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I'm tired of my son's playing videogames all the time. What are interesting board games I can play with him? (link)
First, you have to define your terms. What is "all the time?" And why is his playing video games such an issue for you? Is it the content of the games? Is it that you think he is spending too much solitary time while you're a girl who wants everybody to need 24/7 social contact like girls do? He's a boy, not a girl. Boys like to do things, since that is how they bond, not socially interact (though there are lots of video games that do require interaction with others in real time) in the way girls do---through lots of yakking and self disclosure. Think about that.

Or would you rather he be out running the streets getting high and shoplifting out of boredom like many of my friends in my old neighborhood did back in the 1970's?

Or is it simple resentment that he isn't interacting with YOU? I mean, does anyone under the age of 40 really play board games anymore? Compared to a video shoot 'em up, which often requires the employment and formulation of spatial reasoning, leadership and the ability to conceive and execute plans, board games seem pretty damned lame.

The best thing you can do,. since you seem to be so dead set on ripping his console away from him, is get him into a music program, which is exceedingly good for his overall intellectual development. You can find studies about this online. Send him to guitar lessons or whatever instrument he would be interested in pursuing. Be prepared to spend lots of money, though.

Btw, there are some benefits to playing video games. Look them up online.

Btw, I think video games are lame. And so are board games. But it appears, at least at first blush, you're getting upset at something that really isn't all that big a problem. And all that does is undermine your credibility as a leader in your household because then you start looking like the housewife version of Captain Queeg.


So, im 20 f and my boyfriend is 21 m

My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 2 years. I love him the death. Recently i havent been happy. He moved out of his house and money has been a huge issue. I do EVERYTHING for him. i do the dishes, i do his laundry, i clean everything, i mostly pay for A LOT. i understand he doesnt have money because hes paying for rent and tv etc. but i dont have the money either figuring im only a waitress. i pay for a lot of grocies and anytime we go out, i mostly pay.. So i was kinda getting fed up with it figuring i want to be his girlfriend not his mom. Our realtionship was PERFECT before he moved out. So since i was unhappy i wanted to tell him how i felt. i went to his house, he couldnt give me the time to sit down and talk about things, i started off as im tired of worrying about him before i worry about myself. I hate how i feel guilty going out because he is on his own for dinner. He got mad and walked away..so now im sitting here on the couch about to leave because i came over to talk. So i went to leave and he was like your really going to leave? and i was like yeah, i dont understand why you are being so cold. i honestly think we need a break from each other so we can appericate our time more. His response was honestly, i just dont want to see you at all. (that HURT my feelings so bad!) so i was like well if you change your mind, call me. This was the other day. Legit i have been crying my eyes out im depressed, he wont answer my texts. i dont know what to do. i feel like if i was ready to move on i wouldnt feel like this. did i make the right decision? i dont know what to do. i dont want to move on and im not even thinking about being with other people. i dont know what to do :( i am so regretting telling him my feelings. what hurt the most too, was when i left he didnt even run after me. didnt even want to save our realtionship i feel as if it was on a thread and he just cut it off... any response to this? thanks (link)
My impression is that you're codependent. You're obviously trying to save this loser and, when you decided to take a break from propping his deadbeat ass up, you were dismayed to find that your rescue attempts went unappreciated. The guy is dysfunctional. Admit it and move on!

Listen, you can't do this. It's unhealthy. See a therapist or you will repeat this nightmare again.


Tonight, my girlfriend of 4 months has told me that she doesn't deserve to date me. She has had some rather rough relationships where abuse (not physical but mental abuse) was involved. She also has the genital herpes STD, and she's not a virgin either and I'm still one. We are both 26 years old as well. But anyways, when she told me this, I did feel hurt and even angry that she would say this to me. Now usually like every month, she talks about her past. However, its getting to a point where her complaining about her past is beginning to frustrate me. Now I haven't gone through the things in my life that my girlfriend has gone through. Often it can be hard for me to help her too. We did date for a while back in 2010 for about 4 months, but we broke up because at the time she was very clingy to me which I hated and I had issues going on with my life back then too. We got back together in the spring of this year and said we would try to have a better relationship. I want to keep that going, but the fact that she often complains about her past is something that bothers me and I won't tolerate it much longer. What should I do? Also, she lost her grandfather in September of last year and her grandmother recently passed away too. Any help would be appreciated.

