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fed up with terrible roommate
So I started college in the fall and long story short, I've grown to hate my roommate! I can't stand her! I realize I cannot change her behavior, only my own, but things are starting to get out of hand.
We have 3 garbage cans and 1 recycling bin. I use one garbage can, the rest our hers and she still can't manage to take out the trash in a timely manner.
We have a leaky faucet which creates mold in our sink. Guess who cleans it... [me, the one with the allergies]
She never everrrrr leaves the room except for class and 1 or 2 meals a day. she isn't involved at all meaning if I want some space to myself, I can't be in my room.
Her mom drives over an hour to do her laundry and everything else for her... we're both 19.
I won't go into more detail...basically, we're complete and total opposites and we can't get along, she won't move out or agree to have someone else move in with her so i can move.
please advicenators... I'M BEGGING for help here. my room is prison but I have to sleep in there!! I don't know what to dooo!
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Her mom still does her laundry? I thought moving out on your own was to gain responsibility. You know I think that's why she is..well..no better way to put it but..a slob. She is use to having her things picked up after her and I think she wants to be a mother figure in a way but not a good way. Tell the dorm people that you want to move out because you can't take to the situation that is happening in your dorm. I see you are not use to this mess and you need to be in a dorm where both parties take the responsibility equally. I feel bad because I wouldn't want to be in that situation. I hope I helped a little bit.
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Ya, I also had roommate issues my first semester, and got myself moved to a new dorm and I LOVE it now and my roommates are like my new best friends. If I were you, if you want to, you could always talk to your RA about getting moved to a different room. I'm not sure what the rules are about getting yourself moved, but if she's unwilling to ALLOW you to move, talk to your RA. Or you could just talk to your RA about what's going on like Matt said. Personally I'd talk to your roommate about it before consulting an RA because you should at least try to work it out without involving someone else.
Good luck xD!
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Talk it over with the RA. You're living with an idiot that is unwilling to compromise; your RA will quickly show them the light.
I emphasize, one of my roommates is an irritant too.
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hmm well i'm not in college yet. i'm a junior in high school so i've still got 1 and 1/2 more years. but my brother had the similar situation. he hated his roommate. what he did was that he joined a lot of clubs and sports (that way it will take up most of your free time) and if he had any free time, he just wouldn't spend it in his room. he'd go to the library, or sit outside, or hang out in his friends dorms.
that way, the only time he saw his roommate was at night and morning. but if you still can't stand that, you should talk to someone who works at your college. like a dean or something.
my brother talked to his dean and his dean let him switch out of the dorm and into another one.
another solution is that you could maybe get a singles apartment? i dont know if you college allows it, but if it does.. look for local listing of apartments. you'd have to pay rent of course... but its better than living in hell with your roomie.
wishing you the best of luck :)
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