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coping with death of a parent
My mom has 3-8 weeks left to live.
I'm so depressed.
what do I do?
17/f
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Stay strong for her and for yourself.
Enjoy the time you have left with her and apprecitate all the little things you take for granted in life.
Understand that she will be moving to a better and peaceful place where there is no pain.
She will always be looking down on you.
When someone passes away they are never really gone forever, they always remain in your memory.
It's hard to stop grieving over death and to start celebrating life.
Just know that whatever the outcome you will meet again one day.
Everything happens for a reason hun. Sometimes life is unfair but we have to keep marching on.
The sadness will pass but you will never forget.
My advice is to stay strong and make her proud.
God bless.
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Spend as much time as you can together and do things you've always wanted to be doing. take pics..cherish the moments you have left.. Pray with her and for her.. good luck sweetie..
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Spend every minute you can with her. Talk to her, ask her questions about her life. Ask her questions about yours. You have plenty of time to be depressed later. Its normal. Just don't let it
interfere with the time you have left now.
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I know exactly what your going through because I went through it to. Don't focus on the fact that she's dying. She'll always be with you even when you don't feel it, be happy that she isn't suffering for whatever it may be she is battling. Think of the fact that you just had the holidays with her, and you aren't going to lose her during the 'happiest' time of the year. Make the best out of it, and spend as much time you can with her. Don't get angry and/or fight with her with the time life, you'll just be mad that you let it end that way. Don't feel like she's going to be gone forever, because she won't be. When she is gone, make her proud, don't do things you wouldn't do if she was expecting you home that night. If you need anything feel free to leave one, I'm always here.
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First off, I am SO sorry. I know that's probably the last thing you want to hear, but each and everyday I'm scared of that happening to my mom and can't even begin to think about what you're going through.
If I were you, I'd spend as much of my time with her as I could. Go to the movies, or rent movies and watch them at home. Make jewelry together or paint, draw, anything. You could cook and ask her to teach you a few things. Just let her know that you love her more than anything. Try to think of things that you love doing with her, for the next 3-8 weeks it's the only thing you really can do. Try to push it out of your mind (impossible, I know) but just take this time out to be with your mom instead of being sad. As for dealing with the sadness, look to the rest of your family. You can always look to your friends.
One of my friends lost her father and started doing drugs and drinking and completely lost control. Just remember, your mom would never want that for you. She'd want you to be strong and grow up to be someone great. Do everything with your mom in mind, remember that she's the reason you're alive and even if she's not there to remind you, she loves you and she'll always be there with you. People never really die until the memory of them dies; it's okay to cry and be sad, don't let anyone tell you different. Cherish each day <3
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