Thank you. (link)
First, do some introspection about this and make sure you aren't in some codependent "I'm going to save this girl and she is going to love me as a result" syndrome. If you find yourself honestly falling into this thinking you need to break up NOW and perhaps even see a therapist.

Okay, that warning aside, what you're dealing with is very common, unfortunately. The best thing you can do is go to counseling together to bring a fresh set of eyes into this situation so that the nuances of it can be fleshed out in a fuller way than what you've chosen to convey here.

Now a lesson on how women operate: they generally don't like their men solving their problems for them. What they want is to be heard. So what I would suggest, short of getting counseling, is ask her questions about the feelings she is currently experiencing and then find your own words to express to her that you hear what she is saying by repeating the underlying threads of what she was putting across to you in your own words.

Women are very security driven and she is in a kind of despair that she hasn't found what she feels is a completely satisfying safe haven where she is valued and her words are truly empathized with and understood. Your job, aside from showing her that you are empathizing with her, is to lend her the impression that she is safe now and an important part of your life. That is a tricky thing and I can only give you the most vague advice because there are a lot of specifics lacking in your query. Good luck. I hope it all works out for the two of you.


I'm an 125 lbs 11 year old. I'm 5 ft 7 inches. How can I loss weight? I want to be slimmer before school or at least on the road to be. I don't want to be skinny but just a healthy weight. Help! (link)
Your weight is fine for your height. Women are built to retain a certain amount of weight and guys like a girl who feels soft to them when he hugs her rather than hugging a skeleton, which is what a too thin girl feels like. Also, as you get further into adolescence, your proportions will shift in a very pleasant way. So relax, just let time do its thing and rock on!


Hi!
There was this boy I've been crushing on for a time now and one day, my friend gave a note to him asking if he liked me. She didn't include that I liked him though. She just wrote a note asking if I liked him. She told me when he received it, he smiled blushed a little and ripped the note up. Does he like me? (link)
The guy should have turned to your friend and said, "none of your bloody business." Listen, if you like the guy, be a big girl and go up to him and ask him out. If he rebuffs you, at least what you'll get out of it is an understanding of how a guy feels when he gets rejected by a girl he was crushing on. So taking the bull by the horns will be a good learning experience for you.


Okay so this boy (Ty) and I dated and broke up. We are on the verge of getting back together (no comments on that please). But we need to talk before we get back together and I said to him that he needs to find a day to do that and then he told me that I am in charge of that. He was the one who broke up with me and he is the one pushing to get back together (I mean I want to get back together but I wouldn't have tried to unless he told me he wanted to(if that makes sense)). I think he need to make the plans and talk but he thinks I should. I just want to know if an right that he should be the one to make the plans because he was the cause of the break up. But then I started thinking, it's not just the guys job to do all that. It has to be equal. Right? (link)
Make what plans? How about a simple, "hey, let's get back together"? "okay" (hug, kiss, hold hands as you guys walk into the sunset together). Or what, you want him to make some kind of big pain the butt event out of it?

Listen, here is a life lesson: STOP OVERTHINKING! It drives both you and your partners nuts. When you live a life of simplicity things become much easier.

If you need something more nuanced than the simple solution I proposed above, I would suggest you guys talk about on what basis you will conduct your relationship from here on in. Most things in life are obtained through some kind of negotiation and so you have to decide on what you will bring to the table as part of the negotiation. So write down the things you want out of your relationship and have him do the same. Don't look at them as all being hard and fast deal breakers. Leave wiggle room in there so that neither of you feels like you're a captive of the other.

Also, keep in mind that guys, especially teenage guys, aren't as verbally equipped as women. Men are more doers than talkers while women use talking to do whatever it is they are trying to accomplish, especially when it comes to solidifying relationships. You guys will also be somewhat at cross purposes with each other in that because guys are dominance oriented (that is, they want to feel in control) while women are security driven (they want to feel safe), you will have to hash out a way both of those things can be attained rather than doing what most women do, see relationships as a one way street at which the chief purpose is to tick all the boxes on their agenda and if they aren't they guilt trip their man relentlessly about it, which makes him resentful because then he doesn't feel in control and it seems as if his validity as a man is being challenged. What the guy wants in the relationship, to most women, is considered an afterthought AT BEST, which is totally unfair. So the question is, can you rise above your self centered interest and carve out something both of you will find mutually satisfying?


