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Working so hard just for everything to fall
15/f
I was decorating the Christmas tree last year when suddenly it fell over. All of my ornaments (from generations and generations.. and the ones I had been collecting since I was born) were suddenly broken.
Just now I was decorating the tree this year thinking I have so much good in my life but I am not happy and I should try harder (I am constantly trying to improve my life.) But then I dropped an ornament and it reminded me of last year.
I work so hard for everything, but I know how easily it all falls apart and how disappointed I am. Should I see the omen of the falling ornament and stop trying to avoid disappointment? Or do I keep trying to improve my life and self?
I fear disappointment and know it will happen eventually, no matter how hard I try. Maybe I should just give up.
Any words of advice would make a huge difference in my decision.
Thanks so much
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Should you stop trying to avoid disappointment? In a way, yes, and in a way, no. Let me explain.
Avoiding disappointment completely is trying to be perfect, and to seem perfect to other people. Well, perfection is impossible. You're going to make mistakes, and there will be times when you fail. Trying to be perfect all the time is time-consuming, not to mention a waste of time.
But that doesn't mean that you shouldn't try your best at everything you do and give it your all. It's just that sometimes, your best isn't going to be as good as someone else's. There will also be times that your best will be better than someone else's. Everyone is good, mediocre, or bad at different things. That's what makes the world so wonderful and diverse.
Understand that you can be great, but to try to be perfect is really what sets you up for disappointment, since your desire for it will never be fulfilled. Instead, learn to accept that people will let you down, and at times, you'll let yourself down, too. Know that you will make mistakes, but learn from them. But never doubt that you can succeed if you put forth the effort, and believe in yourself.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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The breaking of a material possession shouldnt be that much of a disappoint in your life. I know the ornaments from last year had many memories. I just recently broke a $600 phone, that meant A LOT to me. I was really hurt when it happend and i felt the same way cuz i had a lot going on in my life at that time. Keep trying to improve your life, set goals, and make new memories. The sky is the limit. You have so much opportunity. Dont be disappointed think of all the positive things you have going for you.
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I know that each person expects disappointment in their lives and wants to avoid it but you really can't. And never give up because the disappointment gets worse if you do. Continue to try to make yourself happy and maybe if you tried to help someone else improve their life then that process will help you know how to start to improve yours. There are bumps in the road that make you feel like it is not worth the heartache to find complete happiness but the truth is if you don't search for it you just feel completely lost and depressed. If you continue to set your mind on what you want you will get it no matter what. Just have faith in yourself and you will find what your looking for.
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dear working so hard just for everything to fall
i think that you should just be carefull about what you should and should'nt do!
you should'nt kepp trying to inprove your life beasuse somthing bad will happen!
never give up if you give up you will never know if you could of inproved you life!
just be normal and dont try to inprove you life!
from curt001
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Dissapoinment is normal, no one can avoid it, so don't try. But you shouldn't give up on trying to be happier. You just to relax and chill a bit. Don't obsess over every little thing. Try to shake some things off. I'm not saying don't care, Im saying try not to care as much as you have been.
Also look at it this way: Where would we all be if nothing bad ever happened? If we never took a wrong turn? Bored to death is where we would be!
So just try to take a deep breath and relax. And try doing some things for your self. Go get a manicure and pedicure or something to help you loosten up a bit.
Hope I helped.
-Linsay
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I know this ISNT really all about the christmas tree ornaments. Its about something much deeper and that is the want to stay safe from all hurt and dissapointment in the world. Life is all about taking risks and doing things to improve your self and make you happier..but sometimes it just doesnt work out. But that doesnt mean what you did wasnt worth anything. It didnt all just fall? You had fun decorating that tree and you had many memories and good years with the ornaments. Just remember the quote, "The journey is more important than the destination.." In other words, its not about what happens in the end sometimes you fail, but how you get there IS important!
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No don't try avoiding disappointment, there is no way to totaly avoid it, plus the more you have dealt with the stronger you become to disapointment and it may not effect you as much. Never quit trying for self improvment. Just don't push as much as you already are. Let somethings loose and take care of them later (Your little flaws may be someone else's fancy).
--Syd
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