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my parents and my boyfriend
my parents don't like my boyfriend..because i went out with him before and he treated me pretty bad..but i really think he has changed but i don't know if my parents think that or not! what can i do to make them gain trust back in him? because if they don't trust him that means i don't get to see him as often?
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Well, there really is nothing you can do to get them to trust him again. You obviously have mentioned him to your parents, so they have probably seen how much he hurt you. He has hurt their "baby girl" and therefore doesn't even deserve a second chance. You can try talking to your parents about it, invite him over for dinner, etc, but that's really all you can do. It's then up to your parents whether or not they want to trust him again.
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Tell your parents that you think he's changed. Make sure they know what you two do on dates and make sure you tell them what you did on your date so they can see if he's changed or not.
If they still don't give in, then it's probably in your best intrest. Respect their descision. There's other guys in this world.
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Invite him over for dinner. See how he reacts put in a setting with the whole family. Your parents will get to see if he has changed, and you might get to see him all the time!
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omg! i am in the exact SAME situation. my parents are NOT forgiving him. and i dont know, but they are just being stubborned about it! i have to sneak anround and see mine. good luck gurl. keep me updated! *Bethers*
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Unfortunately, there is nothing that YOU can do for him to regain your parents' trust. Only your boyfriend can do that.
I don't know your parents, so I can't tell you specifically what it would take for them to cut him some slack, but if he treated you badly in the past then, as your parents, they are right to mistrust him a little and to be leary of your continued relationship.
However, that doesn't mean that he isn't a good guy, who made some bad judgments in the past and has learned from his mistakes and wants to do right by you now. If this is the case (which I sincerely hope it is), then over time as he treats you with the kindness and respect that you deserve and shows respect to your parents as well, they will most likely see the positive changes in him and start to believe in his "new leaf".
Your parents want what is best for you and if it turns out that your boyfriend hasn't changed and he starts to mistreat you again, they are going to feel guilty and probably a little responsible for allowing you to see him at all. So, ultimately, they are trying to do what they think is right for you because they care.
Your parents' lack of trust is a direct consequence of his past mistreatment of you. Both you and your boyfriend need to understand that it will take time and patience from everyone in this situation to get back to where you were before. The bottom line: if he is the good guy that you believe him to be, in time, your parents will recognize that. Best of luck to you.
Kind wishes,
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Maybe have him over your house and talk to your parets so maybe they'll see a change in his attitude towards you.And it shows that he's tryign.Hope i helped.
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You can talk to them & tell them that people make mistakes... im sure ur parents have made mistakes that they regret... if sum1 realizes that they made a mistake... they might be willin to change... & in ur case he is...
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Your boyfriend has to do little stuff to gain their trust back. Like he needs to treat you niceley when their around and when their not around..and it'll take awhile but hopefully he'll be trusted again.
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