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Okay, im thirteen and i have a boyfriend who is the greatest thing in my life right now, hes so suportive towards me..and i really would like to spend the rest of my life with him and i know alot of people are gunna tell me that im 13 and alot of things are gunna go on in my life that might change and i dont even know what love is, but trust me i do i know exactly what it is thanks too him, but anyways...we both wanna go further..cause we both have the same feelings for eachother, and i wanna go further but i dont know how far..i mean we have made out alot...and like fingered..whats next? help me and ill rate you
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I think next u shud hav oral sex a 69 is best cos u both hav pleasure at the same time
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well if you fingered and everything...w/e just use protecion!
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Don't do it! It may seem right but ull regret it later! if he truly loves u hell wait. HHow bout u lik kiss him in othr places? lik the neck the arms etc.
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To go farther, you need to take a giant step towards one word: sex. I have it with my boyfriend all the time, and I'm fifteen. However, are you certain you want to do this? The first time I had sex, it was like heaven but as I thought about it, I think I statred too young. Just because sex is fun while you are presently having it doesn't mean you may regret it. So watch your step and be safe!
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Sure, you love this guy. But love isn't a concrete thing - every new relationship you enter will show you new sides to love. Your personality isn't even fully formed until your mid-twenties, though, and you can't really love and understand someone else unless you can know and love yourself.
That aside, if you don't know how far to go, then don't go any further than you're at right now. In love or not, sex brings all sorts of complications - constant worries about pregnancy, the possibility of contracting a disease which could render you infertile or kill you, a higher chance of cervical cancer, etc. Sex also drastically changes the dynamics of a relationship - usually not for the better.
I think you should talk to your boyfriend about where you guy see this going. Figure out where you are both absolutely comfortable being, and experiment. Nobody in love wants to imagine that love could end, but it's healthy to take it all with a grain of salt. Think: 'If I did this, how would I feel if we broke up?'
Exploring sexual things and love for the first time is exhilarating, and you can never get that time back. Why rush?
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Alright; i know you don't wanna hear it but you ARE too young. Trust me, I KNOW.
First off i'm super happy that you've found someone who shares the same feelings as you and that you guys really care for each other.
It's 1OO% true that you're gonna go through things in the next few years that will really change everything about you. I have changed dramaticaly from the age of 13 and the decisions i made then seem so stupid now (and i was quite a mature 13 year old).
Just because you guys have really deep feelings for each other doesn't mean you have to express it w/ sexual activities. Why can't you just enjoy being w/ each other and enjoy being young? You definitly don't want to rush into having sex and dealing w/ all the complications and stress that it can bring.
IF you DO want to go furthur sexually, i really want you to consider educating you on everything involved. Check up on some really good websites that will inform you and answer your questions or ask someone (i'm willing to answer any questions you have). If you already think you know enough, don't jump right into sex. Experiment w/ other stuff and leave sex alone for awhile to make it more special.
Hope i helped and much <3
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Whats next you ask? Sex. Dont go there, though. You are way tooo young! You have your whole life ahead of you!
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hUnnY!!~ sex changes ur whole relationship! ur only 13! have fun 4 now! TrUsT mE oN thIs oNe! this probably isnt the answer u wanted 2 hear... but sTay where u are. sex messes things up! if u guys r still 2gether in a couple years (which it sounds like u guys might be) tHeN be more serious about it! maKinG oUt, fIngErInG is GREAt! hahaha! My aDViCe fOr ThE "nExT sTeP:" give him a hand job!! haha HoPe I hElPed! asK mE nE tHinG nE tIme!
xOxO, aLeX
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Ya, Im sorry hunny but i have to back alot of ppl up on this one, you should slow down some, and u know sex is better when u are older? Just take your time, and enjoy your young teenage years, dont push it to grow up so fast, theres 1,to 1,000,000,000,000 chance that your gonna marry this guy sweetie, i'm sorry to say that but its really true. you might be 2gether for maybe a few more months or so, but once u hit highschool or something, everything is gonna change in your life, just dont have sex with him, u will maybe regret it
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ur 13!! n u made out a lot and "like fingered" woaa lol slow down
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Chick your 13 years old. Why would you want to spoil the surprise now I know you think you love him but do you really think yall are going to be together the REST of your life? Think about that..i mean don't spoil it now..wait a while and let it be special..but hey it's your life but personally i wouldn't go any further..!
