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my ex boyfriend
Ok, well heres the thing...I still like my boy friend, I think...see I am not sure if I like him...or I just liked making out with him...lol I know it sounds childish but when I am in his arms I feel safe, and it feels like nothing in the world matters anymore...I dont know what to do because we dated for 3 days and then broke up for about a week and then we dated for another 4 days and then broke up and it has almost been a week, both of the times we broke up it was because he was flirting with another girl and had told his best friend that he liked her more then me, and his best friend proved it to me both times...I dono what to do...i want him back, I think...PLease help me I dont know what to do...I feel so good when I am in his arms and when we are kissing but I dont know if i just like the fact of feeling that way, or feeling that way "WITH HIM"....if you know please tell me!!! I need to figure this out because it is driving me crazy!!
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i think you just like the attention... all girls do!! just find some other guys to flirt with!! then you'll get over him and then you'll find someone new!
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Alright i kno where your coming from .. this may be real hard to do cause kno it was for me but you should try goin out with another boi .. do everything you do with this one nd if you feel really good then it must be the feeling of having the cuddling nd kissing nd stuf nd if you dont feel the same way then obviously its your ex .. nd that could mean you love him .. nd you should talk to him nd talk to him bout not flirtin nd gettin bac together nd stuf .. i hope it works out ... good luck nd if you need to talk im me
[ iresistblyblonde ] good luck
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Due to the fact that you guys really weren't together very long, at all, I would say you probably just like that feeling. The feeling of being in someone's arms can be very comforting. You probably just like that comforting feeling. Fi there is any other guy you like, try hanging with him, and see if you feel the same way with him, or if its all weird cuz you can't your ex.
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I think you just like making out with him. If you only went out for 3 days I don't know how much you can like somebody. I don't think you can know somebody that well in just 3 days...
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You both deserve a relationship in which you feel content with one another. It's not really healthy to settle or to be settled for: he should have something he doesn't consider second rate, and you shouldn't hang out where you're being treated second rate.
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Basically, what I'm saying is that IF he is discontent with you, continuing the relationship is unfair to you both. But let's not jump to conclusions here; that "IF" is all caps for a reason. ;)
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In any relationship, whether it's playful or serious, you need to communicate with your partner. Ask this boy if he really is more into this other girl, if he wants to be freed up to persue her; this not only would allow him to do so, but it'd let you find someone who can treat you as the top-rate girl you actually are.
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However, he might just be a natural flirt & not realise that he's crossing your boundaries. If he gives you a lost puppy look when you ask if he likes her better, this is likely the case. And if it's in his nature to flirt, you need to think about whether you're comfortable with that, because internal nature might be very difficult for him to change. I think the decision is down to you.
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How do YOU feel about him flirting with other girls? Are you willing to keep the relationship in-tact if you know that it will never go beyond that? And are you content to be his second choice forever, if that's the case?
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It takes a lot of courage to act on these convictions and apply a healthy amount of self-respect, but I know you can do it. On top of it all, communicate! It's the only way you'll really know what's going on. ;)
[Added edit] I'm really glad this helped! Feel free to add me; I'll keep an eye out for your questions in the future, too. :)
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It sounds like you just like the feeling of being with someone. And if this guy is constantly messing you around and not staying true, then you might have problems if you pursue a relationship with him, setting you up for a lot of pain. You don't say how old you are, so please forgive me if you are not 13-15, but you proably have time to find another guy, one who will love you, or at least not stray.
Good luck with finding him :)
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Maybe he's just the first guy you loved or you just have a comfort zone with him.Try spending some extra time with him or just see how he treats other girls or his girlfriend if he has one.Mayeb if you see how he acts ,you'll know that you deserve someone better than that.He sounds great and all but you shouldnt be with someone if he cant be as good to you as you are to them.Hope i helped and figure it out.
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Since it's driving you crazy, I'll try to answer.
I don't think it's your exboyfriend you are dwelling on, I think it's the closeness. I think the fact that your not even sure whether or not you miss him or kissing him shows this. It's not like you're coming out of a serious relationship. You've only been together for a week. The problem is, this relationship was so brief it left you feeling things were unfinished between the two of you. Even though this was extremely short, it might have been long enough for you to grow used to having a boyfriend.
Truthfully, if this guy really does like that girl more than you, there's not much hope in a relationship working. I advise you to try and find closure. Try meeting other guys.
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