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This guy i know likes me he told me but i wanna move up he wants to hang but he is like shy what do i do im not the most chatty person you will ever meet? help we text easilyy all the time but just we never talk to each other in person?I really like him and wanna date him?

okay..you two text easy..well..how about if you met took the convo from the phone to your voice? or go to a movie..not much cit chat there right? :)

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im almost 18 and for my birthday i wanna get a tattoo on my wrist. however i have no clue what to get so i need some ideas. i dont want anybodys name. im all about having strength and courage so those could be some ideas you want to go off. i was going to get fear no man or trust no one or something kind of like that but they sound kinda dumb. sooo if you know any good quotes or have any ideas it would be greatfully appreciated. thanks!

why not pictures of things that represent courage/strength?

ex.-lion
-Eagle(more freedom sort of thing)
-orrrr...just look up some stuff on google :P

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I sleep around

that's a question that speaks for itself...

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hi i was wondering...i have directv service..i need to move a box into a different room and get another one. i need cable run to the new location..does anyone know if they charge to come out and do that? if so how much?

i don't know! probably get a better answer if you call them and get the right price. maybe it depends on where you are located.

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Okay. I'm a fourteen year old girl and my boyfriend is sixteen (we'll call himm T). We've been dating for a little over three months. I've been hurt in past relationships... a guy only wanted me because he thought he could bang me. But he's the past. I love my boyfriend now. About two months ago I found out something a little shocking. So he used to date this girl (we'll call her B) and I haaaaate her. She goes to a different school, and even before i knew my bf,i severly disliked this girl. I'm not gonna lie though, since ive been dating T ive disliked her even more. I always have thiss problem of comparing myself with her... it sucks. So when i found out that he had fingered her while they were dating it really upset me. Because T promised me, before we started to date, that we would take things reellay slow. Yeah well here I go being stupid and comparing myself. T is perfect. He said that he regretted doing that with her, and that he doesn't expect anything like that from me, he wants to do only what I'm comfortable with. But I really like him... And I don't want to lose him like I did with that otheer guy. Whatever, no excuse. I let him finger me tonight. And now I just don't know... After he did that things were awesome. I felt happy and good about it, and we cuddled and joked around and it was perfect. Then I left his house and we started texting. He was being short with me, and he said he was just tired. I don't know. I was going to call him but he fell asleep... but I really need to talk to him. Truth is, I regret letting hiim finger me. I wish I hadn't... And this sucks because what if he regrets it too? I don't know. I don't know what to do and I'm really confused and I just feel like crying right now but I love him and I just need some help... And the worst part is, I feel like I can't talk to my friends about it. They wouldn't understand... They'd be shocked that I did somthing like that. I know its wiered but they're such good girls and I was too and maybe I still am but I feel so dirty...

Hey Hunny, All girlfriends compare themselves to other woman. It's natural. We want to have their hair, clothes, makeup because maybe the boyfriends would like that more.. Truth is..Don't compare yourself okay? I had talked to my friend about this a while back because she was comparing herself as well. If your boyfriend wanted the girl you are comparing yourself (like his ex) he would go for someone like her and he wouldnt have broken up with his girlfriend. But that's not who he wants he want to be with you. Do talk to him about how you feel about what happened between the two of you. You may feel regret because you think that he feels regret. Sometimes things might get a little shy between the two of you if you have done something. If he told you that he will do what makes you comfortable then that is a good thing not all guys will do that they only will think of themselves and not about your feelings. Maybe he is being a little distant because he is thinking of your feelings and he may feel that you need a little time to sink everything in. Call him up and tell him that you want to talk with him and it would make you feel so much better if you were both face to face so you and him and can read each others expressions and hear what is being said in your voice. sometimes it can be difficult with texting/emailing/iming/phone.. I hope I have helped a little bit I have been in your situation so I understand how you feel.. Good luck! You seem like you are really upset and You really do need him right now. even your best friend doesnt understand everything. Ya know.. i find that its sometimes better talking to a random stranger.. weird isn't it? Okay good luck. I hope everything works out. You can talk to me anytime!

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19-female. I think I made a mistake and I honestly don't know how I can fix it. So i'm going to say first off - don't tell me not to do anything, etc. I am 19 years old, I do make good decisions but I just need advice on one thing! So please just answer the question without the preaching. :) I'll return the favor since it may be long ..Thanks!!