Xo,Shay!
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it really depends on how long u have known him and how much u love him. i dont think u should go any further i mean there are so many other poeple out there but if you rlly think you love him go with your heart. no matter what you do if he really ves you then he will be okay with what you decide.
tina
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Well as I read over other people's responses (because I dont relly want to repeat lol) I think the next thing would be oral sex. Call me old fashioned but I just dont think a 13 year old should be having sex. You are still considered to be a child even if you are teenager. I dont want to put you down or anything because I've been in a similar position. But if you feel he is the one for you and you have ever reason to believe it and you want to go further, then sweetie thats going to have to be entirely up to you. No one else can tell you when your ready for sex, or ready to do anything. You need to follow your heart and your morals (if you have any that you stand for.) As I heard in another reply to you, I think you are very mature for your age and you seem to know what you want.
My advice to you would be to take it slow and one thing at a time. You've made out, played with each other, then if your going to take a next step it would be for oral.. but hunny, be sure you are ready and comfortable. Thats the most important thing of all that you are ready. You seem ready enough but I still feel some uncertainty and you just do what you think is right for the both of you
Good luck and let me know sometime how it went. I'd love to listen. :-)
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I really don't think you go further than oral if since you're 13. (I'm not berating you; I just turned 14.) It really depends on how long you've been going out, I think 6 months to a year is ideal. I don't know your boyfriend, so I can't decide for you, but I really think you should wait a while for the real thing. Good luck!
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I think its great you found someone you love so early.As long as you know what your doing and that your ready i dont see there any reason why not to have sex.Just follow your heart really and you'll know if its right for you.Hope i helped.
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I think that you should follow your instincts . Don't try to think about what he wants when it comes to the NEXT BIG STEP( that is if you take this step) because, you may be the one that suffers the most out of this step . I know you LIKE HIM ALOT, but DO YOU LOVE HIM . You may think that this is a good thing because, I consider you lucky , but you have to think about what's best for you . Basically my advice is if you're having doubts that you're not sure what you want and that's a good thing . You're young and you have the rest of your life, and if he can't wait to hell with him . BUT , if you really really truely 85-100 % think you're ready to go to that next BIG STEP, then do it . It's all up to you . Trust your instincts which are your mind and your heart . I hope I was some help and by .
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The next thing would be oral sex. I dont wanna see you get hurt or anything, but if your gonna have sex with him just make sure you are really ready for it. And use protection. Always play it safe. So good luck and have fun!
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You're very mature for your age, and I think you should just follow your heart, sweetie! If you feel you're ready to go further, and maybe even have sex, then go ahead if you're 100% sure. If you're going to do anything, always, always, ALWAYS have your boyfriend were a condom!
If you need some more advice just tell me! =)
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Thirteen is young, but age means nothing in the name of love. Just don't do anything your going to regret, and I would really save sexual intercourse for someone that you are SURE you love. At 13, i was very naive, ( lacking experience and understanding) and I thought i had met the man of my dreams as well....turns out when we got to highschool things changed completley...I don't want to see you get hurt! Take things slow, and if you stay together for a long time, you might want to take it further.
<3 hope i helped love
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personaly i wouldnt go further , think about it your only 13 do you really want to throw away your virginity and such a young age ... right now this answerseems really stupid but in the long run it's not .
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Your 13, are you sure you want to go further? well..Do whatever what makes you feel comfortable..I think the oral sex thing is next cuz uve already done stuff before that...but make sure thats something you really wanna do..hope i helped
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