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Should i have a kid ?
Well yea here is my problem, i have a boyfriend lets just call him henry, and we have been going out for almost 2 years and he is ready to settle down with me and have a family but and we have been promised to each other for a long time and he is ready to settle down but i am only 16 years old so wat do i do ?
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Since you're only 16 personally I don't think that's old enough to have a kid. Sure you might think your ready but once it happens it's gonna be hard cause your still in school and would have to work for money and who knows whats even gonna happen in the realationship right now. So no.
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You didn't say how old he is. I personally don't think a 16 your old is ready to make a lifetime commitment. Y'all have the rest of your lives to be married, have a family, and have responsibilities. Enjoy being young and careless. Once you settle down with a family you are going to lose that.
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im 16, and 8 months pregnant- trust me, sweetheart- it is NOT easy. ill run a few things by you that go through my head on an EVERYDAY basis: 1. how will you be able to finish school, knowing that someone has to be watching your child when you cant.
2. people do and WILL talk nasty about you behind your back for you being so young and gettig pregnant, things will be said that you will NEVER forget, and they will break your heart.
3. what if things dont work out between you both, and you dont end up getting married, but still have this child together?- how will your child live knowing that mommy and daddy arent together?
4. when will you ever get the chance to enjoy life and know that you have no responsibilities?
5. how will you provide for the baby- i havent even had the baby yet, and already she's cost me hundreds of dollars.
just think clearly about the whole situation, and please please dont rush into anythnig that you know you are not comfortable with/
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i honesly dont think you think you
should have a child. you're only
sixteen. you still have school,
parties, graduation, dances, getting
wasted, all those things teenagers
do you wont be able to do. Just because
you have a child. i would wait until
you're out of college. how are you
gonna get a job if you dont go to
college? if your boyfriend's only
sixteen or seventeen, and he has school
how are you guys gonna afford to HAVE
a baby. clothes, daipers, bottles -
they're not that cheap. my sister had
a baby when she was sixteen, and i think
it pretty much ruined her life. dont get
me wrong; she's very happy with her child
but i mean come on, im sure you'd rather
be out partying then taking care of a
baby every night. just think of the
things you're gonna miss if you do
have a child. i dont think it's worth
missing out on all those things.
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Dear should i have a kid,
i honestly think you need to talk to henry about this. beacause sweetie, 16 is too young to start a family. if that is what you both want, then it is different. but once you start a family, it is with you for the rest of your life. everyday you have to take care of them, and don't always get the time you need for yourself. if you want to wait until you are sure that it's what you can handle then i say talk to him about it. if he truly cares for you, then he will understand and wait for you. i hope i helped some. take care.
*Z*
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if i were you, i wouldn't do it.
i mean, you have two years left of highschool. think of how much stress you'll be under with having to take care of a child plus do good in school.
after you get out of highschool you still have four long years of college. now, if you let your grades slip because of a baby when your in highschool, there's no way you'll get to college. if you plan on going to college, i'd stick with just having your parents being parents for now; not grandparents.
i have a friend who's mom had a child when she was 16 & her boyfriend left her because he couldn't handle the stress of the baby. you know when the last time was that she saw her own father? when she was 5. she's 15 now & she was diagnosed with depression a year ago & still has it. she feels like it was her fault that her father left. please don't do this to an innocent child..
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16 is too young to have children. When's the right time to have children? When you don't need to worry about your age. Maybe when you're 18 and out of high school you'll WANT children, and you'll want to devote every second of your life to being a mother. But for you to put BUT in front of "I'm only 16" shows that you obviously aren't ready.
I don't know how old "Henry" is, I'm guessing surprisingly older, because if he's in high school that's really weird. Honestly, tell him you don't want to have children, it's as simple as that. If you want to have kids then discuss it more & talk to your parents about it & see what they say.
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I don't think that sixteen is too young to have a child. But I will ask you to really look into it, completely understand what would be involved. Expenses, time, emotions, etc. Being a parent is hard work. But if you are truly in love with the person, that could become the next step. I wish you all the best of luck, and I hope that this helps. Keep me posted on what you decide.
Jenn
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16 years old is definitely MUCH too young to have children. You're practically still a child yourself! Tell Henry to calm down, and that if he really loves you, he'll wait to start a family until you guys are at LEAST out of high school.
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maybe you should tell him how you feel if he loves you he will understand
hoped i help
XoashlalynXo
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your only 16 years old!! You still have alot to do in your life...other guys to date,party all night, finish high school and work or go to college/university etc. Settling down and having a family is a BIG reponsibility..Think about it..you only have to stay with one guy, you wouldnt be able to hang out with your all the time..when you have a baby, you have to spend ALL your time with it...you have PLENTY of time for that when your older....right now your a teenager and you should live your life to the fullest!
-hope i helped and good luck with your decision<3
-if you need any more advice just ask!
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no matter how much you love this guy, i don't suggest settling down and starting a family yet. you're too young to map out your whole life yet, you need to meet more people, experience more life, a sixteen year old-no matter how mature you are-is not mature enough to start a family. you may not like this advice, but I really suggest taking your time, finish high school, think about college, and meet other people. You may love this guy but that doesn't mean that there isn't someone out there who is perfect for you. I just think you need to slow down and don't jump into this or you will most definitely regret it.
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it depends. if you are ready, and are willing to change your whole future, and dont have second thoughts about it, then go for it. if you dont seem ready yet, hold it off a little. it doesnt seem like it is the best choice for you right now tho. try waiting a little while and see how things go!
hope i helped<333
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