Howdy All. I'm a down to earth Country girl from California, I have a passion for helping people and I only recently found advicenators. I hope to make a small impact on the world in my future, even if it starts with giving my 2 cents worth to the world. I enjoy helping people and if you want to contact me, feel free :)
E-mail: Patronsaintofsquirrels@gmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: California
Occupation: Librarian
Age: 18
AIM: Allybbear
Member Since: January 5, 2010
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I am 23. I currently asked out the girl I really liked, she's 17. There is a major age difference, but although she's 17 she acts mature. Anyways, people don't approve of our relationship. They tell her that all I want to do is sleep with her when that's not the case. I really do care about her. I'm not that type of guy that does that. I am a really good guy. I'm a nurse studying to be a doctor, I will be going to Japan to work at hospitals over there for a month, I go to church, I have morals, I don't drink or smoke. I think I am a good catch.
I want to make my girlfriend a mixtape. What are some good songs I can use to show her that I love her no matter what people think?
And if you can help with my problem, what can I do to show the people (her family, friends, etc) that I'm with her because I want to make her happy and I don't want to sleep with her. (link)
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Well first of all, You're a great guy. and As long as she knows that, and you know that, theres nothing you can do to change peoples minds. But actions speak a lot louder than words. Just give her your respect and make sure to always tell her that you love her. and If you want to prove to them that you don't want to sleep with her, DON'T. Just prove them wrong and treat her with kindness. They'll come around.
As for the songs, you didn't really specify any specific Genre, but here are some songs that I like that I think personify those feelings and songs that personally make me think of my boyfriend and smile:
They Don't know- Jon B (this one is more about somebody who is changing their ways and is promising to be faithful in the future)
Hey There Delilah- Plain white T's
Gimme That girl- Joe Nichols
Angel- Shaggy
Iris- the goo goo dolls
Falling For You- colbie caillat
It feels like home- Chantal Kreviazuk
She likes me for me- Blessid union of souls
calling you- blue october
Aint no mountain high enough- gaye marvin
Bleeding Love- Leona Lewis
be with you- akon
She will be loved- Maroon 5
Those are the only ones off the top of my head, but good luck buddy :) I hope I helped.
Somebody's me- enrique iglasias
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what is anal sex? everybody always talks about it and i have no idea...
and my second one is, im not really sure what all this means but how does a condom protect from the cum because ive heard that the cum comes out of the penis so how do the condom protect from it? lol. im not planning on having sex at alll.. im waiting till i atleast find the right person. but i atleast want to know what this means. lol. i rate 5 for all(: (link)
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Anal sex is when a man has sex with another person (male or female) basically doing them up the butt. instead of a vagina. and the condom is like a glove for the penis, and when the cum comes out, the condom catches it, so it doesn't actually enter the vagina, thus preventing pregnancy. and good idea on waiting for the right person :) You won't regret it
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My boyfriend and I have sex without condoms. We've only used a condom once, actually, but we've only been having sex for a couple of weeks. He always pulls it out of me before he cums so he doesn't get me pregnant so we don't need condoms or anything like that.
My best friend said he probably still leaks in me a little and it's called precum. I talked to my boyfriend about it and he was like, "NO! I ALWAYS pull out of you, you know that!" I totally trust my boyfriend and I know he doesn't cum inside of me, obviously.
I'm still kind of worried though because I also don't think my best friend would lie to me about getting pregnant. I totally can NOT get pregnant by my boyfriend because my mom would kill me.
Can this "precum" really get me pregnant? Should I be worried that I might be pregnant? My period was due two days ago but I know sex delays your period so I wasn't worried about it...should I be concerned now? (link)
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Alright, It's definately a possibility, but here's the thing, the guy can't feel himself precum, it's just the liquid that sperm comes out with, it doesn't always have sperm, and I read that if the guy hasn't urinated since he last came, then there could be sperm in this liquid. Urinating clears the tract. But no promises, there are always exceptions. My boyfriend pulled out everytime he "felt himself get ready to precum" but even so, even if he wipes it off or whatever, it doesn't kill the sperm, it's still there, sperm does not die when it touches air. Just be careful.
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My nose bleeds seeing as my house is dry including
my room too it bleeds often and i was just wondering if there was anything i could do to stop it from bleeding as much as it does and is there a way to make my room less dry?
Thank you(: Also is it bad that it's
bleeding alot? Should i see a doctor? (link)
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I used to get terribly frequent (like weekly) nosebleeds... If a humidifier is out of the question, my family doctor also suggested not sleeping with a floor fan near your face (I used to), also you could use a q-tip to apply babyoil to the inside of your nostril, because the reason your nose bleeds is that the skin inside your nose cracks from being dry, and the oil helps hydrate it. Also, try to breath through your mouth while you sleep. Which means drooling but its better than waking up with a bloody pillow case.