18/f
I was just wondering, how much looking would be considered over the top in a realtionship? Because my boyfriend is very attentive to the way other girls look physically. He told me he likes to "appreciate". At first i was like, he's a guy. Obviously he is going to look. But he was full out staring at all the girls in their bikinis when we went on vacation together. I love him with every aching bone in my body, and I know he would never ever cheat or do anything to hurt me. But the way he stares like that can be really suggestive sometimes and might give the wrong idea. He recently went off to college and he has been making a lot of friends that are girls, and i just asked him how much looking he actually does and he told me openly that he does it a lot. We are best friends as well, which is why he tells me all these things haha. But i still can't help but feel like it's a slap in the face to my self esteem. It's not like he would ever do anything, all he does is look. But sometimes he even does it in front of me and i have to admit, it really hurts. Sometimes he'll even talk about it, which is kind of worse in a way. I understand he's comfortable with me, as i am with him. But even though were close doesn't mean i want to hear everything. Some things are better left unsaid.
I just need opinions on whether what he's doing is over the top or not. Thankyou! (link)
The natural fact is this: the human brain doesn't mature until about age 25. So what is gong on is that one's preferences evolve a lot over time and what he may like at 18 he may not like at 25. That is why getting tied down at your age is not recommended. Generally speaking, people who don't have that exploratory phase of their life (such as dating around) very much regret it.

As for you personally, it's not that he doesn't find you attractive, it is him wondering if the grass may be greener somewhere. For someone with very little life experience, and that is what teenagers generally are, that kind of curiosity is understandable and inevitable.

The contradiction in the teenage mentality is that because of their innate insecurity, teenagers crave more than anything else predictability while still wanting to stretch out and explore. So you want a relationship you can depend on since your own sense of self really isn't fully formed yet and so much still seems so uncertain in life to you.

Then you have the tendency of women to compete with each other. Women HATE to lose and, in fact, often take great joy in tearing boyfriends from other girls.

Consequently, you aren't going to like my recommendation, which is to break up with him. Listen, if it's meant for you guys to stay together then you can resurrect the relationship at some future time after you've had a chance to sample what's out there and grown up some. Having a greater range of interactions with the opposite sex is necessary as part of the maturation process and helps one hone and solidify in their minds what people want in lifetime partners. So see this as just a fact of life, because it is, and call it a day. I mean, who needs the stress, right?

Finally, try to look at it from his perspective: he hasn't done jack, as far as you know, to be accused of cheating. The guy isn't your personal possession and you aren't his. Yet, because you've become completely paranoid about this issue (since women overthink EVERYTHING) you are accusing him of having one foot out the door when there so far has been no evidence to support that. There is the possibility that the guy may be a bit of a boor or a yahoo and/or he is ogling these girls in such a flat out obvious way as a passive aggressive way to send the message to you to not get out of line or he will indeed kick you to the curb. Or he is merely testing you to see how much of a pain in the ass you would be if he decides to, down the line, subscribe to Maxim or Playboy or whatever about him looking at other chicks. His eyes don't belong to you, they belong to him.

So if you insist on trying to keep things going, you have to sit down with him and tell him how you feel when he does what you perceive to be going over the line in checking chicks out in a way that is non-accusatory and doesn't make you sound like just another pain in the ass neurotically jealous girlfriend. That is about your only resort short of a breakup.


Hi Im Jazz a nd Im14/f.
Ive been told I have an eating disorder but i dont think I do.
I recently about two months ago stopped eating.I dont feel hungry or anything.I just dont eat because Im not hungry.

But then my mom will make a big deal about me not eating which annoys me so Ill start eating alot for two or three days to shut her up.

Then maybe for the next week I stop eating again because im not hungry.In the last two months Ive went to the doctor.When they weighed me I was 114.

But a month later I was only 100.Now Im 108.

I honestly dont think I have an eating disorder.I know Im perfectly healthy.How do I et my mom to see things the way I do. (link)
Eating disorders often arise, like a lot of social ills, out of a general feeling of a loss of control somewhere in a person's life. Certainly, you are currently experiencing a power struggle with your mom over your eating habits. Your mom, in fact, may inadvertently be contributing to your eating disorder. She's worried about you and that is the only way you should apprehend what she's saying to you.

