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Hi!My name is Melissa.I'm from G.I. New York.I love being able to help people and giving advice.I'm usually the person who people come to for advice and i'm always glad to be there for them.If you just wanna talk or if you want advice you can IM me.UnLuckyWishes3.I'm really into sports and love to play basketball.I play JV voleyball and Varsity track.

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Okay, im thirteen and i have a boyfriend who is the greatest thing in my life right now, hes so suportive towards me..and i really would like to spend the rest of my life with him and i know alot of people are gunna tell me that im 13 and alot of things are gunna go on in my life that might change and i dont even know what love is, but trust me i do i know exactly what it is thanks too him, but anyways...we both wanna go further..cause we both have the same feelings for eachother, and i wanna go further but i dont know how far..i mean we have made out alot...and like fingered..whats next? help me and ill rate you

I think its great you found someone you love so early.As long as you know what your doing and that your ready i dont see there any reason why not to have sex.Just follow your heart really and you'll know if its right for you.Hope i helped.

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I used to have 2 best friends. Arina** nd Stacie** (** names have been changed) and I know 3 is a tricky number to work with when it comes to friends. So one night me and stacie were texting each other and shes like "i got a bf" and I say, "really, who?" "tyler" then I say, "wuts his last name?" "i dunno" then I say "and let me guess...u never met him before?" and she got all offended and called me a bitch when I was just kidding, cuz she went out with this guy tht lives in P.A and never met him before. So we stared fighting over the text messaging bickering back and forth. And we haven't been friends since June. And I don't think we ever will be again. But the sad part is my (favorite) other best friend, arina, turned against me for some reason and I think its because stacie is tellin her a bunch a trash about me. So me and Arina stopped talking to me and I really want to talk to her and ask her why shes mad at me. Its so painful it makes me cry. We were like the bestest friends. I was more close with arina than anyone. We shared such good times. I just don't know what to do cuz one day arina stared giving me the silent treatment without telling me why. So she just left me in the dark. I do not know how to solve my problem at all. Can you help me? I miss arina! :`(

Maybe ask one of your close friends to find out whats going with her.Like have them askher and belike why are you and {your name} fighting or whats up w/ your and {your name}. Or try goign to her hosue when you knwo someone wil be home and ask liek her parents if you can talk to her for a minute so you knwo she wont just throw you out without talking or anything.Sorry i kept writing {your name}, I just dont knwo your name.lol.Well i hope you get your friend back i knwo what it feels like.

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alright, so i'll try and make this short as possible. there is this really hot guy at me school. i'm in 9th he's in 10th, so its not totally impossible that we go out. the thing is is that we dont' have any classes or anything together. i see him during lunch and in the library before school, and his cousin/friend has his locker right by mine, so i see him sometimes then too. and we've never talked or anything, but i really really want to get to know him! but my friend who knows him says hes shy, so that leaves me to make the first move .. problem, i don't know what to say! i DO NOT just want to barge up to him saying 'hi, i like you, etc' gosh, can someone help me?
-despretley in need of help.

Maybe you could ask him to do something over the weekend with you.And if you think you might come out weird or something bring a coulpe friends to help with the conversation.Hope i helped.

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I feel like my life is just so useless, like there is nothing good going on for me. I'm always crying. I feel like I cry everyday. I've felt this way for a while, and I know I'm depressed. Now it has come to the point where I am depressed with being depressed. I don't know what to do to feel better.

You might wanna try seeing a conseuler or doctor.Try and have fun too , go out with your friends and party or go to the mall or se a movie.Just think you only have one life to live you should try and make the best out of it.Hope i helped.

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when is the best time to get your puppy nuetered? I have a puppy and he is like starting to hump his stuffed animal dogs..lol

More then likely now.If he's starting ot do that then its usually time.

