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my parents are divorced and it seems that all my friends have a very happy family. i cant help but feel theres something wrong with me...why cant i have a perfect family and perfect life like everyone else? what have i done wrong!??!
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okay not to be harsh but NO ONE HAS A PERFECT LIFE. you must know this deep down right?....nothing is wrong with you. believe me your friends must have something wrong with there family. EVERYONE does. in my family my mom died. so just try to be happy you still HAVE both parents ever though they are divorced...
i hope that helps you put things in perspective a little =
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YOU haven't done anything wrong. Your parents just weren't meant to be. So many parents are divorced, you're not alone. And even families where the parents are married they aren't happy chappy. Noobody has a perfect life or family. Maybe you could tell your mom how you feel, or tell her you want to go to a counselor. I know some people who have gone to therapists because of their parents divorcing.
Hope I helped.
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Hi, well parents are divorced to, but I get to see my mom every now and then. Nobody has a perfect life, only one person does and that's Jesus just to let you Know. Every now and then you are going to think your life is not perfect.
Well everybody makes mistakes and your parents prob. meen alot to you. My parents talk to eachother every now and then. Hope wat i said answers your Question. Thanx. -Lacey-
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ok, well im in the same situation as you, its not your fault at all, you parents just found that their relationship wasnt working anymore, it has nothing to do with you. And with the whole thing about you not haveing a happy family, well some people dont have a mom or a dad or both. Just be happy that you have both, even though they dont live together.
hope i helped
Becki
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You have done nothing wrong. People change and the spark between parents fade. Everyone's parents have problems,but some people have problems that are or they are not fixable. Your friends parents might have a better relationship,or they find a comprimise. Your parents did find a comprimise. You don't want to think that your held responsible when your not. Your parents made the choice and its just a whole in the road your going to have to get over.
My best wishes.
**Bridgette**
P.S I want to hear from you again so write to me. My ears are always open.
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I'm sorry you feel this way, but if you feel theres something wrong, they can probably help you, you might be just feeling some sadness because you miss your parents being together all the time, happily married, but now you pobably feel like they hate each oither, but they don't. And then, you have your friends if you feel like getting away from all of the stress you feel at home. But, you should try not worrying about what could be wrong, just try looking at positive things about the divorce, here, like this:
*No more fighting in the house
*None of your parents won't feel sad anymore because of fights
*You basically get two houses. (lol.)
Your friends don't have a perfect life, trust me. Theres no such thing as perfect anything. I'm sure you have heard them complain abot their weight, height, looks, how they wish they looked like a celebrity, how they wish their parents didn't make so many rules, theres no perfect in anyone elses family. You can talk to me anytime if you need a friend.
-TheTeenGirl
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oyu have a fine family. All families are different. The most important thing for you to know is that oyu didnt do anything wrong. Dont blame your self for this. Alot of families are like that. As lobng as you like your life anf you are heppy then you are doing just fine. hope i helped
XxAlyssaxX
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You havent done anything wrong and your life isnt perfect everyones lifes arnt perfect even if they say they are lots of couples i no have split up it doesnt mean they have stop carring for you its just that there not in love anymore.
I tell you that everyone life isnt perfect no one in the world there is always some faults
roxie
hope all goes well
xxxx
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I know it's tough, but that's just life I guess! It happens to some of us, and we just have to deal with it. I went through the exact same thing when my parents divorced - and that was back in '96, when divorces were way less common!
Remember that NONE of your friends have the perfect life and the perfect family - we're all a little dysfunctional in our own way lol! Just because their parents don't live in seperate houses doesn't mean they don't argue.
You've done nothing wrong, honest! It'll hurt a lot for a long time, and you will blame yourself. but it'll fade away over time. You'll get used to it! I know it's not nice that you have to, but...there are benefits to divorce, trust me!
*No more arguements between your rents!
*Two lots of presents and pocket money!
*You get to celebrate your birthday and xmas twice every year.
*The time you spend with the parent you won't be living with will be much better and 'quality time', as they will want to make the absolute most of the time they do see you.
*You're gonna get a whole new room to decorate and spend time in!
*Every time you see your other parent, it'll be like a little holiday from home life.
*You can go round there without brothers and sisters and spend some time with just the two of you!
I hope that helped a little. There's nothing that can really make it better - you'll feel better when you're ready, but until then all you can do is try and look on the bright side :)
If you ever wanna talk, feel free to add me on any of the addys on my profile :)
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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You have done nothing wrong.
My parents are divorced too. Growing up, it always seemed as though my friends who had both parents were happy and perfect. Trust me, they're not. One of my friends had an abusive, alcoholic father who never worked. Another friend had a father who constantly put down her mom and her sister has an anger disorder. Another friend gets blamed for absolutely everything her brothers do. Another friend's mom is an alcoholic. It goes on and on. The older you get, the more you see the problems in others' families. Sad, but true. The only perfect families are those on tv and in movies.
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first of all no family is perfect! always remember that..my parents are divorced too and i kno exactly how yoo feel but yoo have to remember tht it is not yoor fault!! and if yoo ever want to talk juss im me!
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You haven't done anything wrong, it was your parent's choice to split up. Over half the marriages in the US end in divorce nowadays, so just think how many others feel like you. =/ And no one's family is perfect really, lol. Maybe you can try to have good times with your family even though your parents are split up. You could have a good day with your dad one day and a good day with your mom the next. Just because they're split up doesn't mean you can't have a happy family.
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no one has a perfect life. Everyone has problems and issues and MILLIONS upon millions of kids have parents that are divorced.. And your parents divorce doesn't mean there is something wrong with you, it's between your parents. Don't worry things'll turn up. It always has to get worse before it get's better. :)
always here
~Sarah
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