What you might do is have her sit down with you and your doctor and have a conversation about this and see if maybe calling in a therapist might be warranted here. Ideally, you should be within five pounds or so of your medically determined proper weight for your height (though this is by no means an exact science). If your less than that and have a diminished appetite then it appears there is a problem.


As my marriage is breaking up around me,I've pleaded and begged,but no-ones listening,I've got 6 small children ,I feel like ending it and leaving them all to enjoy there life with their mother,I'm 47, I had everything,bus,house,holiday home,financially stable,don't owe nothing,yet the most valuable thing I have,I'm losing like water running through my hands,
It just seems the only way out.........
I'm based uk. (link)
Is this a failure issue? That is, being guys, we're very goal directed and failing at something, especially something as significant as a marriage where children are involved, can lead to feelings of self loathing, guilt and humiliation. Plus you have to air out all your family's laundry, dirty and otherwise, in front of a judge, lawyers and other family members, which only amps up the stress, that stress exacerbated by the expense and feeling of a loss of control. That someone would want to extricate themselves from what seems like a nightmare made reality is understandable to some degree.

Also, the custodial aspect of divorce can lead to a sense of loss when the children are assigned to the other spouse. Human beings, being social creatures, have a hard time dealing with social separation in general and the emotional bonds created in family's only exacerbates that.

However, rationally, all relationships have expiration dates. Sometimes it can be six weeks, sometimes 60 years. It just depends on the two people involved. People change and evolve over time and sometimes it makes maintaining a relationship untenable because those people just aren't what they were even ten years ago. It's just the human condition.

Therefore, perhaps a more mature reflection on this other than wanting to off oneself is to contemplate what one has learned from the experience and how one can reset one's life to make the rest of it happier. See a therapist who has a lot more training in helping deal with these issues than random people like those you run into on this site.


About 10 months ago I started seeing this guy. We had a "thing" for awhile and eventually started dating. We were only together for a couple months. He didnt treat me very well and actually did alot of really douchey things. I was really upset one night and brokeup with him in a text message. That was about 8 months ago. This guy is a huge jerk. He's extremely full of himself, he isn't very attractive, and he doesn't have very many friends. But for some reason I can't seem to get over him. No matter what I do I can't stop thinking about him and when I see facebook poasts about him and his new girlfriend it hurts so much. I know I shouldn't want to be with him but I cant help how I feel. I also have to see him frequently because we go to the same highschool. I don't know how to get over him. It's been 8 minths since we broke up and I still can't get over him. Any advice on how to get over him would help. Thanks! (link)
Girls like jerks because jerks don't kiss girls butts like so-called "nice guys" (read: needy wimps). Deep down, girls like a guy with confidence and that often manifests itself in a fondness for guys who treat them like crap because the guy is displaying independence and aggressiveness, traits that girls often equate with a great chance for financial success down the line. And, as everyone knows, girls are security driven, which is most often attained these days through money.

Because the American male has been pussified by single mothers, public education (the way classes are taught in schools is geared more toward how girls learn rather than boys) and Madison Avenue (see how white males are portrayed as feckless dolts in just about every tv ad), the current generation of males are a bunch of whining slacker wussies. So when you have had a guy who says, "my way or the highway," deep down, makes you kinda hot for him, even after you dump him.

Either that or your dad treated you like crap, too, and women often repeat their relationships with their fathers in their personal lives (it's the old "go for what you know" thing). Sad, but true.

Or you have a horrendous lack of self esteem and believe that all you deserve are jerks. Or a combination of all three of the factors I've enumerated here.


Okay so I have a little problem,, I ejaculate too early during sex. I haven't lasted longer that 3 minutes which becomes irritating after a while. I've tried several techniques to last longer but none of them worked at all... What can I do to last longer and satisfy my girlfriend more?? (link)
There are actually two things you can do:

1. Ejaculate via masturbation before you see your girlfriend. This has the dual effect of getting some of that ball tension off the table and you'll be more relaxed.

2. When you enter her, you want to make your mind completely blank and your body limp. Take a couple deep breath and just let your thoughts evaporate into the ether and pump away like a machine. This will help deaden the sensations you are receiving from the friction you are generating with your penis against her vaginal walls. Once she has cum, then you can kind of turn your brain back on and get off.

Your brain has to be completely blank. If you try to suppress the urge to shoot, you will anyway because you are concentrating so hard on that idea. It's like what happens when Catholic priests try to suppress their urges. It's going to get exp0ressed somehow.