So i've had a crush on my friend for about 3 years now. He's honestly the only guy that I can trust. Me and him, we're both attractive to each other, its apparent and we have messed around before if you want to call it that, he's felt me up before .. we flirt nonstop like physically we just have fun with each other but about two years ago is when he first tried really getting with me, like going down my pants and I was like woooaah, it just caught me off guard and so I didn't let him because that was just my first instinct. Me and him basically talk about sex all the time, well when we text it occasionally gets thrown in there somehow! and he's the one who usually brings it up but I feel like he only thinks i'm a tease but i'm not. I was talking to my friend about it and I was like seriously, I NEED him like sexually .. I want to have sex with him and I know he would do it with me but I don't know how to bring it up. She was like... just text him and say FU*K ME!! But I just can't see myself doing that?? And I don't know if he would take me seriously either, because he doesn't think i'd go through with it but I WOULD. What should I do?? How would you go about it? What can I text him saying that would be hot/sexy and make it known that I really do want him?? I can't stop thinking about it..

no..no..don't text...face to face is better that way he knows how serious you are about it and he can hear that in your voice. a text message can throw him off.. Ask him to hang out at your place..or his one night and tell him you have something very important you need to talk about. You and him seem to be very close so things should be at ease a little more. Maybe he is in the same situation as you ;) .. Let me know if I helped any. K :)|Good Luck!

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I am having soreness and swelling in my throat and I really need to know how you know when u need tounsels pulled since it isn't getting better and it has been weekz!

i was 14 when i DEMANDED to get mine out. i kept going back and fourth to the doctor for as long as i can remember..they kept telling me its a virus and they kept giving me pills..one day when i went i said no it's not a virus and i want them out! i am not putting up with this anymore.. they made an appointment and i got them out like a month after. you have to demand things otherwise you wont get what you want and you will always feel sick. taking so many pills is unhealthy so if i were you i would tell the doctor that you feel yu need to get themn out and you want to see someone about it asap!

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Hi i am 18 years old and my boyfriend and I want to have sex but I am afraid that we might get caught by both of our parents where is the best place to have sex without getting caught

Motel/Hotel

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I feel insane even asking this... but can you milk a dog?

I have a puppy that the mother simply will not take care of and this is the only puppy that survived.

She has milk and I know it would be better than formula just like breastfeeding a baby makes them smarter and happier.

Help? If so... how? Do they make doggy breastpumps?

i would take the dog to the vet where they have the proper tools to do it. also if the mother will not nurse you can fed the puppy fresh milk with a baby bottle.. but this may give the puppy worms..i know with cats if you put warm water in the milk it doesnt give them worms not sure if its the same for dogs or not..

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Where's a good store to get sweatshirts with no brand name for a not-so-rich 14 year old girl??

wal mart and frenchys.. i find frenchys has nice clothes..most of it is new clothes i like browsing there myself even sometimes buying if i really like what i see..

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16/f
i went out with my ex for 2 years, i loved him ALOT. we broke up because he moved (bad relationship of him cheating) .. a year later i have a new boyfriend, on the 13th we will be together for 4 months. I know i like him but sometimes i have no desire to cuddle with him. he say's i have a wall blocked up for me to fall in love with him because im scared i'll be hurt again. i honestly dont know what it is. im very laid back

You may feel that you are over your ex boyfriend but as you go through life you will feel the need to protect yourself from getting hurt over again. When you finally find the guy you really want to be with you will start tearing down the wall slowly and opening up more.

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My mom has 3-8 weeks left to live.
I'm so depressed.
what do I do?

17/f

Spend as much time as you can together and do things you've always wanted to be doing. take pics..cherish the moments you have left.. Pray with her and for her.. good luck sweetie..

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Hi, I'm a 17 year old girl and I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 months now. We love each other very much and we've been talking about giving oral to each other, I know it should be based on if we're comfortable with each other but I just want to know what other people think, am I too young? thank you for you're time, your response really means a lot to me.

Why should it matter on what other people think. If we had to base our life on other peoples opinions we'd really have no life at all. Right? If you and your boyfriend want to have oral then go for it. Who is it to decide if you are too young or too old to be intament with your partner. If you two have been talking about it then thats good it's not like you met the guy one night and did things that you will later regret.. Theres people going to tell you that you are too young and people telling you to go ahead and do it..it's going to make you confused hehe so just go and do what ever your hearts desire! hope i helped..somewhat anyways..good luck!

