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I have always been feeling down at school. I get bullied a lot, but my teachers don't really help the situation. Especially at my lunch where these kids keep making fun of me, pointing me out, and harrassing me. I try hard to skip lunch but not just because of them but because of the food they offer. I hate their food. And I can't pack because I just plainly hate lunchtime anyway. So every day when I do go to lunch with my friends, I am totally quiet, feeling depressed, anti-social, and never wanting to be involved in conversation. However, when I go back to class (hanging out with other friends) I am happy, free-spirited, and extroverted. My friends think I am like that all the time, since that's the only time they see me. They never want to find time to see me when we are not in school, because they say they are always "busy and stressed out" to come see me.

My grades have been fluctuating, and I get just totally stressed out thinking about school, and trying to pass. I've been battling anxiety, stress, and depression, so it's been hard for me for quite some time.

I don't want everyone to think I am this emo person, trying to feel suicidal 24/7 when I don't. I can be a very optimistic person, but it's hard to show it when my friends at lunch ignore me a little but, forgetting I am there, and assuming I am jsut tired. I don't know what to do! I want my friends to know I can be happy, yet I want to be happy. I don't know.. can someone help me out here?

Thanks..

I knew people like that in HS... what their doing is called being fake... i would find new friends, that consider you a friend in classes, lunch, and outside of school.

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this new years a lot of my good friends who i wanted to celebrate with are gone/busy with something else.. and i'm not really sure what to do. i could hang out with just a few of my friends but im not sure what i could do on new years that would really be that fun with say, like 2 other people. help?

Invite your friends over, rent sum movies.

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if you scratch a certain area, is it true that it stretches our your skin & gives you stretch marks? my mom claims that it does. also, is there a way to avoid them? i'm like TERRIFIED to get them on my arms and the backs of my legs. thank you

Hmm i have heard that before as well, but i dont think it is true. Use cocoa butter to avoid stretch marks.

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i have been looking everywhere for the black-and-white polka dotted coffee mug they always show on friends in the coffee house!

does anybody have ANY idea where i could find one like this?

Try target

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I posted several questions about this girl that I met at a welfare office and where she is pregnant and the father is totally out of the picture. I asking, how can i passively engage in asking her out. She just had the baby, a month ago, I was there during delivery and all and I feel she likes me but I fee she is holding? Why? I would love to date her and be involved but what should I do?

I think you should continue being friends with her, but give her some time before you try to pursue a relationship. She probably has a lot going on right now, and is in need of a friend. Later on when things settle down a bit, she can look back and remember that you were there for her throughout hard times. Than you can try to ask her out.

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I'm a teenage girl who is going to commit suicide today. No questions asked. I could never cut myself or jump off of a building- but I might be able to suffocate myself. But the problem with that would be that I don't know if I'd come back to consciousness with brain damage or not. Does suffocation cause brain damage? Or does it just kill you? Any quick and painless methods would be greatly appreciated.

OMG please don't do it. You need to talk to someone, a parent guardian or maybe a trusted adult. Life is too precious to just throw it away like that. Also i believe that if you try to suffocate yourself, you could possibly regain consciousness and suffer with serious brain damage, leading you to live the rest of your life as a vegtable!

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aww...that pic of u is soo pretty

Awww, thanx.

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I recently got a baby kitten & I know I need to take him to the vet to get his check-up and vaccines, he's 7weeks? Does anyone know the proper age to take him or if he's still too young?

It's never too early... the sooner you get Prince checked out the better.

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I'm married to this FRENCH guy and i wanna make a really special dinner from his country? Any really good & traditional recipes?

You could always make him french fries... har har har

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heyy..i just wanted to know about this concert i went to in 2003 or 2004...at the Air Canada Centre...and it was an Indian show...with Hritik Roshan, Preity Zinta, Shaan and some other people...and they were promtoing the movie "koi mil agay" ...does anyone know the NAME of the show?

(i think it was the one before the "temptations 2004" tour)

THANKS

Hearthrobs

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For entertainment purposes I'd rather tweeze the hairs on my legs than shave because it passes the time and also gets the hair at its root. Could this pose a health problem?

OMG THAT'S AWESOME, I WISH I HAD YOUR TIME AND WILLPOWER!!! lol. No it is actually better than shaving because it gets the hair at it's root like you stated. I've never heard of any risks.

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15/f

I was decorating the Christmas tree last year when suddenly it fell over. All of my ornaments (from generations and generations.. and the ones I had been collecting since I was born) were suddenly broken.

Just now I was decorating the tree this year thinking I have so much good in my life but I am not happy and I should try harder (I am constantly trying to improve my life.) But then I dropped an ornament and it reminded me of last year.

I work so hard for everything, but I know how easily it all falls apart and how disappointed I am. Should I see the omen of the falling ornament and stop trying to avoid disappointment? Or do I keep trying to improve my life and self?

I fear disappointment and know it will happen eventually, no matter how hard I try. Maybe I should just give up.

Any words of advice would make a huge difference in my decision.