Okay so I'm 13 and so is my boyfriend. We've talked about kissing and he acted like he would the next time he got the chance. He has had a couple of chances but hasn't taken them. I'm to nervous to make the first move because its my first kiss and this would be his third. How do I let him know without completely just telling him? (link)
You shouldn't have to say anything. Put your arms around his neck, look up into his eyes and start slowly moving your head closer to his. If he doesn't get the hint at that point he really is dense.

The main problem is that he is 13, which means he is likely to not have much experience with girls and he probably also has a lot of personal insecurity engendered by the onset of puberty.


16/f
ok ive never had a bf in my whole life and my friends are startin to pick on me and my mom is startin to worry about me never havin a bf. Is this normal cause im not sure ive just never met 'the one'. My friends go out with people all the time and try to hook me up with people i dont even know. Guys ask me out but i just dont have the heart to say yes. Is this normal, to be 16 and never have had a bf in whole life?
Please any advise will be very thankful!! (link)
Different people have different sensibilities and if you're 16 and haven't met anyone yet you want to couple up with there's nothing wrong with that. All it means is what it means, nobody has rung your chimes in the relationship department yet. At your age it's easy to understand why given how immature teenage boys are. Just carry on being you. Other people aren't you and so you shouldn't let them run your life. If they hit you up about you're not having a boyfriend yet ask them two questions: one, are you capable of minding your own business? And two, why are you so invested in me having a boyfriend? What, I have no worth unless a guy is attached to me? That ought to guilt them into STFU.


I would laugh if I could. You are 12 years old and you think you are qualified to give advice as to the right and wrong of suicide? Have you lived through a decade of serious pain? Have your family, wife, and friends walked away from you when you lost your six figure salary? No matter what you pray for: Strength, help, someone to talk to, one day of peace. I get nothing. I don't whine about it. I've withstood years of it and I do not want to be here anymore. You think the other side is like a painful sensation. How do you know there is a god to begin with, let alone you try to scare people out of suicide with a campfire. You have a lot to learn little 12 year old. If you knew anything about someone who has lived a painful life, and I'm sure to you that means something hurts like you got a paper cut. Let me tell you, I have been in enough physical pain to pass out many times. It is awful but can't even compare to the mental pain this world can dish out. Your "hand burn" and video game "Zombie" notions are rediculous. I'm a 39 year old male and have been tortured in one way or another for 37 of them. enough is enough. Grow up. To some of us, it does not get any worse than it is right now. I'll take my chances on the other side if there is one. Why don't you quit trying to talk about things you know nothing about, at least until you're a big high school student! You don't know what real pain even is But I can tell I could easily drive nails through my hands more easily than I can think about spending another year on this planet. (link)
Now THIS is professional level trolling!


Hi, we've been dating for 2 and half years now and we love each other. we have just moved in together. he has a young kid with his ex. but whenever we argue he's so defensive of his ex as he says he hates his ex as she hurt him very badly in the past that's the reason they broke up. but i think to my myself, if someone hates so much then why so defensive of her? she is a very manipulative woman. so guys, defensive means still loving her or am i thinking to much? thanks. (link)
He has a lot of conflicted feelings about his previous relationship that he probably hasn't really totally worked out. Some of that may be guilt that he couldn't make it work even though he has a kid with her.

Let me say this, too: the reason hustles and scams are so effective is that realizing you've been taken in really hurts your image of yourself and so people are often reluctant to either admit that they were marks or even if they realized it they don't want it known in a public way that he/she got swindled, so they don't report it. Men, being dominance oriented creatures, especially don't like to fess up when they got bamboozled, as your man seems to have been by his ex. Yet, he knows she was an evil bitch. You see all the inner conflicts going on here?


I start getting to know someone and once we have a connection and even if I really like them, then at one point I stop trying to talk to them and start avoiding them and abruptly stop talking. and then time goes on and then I feel guilty over not talking to them and then more time goes on and then I feel more guilty but at the same time feel like I can't just start talking like I used to because I think they'd be wondering why I'd stopped communicating with them in the first place. it's like a vicious cycle. I don't have any close friends right now and I hate it because I want to be close to someone and go to parties and movies and etc. and not just be on the computer but then why am I doing this to myself? I feel like I self sabotage myself in so many ways and I don't understand why, when people are supposed to be doing things in their best interests. I've been this way for the past couple of years and it only gets worse and worse. I'm starting college this year and I'm afraid if I'll let this screw things up in college too (with regards to relationships with others and grades)
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You have a social phobia. It's a lot more common than you think. You might look into seeing a therapist. If you can't afford one, there may be books available that can help you work through it. It's not anything you're doing to yourself. So it's not necessary to play the blame game.