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ok i like this boy adam, and i think he likes me too but im not sure. i ask him who he likes and he won't tell me. but its a sticky situation because one of my best friends likes him too, thats how i got to know adam. she wanted me to hook them up, and then i fell for him. i cant tell her i like him because i dont want to hurt her. she wont get mad, shes not like that, but she wll be hurt. so my question is, how do i find out if he likes me, and should i tell my friend or should i just move on from him?

you should definatly tell your friend.It may hurt her but i think she'll be happier you were honest with her.I mean so if he likes one of you you can be happy for each other, or if he doesnt like either of you like that you can both be unhappy together.I dont mean to sound mean when i said that but like if you both get dissapointed you have each other to lean on.Maybe ask one of his friends who he lieks or ask him and say that i was wondering who you liked because i know someone who does.so that way you can pretend your asking for a friend.Hope i helped and good luck.

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All my friend has been doing lately is complaining. Not to be stuck up or anything but things are going a little better for me than they are for her lately and shes tryen to bring me down with her so we can share being upset all the time . On the fone she doesnt stop complaining I just want to hang up on her. I dont want to be rude to her about this but im just so sick of listening to her complain. PLEASE help!

she pry just likes to share her problems a little bit too much.Ask her if she can stop talkign so much about her all the time.Just be like "Listen i like helping you and all but i dont want to hear about it EVERY second of the day only sometimes." If that doesnt work then just flat out tel her she's way to self-centered.Hope i helped.

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I'm 13. I have 5 pairs of shorts, 2 pairs of pants, 5 shirts and 2 sets of pJ's.

I keep asking and asking my mom to take me out shopping, but she always keeps saying no. I get in trouble at school a lot because my shorts are to short and my pants are too tight, but I can't help it if my mom never takes me shopping!
How do I get her to take me out shopping?

Tell your mom that your getting in trouble @ school for the clothes you were.Or start looking for sales in the paper and stuff.I know aero is really sheap if you look on the clearence racks and G+G/Rave is pretty cheap too.Or try making your own money, like babysit or help someone with housework.You could put flyers up around your neighborhood and see if that works.Hope i helped.

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i cant stand not having a boyfriend, i havnt had one in soo long and i feel like im so ugly i mean when i get one i wont obsess over him or kill myself when we break up, but like i feel like im ugly i mean i have blue eyes brown hair and im tan i dont sound pretty but why cant i get a boyfriend??? what are some ways i can??HELPP

You might be concentrating on it too much.You gotta relax and have fun.Lots of the time you cant find what your looking for, you gotta let it find you.Just try and think positive about yourself.I'm sure your not ugly , you pry just have it stuck in your head.Try and have fun with your friends and maybe the guy you've been waiting for will find you.Hope i helped.

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my parents don't like my boyfriend..because i went out with him before and he treated me pretty bad..but i really think he has changed but i don't know if my parents think that or not! what can i do to make them gain trust back in him? because if they don't trust him that means i don't get to see him as often?
i rate super high!

Maybe have him over your house and talk to your parets so maybe they'll see a change in his attitude towards you.And it shows that he's tryign.Hope i helped.

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my mom just recently said she thinks its time for me to see a gyno. so she made me an appointement. she tells me yesterday that she had a dream i was pregenant. do u think she is making me go to the gyno and had that dream b/c she thinks i have sex?

She pry just thinks your ready to start going and could be worried that her lil girl is growing up.Like sometimes when you or someone else is doing something your nervous about you tend dream about it sometimes.Like what if and stuf like that.It's probably just her being a worried mom.Hope i helped.

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OK i like this guy.. we r rly good friends we talk every single day..im afraid if i tell him we wont be so close..and i want us to stay close..i think he might like me a lil too.. because he asked me who i liked and i told him that it doesnt matter because they dont like me anyways ..and he said r u sure about that..so im rly confused because i want to tell him but i dunno..help plz

It sounds like he likes you too.Maybe ask one of his other guy friends to fidn out who he likes or talk to him and tell him that you liek him and if he doesnt feel the same thats fine because you dont want to loose your friendship.Hope i helped.

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ok last year i was very deressed but i never told anyone. i got over it. now im depressed again. this is serious though because i know that i can control it, but it hurts me inside. i think of killing people (no, i will never do this!!) but it wont stop. i will never kill someone, but i keep on thinking of it. my family cant afford a physcologist or anything. we are going through a tough time right now with money. i get depressed whenever i go online a lot and other tough things happen, and i just feel depressed like this at different points during the day. i want to help myself get over this. i know i can do it. please help me!