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16/f
So, just recently I found out that my boyfriend of a month is a compulsively lying player, horrible, I know. One of my best guy friends, "David" gave me insight. I know you're not supposed to listen to he say she say but, I always suspected that something was off about him. Everything that David told me seemed to add up about him. Apparently before we became an item, he was messing around with a lot of girls at one time (including me). And David told me that it was all because of our physical attributes. When I asked my boyfriend about it, it seemed like he was leaving stuff out. So, I decided that I want to leave him. Do you think it's wrong for me to want to dump him? Also,I wouldn't know how to go about "dumping" someone...I could use some advice on that please and thank you.

if your friends are telling you that he is a player don't ignore it. in the long run ignoring your friends instincts could hurt you and may end up losing your closest friends. dating a player is not cool because he has feelings for other woman and he isn't going to who you the affection you truly deserve. and if you noticed that what your friend was saying added up to this guy then you know its time for a change. do it before its too late..before he hurts you in some way. guys like that dont stick around long. it's not wrong to want to dump him if you feel that its the right thing to do. when i said that they don't stick around long i mean if he happens to get your pregnant i am not saying that you two are having sex i am just putting in a fact. i am sure you are a beautiful girl and can find a guy that will accept you for you and not fool around. (ya know sometimes its better to listen to the guy friend then the gal friend! they notice the littlest things..after all they are guys right?) good luck i hope i helped..even a little bit

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I feel wierd even asking this cause I think I already know the answer but are guys attracted to virgins? I am one and I don't know but I feel like it is a turn off so I want to lose it so a guy will think I have "experience." Has anyone else ever felt like this? Are there any guys here that can answer this too please?

Why would a guy want a virgin instead of a girl that has been with a bunch of guys and knows what she is doing for sex?

I feel stupid. 13/f

you are so young :) you have plenty of time to think about this but a guy cant tell if a girl is a virgin or not just by looking at them. if a guy is attracted to you it shouldn't matter if you area virgin or not. sometimes certain guys will go for certain girls because they come out as easy. losing your virginity to a guy so the next guy will think you have experience is not right. later you may regret doing that and it wont feel right. if a guy is going to accept you for who you are virgin or not it wont bother him. everyone wants to be experienced but even people who have had sex 50 times is probably really bad in bed. good luck. i hope i helped.. a little bit anyways.

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Ok, so I'm a 19/f, and I' currently a sophomore in college. I met this one girl in college freshman year, and we have been best friends ever since. But I've noticed that this past year, she has maken it sort of her hobby to put me down. She'll constantly say negative comments about my body, my hair, my clothes and how I look. She even manages to take blows at my personality. We'll be in casual conversation on a completely unrelated topic, and she manages she find some way to insult me.
I do consider her one of my really close friends. I tell her everything and we do a lot together and always have a lot of fun. I just don't know why she insists on always putting me down. It really hurts, and I'm always so insecure on how I look, which involved having a minor eating disorder for about a year. I always feel horrible about myself, and I try to always change things so she'll stop saying stuff. I know changing for someone else is the wrong thing to do, but I will literally do anything to make the comments stop.

I've tried talking to her about it which resulted in even more comments, and I've also just tried completely ignoring them. I don't want too just stop being her friend because we are really close, and I don't have many other friends at my school. Plus were in college, and I feel like I'm dealing with the mean girl from high school all over again. Anyway, any advice would be appreciated.

She isn't a friend. A friend doesn't do that. You have to find new friends because you don't deserve to be treated like this and it is hurting you. You got an eating disorder from this chick putting you down all the time. It's tearing you apart and you don't need that it's very, very unhealthy. This is very immature of her to do this and she is obviously not happy with herself. She is self-conscious and the only way to make herself feel better if to put you down. And knowing that you still want to be her friend is giving her more power to hurt you. Don't change for her or anyone else. Just because she says these things doesn't mean the whole campus does and there are so many people out there that would be happy to be your friend and i mean a true friend. It's never too late to find a group of people that will understand you and give you some good compliments. this just makes me so mad because there are so many others ways that she can deal with how she feels about herself. she is the one that needs to change not you!
This is what I would say!! You can say the same thing or.. something like it ..

"Okay so what's the deal here? Lately all that you have been doing is putting me down and why? Is there something about me that bothers you? I thought were friends? A friend doesn't put another friend down. just because you are insecure about who you are doesn't mean i have to be. if you don't like my hair..fine, if you don't like my clothes fine.. but that's not going to stop me from wearing the styles i like.. you don't wear these clothes you dont have this hair so why do you even worry about what i look like or what i am. worry about who you are and do me a favor next time you want to insult me.. take a look at yourself..fix your problems figure who you are and then come to tell me whats wrong with me. Until then leave me alone and let me be who I am! don't put me down because i'm not like YOU! You're not miss perfect you have some downfalls just like every other girl on this campus.!" and well if you want to add a little more you cann!! just something i say. I speak my mind and do the same to her.. I hope i helped! people like that need a good talking to ! and its up to you to do it before she goes and half ruins another life! ohh that makes me so mad! good luck sweetie :)

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I have been called a hoe and a prostitute because my two sisters been having sex since 13. I'm thinking about just having sex to get back at them. I'm still a virgin tho but I'm ready to get back at them and I feel that's the only way..