Hope that helped.
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Hello!
I want to get a dog for my children to grow up with but I need a dog breed that is safe for kids and hopefully one that doesn't shed.
Is there such a dog?
Thank you! (link)
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Alright, Supposedly Poodles don't shed, and they are hypo-allergetic. I have a Golden Doodle--a Golden Retriever and Standard Poodle mix. He doesn't shed like most dogs, he has black curly fur, and we get him groomed regularly, I know that all dogs shed, but you don't find his fur on your clothes or couch, etc, but You'll find little fluff balls under the couches or tables, etc. sweeping takes care of that. and he is wonderful with kids :) :) unfortunately this kind of dog isn't too common here, labradoodles are a little more common, which would be the labrador Retriever mix with a poodle.
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My Boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, and since early december he's been at his parents, so we've had even less time to talk than usual. (which isnt much)
Today is my birthday, and tomorrow is our 6 months. I told him I'd be busy today but would love to squeeze in a quick chat sometime during the day. He told me he won't be able to chat today, due to 'guy time' at the house.
So, alright. Then he tells me he can't chat tomorrow either (our 6 month). We don't celebrate every month anniversaries, but I'd like to at least talk to him on our 6th. :/ He can't talk for a little bit tmrw because it's his last day there, so he said he'll be busy packing?
I just feel like I'm the one trying to squeeze freaking 30 minutes out of him just to talk to me, and he won't even talk for that long. I feel like I'm making an effort, and he isn't. I really, have a 99.9% feeling that he doesn't even know/remember tomorrow is our anniversary. I understand he's maybe preoccupied with his parents and being there and such, but i KNOW for a fact he's on xbox at least half the day. And you're telling me you can't come talk to me for not even half an hour?
I haven't brought this up to him, because it's not a HUGE deal, and honestly we've been having more arguments since he's been gone, so I'd like to maintain the peace for now. But, he says we can talk all day monday (when hes back home), which sounds fine, but then when I really think about it..this is all whenever HE wants to chat. ugh, what about me?!
I don't know what I'm asking for, I just need some advice on how to not let this get to me. Please help. (link)
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Hey. Alright, I used to have a long distance relationship that had some of the same quirks that yours seems to have. and in the moment, it's the most annoying thing in the world to feel like you're the only one making an effort, I know. But it seems to be a pretty common problem here. and since I know exactly where you're coming from, I'd hate hate hate to take his side. But. something this minute shouldn't be a huge deal 6 months into a relationship. I absolutely understand what you're feeling, and all i'm saying is that if you want this to work out in the long run, you're going to have to learn how to let go of the little mistakes and little things he says to make you angry. If you take a second to think about this, will this matter to you in another 6 months? Yeah, it really does blow that he can't take a few minutes of his time to talk to you on your birthday, and if he doesn't remember your anniversery, then :/ I mean, you said you guys dont' celebrate your month anniversaries, so he probably remembers your 1 year, but if you don't expect him to remember every other month, you can't really get mad at him for forgetting the 6 month, especially as busy as he sounds.
You can make a big deal out of something small, but that's just going to arouse problems. This is just a small thing tripping a bigger issue, what you need to do is get to the root of the problem and address that. You guys just need to find a way around these issues, I don't know if talking on the phone is an option for you, for me it wasn't. My ex was obsessed with the xbox, and what I did was I played with him online. you guys just need tos hare your interests and learn to forgive and forget the small things, really if you want any relationship to work. Most of the time when people argue over small things all the time, it's over something bigger. I'm pretty darn sure that if you bring this problem up to him, then work it out. and if it looks like things are going to change once he moves, then it shouldn't be a big deal. and yeah, two people talk when they BOTH have time. now, whether you have more time than he does, it might seem like he doesn't care about you, but just because he doesn't show his feelings for you the way you want him to, doesn't mean he doesn't with all he's got. Guys are insensitive and some messed up priorities.
Good luck to the both of you
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Been in a long distance relationship for 6 months now. Lately, all we do is argue. It's always over really, really petty things, obviously because we're so frustrated with not being able to physically be with eachother, and we just miss eachother to bits.
Usually I want to fix the argument right away, but the last little argument we had, I just turned off my phone for 4 hours, and didn't talk to him. And honestly, it felt good. Of course I still worried, oh god, he's going to be so mad..but I felt worry free for a little while.
I never told him this, just said I left my phone at home on accident while I went out. But today we had another spat, and instead of solving it he just went to sleep. So, usually I text him some sweet things, apologizing for the stupidness of the argument, and say i love him.