Human beings are rather fear driven folks. This can manifest itself in a variety of ways when it gets a little out of hand and your symptoms are one expression of that. There are millions with your problem. Curing it is just a matter of reframing in your own mind how you view interacting with your fellow human being. So look into resources that are available for your problem (religion, by the way, ain't one of those solutions).


I'm 15, and I was wondering what kind of things boys like. Such as PDA and just talking. (link)
Guys are visually and dominance focused while women are more emotionally and security oriented. Guys are about the destination or the end result rather than the path or the process, which are things girls like. Guys bond through doing stuff, girls bond through prolonged self disclosure. Guys aren't raised to be all that verbal. That's something you see more among girls. Instead, guys are raised to be and valued for their strength, ability to suck it up when the going gets tough, how much money they make and how much security they can lend their mate. When guys are together, they don't talk about emotional stuff unless it involves shows of aggression. Guys love PDA but aren't into talking about the underlying emotions.


Hey everyone! I'm 14/f

Recently I've been confronted with a common -- more common than I thought -- situation & it seems that whenever something new is presented to me, whether it be a new word or a new show I've never heard of, I start to see it everywhere. That is really no surprise because it happens each time I'm presented with something new.

This time the situation is knowing a person from the opposite sex for a long time & ending up married when you're older. I have always wondered why that is ever since I was little & had my forever crush on a friend.

There are a few songs that I already knew for a few years, others that I just learned, but have been hearing them a lot lately. Like:
Mary's Song (Oh My My My) - Taylor Swift
Should've kissed you - Chris Brown
Speak Now - Taylor Swift
Sparks fly - Taylor Swift
Back to December - Taylor Swift
Ours - Taylor Swift
Goodbye - Kesha

And then aside from the songs, I have seen a bunch of couples kissing everywhere I go, holding hands, kissing, flirting, laughing, happy people. I'm just stuck in the corner all sad because I'm too much of a wimp to tell "him" how I feel. It's like i'm bring tormented by my own thoughts! It's driving me crazy & I don't like it at all! I dream about it and everything!

I would just like to know, is it normal for this to happen to people? Thanks for reading. (link)
Sorry if my answer sounds insipid, but life is like that sometimes. It's one of the things that makes it such a trip.


Is it ok to commit suicide for unselfish reasons. i know the people who love me will be hurting emotionally but if I kill myself they will receive 2 million dollars. Right now we have almost no money left with no income coming in. I'm in constant pain due to a failed surgery and pretty much stay in bed all day ( I am 49 years old). I'm not afraid to die because I know I will see my son who died 3 years ago and I miss him so much, but I am afraid of pain or not succeeding and becoming a vegetable and not having my family collect my insurance. I still have a 17 year old son at home and he has one year left in private school, right now I can't afford his tuition. We won't have money for food soon. My husband of 9 years tries very hard he started a company but hasn't made money in years. I took a look at my policy and it does pay if I kill myself after 2 years. I've had the policy for 6 years. I don't want to die but I want to help my family and this seems like the only way i can help them. I am so afraid of us running out of money. Please help me get the courage I need to do this and help me figure out the best and least painful way to as well. (link)
I'm not going to approve or denigrate your choosing suicide, but I understand what's going through your mind and have a lot of sympathy for it. I very much feel for you. You really got the short end of the stick in life and it sucks.


Im a preteen so I understand this might b a little weird for my age.Well I hav this cousin and shes like in her 20's . Well any ways shes my favorite cousin and we used to spend a lot of time together. But now that shes starting a family I cant spend any time with her and plus she lives in a different city than I do now. She haves a new born and i dont want to tell her that i feel like we dont spend any time together anymore. I just dont know what to do. And I hav no cousins my age to tlk to or to b my favorite cousin. I need some help plz and thank u (link)
This is one of those things that happens in life. Sometimes you or your friends need to move on from past relationships and that seems to be what is occurring here. Your cousin has far more important responsibilities now and so give her the space she needs.




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