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How to get over an Ex
About 10 months ago I started seeing this guy. We had a "thing" for awhile and eventually started dating. We were only together for a couple months. He didnt treat me very well and actually did alot of really douchey things. I was really upset one night and brokeup with him in a text message. That was about 8 months ago. This guy is a huge jerk. He's extremely full of himself, he isn't very attractive, and he doesn't have very many friends. But for some reason I can't seem to get over him. No matter what I do I can't stop thinking about him and when I see facebook poasts about him and his new girlfriend it hurts so much. I know I shouldn't want to be with him but I cant help how I feel. I also have to see him frequently because we go to the same highschool. I don't know how to get over him. It's been 8 minths since we broke up and I still can't get over him. Any advice on how to get over him would help. Thanks!
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Girls like jerks because jerks don't kiss girls butts like so-called "nice guys" (read: needy wimps). Deep down, girls like a guy with confidence and that often manifests itself in a fondness for guys who treat them like crap because the guy is displaying independence and aggressiveness, traits that girls often equate with a great chance for financial success down the line. And, as everyone knows, girls are security driven, which is most often attained these days through money.
Because the American male has been pussified by single mothers, public education (the way classes are taught in schools is geared more toward how girls learn rather than boys) and Madison Avenue (see how white males are portrayed as feckless dolts in just about every tv ad), the current generation of males are a bunch of whining slacker wussies. So when you have had a guy who says, "my way or the highway," deep down, makes you kinda hot for him, even after you dump him.
Either that or your dad treated you like crap, too, and women often repeat their relationships with their fathers in their personal lives (it's the old "go for what you know" thing). Sad, but true.
Or you have a horrendous lack of self esteem and believe that all you deserve are jerks. Or a combination of all three of the factors I've enumerated here.
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There is really only one way to get over someone.
That is to keep yourself busy, and meet new people. Well, two really. But they need to be done together.
Keep yourself busy by doing what you enjoy, i.e. hobbies. Read, exercise, write, take up a sport, study, etc. This will keep your mind off him.
Secondly, go out and meet new people. Spend time with your friends and family. Go to parties, clubs (night clubs and social clubs), etc. Make new friends. Eventually, you will find someone else. Someone who is much better.
But that can't happen unless you get over him. So do it. It won't be easy, and it'll take him. But it can be done!
Good luck!
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