But, this time I didn't. I don't know if it's that I'm just getting so sick of the constant arguments over literally nothing, or what. My question is, do you think its worth staying with him?
I like him a lot, and I'm supposed to be visiting him in march. But, I just feel in my gut that this isn't going how I wanted. I really DON'T want to break up with him, ONLY because he's the most sensitive person ever (his last ex, it took him about 2yrs to get over, and i'm his 1st relationship since then), and I don't want to hurt his feelings. And, if I break him with him, I KNOW i'll be so hurt/miserable too. I'll sit here feeling like a horrible person, and probably thinking of all the actual good times we had.
But, I can't help but think that the hurt of losing him may be better than dealing with these pointless arguments all the time. And if I completely cut off communication and stuff, which is easier in a long distance relationship, wouldn't it be easier to get over him?
Oh, please any advice you have would be so helpful!! Thanks! (link)
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Such a sensitive topic. I'm 18/f/CA, I had an online relationship I just got out of last May, I was with him for 4 1/2 years. He would be 22/m/SC now. So there's quite a difference in a few different aspects. Well, I don't want to just regurgitate what everybody else just said, but I know exactly what you're saying. My ex was soo sensitive. I don't know exactly "how" long distance you guys are, but I knowww it's rough. In my case, i was broken up with. but that's only because I fought to keep us together about 6 months before he just gave up. And trust me, that's the worst feeling ever. If you are not happy, get out of it. because if you aren't happy, he's gonna sense that and eventually, he's gonna break up with you. And if he's not holding up his end in the relationship and isn't trying to make it work, then don't put up with it. you don't have to make it work on your own. You shouldn't have to. But here's the thing, I'd just keep an open relationship, don't leave him yet--have an open mind. if other opportunities come along as far as other men, keep them in mind. Go and visit your sweetie come March and see what happens. My best friend had an online boyfriend for 2 years and they met, No Spark. they broke up, needless to say. Just meet him and see what happens. DOn't pressure yourself into anything, and don't just stay with him because you feel bad. I understand completely that you love him and it's just that pent up frustration that has you guys arguing all the time. and I know that if you break up with him it's going to be upsetting, it always is. and if he's as sensitive as he says he is, then that just makes you feel worse. but Trust me, it's not worth staying with somebody you aren't happy with, you throw away social opportunities and who knows, your soul mate could be staring at you right in the eyes and you can't see him because you're 'taken' by somebody who is emotionally tormenting you and tying you down into a relationship you don't feel comfortable in. But I don't want to put words in your mouth. Just think of it this way. If you guys end up getting together and you guys still argue at those petty little things...every day... if you get married to him, are you going to be able to put up with his little insecurites and his sensitivity? all the time? Is he somebody who makes you feel supported like a man should make you feel? Does he make you smile when you think about him? You just have to weigh your options and think about the future. and If you don't think it's going to work out down the line, there is no point on "waiting it out". But if I were you, I'd go meet him in March. And after you meet him, everything is going to be amazing for a few months, it's a quick fix...but don't depend on that to fix your relationship, the luster will eventually wear off and you'll be stuck with the bare basics, his personality and his sensitivity. It's all about what's worth it to YOU in the end. The best luck to the both of you, tell me how it works out for you :)
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I know idea what category to put this under, and technically it has to do with gift giving cause its a birthday present to myself.. =]
I have about a dime size birthmark on my side, its dark brown, and I've decided I'm going to cover it with a tattoo.
Any cute tattoo ideas?
I was thinking maybe a flower with a lady bug or butterfly? (But not a sunflower! my friend has one and i dont want her to think im stealing it)
Or maybe some hearts and stars cause those are always really cute..
Any ideas are greatly appreciated. =] (link)
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Okay, so I don't know anything about you, but i know what I like :P Personally I'd get something like music notes, or a little shooting star. Maybe try looking up chinese symbols or something. Get one that means something to you, so when somebody inquires about it, you have a story to tell. and just for the record, on your side is like the worst place ever to get a tat just because its not gonna look too great once you're older.. but good luck, tell me what you get!! :D
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I'm new here and I didn't know how to properly ask a question. The Subject is basically my question. In an email, a woman told me she had a sore (pimple) on her rump many years ago and it has recently reoccurred. She says she has herpes. but I have my doubts as she has never had a genital or oral sore. I have asked her if she had a blood test, but so far she hasn't answered. Is it conceivable that she actually does have herpes? I wonder because I was diagnosed and treated for herpes, when I didn't have herpes or any other STD.
David Hogben, PhD (link)
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personally I think that it is rediculous that a PhD is coming to an advice website where the majority of the users are under the age of 18. /facepalm... maybe you should ask someone more legit than us.
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