will never know if he likes you too. if it helps i gave a real like ezperiance:

my friend and i went to a track meet to see my other 2 friedns in it there was this really hot boy there. me and my friend wanted to tell him that my other friend..lets call her jane, thoight he was hot. jane didnt let us, nad later we found out that that boy thoguht she was hot. so now the are going out. we laugh when we think of this. hopfull the same thing will happene for you 2, but idk. good luck, i hiped i helped


ps: please rate if you have the time, i tlike to know what people think of my advice


XxAlyssaxX

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im 15/f & i have been dating this guy for about 5months now...whoopie 5 months i kno it doesnt sound long..but we talked for the longest before dating...we've had sex a couple of times & stuff...i love him so much..well at least i feel like i do & i know we arent going to break up & i know im guna be with him forever...but no one believes that i "love" him..how can i prove them wrong?!
sincerly,
Love Struck In La.

why do you need to prove to anyone that oyu love him? if he know you love him and if you nkow you love him and if you know he like you and he know he likes you why does it matter. thats the best i can do. i dont think you should have to do anythnig to "prove" your love. hope it was helpful


XxAlyssaxX

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Ok i always have a tough time talking to guyz i like.. i always get so shy and locked up... and the thing is i get all shaky and nervas. It's so emaressing! I no they probably feel the same way but it seems so hard... what should i do?

hmmm well talking to boys is ok for me, but most of them i dont really like. just pretend you ae talkin to like one of your friends...you shouldnt feel emberessed about it. i reaklly hope this was some what helpful!

xxAlyssaxx

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I want to make my hair look sort of touseled, sexy, curly. People tell me to use gel to scrunch it but it just makes it look chunky and wet...anything else I can do to make it look dry yet touseled?

GeT a PeRm

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does anyone know how old you usually have to be to work at a tanning salon? thanks.

16, well atleats where i live. All jobs are for 16 years olds unl;ess they require liek tools like saws and stuff so im guessing 16

XxAlyssaxX

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Hey, the hair on my arms is kinda dark and I'm very self concious about it. I wanna bleach it blonde and I was wondering what stores you can get easy to use bleach that isn't very expensive. Thanks, and I rate 5's!

hmm.. i dont know... i think you cns get them at like the hair salons at the mall, not to sure how much they are tho

XxAlyssaxX

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i think my brother smokes with his friends cuz when he gets home he smmells like cigarettes but im not sure if its him i know for sure his friends smoke but im not sure if he does i dont want to tell my parents because my parents will just tell him that i think he smokes my parents warn him alot but i dunno if smokes or not what should i do
confused...

this may make you sound nosey but you could always check out his room.. lol but if you want a better suggestion i would say something to your parents ,and make them promis not to tell your brother that you said anything. also i would tell you parents to descreatly ask him and not to bluntly some out, but then again i dint know how your parent are so well i ope i helped

XxAlyssaxX

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Sorry its long.
My best friend is coming to my school, she went there once but people dont remember her because it was like 2-3 years ago. Well She is short and pretty and she has nice clothes and she is coming to my school on friday and I am afraid she is going to get into the popular kids in my school. How can I provent this? I dont want her to think the I am one of those friends who doesnt want her to hang out with anybody but me, you know. But I also dont want her to make bad choices on friends and then loose her other friend.

hmmm, i know what that is like, but im not gonna get into details, well ne ways you could try shopwing her around and have her sit with you at lunch. if she really is your best friend then m sure she will hand put woth you.

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I have this boyfriend, he's really nice but i never ever get to see him because he lives in a different town. Everytime i get the chance to go visit it seems like he has something else to do. He has cheated on me about 3 times already but we made up. He calls me every night and is a sweet heart. I dont noe if i should stay with him or break up. I feel so bad when i break up with him because ive done it before that i just go out with him again. what would i say? please help

hmm im not the best at answering questions like this but i iwll try:

i say you should give him 1 mpre chance. If the next time you see him and he seems to busy for you then yes you should break up wityh him. or if you catch him cheating you should break up. Well i hope this was helpful.. ps ima make you a favorite columist

XxAlyssaxX

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I have a friend (lets call her gina) and she'll be my friend for one minute and egt mad at me for nothing the next. and im really getting tired of it. its getting old and she's kinda popular and hangs out with a lot of my friends but if i get mad at her, she gets other people involved in hating me and if shes mad at me, so are they. what should i do. P.S, I rate 5's
-Brittany

hey i know what that is like. What you need to ask oyurself is if this girl is always getting mad at me then is he really your friend. You dont need friends like that. Also talk to her about it. maybe she will tell you why she always gets mad. itf you think the reason is stupid i would drop her

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my parents are divorced and it seems that all my friends have a very happy family. i cant help but feel theres something wrong with me...why cant i have a perfect family and perfect life like everyone else? what have i done wrong!??!

oyu have a fine family. All families are different. The most important thing for you to know is that oyu didnt do anything wrong. Dont blame your self for this. Alot of families are like that. As lobng as you like your life anf you are heppy then you are doing just fine. hope i helped

XxAlyssaxX

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My hair is wavy-ish straightish...kinda unruly. It's dark brown and a little longer than shoulder length and super layered with side swept bangs. For school I usually just use a straightening iron to make it stick straight. But I want to try some new styles...cute stuff, punk stuff, whatever!!! I want to keep it the same length though because I am growing it out. Anyone have any ideas??

well If you want punky you could try puttiong streaks on like a red or pink or green in it. Also try not straghting it or try flipping it outwards. hope i was felpful

XxAlyssaxX

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My friend just told me that my other two friends were knocked down by a car earlier today. One of them is one of my best friends, my friend says she didn't get badly hurt but I'm still worried. Her mobile phone is switched off and no one is answering her home phone. I'm quite worried, I want to check that she is definitely okay but I can't get hold of her. What should I do?

That is scary. If the girl said she wasnt hjurt badly dont worry. Just wait, i sure she will call. Be sure to stay calm. Do stuff to keep your mand off of it!! i hope this helped

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