Maybe try going to your school consueler and talk about it.It doesnt cost anything and thier paid to help out students with thier problems.Or i'm not sure if this would help out alot but try writing in journal to get all your feelings out or talkt o a close friend or family member.hope i helped and you find help.

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This year at My new Middle School* I met this really Cute boy .. + He's in like all my Classes and we became really good friends.. well about a couple days ago He asked me out and i said yeah! But Then i found out that he only had one gurlfriend but they went out for awhile but they never did anything so his friend told me he thinks he never kissed! Well I dont JuSs wanna be a couple that talks i wanna kiss and hold hands and that lil Stuff! So should i JuSs make the move or should i tell his friend to get him to do it ?! Oh but he does hug* lol!! Alright.. Please Help Me Out

You should make the first move.He'll pry he be so happy you did.He might just be nervous or shy about it or not know you want to, so you should definatly make the move.Hope i helped and you two kiss.

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OK guys.. A really cute guy likes me and invited me to go to his football game tomorrow since he's one of the starting players. I know to cheer for the team and when he does good, etc.. But I dunno if I'd be able to see him after the game. I want to see him but I don't want to wait around for him if he only wanted me to be there for support. So should I wait for him or just leave after the game ?

Yea I would wait for him after the game and talk or something.I wouldnt wait too long though maybe 10-15 minutes, he should be out by then.Hope i helped.

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Hi my name is jess and theres this boy in my school that new i got to know him good and he started to like me than i think we went out now hes saying that his dad says he's to young to go out wit anyone is he saying that for a eccuses or do u think its true.
ps can you tell me what i could do to go out with him

I dont think he's common i know alot of parents dont want thier kids going out until thier like 16.Maybe you could ask him to go to the movies or mall with a friend so that way you can be together and not like be "real" dating or w/e.Hope i helped and he can be able to go out soon.

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Anyone know how i can get artificial nail glue out of a shirt?

i'm not sure if it will help but i know color safe bleach gets alot of stains out.If you pour it on the stain and scrub it maybe once or twice it might work.Hope i helped.

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Ok, well heres the thing...I still like my boy friend, I think...see I am not sure if I like him...or I just liked making out with him...lol I know it sounds childish but when I am in his arms I feel safe, and it feels like nothing in the world matters anymore...I dont know what to do because we dated for 3 days and then broke up for about a week and then we dated for another 4 days and then broke up and it has almost been a week, both of the times we broke up it was because he was flirting with another girl and had told his best friend that he liked her more then me, and his best friend proved it to me both times...I dono what to do...i want him back, I think...PLease help me I dont know what to do...I feel so good when I am in his arms and when we are kissing but I dont know if i just like the fact of feeling that way, or feeling that way "WITH HIM"....if you know please tell me!!! I need to figure this out because it is driving me crazy!!

Maybe he's just the first guy you loved or you just have a comfort zone with him.Try spending some extra time with him or just see how he treats other girls or his girlfriend if he has one.Mayeb if you see how he acts ,you'll know that you deserve someone better than that.He sounds great and all but you shouldnt be with someone if he cant be as good to you as you are to them.Hope i helped and figure it out.

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heyy .. okay i have lotss of like problemss .. and i really need so0me one i kan have to look foward to and be happy about what i mean is a boyfriend .. and i havent had one for a whilee .. and i havent liked any one for a while .. whats wrong with me .. and how can i find new guys to find a boyfriend .. i really wunt a long relationship

Maybe try going out to clubs or something and having fun with your friends. I know alot of times when you're looking for something you cant find it but if you try to just have fun and keep your mind off of it you find just what you wanted.Just try adn keep positive and i know if your going through a rough time its really hard , but try adn hang in there and being optimistic.Hope i helped.

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I get the worst cramps when I get my period. It's usually my first or second day when I get these horrible cramps. I take Motrin, drink tea and use a heating pad. Nothing I do seems to really work and my cramps get so terrible I just want to die. Is there something I can do or take that will make them go away?

I know just like doing streches helps alot.If it hurts really bad but you can still move a little bit try pulling your arms toward your feet or anyother simple strech you can think of.it works for me and alot of people i know.Hope i helped and your cramps get better.

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