Thanks so much

The breaking of a material possession shouldnt be that much of a disappoint in your life. I know the ornaments from last year had many memories. I just recently broke a $600 phone, that meant A LOT to me. I was really hurt when it happend and i felt the same way cuz i had a lot going on in my life at that time. Keep trying to improve your life, set goals, and make new memories. The sky is the limit. You have so much opportunity. Dont be disappointed think of all the positive things you have going for you.

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My boyfriend's parents are so unpredictable and strict!
We're both 14, and they let us go to the movies by ourselves. But when my 20 year old brother offered to take us to the movies, his parents wouldn't let him go!

He's not allowed to come to my house unless his parents talk to my parents and make sure we'll be in their sight at all times! But when we go to his house, his parents let us in the basement alone! Him and I can never go out, cause his parents never allow us to, what should I do? I'm really getting sick of this!

You guys are only 14, parents act really werid in the first couple of years of their childrens dating lives. You have to give them some time and gain their trust before they are going to give in to you or him.

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Everytime I go to Carson's house [My boyfriend] I'm really bored. His little brother always watches some G rated movie with us, and his parents always cook some nasty food. I hate eating at their house because all they eat is seafood, and thats the one thing I hate more then anything else. How can I get him to stop inviting me over? I'm all out of excuses, and his parent's won't let him at my house.

Why won't his parents let him at your house? That's not fair your allowed to go to his but he's not allowed to go to yours. Try going out with him. Dinner, movies, etc.

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My boyfriend kinda over-does it when it comes to complimenting me. I really appreciate him being sweet and all, but he takes it too far sometimes. When we were at dinner the other night, I asked him to pass the salad and he responded saying "I'd love to pass the salad to my most awesomest girlfriend in the world that I love more then she loves salad"

.. Yeah weird, but the problem is, he does that in EVERY conversation so its not just once-in-a-while. It becomes more annoying then flattering. How do I get him to take it down a notch but still making sure that he knows I appreciate his efforts? He hasn't caught on to my hints to getting him to stop.

I think the best way of letting him know is gently tell him that compliments are appreciated more when they are used sparingly.

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Well yea here is my problem, i have a boyfriend lets just call him henry, and we have been going out for almost 2 years and he is ready to settle down with me and have a family but and we have been promised to each other for a long time and he is ready to settle down but i am only 16 years old so wat do i do ?

You didn't say how old he is. I personally don't think a 16 your old is ready to make a lifetime commitment. Y'all have the rest of your lives to be married, have a family, and have responsibilities. Enjoy being young and careless. Once you settle down with a family you are going to lose that.

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hey, well my parents found out that i was on this website a few months ago. they kicked me off it and told me that im not allowed to go on it again. im 13/f. i tried to tell them that people need advice on stuff that they cant ask there parents or there friends, or just stuff there embarased to ask anyone that they know. they said why would anyone want a 13 year olds advice. they dont approve of this site, but im in love with it. what can i do to make them approve of it?

OOO wow that is terrible, i wish i had known about this site when i was 13. Well you can start off by letting them know that most of this website is monitored by moderators. And it's not a dating website or anything. Your not here to meet people, it's not like myspace. It's simply for advice. You don't have any bad intentions.

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I am 15 years old and my grandmother (50) is expecting me to haev kids at 16 but I feel that is too young.i want to have kids at 30 years old but my parents thinks it is old. so can anyone tell me if it is?I really want to enjoy my 20's adn have fun.so thanks for your answers!

Don't have kids anytime soon. enjoy your 20's. I'm going to be 20 this February, i absolutely love children, but i dont want any of my own until im 30. It's too much responsibility. Constantly worrying about your kids, once they go to school, and all the hell they will put me through once they are teens is something i am willing to wait for. Enjoy being young, once your youth is gone it will NEVER come back.

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I need help cleaning my carpet. Somehow my toddler managed to rub into her bedroom carpet what seems to be ketchup, toothpaste, shampoo, and maybe some other things.

I haven't been able to climb stairs due to pregnancy complications and we've been sleeping downstairs. So imagine my surprise when I crawl up the stairs to finish new baby preparations to find these things dried into the carpet.

It is so gross. How do I clean it? My baby is due in just a week and I really want the carpet clean before she gets here. Also, the cheaper the better. Thanks so much!

Try renting a steam vacuum and using it on the carpet. You can rent it from home depo.

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i recently got back in contact with an old friend after several years,everything was going good and we were talking everyday.for no reason at all he has stopped contacting me and hasnt even had the guts to tell me why.i tried calling him but we only spoke for a few secs so i wasnt able to really get to the bottom of things.im very confused as to why he would do this,and i,ve tried not letting it bother me but it still is.what do you guys think of this?

Sometimes people just grow apart. I know it's hard and it hurts, but it's a part of life that we all eventually learn to accept. Try to give it one last try. Call him again, ask him how he's doing. Tell him to be honest with you and tell you why he doesn't talk to you as much anymore.

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