Okay..You're suppose to be the hoe and prostitute because your sisters are having sex? that's not nice. I don't see how a virgin can be a hoe or prostitute. You don't have sex for money! You don't go sleeping around with every guy you see. Having sex at a young age or just having it when you are not ready is not good most people do it to follow so they can be 'cool' because everyone else is doing 'it' but guess what.. they're not! Don't get back at them by having sex because you are stooping to their level and you may regret it. also weather or not you use any type of birth control you can still end up being pregnant or getting an STD. The only way to get back at them is..not to have sex.. don't let the pressure win you over. good luck and i hope you think of the right thing. do what your heart tells you dont do what the voices around you are telling you todo!

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Lately it seems liek I just pass out randomly! I was with my friends and I blacked out at the mall. I was just sitting in a chair and then I was flopped on the table. I don't know if I should go to the doctor or not. Does this happen to anyone else or is there something really wrong with me?

If I don't need a doctor then how do you keep from blacking out randomly?

Thanks you!

You need to see your doctor. That is not normal. In simple fainting, your blood vessels dilate, blood pressure suddenly falls,so that the brain is not adequately perfused with blood and you pass out. When you are lying down the brain is perfused (the blood doesn’t have to go uphill) again and you wake up, usually with no harm. Another cause of passing out is a grand mal seizure, which looks different with random movements while uncoscious, but again they usually awaken without harm. That is caused by abnormal electrical impulses in the brain. More serious causes include diabetic coma or stroke, etc.

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So I started college in the fall and long story short, I've grown to hate my roommate! I can't stand her! I realize I cannot change her behavior, only my own, but things are starting to get out of hand.

We have 3 garbage cans and 1 recycling bin. I use one garbage can, the rest our hers and she still can't manage to take out the trash in a timely manner.
We have a leaky faucet which creates mold in our sink. Guess who cleans it... [me, the one with the allergies]
She never everrrrr leaves the room except for class and 1 or 2 meals a day. she isn't involved at all meaning if I want some space to myself, I can't be in my room.
Her mom drives over an hour to do her laundry and everything else for her... we're both 19.


I won't go into more detail...basically, we're complete and total opposites and we can't get along, she won't move out or agree to have someone else move in with her so i can move.

please advicenators... I'M BEGGING for help here. my room is prison but I have to sleep in there!! I don't know what to dooo!

Her mom still does her laundry? I thought moving out on your own was to gain responsibility. You know I think that's why she is..well..no better way to put it but..a slob. She is use to having her things picked up after her and I think she wants to be a mother figure in a way but not a good way. Tell the dorm people that you want to move out because you can't take to the situation that is happening in your dorm. I see you are not use to this mess and you need to be in a dorm where both parties take the responsibility equally. I feel bad because I wouldn't want to be in that situation. I hope I helped a little bit.

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I'm in a long distance relationship, I want to end it. I haven't been happy for over a month, the distance isn't for me, and now it's interfering with my grades in college.

The guy I'm with is extremely emotional & I KNOW he'll cry/be upset for ages. (It took him over 2 yrs to get over his ex!) If I talk to him via the phone, he might possibly be able to suck me back in as he always does. But I'm tired of feeling bad for him, and I need some advice on how to not back down on my decision once he starts crying. I will feel bad, I do have some feelings for him, but I really KNOW in my heart that breaking up is the best decision for me.

I guess what I'm asking is..is phone the best way to do it? My friends suggested email, which I honestly would prefer, but he's very, VERY close with his parents, and I know my email would be shown to them. And knowing him, he might even ask them to contact my parents to try and talk me out of the break up. Yes, I am actually scared. I'm considering telling him that I'm moving so he thinks my address is different, and won't show up on my doorstep. You'd think we're 12 year olds, but he's 22, and I'm 19.

I KNOW he will have an emotional breakdown. Ah, I just really need advice on what to do? I want to this as soon as possible. I also don't know how to bring it up, we talk everyday. Should I start not talking to him as often, and then eventually do it? Please help!!

if you truly want to end this long distant relationship there is nothing anyone can do you say to stop you and if they try and talk you out of they don't really understand. Your happiness is important and so are your grades. Do it over the phone which is better then email so he can't show people and make it seem like your the bad one. Keeping the feelings inside will tear you apart and sooner or later everything around you will start falling to pieces. Yes he will cry and you will be hurt as well but in the long run it may be good for the both of you. There's nothing wrong with being friends after the break up. Has he considred moving where you are to try and make it work out? Let me know how it works out. Good Luck!

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